Gay Men Going Deeper

In this episode, Matt speaks with Psychotherapist, Nyle Biondi, about anger and how important it is to connect with and release anger from our mind and body. Anger can serve a great purpose if we consciously work with it. It can help us step into our power, and be a messenger of unmet needs or crossed boundaries. Many of us have social conditioning that tells us anger is inappropriate, or perhaps you were even shamed for being angry. Connecting with your anger in a healthy way might just be what's missing from your healing journey. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: Anger 101 Other words to identify anger  The difference between anger and rage  Ways unprocessed anger shows up  Your relationship with anger  How to identify it? Implosive vs explosive anger  Why do we repress anger? Why anger is helpful and why we need it The connection between anger and other emotions - primary and secondary feelings The challenges of exploring anger  The benefits of exploring anger How to connect and activate anger in a healthy way  How to release anger from the body Inner child work - letting your inner child have the temper tantrum it didn't get to have  How to soothe your nervous system after feeling anger Soothing is like reparenting  3 Steps to Processing Anger: Connect and activate Past traumas Daily stressors  Personality traits  Release Primal screaming into a pillow  Punching pillows  Slamming pillows on your bed  Chopping wood  Batting cages  Demo rooms  Soothe Deep, slow, and long belly breathing - in through the nose and out slow through the mouth  Hold your hand on your heart  Listen to a guided meditation.  Focus on positive sensations in your body Listen to your favourite song  Smell something nice   Talk to a friend Today's Guest: Nyle Biondi Instagram Facebook Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel Instagram Related Links: The Pain-Free Pathway: A Course to Get Out of Pain Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on Yo

Today, we are unpacking a seldom-discussed, but deeply relevant issue within the gay community: Fear of Intimacy.  Many men grapple with the challenge of opening up emotionally and forging meaningful connections. Often, we find ourselves settling for superficial encounters while yearning for something more meaningful. Today we’re discussing how the same emotional walls that protect us from getting hurt can also leave us feeling isolated and lonely.   In this episode, we are going deeper into the fear of intimacy – its roots, its impact on our relationships, and how we are overcoming these barriers. Some of the topics we’ll be covering are: Signs of having a fear of intimacy  Why we fear the thing we want  Social conditioning The impact of past relationship traumas   The power of vulnerability  Attachment styles  Join us as we share our own experiences with this topic in an effort to shed light on this important issue and dismantle the internal barriers to the deeper connections we truly deserve.   Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this informative episode, anal health expert, Dr. Evan Goldstein, addresses common questions and concerns about anal sex. If you've ever wondered about issues like hemorrhoids, fissures, or general rectal health, this is the perfect opportunity to get expert advice.  Taking care of your anal health is fundamental to feeling sexy in your body and showing up confidently in your relationships. Unfortunately, there are plenty of misconceptions and taboos surrounding butt health that hinder open discussions and proper care. Today we are debunking myths, dismantling taboos, and providing valuable education on topics such as: Understanding your butt anatomy  Anal cleansing/douching  Types of bottoms  Recommended sex toys and dilation techiques Water vs. silicone lubricants  Reducing pain when bottoming  Proper hygiene practices  Hemorrhoids  Tears, anal fissures, and skin tags  Anal botox Finding proper anal care  Join us for an episode where we are answering the questions you’ve always wanted to ask but never felt comfortable saying out loud. Today’s Guest: Dr. Evan Goldstein Author of Butt Seriously, founder of Future Method and Bespoke Surgical Instagram Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.

