Queer Collective Podcast

What does it really mean to be a lesbian? Is it a vibe? A gender? A political stance? We’re diving headfirst into the evolution of lesbian identity—breaking down butch and femme history, masculinity, queerness, and what it truly means to de-center men (spoiler: it’s liberating). With three wildly different lesbians at the table - Haviah, Pkat, and Karbon - we’re serving history, academic drama, and personal hot takes. It’s intellectual, it’s unhinged, and it’s very, very gay. Buckle up, baby dykes. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW PKAT Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p.kat.nye/ FOLLOW HAVIAH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haviahmighty/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 05:18 the lesbian identity 12:17 the masculine/feminine dilemma 24:52 discovery of lesbianism 38:02 the lesbian sub-identities 50:48 white vs bipoc lesbians 01:05:46 is lesbian a queer identity? 01:13:37 femmes don't get enough credit 01:25:11 do mascs get more dates?

What if we told you that your period pain isn’t just a fact of life — and that your 9-5 job might actually be making it worse? We’re hacking the menstrual cycle with Miranda Popen, hormone expert and founder of The Period Lab. We’re talking PMS myths, biohacking for better energy, and why the system was not built for menstruators (or trans folks on HRT). Plus, are your “healthy” foods actually wrecking your hormones? Your cycle is about to get an upgrade. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW MIRANDA https://www.theperiodlab.ca/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theperiodlab/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theperiodlab?lang=en FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 01:58 Why are we getting our period younger? 06:49 Period products that hurt you 11:02 What's impacting your period? 14:30 Is period pain normal? 18:13 Science wasn't made for you 21:38 Your 9-5 job is hurting you 25:50 How do we biohack our cycle? 31:19 What should you eat for a better period? 43:04 Symptoms you may experience 46:13 Sings you have hormone imbalance 50:33 How to find what's right for you 53:38 What if you're on HRT? 57:31 The #1 thing you can do now

What if embracing dominance could unlock parts of yourself you never knew existed? We’re diving into the art (and magic) of crafting a Dom persona with our friend Yaz - the non-binary, bisexual, Middle Eastern powerhouse you may remember from our polyamory episodes. We're talking confidence, embodiment, and the kinky intersections of BDSM and gender exploration. Plus, Yaz spills their secrets on stepping into your power—whether in the dungeon or your daily life. Ready to get a little dominant? Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Intro 02:15 What is BDSM? 04:48 How did you get into BDSM? 07:22 Experience being a dom 10:34 What influences your dom persona? 12:27 Yaz's dom persona 19:11 Building your own dom persona 24:20 Core motivations of being dominant 33:01 How to develop dominance 42:26 What makes a competent dom? 47:44 Are there kinks that are wrong? 54:53 Considering safety and disclosure 01:02:42 Being a good submissive 01:09:29 Exploring gender through BDSM

Polyamory with a sprinkle of chaos, a dash of queer magic, and a whole lot of deep questions? We’re tackling the juicy challenges of ethical non-monogamy—from jealousy to ADHD-induced impulsivity—and answering real audience dilemmas with expert guests Millie & Nick from Decolonizing Love. Plus, we explore the BIPOC experience in poly spaces, unpack the power of decolonizing love, and ask if polyamory is the gayest thing ever (spoiler: it might be). Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Overview 01:46 Lacking stability 05:37 Fear of polyamory 10:59 Dealing with CPTSD 16:24 Imbalances in relationships 18:33 Navigating Jealousy 24:44 Balancing attention in group settings 30:07 Being neurodivergent 38:06 Asking to meet your partner's family 47:54 Dating someone with a long term partner 51:12 Being a better hinge 52:49 Managing conflict between metamours 01:06:09 Navigating non-monogamy for POCs 01:14:08 Hard feelings around race & ethnicity 01:18:06 Polyamory & decolonization 01:23:43 Challenging patriarchal norms 01:25:45 Is polyamory inherently queer?

Friend, foe, or messy ex, what’s psychiatry’s role in queer lives? This week, we sit down with Dr. June Lam, psychiatrist and trans healthcare expert, to tackle mental health disparities, navigating family drama, unpacking shame, and surviving the holidays. Plus, we dive into the politics of medical transitions, debunk “fast-tracking” myths, and confront detransition discourse with science (and sass). Whether you’re queer, questioning, or just chronically anxious, this episode’s here to hold your glittery, overwhelmed hand. CAMH: https://www.camh.ca/en/your-care/programs-and-services/rainbow-services-2slgbtq Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Overview 02:52 Why is queer mental health worse? 05:34 Is therapy and medication the solution? 12:58 tips on managing anxiety 16:05 Boundaries aren't one size fits all 22:19 Supporting someone who is struggling 27:43 What is CBT and DBT? 40:01 Free or low cost therapy 44:14 The role of psychiatry in medical transitions 54:16 Are you ready to transition? 59:39 Are youth fast-tracked into transition? 01:06:01 Regretting transitioning 01:12:39 Delaying Transitioning

