Honoring Your Story With Dr. Dan Allender

Dec 5, 2025

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Trigger Warning: Contains sensitive content & language related to childhood sexual abuse.

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest Host Dr. Mark McNear talks with Dr. Dan Allender to discuss the profound impact of trauma and the healing power of story work. They explore the complexities of personal narratives, the importance of kindness in therapy, and the long-term journey of healing from trauma. The conversation emphasizes the need for a compassionate approach to understanding one's story and the role of kindness in facilitating healing. Listeners are encouraged to engage with their own stories and recognize the ongoing nature of healing.

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Story work can lead to profound healing and joy.
Engaging with personal trauma stories is essential for healing.
Kindness is crucial in the therapeutic process.
Betrayal and powerlessness are common themes in trauma.
Shame can complicate the experience of pleasure in trauma.
Touch and arousal can evoke complex feelings in trauma survivors.
Healing is a lifelong journey, not a quick fix.
Understanding the past is essential for present healing.
Kindness differs from niceness; it involves deeper engagement.
The process of remembering trauma is vital for recovery.

About the Guest: Dr. Dan Allender, co-founder of The Allender Center and founding president of The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, has pioneered a unique and innovative approach to trauma and abuse therapy over the past 30 years.

https://www.instagram.com/allendercenter/

Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNear

https://www.instagram.com/drmarkmcnear/

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