Stepping Into Your Parental Authority

Oct 8, 2025

The hosts delve into the concept of authoritative parenting, emphasizing warmth and structure to help children with ADHD thrive. They discuss the drawbacks of permissive parenting, linking it to increased ADHD symptoms and poor self-regulation. Key strategies include modeling calm behavior and setting clear, consistent limits. They also challenge social media's portrayal of permissiveness as nurturing, highlighting the long-term benefits of high expectations. Practical tips are provided to help parents foster responsibility and resilience in their children.

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INSIGHT

Warmth Plus Structure Lowers ADHD Symptoms

Authoritative parenting pairs warmth with consistent structure and lowers ADHD symptom severity and anxiety.
Consistent limits create emotional safety that reduces inattention, impulsivity, and internalizing symptoms.

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Model Calmness To Teach Self-Regulation

Modeling calm affect (

ANECDOTE

Teacher Intake Revealed Home Modeling

Ryan recalled a middle‑school boy whose father's visible irritability explained the boy's reactivity at school.
The story illustrated how home modeling shapes children's emotional responses.

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In this episode of The ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan Wexelblatt and Mike McLeod explore what it means to “step into your parental authority.” Drawing from research and clinical experience, they discuss how authoritative parenting—balancing warmth with structure—helps children with ADHD develop self-regulation, emotional safety, and independence. The hosts challenge social media’s rebranding of permissive parenting as “gentle” or “compassionate” and explain why consistency, clear expectations, and calm modeling are key. They also tackle the fears many parents have about being “too firm,” offering practical examples of how to set limits with empathy and predictability while nurturing connection and confidence in their children.

Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠

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[00:00:00] Start
[00:00:30] Introduction to stepping into parental authority
[00:02:00] Research on parenting styles and ADHD outcomes
[00:05:30] Authoritative parenting defined and linked to lower ADHD symptoms
[00:07:30] Permissive parenting and its long-term effects
[00:11:00] Importance of limits, boundaries, and consistency
[00:14:30] Modeling calm behavior for emotional regulation
[00:17:00] When a child controls the home environment
[00:18:30] Why parents are misled about effective ADHD treatment
[00:20:00] Social media’s influence on permissive parenting

[00:22:00] Risks of permissive parenting for ADHD kids
[00:24:30] Practical ways to step into parental authority
[00:26:00] Predictability and routines for emotional safety
[00:29:30] Shifting to high empathy with high expectations
[00:32:00] Preparing ADHD kids for independence and adulthood
[00:33:00] Behavioral parent training as an evidence-based solution
[00:34:30] Reassurance for parents stepping into authority
[00:36:30] Closing and listener invitation