One of the greatest fears that holds us back in love and in life is the fear of rejection.  In this episode,  we are acknowledging the daunting prospect of putting ourselves out there, whether it be romantically, sexually, or professionally. We dissect the psychology of rejection as it pertains to our past traumas, beliefs, and inner narratives. Some of the topics we cover in this episode are:  The need for belonging and connection Being pursued versus pursuing The narratives we construct around rejection The impact of shame and resilience  People pleasing vs. having compassion Normalizing the fear of rejection How to cope with the pain of rejection Reframing rejection to make it more palatable By sharing personal stories,  we confront the harsh realities of shame and insecurity that often accompanies rejection. With empathy and insight, this episode offers listeners a roadmap for navigating the fearful terrain of rejection by offering powerful reframes and new perspectives to face your fears head-on and reclaim your power in the face of rejection. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, Matt speaks with Reunion Founder, Brad Wells, and Psychotherapist/ Ayahuasquero, Alex Theberge, about healing with plant medicine (psychedelics).  We unpack the benefits of psychedelics and how plants can be used to heal many common issues where traditional psychotherapy might not be as effective. Psychedelics are becoming more mainstream and their powerful healing benefits are becoming more known. Come on this journey with us and see if psychedelics may benefit your healing journey.  The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: What is Ayahuasca?  What are other types of plant medicines or psychedelics? How does Ayahuasca heal? What can it heal?  Our personal experiences using plants to heal Is plant medicine for everyone? Contraindications?  Healing in community with psychedelics  Learn about a special opportunity to explore Ayahuasca Today's Guests: Brad Wells - Instagram Alex Theberge - Facebook Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel - Instagram Related Links: Learn More About Reunion Link for the Retreat Promo Code to Save $250 on Registration: MLREUNION Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going D

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we delve into the complexities of authenticity in the digital age. From Instagram to OnlyFans, we are living in an increasingly performative world where authenticity seems harder to discern.  Today we are going deeper behind the blurred lines between being fake and putting your best self forward. We’ll be discussing the nuances of genuine self-expression versus performative behavior with personal examples and anecdotes to illustrate.  Some of the topics we’ll be discussing are:  Why insincerity thrives in social media  How do you define authenticity?  The pressures to “keep up” with other gay men  The tendency to compete and compare   Is curating your social media still considered authentic? The fine line between being authentic and performative  Ascertaining authenticity in the age of filters and algorithms  Tune in to gain valuable perspectives on social media, insincerity, and the pursuit of authenticity in the digital age. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

Join a diverse panel of Asian gay men as they discuss discrimination in dating, stereotypes, and sacrifices for inclusion. Explore challenges of visibility, media representation, and code-switching within the LGBTQ+ community. Discover the complexities of intersecting identities and the quest for acceptance and belonging.

In this episode, we are discussing the intriguing topic of self-disclosure and its role in fostering genuine connections. Self-disclosure, the art of revealing personal information about yourself to others,  shapes our relationships on various levels.  Join us as we explore the psychology behind self-disclosure, its benefits, risks, and the delicate balance required for meaningful communication.  Some of the topics we’re covering in today’s episode: Knowing what to share and what not to share The fear of being seen Vulnerability hangovers Building trust and intimacy  How we practice self-disclosure  How to maintain boundaries  Coming out as an act of self-disclosure If you’re wanting to enjoy richer, more fulfilling connections in both personal and professional spheres, this episode is for you! Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this episode, Matt speaks with vocal coach, producer, and artist Javier Wallis about finding and releasing the voice to foster a deeper capacity for self-expression. They unpack ways to unlock the voice through facing the fears and blockages many of us have about expressing ourselves.  Come spend an hour with Matt and Javier and learn some of the powerful benefits of vocal expression and how it can lead to profound transformation, healing and empowerment.  The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: How vocal expression supports self expression How to find and release your voice The blocks to self expression The benefits of vocal expression The benefits of vocal coaching  Today’s Guest: Javier Wallis Instagram TikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this emotionally stirring episode, we dive into the heavy and complex topic of dealing with guilt and regret. Sometimes we must face the uncomfortable consequences of our actions and learn how to not remain paralyzed in the shadows of guilt and regret.  Join us as we explore the universal experience of making mistakes, forgiveness, self-forgiveness, and the power of moving forward with resilience Some of the topics we’re covering today are: What’s the difference between guilt and regret How to handle making mistakes in your life and relationships Dwelling on past mistakes vs. healthy self-reflection Step-by-step process to help you move on Letting yourself down Mistakes as learning opportunities Acceptance and forgiveness  With personal anecdotes and expert insights, this episode delves into the intricate layers of shame, remorse, and self-reflection. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.