Relationship Advice

Dr. Bernard Golden, a seasoned psychologist and founder of Anger Management Education, shares invaluable insights on navigating conflict in relationships. He emphasizes that anger is a natural emotion everyone experiences and teaches techniques like taking a mental pause and keeping an anger log to manage reactions. Compassionate communication is crucial, including the ability to apologize effectively. Golden also discusses how self-awareness and emotional growth can transform angry situations, ultimately fostering healthier connections.

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency. Shes counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books include Conquering Shame and Codependency, Codependency for Dummies, 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How to Beat Perfectionism and many more. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How unrealistically high standards can hurt your relationship. Why becoming aware of self-talk and beliefs is important in dealing with perfectionism. Learn the type of perfectionist you or your partner are in order to improve the relationship. How to work with your inner critic. Learn how you or your partner can become a healthy perfectionist that does not damage the relationship. Why challenging your beliefs can be a valuable exercise in improving your relationship. And much more! Housekeeping Notes: We’ve created a Facebook Group: Love Tribe The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/110 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D., M.P.P. researches and writes about decision-making from the origins of life to everyday life. He has written over 1100 articles on practical decision-making for his Psychology Today blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical and has a book coming out with Columbia University Press this October: Neither Ghost Nor Machine, the emergence and nature of selves. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to avoid escalating a disagreement into a fight in your relationship.    Determining where the fight is coming from by asking, "Is it stemming from you, me or us?" Mirroring your partner to help talk your way through a disagreement.  How going meta and thinking about how you are thinking can help resolve conflict in your relationship. Why it's important to not become the 'judge' of the disagreement with your partner. And much more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/109 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Zack Carter is an assistant professor of communication at Taylor University. His teaching and research efforts are conducted through the lens of social psychology. His areas of expertise are marriage fidelity, relationship development/management, the self, nonverbal communication, persuasion, social influence, and social media. Specifically, Dr. Carter is passionate about helping married couples, and those looking to marry, avoid blind spots in their communication with the opposite sex, face-to-face, online, and through texting, that could devastate their marriage relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to monitor social media use for a healthy marriage or relationship. Why online emotional infidelity can be just as damaging as an actual affair. How 'carefronting', rather than confronting, your partner is a more productive way to problem solve. Learn what Zach thinks about one-on-one friendships with the opposite sex when you are married or in a relationship. Find out if you should create a joint Facebook account with your partner. And much more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/108 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Vicki Larson, an award-winning journalist, and Susan Pease Gadoua, a licensed therapist, dive into the evolving landscape of marriage. They discuss alternatives to traditional marriage models, emphasizing the importance of clear communication and aligning expectations with partners. The conversation explores topics like open marriages and the concept of personalized agreements, encouraging a shift away from stigma towards inclusive and innovative relationship structures. Their insights aim to empower listeners to rethink what commitment means today.

Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association and Senior Editor for the mental health website PsychAlive.org. She is the author of numerous articles and chapters and the co-author of several books including Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice, Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion, Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships and most recently The Self under Siege. Dr. Firestone is international trainer and speaker on: couple relationships, parenting, suicide, and violence prevention. She expert in the areas of suicide and violence and was involved in clinical training and applied research with her father Dr. Robert Firestone. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How vulnerability will help your relationship by creating more intimacy. Cultivating vulnerability in yourself and your partner. Why it's important to ask for what you DO want rather than what you DON'T want. How to get in touch with your real feelings underneath anger. Creating an atmosphere of safety in your relationship to talk about feelings. And much more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/106 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah e72d9uh5   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Ilene S. Cohen is a seasoned psychotherapist and educator passionate about helping individuals reach their personal goals. In this discussion, she emphasizes the importance of commitment as the bedrock of relationships. Ilene explores the necessity of thinking separately from your partner and provides insights on managing emotional triggers objectively. She advocates for self-compassion when facing those triggers and shares practical strategies for fostering individuality and open communication, enriching relational dynamics.

Gal Szekely, founder of The Couples Center and a prominent instructor in couples counseling, shares valuable insights into successful relationships. He discusses why commitment serves as the foundation for any partnership and how simple gestures, like placing a hand on your partner's back, can foster intimacy. Szekely emphasizes the significance of individuality within relationships and offers actionable tips for resolving conflicts while enhancing passion. He highlights the transformative power of growing together, making relationships not just about being together, but thriving as a team.

Kristen Holbrook is a Registered Clinical Counsellor based in Coquitlam, BC. Kristen offers both individual and couples counseling in her private practice. She has specialized training in the area of trauma and has been trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). In addition to her private practice work, Kristen provides counseling to women who have experienced historical and domestic abuse in an agency setting. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How past trauma affects how we see ourselves and our partners. Why trauma does not have to be a big thing. Trauma can have an impact whenever something exceeds are ability to cope with it. How trauma can come from early childhood experiences and past relationships. Why self-work is important to dealing with trauma in order to improve your relationship. Why it's important that you come from a place of empathy if you're dealing with a partner who is addressing a traumatic experience. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/103 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maureen Hosier, a licensed psychologist specializing in relationship dynamics, and her sister Berta Hosier Conger, co-author of insightful relationship books, dive into emotional challenges many face. They discuss the power of emotional triggers and how to interrupt reactive behaviors. The importance of mutual desire for change in partners is emphasized, along with the dangers of trying to care for one another excessively. They also touch on embracing authenticity and self-awareness to foster healthier relationships, encouraging listeners to reflect and grow.