Queer Collective Podcast

Monogamy is optional. Hierarchies are fake. And ‘the one’ doesn't exist? We're diving headfirst into the world of Relationship Anarchy with queer academic and certified hottie Pat. From dismantling the dating rulebook to navigating multiple partners without losing your mind, this episode unpacks radical love, intimacy without ownership, and why friendship might just be the new forever. Queer Poverty Project: https://smuniversity.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3ZO1JLxkZZC5E46 Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW PAT Therapy: https://allofyou.ca/Events Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allofyouwellnesscentre/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 01:32 What is relationship anarchy? 10:50 How do you get into RA? 20:34 Positive impact of RA 27:20 Why choose RA? 41:45 Can it get more radical? 53:28 Building your own RA model 01:06:13 Dating challenges within RA 01:12:26 Creating clarity with multiple partners 01:19:06 Negotiating hierarchies Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Black masculinity is feared, fetishized, and fiercely policed; so what happens when queerness enters the chat? We’re talking masc performance as survival, straight Black men’s discomfort with queerness, and why traditional masculinity is flopping in 2025. With Haviah Mighty and DJ Blackcat, we’re queering the blueprint and dragging patriarchy by the lacefront. Queer Poverty Project: https://smuniversity.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3ZO1JLxkZZC5E46 Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Betterhelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/collective Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW HAVIAH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haviahmighty/ FOLLOW BLACKCAT Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/djblackcatt/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 02:33 Black masculinity from childhood 11:18 Highschool scripts and stereotypes 16:03 Black masc women 21:52 Black women's standards 27:56 Black masculinity in queer spaces 39:38 Cis straight black men 50:59 Loving men 01:03:43 What is masculinity? 01:10:36 What is healthy masculinity? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Gay dating can be messy. From hookup culture and emotional avoidance to Grindr’s racial hierarchy, we’re diving into the chaos with guests Darynel Weekly and Mango Lassi. We’re unpacking the trauma, the body standards, the “no fats no femmes,” and giving you tools to heal, find real connection, and maybe even enjoy the apps without losing your soul. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW HUMZA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_humzer/ FOLLOW DARYNEL Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darynelweekly/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 00:02:57 First time with a man 00:07:46 History of hookup culture 00:12:11 DL gays 00:19:57 Seeking validation in sex 00:28:21 Finding long term love 00:36:10 Is the gay community racist? 00:48:48 fetishization in gay community 00:54:46 Is it a personal preference? 01:04:22 Gay body standards 01:07:28 Best advice for dating Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this lively discussion, Jay-Marie Phillips, a community program manager and DJ from Trinidad, teams up with Eirene, a passionate advocate for non-binary identities. They tackle the evolving definitions of lesbian identity, challenging traditional notions while exploring themes of gender euphoria and dating as gender outlaws. The conversation dives into the complexities of attraction, community tensions, and the impact of societal pressures. Expect insights on navigating intimacy and the rich, messy legacy of lesbianism, all delivered with humor and heart.

If you've ever been called “exotic,” or told you're one of the “good minorities” this one’s for you. We’re unpacking the fetishization of Asian bodies, the myth of the model minority, and the tension between queerness and cultural belonging. With personal stories from two badass artists, Charlotte and Ky, we explore femme fetish tropes, family pressure, and the art of de-centering whiteness, while staying hot and radical. VOTE FUNKYVERSE: https://cgtvote.votenow.tv/ Betterhelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/collective Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW KY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oneofakynd27/ FOLLOW CHARLOTTE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charcarbone/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You were told sex is binary, XX or XY, case closed. But what if we told you that’s just redhead math? We’re unpacking the intersex experience with two brilliant guests: Noise (the intersex karaoke witch) and Bailey (trans, intersex, and hot). We’re diving into the science, the history, the surgeries, the shame and why “normal” is a scam. Expect gay giggles, medical rage, and radical joy. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW NOISE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenoisewitch/ FOLLOW BAILEY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baileyarcherofficial/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 03:10 Finding out you're intersex 17:05 History of medicalization of intersex 26:41 Experiencing diagnosis 33:39 Existing in a binary world 41:24 Navigating dating 51:03 Advice for younger self Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Betterhelp: betterhelp.com/COLLECTIVE Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Queer. Muslim. Rockstar. Activist. Urvah Khan is all of the above, and she’s here to spill the tea on holding identities the world says don’t mix. We’re talking queerness, faith, feminism, and the fight for liberation, plus why the West needs to stop acting like all Muslim women are oppressed. Urvah breaks down her personal journey, the power of community, and how she’s reclaiming the Azaan with a mic in one hand and a middle finger in the other. It’s raw, rebellious, and deeply queer. Let’s get into it. FOLLOW URVAH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scrappylilbrowngal/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 01:58 Queer and raised Muslim 12:12 Coming out to a Muslim family 19:17 Coming back to Islam as a queer person 28:16 Why continue to choose Islam? 35:30 Wearing the hijab 39:39 Finding queer Muslim community 45:39 Advice for queer Muslims 47:31 Queer Muslim joy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off https://splashblanket.com/en-ca Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Losing your sapphic v-card? Terrified you’ll fumble the bag? We got you. This episode is your survival guide to sapphic sex, confidence, flirting, and ahem hands-on skills included. We’re joined by queer sex-ed pro Eva Bloom and sapphic dating expert Zhané to break down the do’s and don’ts of queer intimacy. From navigating your first time to mastering the art of the flirt, this one’s packed with hot tips (literally). Plus, we wrap things up with a round of Sapphic Smutty Mad Libs because education should always come with a little filth. FOLLOW ZHANE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ziosaaa/ FOLLOW EVA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whatsmybodydoing/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 01:48 first time with a woman 14:54 ways to confirm your queerness 16:21 being a newbie means no one wants you? 18:21 Queer vs straight flirting 22:49 Sapphic vs straight sex 30:27 how to flirt with Sapphics 38:54 having Sapphic sex 47:59 Strapping advice 55:35 Top or bottom? 58:40 Trans femmes & neurodivergents 59:58 Sexy Sapphic Smutt Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join therapists Louis K., Patrick Plessa, and Amanda Vandenbroek from the Polyamory Therapy Collective as they explore the ins and outs of opening up relationships. They dive into how to initiate the conversation and navigate jealousy, discussing rookie mistakes to avoid. Key topics include couples' privilege, the ethics of consensual non-monogamy, and the importance of communication. They provide valuable insights into embracing self-discovery and fostering authentic connections, making this a must-listen for anyone curious about ethical non-monogamy.

What does it really mean to be a lesbian? Is it a vibe? A gender? A political stance? We’re diving headfirst into the evolution of lesbian identity—breaking down butch and femme history, masculinity, queerness, and what it truly means to de-center men (spoiler: it’s liberating). With three wildly different lesbians at the table - Haviah, Pkat, and Karbon - we’re serving history, academic drama, and personal hot takes. It’s intellectual, it’s unhinged, and it’s very, very gay. Buckle up, baby dykes. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW PKAT Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p.kat.nye/ FOLLOW HAVIAH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haviahmighty/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 05:18 the lesbian identity 12:17 the masculine/feminine dilemma 24:52 discovery of lesbianism 38:02 the lesbian sub-identities 50:48 white vs bipoc lesbians 01:05:46 is lesbian a queer identity? 01:13:37 femmes don't get enough credit 01:25:11 do mascs get more dates? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.