The Calmer You Podcast

This week I'm answering your top questions when it comes to staying calm and confident over the summer months. I chat about:-How to handle the pressure to be ‘beach body ready' and how to truly be body confident this summer-Anxiety linked to drinking alcohol (because let's face it, summer = more rosé)-The unbearable FOMO of being at work while everyone else has ‘the best summer ever'-How to deal with summer social anxiety -The pressure to have a ‘brilliant' summer (even though you might be feeling depressed or anxious)-Starting a new fitness class or hobby and how to make friends-Overcoming a fear of flying Download Your Free Confidence Affirmations HerePlease subscribe to ‘The Calmer you Podcast' in the podcast app or in iTunes to get the latest episodes and please leave me a review 🙂 Thanks so much for listening! – Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Karen Marie Johnston is a sober coach, social worker & yoga teacher for addiction & mental health. She organises beautiful retreats and brings together a unique blend of personal development & spiritual practice to marginalised women. She has worked exclusively with women in the sex industry for the last 2 decades and has managed award-winning projects, across 4 different cities. She goes out into red light districts, weekly, offering support to some of societies most vulnerable women. Her work has been featured on BBC Radio 4's ‘Women's Hour' and Channel 4's ‘The Secret Millionaire'. She holds hope in some of the darkest environments and has witnessed deeply complex trauma. Yet, she wholeheartedly believes in transformation & feels privileged to walk alongside women, as they embark on their own journey of recovery & healing. We discuss: -Her work helping sex workers to overcome trauma -How to get out of your head and back into your body  -How trauma develops  -Karen shares why she’s an ‘unlikely' yoga teacher and how to get the most from it even if you’ve been put off yoga in the past. -And loads more. A video Karen highly recommends:Find Karen on InstagramMy Facebook group is Female Recovery Retreats & Coaching UKhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/158334858188165/Karen's website : https://www.karenmariejohnston.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mandy Lehto PhD is a brilliant coach, speaker, writer, and champion of high achievers eager to trade the hustle for something more sane – and satisfying. Her work blends academic research with intuitive, heartfelt guidance. We discuss:-How we use achievement to buy enoughness-Overcoming over-achieving -Why perfectionism can be used as an ‘escape' from anxiety -Mandy shares her favourite practical tools for more calm and confidence -Living life more juicyFind Mandy Lehto here on her website Mandy Lehto's Instagram Ep 61. Overachieving perfectionism and living- life juicy with MandyLehto Chloe:                     Helloand welcome to the calmer you podcast, this is your host Chloe Brotheridge, Iam a coach and a hypnotherapist, and I'm the author of two books: The AnxietySolution and my latest book Brave New Girl, Seven Steps to Confidence. Bravenew girl is all about helping you to end people-pleasing, discover the power ofno and becoming your most confident self. And it's full of stories from peoplelike you and me, who have grown their confidence.As well as practical tools that youcan slot into your life, they're going to help you to you be the best you thatyou can be. So this week I'm talking to Mandy Lehto, she is a coach, a speaker,a writer, she's a champion of high achievers eager to trade the hustle ofsomething more sane and satisfying. Mandy has a beautiful way of blendingacademic research with intuitive and heartfelt guidance, and she helps peopleto seize life with both hands.So in this really inspiringconversation we talk about how we can use achievement to buy enoughness, nowhow many of you can relate to this? How we hang our worth on achievements,whether that's how much money we earn, or getting a promotion, or getting likeson a social media post we really get into this and how to get away from doingthis because it ultimately isn't very satisfying. We'll talk about how toovercome over achieving, and this is different to high achieving by the way.Overachieving is going much too farthan really is possible for a human being to go, and Mandy's had her ownexperience of this, shares loads of stories about how she's experienced thisand overcome it and how she helps other people to as well. We'll talk about whyperfectionism can be used as an escape from anxiety, as a way to not have tofeel anxious if we are constantly striving. If we are trying to control whatother people think of us by putting on an image of perfection, we're trying toprotect ourselves from feeling anxiety and yet the process of trying to beperfect actually creates a lot anxiety in itself.Mandy also shares her favoritepractical tools, there are loads of things that you kind of want to be making anote of and returning back to off this episode, and we also talk about how tolive life more juicy. So if you are looking to grow your confidence, I have a Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Poorna