Why are bisexual men the invisible icons of the LGBTQ+ community? In this episode, we’re joined by the fabulous Brock Boyne (they/he), a horticulturist-turned-bisexual icon, as we dig into the stigma, stereotypes, and societal pressures keeping bi men in the shadows. From first queer flirts to the intersection of masculinity, race, and fluidity, we explore what it really means to embrace bisexuality in a world that loves to keep men in boxes. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW BROCK Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letthemgrow.to/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Overview 02:28 First bisexual experience 05:40 straight men flirt with each other? 08:47 what held you back from embracing bisexuality? 14:04 What made you want to be out? 15:53 Signs you aren't straight 17:37 Overcoming toxic masculinity 21:57 Navigating queer spaces 31:27 Same-sex flirting and hookups 36:09 Getting in touch with the feminine side 40:53 Why are bisexual men in the closet? 47:27 Is there exclusion in the queer community? 50:30 Advice for bisexual men

What if love and attraction aren't the same thing at all? In this episode, we’re joined by Cody Daigle-Orians, aka Ace Dad Advice, an asexuality educator, influencer, and author who’s here to help us break down asexual and aromantic identities with humor and heart. From discovering your ace identity to navigating relationships outside society's romantic and sexual norms, Cody offers insights, ally tips, and myths debunked. Buy Cody's Books: https://acedadadvice.com/books Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW CODY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/acedadadvice/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@acedadadvice?lang=en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@AceDadAdvice/featured Website: https://acedadadvice.com/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Overview 02:19 How did you discover asexuality? 07:32 What does it mean to be asexual/aromantic? 09:48 What are the sub-categories of ace/aro 16:51 What are the signs you might be ace/aro 19:38 What is compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity? 23:50 Asexual or just low libito? 27:12 Common misconceptions 31:34 What can ace/aro teach us? 37:10 Relationships & sex 44:39 Queer platonic relationships 49:21 Managing partner expectations 52:02 Key to successful relationships 54:24 Advice for youth 01:00:55 Marginalization of ace/aro people 01:08:44 Health disparities for ace/aro folks 01:13:46 How can we be better allies?

The nitty-gritty of surrogacy—how it works, why it matters, and what the queer community needs to know. We’re joined by Nici, co-founder of Hive Surrogacy, who’s here to speak on queer birthing, the dark side of the global surrogacy industry, and what it’s like to be a surrogate herself. Is surrogacy empowering, exploitative, or a little bit of both? Let’s talk ethical baby-making, power dynamics, and why surrogates deserve way more credit (and probably cash). Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW NICI Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hivesurrogacy/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Overview 01:11 The role of a surrogacy agency 02:35 Who seeks surrogacy? 06:10 What's the surrogacy process? 13:03 Traditional vs Gestational surrogacy 15:05 How much does surrogacy cost? 22:05 Is exploitation a concern? 31:21 Can surrogacy be unethical? 34:35 Why not just adopt? 41:14 The good and bad of surrogacy 49:11 What makes a good surrogate? 1:00:33 Do surrogacy babies suffer trauma? 1:05:48 What supports do surrogates need? 1:07:27 Bonus audience question 1:09:02 Advice for couples seeking surrogacy

Humanity’s oldest, most suppressed queer identities, 2-Spirit. Tiktok star Chelazon Leroux and actor/model Haley Robinson tear open the wounds of colonial erasure and reclaim the beauty of being both Indigenous and Queer. From navigating intergenerational trauma to confronting settler microaggressions, they expose the raw truth about what it means to exist at the intersection of queerness and indigeneity. This isn’t just a conversation, it’s a call to unlearn everything you think you know about queer history. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW CHELAZON Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chelazonleroux Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chelazonleroux/ FOLLOW HALEY Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@og.robinson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/og.robinson10/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Overview 02:41 Growing up Indigenous 10:56 What is 2-spirit? 16:02 Is 2-spirit accepted in communities? 23:33 Being 2-spirit AND queer 27:36 Indigenous culture 32:21 Colonial and religious indoctrination 37:45 What intergenerational trauma destroys 41:50 long lasting impacts of trauma 51:12 How the government is at play 56:38 on reserve vs off reserve 01:05:58 microaggressions you might be using

Transvestigation conspiracy theories are targeting women athletes. Are trans athletes really threatening fairness in sports, or is this just another excuse for exclusion? We’re joined by pro-athlete and gender nerd Tyra Blizzard to break down the myths, misinformation, and the shady politics behind it all. From Olympic scandals to TERFs being TERFs, we’re here to give you the tea on trans participation in sports and why it matters. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW TYRA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tyrablizz/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tblizzy?lang=en FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com