Conversations from the Heart

This podcast explores the difference between protective and punitive use of force, emphasizing the importance of addressing underlying needs to resolve conflicts. It discusses the negative effects of using force as justice and the importance of embracing sustainable solutions. It also highlights the need for creative ways to meet needs without harming others and the dangers of generalization in identity-based conflicts.

This podcast explores the difference between judgment and discernment, the importance of setting boundaries in relationships, and navigating cultural differences. It also discusses loving others into wellness, overcoming negative experiences in friendships, and concludes with gratitude and an invitation for further engagement.

Have you ever wrestled with the fear and discomfort that emerges when you want to shift your relationship dynamics? Are you grappling with codependency or struggling to express your emotions authentically with your parents? In today's conversation, we explore a daughter's heartfelt journey of wanting to honor her parents while navigating the challenges of building deeper connections. We talk about the courage it takes to invite our loved ones into new experiences and the vulnerability that comes with it. Our discussion extends to the wisdom of releasing demanding energies in our interactions, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and the freedom of letting go of specific outcomes. The latter part of our conversation is about parenting dynamics, as we observe an 8-year-old learning codependent behaviors from a mom aiming to break free from people-pleasing cycles. Together, we explore the art of expressing ourselves honestly, asking for what we need, and embracing detachment from external outcomes.Show notes:[1:08] Why is it so difficult to show up differently in my relationship with my parents?[4:55] Why am I so uncomfortable when my mom says "I love you"?[11:15] Using hindsight and foresight to heal in the present[14:30] I'm worried this "fancy language" will alienate instead of connect us[19:40] Where does our courage come from?[22:15] How do I respond with empathy without sounding formulaic?[25:16] How you react to me tells me about you AND me[30:05] How do I prevent passing my codependency down to my child?[36:00] How can I work on myself?[39:00] Is it ok to ask others to show up differently?[46:44] Outro For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on one of our live calls Check out my YouTube page

Navigating the complexities of relationships and communication can feel like a tightrope walk - balancing empathy with personal boundaries, all while staying true to ourselves. In this episode, we'll confront the fear of being seen as mean when declining unhealthy conversations and reveal the roots of codependency that stem from such situations. The conversation will go into untouched territories of self-shame and inner rejection. With compassion and understanding, we'll help you navigate tricky conversations and teach you how to support others without taking on their emotional baggage. We'll introduce you to pendulation and its crucial role in maintaining a healthy balance between self-protection and connection to our nervous system. Finally, with a strong focus on authenticity and self-respect, we'll explore the path to self-growth and the power of taking small steps to catalyze change. Show notes:[2:23] How do you get to your heart when someone's asking for empathy and you just don't feel it? [4:47] What might be blocking empathy?[6:21] How to help a sister in changing her sister's behavior and regulating their nervous system[17:59] How to stop co-regulating[21:54] How to the muscle of boundaries and self-regulation[23:40] How to build a new relationship with our inner child[28:50] How can my limitations not be harmful to other people?[33:56] What does it mean to have conversations from the heart?[38:33]  Needing to feel safe and connect with others without losing ourselves[42:21] What are some strategies to shift from critical, negative, self-shaming thoughts into self-compassionate words that land? [44:26] How to translate judgment into compassion[49:28] At what point is self-protection holding us back?[51:44] Outro For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on one of our live calls Check out my YouTube page

Topics include emotional balance, fear, self-blame, creating safe spaces for children, empathetic listening, reframing fault and blame in divorce, balancing self-acceptance and self-improvement, breaking unhealthy attachments, regulating the nervous system, understanding developmental stages, communication styles, and creating a compassionate world.

Explore the difference between true feelings and faux feelings, the impact of accusatory language, and strategies for clear communication. Learn about nonviolent communication, setting boundaries, and the practice of seeking different therapists. Discover the importance of genuine emotions, meeting needs in relationships, and shifting from domination thinking to relational thinking.

This podcast explores the importance of identifying and understanding our true feelings and needs. It discusses the power dynamics within family systems and how they can distort our perspective. The episode also delves into how to recognize and respond to harmful situations, the characteristics of a healthy culture or family system, and methods for letting go of resentment. The hosts also touch on developing narcissistic traits and the importance of self-trust and seeking help from professionals for personal growth.

The podcast explores the difference between coerced and natural giving. They discuss saying no without harming connections, honoring feelings and needs around certain people, handling bullies, addressing shame, and rebuilding relationships.

The podcast explores the complexities of relationships and the importance of setting boundaries. Topics covered include rekindled relationships, finding balance in relationship dynamics while focusing on self-mattering, saying no to others, quitting a job, and communicating boundaries respectfully. The podcast also discusses the significance of embracing emotions, trusting inner authority, and exploring non-violent communication and open-hearted giving.

Navigating family conversations with dignity and compassion. The power of empathy and understanding. Setting boundaries and defending oneself from judgment. Making peace with misinterpretations. Interrupting long monologues. Apologizing sincerely. The complexities of marriage and emotional capacity. Observations and building shared awareness.