Bell is an award-winning journalist of 15 years and a digital editorial expert, having worked as UK Executive Editor and Global Lifestyle Head for HuffPost. She's the author of two books, Chase the Rainbow and her latest ‘In Search of Silence'. I love her work and her latest book is moving, inspiring and evocative.We discuss:– Her brilliant book in search of silence -Her decision to go travelling despite what other people thought  The pressure to live up to the fairy tail  – how life doesn’t always work out that way -Burn out – how to spot the signs that you're pushing yourself too far-What resilience means to Poorna and how to develop it-What to say to someone who’s lost someoneFind Poorna on Instagram hereBuy In Search of Silence on Amazon here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Grace Victory is an award-winning creator, and trainee counsellor. She’s a TEDX speaker and has been awarded ‘Most Inspiring Role Model’ for InStyle Magazine’s Project 13. Over the last few years Grace has presented multiple TV shows, including “Clean Eating’s Dirty Secrets” – one of the most watched documentaries on BBC3, achieving over 1.5 million views across BBC1 and BBC3 combined. Grace talks about problems that all young people and women face, as well as topics that are perceived taboo; therapy, sex, trauma, relationship dynamics, diet culture, self awareness and spirituality. Grace’s content has a focus of plus size fashion, healing the mind, body and spirit and the importance of personal development.We discuss:-High functioning anxiety -Grace shares her story of coming from childhood abuse to finding her own path to healing and training to be a counsellor -Why healing should be holistic  -Why you have to feel your feelings in order to heal them.  -Why we’ve lost our power and how to regain it  Come over to www.calmer-you.com/confidence to join my free 5 day confidence challenge – starting on 1st July I’ll lead you through 5 days of simple yet powerful exercises to grow your confidence, calm your inner critic, create a new positive self image and connect with other like-minded people so we can all support each other and cheer each other on. Please subscribe to ‘The Calmer you Podcast' in the podcast app or in iTunes to get the latest episodes and please leave me a review 🙂 Thanks so much for listening! TranscriptChloe:Hello, and welcome to The Calmer You Podcast. This is your host, ChloeBrotheridge. I’m a coach and a therapist and the author of The AnxietySolution, and a new book, Brave New Girl: Seven Steps to Confidence. So, thisweek I’m talking to the amazing Grace Victory, an award winning contentcreator, she’s also a trainee counsellor, she is a TEDX speaker and she’s beenawarded the ‘Most Inspiring Role Model Award’ for InStyle Magazine’s Project13. She’s presented multiple TV Shows including “Clean Eating’s Dirty Secrets”– one of the most watched documentary on BBC 3. And in this inspiringconversation, we talk about high functioning anxiety, something that Graceexperiences. Sheshares the stories of coming from her own childhood abuse to finding her ownpath to healing and going on to train as a counsellor, and she discusses whyhealing should be holistic and also, why we might have to actually feel ourfeelings in order to heal them. And we also talk about why we've lost our powerand how we can start to regain it. I also want to invite you to come over to calmeryou.com/confidence on the first of July, I'm going to be leading a five dayconfidence challenge. I'm going to lead you through simple, yet powerfulexercises, to grow your confidence, calm your inner critic, create a newpositive self image and connect with other like minded people so that we canall support each other and cheer each other on as we go on this journeytogether. So, if you want to get involved in this free challenge, enter youremail address at calmeryou.com/confidence. So, let's get into the episode with Grace. Grace: Yeah,so I started making YouTube videos in 2011. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I loved chatting to Madeleine Shaw, nutritional therapist, author and mother about: -The pressure to always do MORE-Top foods to eat and avoid for anxiety  -The daily practise that GIVES you more time  -IBS – how common it is and how to start managing it  Find Madeleine on her website here or Instagram Don't forget to grab your FREE anxiety-busting tool kit at www.calmer-you.com/free and you'll also be the first to hear about the latest news, freebies and podcasts. Please subscribe to ‘The Calmer you Podcast' in the podcast app or in iTunes to get the latest episodes and please leave me a review 🙂 Thanks so much for listening! TRANSCRIPT OF THE PODCASTChloe:Hello, and welcome to The Calmer You Podcast. This is your host, ChloeBrotheridge I am a coach and a hypnotherapist and an author of the anxietysolution, and the new book Brave New Girl, which was out a couple of weeks ago.This podcast is all about helping you to become your calmest, happiest, andmost confident self. And this week, I am interviewing someone that I havebasically followed for years and years, Madeleine Shaw. And it was such anexciting thing for me to speak to her because I remember something