Conversations from the Heart

Navigating difficult conversations can be a daunting task. The importance of self-awareness and understanding our biases is highlighted to foster better communication. Techniques for emotional regulation are discussed, alongside the power of preparation to improve outcomes. The conversation emphasizes active listening and seeking empathy, as well as the role of intention and imagination in shaping dialogues. Personal anecdotes reinforce the message, showcasing how preparation can mitigate the stress of challenging interactions.

Have you ever had that moment in a conversation where you just go "deer in the headlights" and aren't sure what to say next?  And then you notice yourself having a lot of judgments about what the other person said, but you also have "rules" in your mind about being "nice" and so you stall out?On this week's podcast we dive into three compelling topics:Protecting pets and animals from abuseHolding space for a friend in a harmful relationshipAnd, responding to prejudiceIf you've ever wondered how to have kind but direct and honest conversations about something that matters to you, this episode is for you.  We explore what it takes to respond in courageous ways that allow us to be authentic and to show up with clear integrity, even if our authenticity and integrity might create awkwardness or discomfort for others.Show notes:(0:00) Intro(1:18) After witnessing the abuse of a living being, how do I approach the person responsible?(25:09) How do I help a friend who is ashamed because of harmful things their partner said to them?(38:53) How do I regulate my nervous system and get in touch with needs and emotions in the moment?(45:14) How should I respond to racial prejudice with someone who makes a negative comment?(56:24) Instead of asking "why" questions, what is the better way of asking questions?(59:17) Outro For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on one of our live calls Check out my YouTube page

Have you ever found yourself wondering who your people are, and where you can find them?  Personal growth sometimes means we're surrounded by loved ones who can't receive us in the way we want to be received.This week, we examine how we can approach imbalances with grace, advocate for our emotional needs, and communicate effectively to ensure that everyone, including ourselves, feels heard and valued.We touch on the rawness of vulnerability, the importance of choosing companions wisely, and the sometimes painful process of letting go when the reciprocity just isn't there. We also discuss the complexities of seeking honest feedback and expressing our communication preferences, especially when our defenses are down. Show notes:(0:00) Intro(1:20) How do you ask a group facilitator to grant airtime to members fairly?(20:45) How do I have others listen to me in the way that I'm listening to them?(43:13) How do I find people with the same mindset I can connect to?(49:36) How do I ask the people who matter for feedback without sugarcoating?(52:25) How do I communicate my need to connect and feel heard in the moment more than finding a solution?(56:35) Outro For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on one of our live calls Check out my YouTube page

Delve into the nuances of seeking validation versus embracing authentic self-expression. Discover how to navigate the complexities of feedback on your creative work and honor your need to be seen. Explore the delicate dance of communication in therapy, advocating for your needs without fear. Learn strategies for gracefully managing last-minute changes in plans, fostering respect both for yourself and your friends. This conversation offers insights into balancing personal desires and maintaining meaningful relationships.

In this podcast, they discuss the essential role of self-connection in successful relationships. They explore topics like handling unrequited romantic feelings, choosing what to bring up with your partner, wanting your partner to grow with you, and going to couples counseling. They also discuss dealing with dominating conversations, making requests versus asking for feedback, responding to negative reactions, and the importance of self-connection in fostering successful relationships.

This podcast focuses on the importance of authentic communication, personal growth, and boundary setting in relationships. They discuss strategies for navigating difficult conversations, addressing issues as they arise, and expressing emotions to prevent regrets. They also explore specific situations, such as improving family dynamics, dealing with someone in assisted living, and supporting a young family member. The podcast emphasizes the power of reframing dynamics, establishing trust, and providing anchor and care in relationships.

The podcast discusses the impact we have on others and explores how to apologize effectively. It emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility and offers examples of sincere apologies. The chapters cover navigating difficult conversations, understanding fight mode in relationships, and handling intense emotions. It also delves into the challenges of validating feelings and the importance of self-healing for personal growth.

Domination System Programming is very good at teaching us that our value lies in our ability to meet the needs of others.To the extent that I make you feel good, I'm a pleasure to be around.When I'm willing to override my own needs for rest or play and work instead, I am rewarded by being called "dedicated" or "motivated".If I work hard at meeting your needs and put my needs last, I'm a "loving" and "giving" person.It can be an absolute revelation when we realize we are not here to be used as a tool for others to meet their needs.  Instead, as we discuss on this week's podcast, we are here to be subjective, sovereign human beings who are learning how to be in interdependent relationship with one another.    Show notes:(1:33) Saying no feels scary but I don't want to be used.  What do I do?(5:40)How do I reveal myself without upsetting someone else?(12:30)An example of a soft way to say "No"(19:15) The difference between calibrating language and surviving someone's negative judgments of us(23:25)I want the connection to another, but I need to impose a boundary.  What should I say?(26:26)Sometimes I lie to avoid others because it feels easier.  How can I up level that strategy?(36:00)My Ex needs help.  Do I have to be the one to help him?(42:15) How idealizing others can dehumanize them(45:25) In Domination Cultures, the word "respect" is often code for "obedient"(46:15) We are not here to be objects to be used by other people(48:15) Tell me more about Domination  Cultures(49:52) How can I navigate a strained situation with more lightness?(59:12) Outro For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on one of our live calls Check out my YouTube page

The richest and deepest of romantic partnerships is the type where each person is committed to a shared vision of a life together--where each person brings the best of themselves to the other.So what do we do when we're all in, but our partner isn't feeling it?  Or, if the tables are turned, how do we kindly disengage from an ex-partner who isn't ready to let us go?Both sides of the intimate relational coin are up for discussion on today's podcast, in addition to a handy strategy for meeting our emotional needs during a break up.Show notes:(0:00) Intro(2:45) My partner wants less commitment and I want more.  What do I do?(12:00) I'd rather have the hope of working towards a future with you than no hope at all.(23:50) A practical strategy for redirecting emotional needs during a breakup.(30:30) How do positive, encouraging messages fit into NVC?(36:24) NVC as an outward performance.(37:40) My ex wants to re-engage but I don't.  How do I disconnect kindly?(44:40) When you are finished, you get to be done.(49:00)  Do my needs cause others pain?(56:00)  The function of the words "I'm Sorry"(58:30) Outro For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on one of our live calls Check out my YouTube page

This week's episode had several questions regarding offering Nonviolent Communication to others.  It can be very hurtful when we believe we have a method of communication that might help strengthen our connection with others, but our loved ones aren't interested in hearing what we have to say.A suggestion?  One of the best ways to inspire others to learn NVC is to live it.Show notes:[0:00] Intro[3:40] How can I share NVC?[8:32] What is the best way to inspire others to learn NVC?[16:20] The importance of focusing on the process, not the content[18:22] I want to be seen and known as competent.  What can I do?[27:30] How to respond to a demand[35:30] We stay connected to others as far as we can stay connected to ourselves[42:00] How can I integrate childhood messages that no longer serve me?[46:00] Addressing the heart of religious trauma[48:00] How can I skillfully ask for a reflection?[50:26] Outro For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Join the School of Human Connection Hop on one of our live calls Check out my YouTube page