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Today we dive into two listener emails and explore the complexities of intimacy and communication in marriage. We discuss the balance between the pressures of wants in preferences when it comes to sex and then on sexual performance, and the importance of understanding each partner's background and expectations. Our conversation emphasizes the need for self-validation and the idea that learning and growing together can enhance intimacy.  Takeaways Marriage is sacred and should be treated with commitment. Direct communication can lead to freedom in relationships. Understanding different backgrounds can help navigate intimacy issues. Performance pressure can hinder sexual satisfaction. Self-validation is crucial for personal confidence in intimacy. Learning together can enhance the relationship dynamic. Intimacy is about exploration, not just performance. It's important to hold onto goals lightly in relationships. On the Xtended Version ... Is sex really a need? Or is it more like a want? What's your thought? Listen to the XTD to hear our.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Green Chef: Eat healthier and get 50% off your first box + 50 FREE Credits with ClassPass https://greenchef.com/passionclass Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Is Sex a Need or Want? #694 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today we revisit one of the best of a recent episode of SMR. In it, I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talked through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most? What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage? And what should married couples do about our differences and similarities? Learn more about them and their work here - https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... LEAN: Get 15% OFF by going to https://takelean.com Use our code PASSION to get 15% off. The post Best of SMR: Secrets of Sex and Marriage #693 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it. Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control. Our conversation also addresses a listener's frustration with their spouse's reluctance to engage in oral sex and the power dynamics at play in their relationship.  Takeaways People have different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others. Engaging in oral sex can be a way for individuals to feel sexy and in control. Power dynamics can play a role in sexual encounters, and it's important to navigate them in a healthy and consensual way. Open communication and self-reflection are key to addressing challenges and frustrations in a sexual relationship. Marriage should not be based on quid pro quo or manipulative power plays, but on love, collaboration, and mutual pleasure. On the Xtended Version ... A listener emails in about a fear he has that his girlfriends physical appearance may lead to potential performance issues if they get married. Even though she is perfect in every way! Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App for Couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post Power and Oral Sex #692 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships. We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensitivity, energetic sensitivity, and introspection. Irene explains the importance of acknowledging and managing overstimulation for HSPs, as well as the need for emotional de-armoring and a slow, spacious progression in physical intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and collaboration in creating a better connectedness within the dynamic of a relationship. Learn more about Irene here - https://www.irenefehr.com/ Takeaways Highly sensitive people (HSPs) tend to be highly responsive and sensitive to their environment, both sensorially and energetically. HSPs have a sensitive nervous system wiring, which leads to more input being registered and more time spent processing that information. HSPs may experience overwhelm, overstimulation, and a sense of armoring as a result of their heightened sensitivity. Creating transition times and practicing self-care are essential for managing overstimulation and de-armoring. Emotional dearmoring involves opening up emotionally and having heart-to-heart conversations to melt the armor and foster intimacy. In physical intimacy, HSPs need a slow, spacious progression that focuses on touch that is first affectionate and comforting before becoming more sensual and sexual. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I give our take on the concept of Highly Sensitive People.  Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Highly Sensitive People | Irene Fehr #691 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Today we dive into two listener emails, one about the lack of intentionality in a husband and its impact on the marriage, specifically the attraction level of the wife towards the husband due to this issue. And the other email about the effects of past sexual trauma on a couple's sex life. He claims her past trauma is an issue - she doesn't. Now what do both these couples do? Takeaways Recognize that others are facing similar challenges in their marriages Address the lack of intentionality in a spouse and its impact on the marriage Consider the effects of past sexual trauma on the couple's sex life On the Xtended Version ... We dive into the aspect of obligation and duty sex that happens in marriage. It's really all about power and selfhood. What does this mean? Join the Academy to listen and find out more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy The post My Spouse Is The Problem #690 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Sam Jolman, a counselor and author of The Sex Talk You Never Got, dives into the fascinating world of sensuality and its pivotal role in intimacy. He discusses how men can benefit from slowing down and savoring moments, challenging the notion of sex as a task. Jolman emphasizes the importance of playfulness in sexual relationships, urging couples to approach their time together with curiosity and joy. By prioritizing pleasure and engaging the senses, he believes that couples can foster deeper connections and create a more fulfilling sex life.

Dr. Elliot Justin joins me to discuss the importance of monitoring nocturnal erections as a marker for sexual and cardiovascular health. He explains that nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's overall health and can predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Dr. Justin emphasizes the need for healthcare providers to address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function. He also introduces the concept of using soft elastomer rings to enhance sexual performance and improve relationships. The rings can help men sustain erections and last longer during intercourse. Learn more about Dr Justin and the technology here https://myfirmtech.com Use our code SMR and get 15% off Takeaways Nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's sexual and cardiovascular health. Monitoring nocturnal erections can help predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Healthcare providers should address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function. Soft elastomer rings can enhance sexual performance and improve relationships by helping men sustain erections and last longer during intercourse. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Paired App: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR LEAN: Get 15% OFF by going to https://takelean.com Use our code PASSION to get 15% off. The post Enhance Your Health and Performance | Dr Elliot Justin #688 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Effective communication about sex in marriage is vital. The discussion revolves around naming intentions and using soft, tactful language. Couples are encouraged to approach sensitive topics slowly, prioritizing listening and understanding. The difference between having sex and being sexual is examined, emphasizing emotional connections. Compassion for oneself and each other plays a crucial role in nurturing intimacy, fostering a supportive environment for open dialogue.

This week is a Best Of SMR! Our topics revolve around two main themes: ticklishness and sexual desire issues in marriage. Ticklishness and a sensitivity to touch can affect sexual encounters. We explore a technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch. The second topic focuses on two emails from listeners who are experiencing low libido and difficulties with penetration. There is pressure and guilt associated with these issues and we offer suggestions for relieving them. Takeaways Ticklishness can affect sexual encounters and set the stage for intimacy. A technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch involves rewiring the brain's response to touch. Pressure and guilt can negatively impact sexual desire and performance in marriage. Relieving pressure and guilt requires open communication and exploring different approaches. Seeking medical advice and addressing underlying issues can help improve sexual experiences. Libido fluctuates and requires dedication and effort to maintain a satisfying sex life. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, a husband has no attraction towards his wife, and while he kinda thought this may be an issue while they were dating, their honeymoon confirmed it. What should he do now? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Curing Ticklishness #686 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This week is a Best Of SMR! A wife calls in wanting to know how to handle her husband's struggle with pornography.  A husband calls in asking for help in how to talk about sex with his wife, who was raised in a way that she won't even talk about it.  Takeaways Struggles with pornography in marriage are common and can be addressed through open and honest communication. Having conversations about sex with a spouse who has difficulty talking about it requires patience and understanding. It is important to separate one's own worth and value from a spouse's struggles or actions. Taking responsibility for one's own actions and decisions in the relationship is crucial for personal growth and change. Each individual has the power to redefine their beliefs and values about sex and intimacy, regardless of their upbringing. Approaching conversations about sex with a positive mindset and assuming the best intentions from one's spouse can lead to more productive discussions. Struggles in marriage are normal, but it is possible to improve how they are addressed and resolved. On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, we explore the idea of what is normal. Is this even the right question? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best Of SMR: What Is Normal? #685 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.