like maybefive or six years ago even having to go on a specific diet where I had to cutout certain food because I was having loads of, you know, food intolerances andIBS. And her website and her recipes was something that really helped me at thetime. And it was amazing to find someone that was making healthy eating cool.So, I love this conversation with Madeleine. We talked about the pressure toalways be doing more. And Madeleine talks about this really candidly, about howit can sometimes seem as though no matter what we've achieved, and matter howsuccessful we are, we never feel like we've done enough. And we really talkabout this phenomena and some ways to start to stop that from holding us back.We talked about the top foods to eat and avoid when you're managing anxiety.And she also shares with us her top tip for a daily practice that gives youmore time. Now, how many of us would like more time in the day? I know I would.This is amazing. And we also talked about IBS. Now it's incredibly common, andnot that much talked about. But we talk about it and talk about how common itis. And she has some ways that we can start to manage it. So,the reviews have started to come in from Brave New Girl for those that haveread it or listen to it on Audible. Just going to share with you a couple ofreviews from Amazon so you can learn a bit more. K said, “Reading Brave New goI can relate to everything and felt as though Chloe had access to my brain. Ihad seen all my doubts and issues I have with myself. I love the way sheexplains and gives you an exercise to do which really helps you to understand.”Donna said, “I absolutely loved Chloe’s new book and read it in a matter ofdays. At times it felt like Chloe was reading my mind. As someone who has sufferedfrom my own incompetence and imposter syndrome, Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is a solo episode where I'm sharing about how to grow your confidence and courage. I'm also inviting you to join me in a challenge and I'd love to hear how you get on!Don't forget to grab your FREE anxiety-busting tool kit at www.calmer-you.com/free and you'll also be the first to hear about the latest news, freebies and podcasts. Please subscribe to ‘The Calmer you Podcast' in the podcast app or in iTunes to get the latest episodes and please leave me a review 🙂 Thanks so much for listening! Transcript:Hello and welcome to The Calmer You podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge I am a coach and a hypnotherapist and I’m the author of The Anxiety Solution and Brave New Girl which is out now. Thank you so much for listening today this is a solo episode on a Brave New Girl edition of the podcast. So, I'm going to be talking about confidence which is a topic of my new book Brave New Girl and I'm going to talk about how confidence isn't necessarily all it seems. I'm going to be sharing some really simple ways to grow your confidence and I'm also going to be inviting you to join me in a challenge. I've already had loads of people joining and it's been so, so interesting to hear from you all so I'm really excited to share this with more people. As always I’m going to invite you to come over to calmeryou.com/free and grab your free anxiety busting tool kit if you haven't already. I've got amazing resources in there from worksheets to hypnotherapy Mp3's to affirmations, to access to our online community to get support from other people who are experiencing the same things as you. So, we look at people like Adele and we assume that because she's so amazing at what she does that she must be super confident but the truth is that Adele has been known to get so nervous before her performances that she actually throws up. We look at people like Mel Robbins. You might know Mel Robbins, her book that is most famous is called the 5 Second Rule and she did a TED talk in 2011 and during her TED talk she comes across as totally together, calm, confident and collected and yet she talks about how the reality was that during that TED talk she was having a panic attack the whole time. Even people like Michelle Obama and Meryl Streep have spoken about imposter syndrome and how they doubt themselves and how they sometimes they don’t feel good enough and so it's so easy to look at other people who appear to have it all together, who appear to have everything figured out and we assume that they do have it together and they've got it all figured out and that somehow they were just born confident and that it's actually just easy for them, it comes naturally for them and we could never do that we're not good enough for that. We struggle, we doubt ourselves, we don't feel confident, we get scared and so we can never do you know the things that we really want to do. It means we don't put ourselves out there, speak up or share our art and so this is just one of the ways that we really hold ourselves back. When we peel below the surface of people that appear really confident we learn actually what looks like confidence is often courage. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Extinction rebellion and David Attenborough have made climate change more and more in our minds, and alongside that, eco-anxiety is on the rise.  