The Healing Trauma Podcast

*This episode is a re release from a previous season.In this conversation, Monique is talking with guest family therapist Sidu Arroyo about the critical aspects of emotional regulation, particularly for those with trauma histories. She emphasizes the importance of understanding that emotions are neither good nor bad, and that self-regulation is a skill that requires practice and co-regulation with others. The discussion also addresses the feelings of guilt and shame that parents may experience when they lose control, and the significance of repairing relationships with children after emotional outbursts. Overall, the conversation highlights the need for compassion towards oneself and the importance of creating a safe environment for emotional expression.takeawaysEmotions are neither good nor bad; they are experiences.Self-regulation is a skill that takes practice.Safety is essential for effective self-regulation.Co-regulation is crucial for children to learn self-regulation.Parents often struggle with guilt and shame after losing control.Repairing relationships is vital after emotional outbursts.Acknowledging emotions with compassion is important.Children need consistent support to develop emotional skills.It's okay to be human and make mistakes as a parent.This journey of emotional regulation is a process, not linear.Sidu Arroyo:https://www.instagram.com/becomingathome/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation, Linda Pevac shares her journey of healing through writing, discussing her three books that explore her experiences as an adoptee and the therapeutic techniques that have aided her growth. She emphasizes the importance of understanding one's identity, the impact of trauma, and the necessity of embracing change for personal development. The discussion also highlights the nuances of the adoptee experience and the significance of creating a safe space for healing.takeawaysHealing is a continuous journey that brings joy.Writing has been a powerful tool for self-discovery.Therapy can help individuals connect with their inner parts.Choosing to breathe symbolizes making conscious choices.Adoption starts with trauma, affecting identity development.Creating a gathering place allows for dialogue with inner parts.Truth and authenticity are essential for personal growth.Anxiety can cloud creativity and self-expression.It's important to challenge the stories we tell ourselves.The journey of healing can inspire others to find their own path.Watch this episode on Youtubehttps://youtu.be/c6I8Z76syKMLinda's new book: Choosing to Breathehttps://amzn.to/4mynPMRThe Gathering Place: An Adoptee's Storyhttps://amzn.to/3JYO1T7A Fire is Cominghttps://amzn.to/4mdBc4yLinda's website: www.emmastevenswriter.comhttps://www.instagram.com/thehealingtraumapodcast/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest host, Dr. Mark McNear interviews Tim Fletcher, who shares his journey from burnout to becoming a trauma counselor. Tim discusses the roots of complex trauma, the importance of emotional needs in childhood, and the long road to recovery. He emphasizes the significance of self-love, finding safe people, and the challenges of navigating emotions in complex PTSD. Tim also provides insights on tools for emotional regulation and the necessity of patience in the healing process.TakeawaysTim's journey into trauma counseling began unexpectedly.Complex trauma includes both big T and little t traumas.Unmet childhood needs can lead to complex trauma.Healing from trauma is a long and messy process.Finding safe people is crucial in recovery.Emotions can be difficult for those with complex PTSD.The past can influence present emotional responses.Self-love and validation are essential for healing.Emotional regulation tools can aid in recovery.Connection with safe people is vital for healing.Watch this episode on Youtube https://youtu.be/llF501d9mkY?si=ywL7to0XUXnmPsJYTim's Website:https://www.timfletcher.ca/IG: https://www.instagram.com/timfletcherco/Guest host :Dr. McNear's Website: https://markmcnear.com/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation, host Monique Koven has invited Dr Ingrid Clayton back to answer your questions. They explore the concept of fawning as a relational trauma response, discussing its implications on identity, relationships, and personal growth. They delve into the complexities of fawning, including its connection to chronic pain, dissociation, and the importance of setting boundaries. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-compassion and understanding in the healing process, as well as the role of environment in shaping fawning behaviors. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the journey towards authenticity and self-worth, encouraging listeners to embrace their true selves.Ingrid's new book:Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Backhttps://amzn.to/45QPceDIG:https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd/Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/Watch this episode on youtubehttps://youtu.be/0noqt2I1oa0 Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation,Trauma psychologist and author Dr. Ingrid Clayton shares her journey of healing from complex trauma and the significance of the fawn response in understanding relational dynamics. She discusses her experiences as a survivor and therapist, emphasizing the importance of recognizing fawning behaviours and their impact on self-identity and relationships. The dialogue explores the process of building self-trust, compassion, and the ongoing journey of healing, highlighting the need for a trauma-informed perspective in understanding these responses. Ingrid's insights aim to empower listeners to embrace their experiences and foster a deeper connection with themselves.takeawaysIngrid's first podcast experience was transformative for her healing journey.Fawning is a response to relational trauma that often goes unrecognized.Understanding fawning can help individuals make sense of their behaviors.The journey of healing involves recognizing and addressing fawning behaviors.Building self-trust is crucial for personal empowerment and healing.Fawning can manifest in various relationships, including familial and romantic.Self-compassion is essential in the healing process.The importance of creating safe spaces for sharing personal stories.Healing is an ongoing process that requires patience and understanding.Everyone