Gay Men Going Deeper

In this episode, we are talking about the unique challenges and pressures that we face in social settings within our own community.  The Gay Men’s Brotherhood is dedicated to helping gay men connect and build more authentic and meaningful relationships, but this is particularly challenging for those who feel anxious in groups of gay men.  We'll share our personal experiences and the coping strategies we've developed to manage and overcome social anxiety. Topics discussed today are: Types and levels of social anxiety Reasons why group situations trigger anxiety Strategies for coping in social situations  How nerves can manifest in physical symptoms The power of self-talk and inner dialogue  Opportunities for connection within our community  Our goal is to provide you with practical advice and insights so you can more actively engage in our community events and form deeper connections with others. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

The podcast dives into the often unspoken challenges of being a gay man. It explores themes like social discrimination, internalized homophobia, and the journey toward self-acceptance. Personal stories reveal the impacts of loneliness, rejection, and the struggle with masculinity. The importance of community support shines through as hosts discuss growing up gay and the healing journey in the LGBTQ+ community. Ultimately, it's a powerful dialogue that fosters understanding, resilience, and connection.

In this insightful conversation, counsellor Ken Reid delves into the complexities of attachment styles and their effects on dating. He explains the differences between secure and insecure attachments and how these influence choices between monogamy and non-monogamy. Ken explores the behaviors of anxious and avoidant daters, offering practical advice for fostering healthier connections. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and personal growth in overcoming insecurities and moving toward more secure relationships.

Join us for a very special milestone as "Gay Men Going Deeper" celebrates our 200th episode! In this celebratory episode, we're raising our voices and our spirits high as we discuss what it truly means to embrace our gayness. From the early days of fear and isolation to the empowering present, we're sharing why we love being gay and how we got here. We’re sharing personal anecdotes and heartfelt reflections that highlight the evolution of our relationship with our gayness. Some of the topics we’ll be covering today are: Being in the closet  Coming out Finding space in the gay community  What it means to be gay  Stereotypes we identify with and those we don’t The pivotal moments that shaped our identities  This episode isn't just about celebrating who we are; it's about recognizing the resilience, strength, and beauty within the entire LGBTQ+ community.  Join us as we raise a glass to 200 episodes. Whether you're part of the LGBTQ+ community or an ally standing proudly by our side, this episode is a testament to the power of authenticity, solidarity, and love. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

From coming out in high school in Brooklyn in the 80’’s, to moving to California,  to leaving college and moving into hypnotherapy, and finally landing in the world of embodiment and somatics sexual therapy, and becoming a facilitator at The Body Electric School; JoJo’s resume reads more like a permission slip. The theme of todays episode is very much that: permission. Permission to be sexual, permission to be messy, permission to be shameless, and permission to be you, and permission to be you. We’re joined by Somatic Sex and Intimacy Educator JoJo Bear, where we discuss somatics, sexuality, spirituality, mentorship, healing from shame, reading the room, facilitating, and more. Today's Guest: JoJo Bear Instagram Today's Host: Reno Johnston Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

How can you tell if someone is gay? It’s an age-old mystery that often turns into a discussion about “gaydar” – the ability to perceive or intuit someone's sexual orientation. In this episode, we are unraveling the intricacies of this phenomenon in how we navigate the subtle cues and signals that hint at our ‘gayness’.  Some of the topics we’re covering today are: The science behind gaydar Criteria we use to detect someone’s sexual orientation  Unconscious bias  Code switching (adjusting your behavior to fit the social context) Challenging assumptions and stereotypes about being gay The ability to “turn on” or “turn off” your gayness  Being closeted vs. being out  Minority stress  At the core of this discussion, we confront the issue of unconscious bias and its impact on our perceptions of others. How can we challenge these biases to foster a more inclusive and accepting society? Tune in to this intriguing episode as we uncover the mysteries of gaydar and explore human identity and connection. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Resources Mentioned in this Episode: “The Science of Gaydar” “Unconscious Bias” Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.

Living a life guided and powered by creativity and “Spirit” is a liberating journey, not for the faint of heart. It leads us into freedom and liberation, but not before inviting us to reconcile with some of our most significant attachments and greatest fears. Today, we are joined by heARTist, creator, activist, poet, author, and shaman, Keone Wales, in a dynamic conversation around inspiration, death, queerness, creativity and more. You might call this a unique conversation in that it unfolds intuitively, and no topic was off limits. Enjoy!  Being moved by Spirit, and honoring the call. Life and death. Creating/birthing the New Earth Queerness Today's Guest: Keone Wales Instagram Book: Love Songs for Boys by Keone Wales Today's Host: Reno Johnston Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In a world where swiping on apps and instant gratification dominates, is there still room for the timeless art of courtship? Join us on this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper as we explore the concept of courtship in the digital age. Some of the topics we’re covering in this episode include:  How traditional courting differs from modern dating How old school practices can still be relevant in the digital age Navigating the complexities of dating apps The lost art of building intimacy How our approaches to dating change as we age The benefits of courting in building lasting connections Practical tips for those who want to incorporate these practices in their dating lives  Join us as we discover an age-old approach to fostering intimacy, trust, and emotional connection. We're sharing personal anecdotes, insights, and tips for slowing down your approach. Whether you're a hopeless romantic or a skeptic, get ready to shake up your understanding of romance, connection, and the pursuit of love. Today's Hosts: Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Reno Johnston Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

In this powerful episode, we address a topic that affects many but is often shrouded in silence and stigma: sexual abuse. Joining us for this important conversation is Michael Pezzullo, a seasoned therapist who works with trauma and sexual abuse recovery. Together, we explore the impact that sexual abuse can have on one's mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Some of the topics covered in this episode are: Ways in which abuse can occur in childhood and/or adulthood  Setting and maintaining sexual boundaries  Navigating consent in queer spaces Common misconceptions we have about sexual abuse  Long-term effects that survivors may experience Unique challenges faced by gay men who have endured abuse Types of therapeutic approaches available for survivors Whether you are a survivor, know someone who is, or simply want to understand more about this crucial issue, this episode offers a compassionate and informative perspective on a topic that deserves our attention and empathy. Today's Guest: Michael Pezzullo Instagram Today's Host: Michael Diiorio Instagram Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine yo

Join Gay Men Going Deeper as they explore the art of successful first dates, discussing topics like conversation tips, active listening, chemistry, and handling awkward moments. Hosts share personal stories and practical advice for making a lasting impression and fostering connections. Learn how to navigate emotions, challenges, and value alignment in dating, and embrace authenticity and growth in romantic relationships.