This episode is about being brave enough to face things, to speak up about what we believe in (even in the face of criticism) and choosing action over anxiety.  If you’re struggling with eco anxiety, I’m afraid this is not a podcast that is going to reassure you – but rather its a call to action for all of us to do what we can to change the situation. We can channel our anxiety into action and not just be paralysed by worry and feeling helpless.  It takes courage to face this and to start to question our behaviours – no one is doing this perfectly so it’s really important to be kind to ourselves and know that it's not that we’ve been bad or done something wrong, but now is the time to educate ourselves and take action . I talk to Zanna about: -How to raise issues of the environment and having the courage to have difficult conversations (when maybe your friends and family don’t have the same views as you) -What action can we take to change things -Zanna shares a really interesting example of how she’s come under criticism and how she handles it Get 20% off Sweaty Betty when you click here and enter the code calmeryouBuy my new book Brave New Girl Don’t forget you can get a free anxiety busting toolkit at calmer-you.com/freeThanks so much for listening !Transcript:Chloe Brotheridge: So, hello and welcome to the Calmer You Podcast. This is your host Chloe Brotheridge. I’m a hypnotherapist and a coach and I’m the author of Anxiety’s Solution and the new book Brave New Girl and this is a Brave New Girl edition of the podcast and it’s all about helping you to become your calmest happiest and most confident courageous self. So, this week I'm talking to Zanna Van Dijk who is someone that I wanted to talk to for quite some time and we've seen a lot of stuff in the press recently with Extinction Rebellion and David Attenborough talking a lot about climate change and so it’s more and more at the front of our minds and I'm also hearing a lot about eco anxiety and how that is on the rise as well. This podcast is really about being brave enough to face the reality of things and to speak up about what we believe in even in the face of criticism and it's really about how we can start to choose action over anxiety because so often we have a tendency to ruminate over things or get paralyzed by the enormity of an issue and we feel unable to actually do anything about it. This is really about how we can channel our care and our concern which is valid into the action to make a better change. If you are struggling with eco anxiety I'm afraid this podcast episode is not necessarily going to reassure you as such it's not going to say to you, you know everything is going to be okay just relax don't worry. I'm afraid that isn't the case so if you really are struggling with eco anxiety it might be that listening to this isn’t the right thing for you right now. This is a call to action for all of us and it's about what we can do to change the situation and how we can channel our anxiety into making a change not just getting paralyzed by fear and worry and feeling helpless. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Alice Liveing is a Sunday Times bestselling author and pint-sized personal trainer, podcaster and influencer with a passion for health and fitness. I LOVED this conversation and how open and honest Alice is – it was a great reminder that we're all in this together, we all struggle and doubt ourselves at times and there are simple ways we can rise above this. We discuss: -Building confidence -Fear of failure -How to handle criticism and ‘feedback’ -Social media overwhelm  Find Alice on Instagram hereListen to her podcast Give Me Strength Download Your Free Confidence Affirmations Here Please subscribe to ‘The Calmer you Podcast' in the podcast app or in iTunes to get the latest episodes and please leave me a review 🙂 Thanks so much for listening! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Philippa Perry is a psychotherapist and author. Her most recent book is the number one Sunday Times Bestseller ‘The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read’. She has appeared on TV recently on Celebs Go Dating for E4 as well as on programmes for Channel 4 and BBC 4.  Whether you’re a parent yourself, a future parent or you just want to gain some insights into how to improve your relationships – Philippa's wisdom will give you valuable tools to communicate better, foster positive relationships and not pass too much of your own stuff on to your kids.  We discuss: -Why this work is so important right now -How to argue and not argue effectively with your child or partner  -How to own your own feelings  -How phone addiction affects us and our children  Get 20% off at Sweaty Betty by heading to www.sweatybetty.com/podcast and entering the code calmeryou at checkoutDon't forget to grab your FREE anxiety-busting tool kit at www.calmer-you.com/free and you'll also be the first to hear about the latest news, freebies and podcasts. Please subscribe to ‘The Calmer you Podcast' in the podcast app or in iTunes to get the latest episodes and please leave me a review 🙂 Thanks so much for listening! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.