deserves access to tools and information for healing.Ingrid's new book:Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Backhttps://amzn.to/45QPceDIG:https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd/Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, clinical psychologist and author Dr.Tian Dayton shares her extensive knowledge and experience in trauma, addiction, and recovery through the lens of psychodrama. She discusses her journey into psychodrama, its origins, and how it can be integrated into addiction treatment. The conversation highlights the importance of role reversal in healing, the impact of trauma on the self, and the development of a trauma-informed approach. Dr. Dayton also emphasizes the significance of sociometry and group dynamics in therapy, and how psychodrama can address fragmentation within individuals.takeawaysDr. Tionne Dayton is an expert in trauma, addiction, and recovery.Psychodrama is a role-playing method developed by J.L. Moreno.Role reversal in psychodrama empowers individuals to see different perspectives.Trauma can freeze our emotional responses and hinder healing.Sociometry helps to understand group dynamics in therapy.Psychodrama allows for the expression of complex emotions and experiences.The method can be adapted for addiction treatment effectively.Creating a safe environment is crucial for trauma recovery.Understanding the origins of trauma can aid in healing.Self-care is essential for therapists and clients alike.The Power of Role Reversal in TherapyAbout Our Guest:Dr. Tian Dayton is a senior fellow at The Meadows and author of fifteen books including Treating Adult Children of Relational Trauma, Sociometrics,The ACoA Trauma Syndrome:, Emotional Sobriety, The Living Stage and Forgiving and Moving On. Dr, Dayton was formerly a professor of psychodrama at NYU. Dr. Dayton is a fellow of the American Society of Psychodrama, Sociometry and Group Psychotherapy ASGPP, winner of the Lifetime Achievement award, their scholar’s award, the President’s award and editor in chief of the Journal of Psychodrama, Sociometry and Group Psychotherapy and sits on the professional standards committee. She is also the winner of The Marty Mann Award, The Mona Mansell Award and The Ackermann Black Award. Dr. Dayton has been a guest expert on NBC, CNN, MSNBC, Montel, Rikki Lake, John Walsh, Geraldo. For further information log onto tiandayton.com, RTR-sociometrics.com to learn more about RTR.Newest Book: Growing Up with Addiction: How Adult Children of Addicts Can Heal Family Trauma, C-PTSD, and Codependency https://amzn.to/3V9eS0R Tian's Website:https://www.tiandayton.com/https://relationaltraumarepair.com/Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNearhttps://markmcnear.com/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, host Monique Koven engages in a profound conversation with Dr. Pat Ogden, the founder of Sensory Motor Therapy. They explore the critical role of the body in healing complex trauma, emphasizing that trauma affects not just the mind but also the body. Dr. Ogden discusses how unresolved trauma can manifest in physical responses and the importance of somatic therapies in addressing these issues. The conversation delves into the processes of empowerment through therapy, the complexities of navigating relationships for those with trauma histories, and practical tools for emotional regulation. The episode highlights the ongoing nature of trauma for many individuals and the necessity of understanding and addressing these experiences holistically.takeawaysThe body must be involved in healing complex trauma.Trauma affects the body first, leading to dysregulated responses.Healing requires addressing both cognitive and somatic aspects.Empowerment in therapy is a gradual process.Understanding the freeze response is crucial for trauma recovery.Cognitive understanding alone is insufficient for healing.Ongoing trauma can affect emotional regulation and safety.Therapeutic safety and rapport are essential for effective healing.Mindfulness and body awareness can aid in trauma recovery.Practical tools for regulation vary for each individual.Path to HealingSensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute https://sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Dr. Mark McNear speaks with Estefana Johnson, a trauma therapist, about her personal journey and the impact of cultural background on therapy. They discuss the challenges faced by individuals from minority populations, the importance of understanding critical memory integration (CMI) in trauma therapy, and the need for creating safety in therapeutic relationships. Estefana emphasizes the significance of acceptance, compassion, and empowerment through adversity, highlighting that healing is about digesting experiences rather than pathologizing them.Learn More here:https://arisealliance.org/about-us/estefana-johnson/https://arisealliance.org/press/mental-health-spotlight-podcast/https://arisealliance.org/trainings/critical-memory-integration-cmi/Disclosure: This episode includes a paid guest feature. The guest’s comments represent their own views and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Healing Trauma Podcast or its hosts. This episode should be considered sponsored content. Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this enlightening discussion, Deb Dana, a therapist and author with expertise in the Polyvagal Theory, tackles the intricate dynamics of our nervous systems. She unpacks how understanding this theory can help us navigate trauma and enhance emotional resilience. Deb emphasizes co-regulation as vital for healing, details the journey of befriending your nervous system, and offers insights into managing anxiety. The conversation also explores attachment styles and the importance of healthy boundaries in fostering safe connections for emotional growth.

In this engaging discussion, J. Ashley T. Booth, an author and consultant specializing in Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, shares her insights on healing trauma. She introduces her book, emphasizing the gentle, non-pathologizing nature of IFS. The conversation highlights the importance of navigating inner conflicts with curiosity and compassion. Ashley discusses the process of unburdening negative emotions from childhood and transforming trauma into beauty, inspiring listeners to embrace personal growth and self-acceptance on their healing journeys.