

The Hardcore Self-Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
Robert Duff, Ph.D.
Hey, friends! My name is Robert. I am a neuropsychologist and self-help author. In this podcast, I interview fascinating individuals and provide information about psychology, mental health, neuroscience, relationships, and more. I have been told that I ask amazing questions and that I am talented at breaking down complex science into digestible information. Come have a listen and let me know if you agree!
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Apr 5, 2024 • 29min
Episode 392: Helping a Friend with OCD & Being Controlling After Moving In
Hello friends! In today's thoughtful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Contemplating Harm OCD and Supporting a Friend: A listener shares their concerns about how to best support a friend struggling with harm OCD. They've noticed their attempts to help by offering reassurance or checking things for their friend might actually be counterproductive. We dive into the nature of OCD, the impact of well-meaning actions, and how to genuinely support someone without reinforcing their compulsive behavior. Finding Balance Amidst Life's Transitions: Another listener talks about the challenges of transitioning to a full-time job and living with their partner after college. They've found themselves clinging to rigid routines that have begun to control their life, seeking advice on how to break free from these patterns without losing their sense of stability. We explore the importance of flexibility, communication, and self-awareness in navigating these significant life changes. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode392 ---- Are you trying to find the perfect balance between social activity and recharging your batteries? Therapy can help! Try it out with BetterHelp at http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.

Mar 29, 2024 • 33min
Episode 391: Panic Disorder & Caregiving for a TBI
Hello friends! In today's episode, we tackle two interesting questions that delve into the heart of mental and emotional challenges many of us face. First, we explore the complex world of panic disorder through the eyes of a 24-year-old graduate student grappling with severe panic attacks. Their story illuminates the physical and psychological intensity of panic disorder, revealing how it transcends mere stress or anxiety to significantly disrupt daily life. We dissect the cycle of fear and avoidance intrinsic to panic disorder and discuss the critical importance of specialized care and therapy in navigating this condition. Next, we turn our attention to the challenges faced by caregivers of individuals with dementia resulting from traumatic brain injuries (TBI). One listener shares the struggle of balancing caregiving with personal self-care, seeking resources and support to manage this demanding role. We offer guidance on finding online and in-person resources, emphasize the importance of self-care for caregivers, and encourage seeking professional help to ensure both the caregiver's and the loved one's needs are met. As always, you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode391. --- Exploring what truly matters to you can be transformative, and therapy can help. BetterHelp provides convenient, online therapy to fit your life. Start with a questionnaire, match with a licensed therapist, and switch anytime. Focus on what makes you happy with BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff.

Mar 22, 2024 • 36min
Episode 390: Gender Identity in Therapy & Standing Up to Mom
Exploring dealing with hurtful family comments and navigating gender identity in therapy. Discussing strategies for coping with negative remarks, understanding gender identity in conservative environments, and finding supportive professionals. Delving into the emotional impact of hurtful words and addressing discrimination against non-binary individuals.

Mar 15, 2024 • 33min
Episode 389: Am I Bugging My Therapist? & Abusive Ex Using Kids Against Me!
Hello, friends! In today's episode of the podcast, we dive deep into two incredibly relatable listener questions that touch on emotional and psychological challenges many of us might face. Our first discussion revolves around the complex emotions of worrying about one's therapist. One listener shares their concern about being a burden by repeatedly discussing the same issues, particularly body dysmorphia, fearing it might negatively impact their therapist. We unravel this common fear, emphasizing the nature of therapy and the professional capacity of therapists to manage their own feelings and support their clients effectively. In our second exploration, we address the heart-wrenching situation of a listener navigating the aftermath of an abusive marriage, particularly the impact on their children. This listener's struggle with their ex-partner's manipulation and its effect on their relationship with their children brings to light the challenges of co-parenting and protecting one's mental and emotional well-being during such turbulent times. We offer insights into seeking support, understanding the dynamics at play, and strategies for maintaining a healthy relationship with one's children amidst external pressures. As always, your thoughts and questions are invaluable to us. Reach out via duffthepsych@gmail.com or explore more resources at http://duffthepsych.com/episode389. Your journey is important, and we're here to support you every step of the way. --- Breathe Easy with Air Doctor: Spending most of our time indoors means we're often exposed to more pollutants than outside. Air Doctor's air purifier, featuring an UltraHEPA filter, captures over 99% of airborne particles, even those as small as .003 microns, ensuring your indoor air is cleaner and healthier. Try it risk-free for 30 days and get up to 40% off at airdoctorpro.com with promo code DUFF. Nourish Your Skin with OneSkin: Combat dry, aging skin with OneSkin's peptide-powered products, including their moisturizing body lotion and the innovative OS-01 SHIELD SPF. Address skin issues at their root with a 15% discount using code DUFF at oneskin.co.

Mar 8, 2024 • 25min
Episode 388: Building Emotional Intelligence & Partner is Afraid of Pictures
Discussion on emotional neglect's impact, building emotional intelligence, and navigating partner's fear of photographs. Practical advice on self-reflection, communication, and prioritizing emotional awareness in relationships.

Mar 1, 2024 • 24min
Episode 387: Should I Still Talk to My Ex?
Delving into the complexities of maintaining connections with exes while in a happy marriage, the podcast provides guidance on setting boundaries, navigating feelings, and communicating transparently with both partners. It explores the significance of acknowledging past relationships, the risks of rekindling old flames, and the importance of self-awareness in maintaining healthy relationships.

Feb 23, 2024 • 34min
Episode 386: Starting Dating in 30s & Navigating BPD in the UK
Hello friends! In today's episode, we delve into two deeply personal and impactful listener questions, uncovering layers of self-discovery, acceptance, and the ongoing journey towards healing and love: Embarking on a Journey of Self-Discovery and Love: A 32-year-old male shares his transformative journey from battling addiction and isolation to embracing therapy, wellness, and the realization of his deep desire for love and intimacy. Facing fears of rejection, exploring his sexuality, and stepping into the dating scene, he seeks guidance and affirmation that it's never too late to find love and form meaningful connections. Navigating Mental Health Challenges in the UK: A listener from the UK expresses frustration with the mental health support system, revealing a recent diagnosis of BPD after years of being treated for depression. Despite facing suicidality and feeling abandoned by the healthcare system, they search for hope and strategies to cope with the intense highs and lows of BPD, highlighting the urgent need for compassionate and effective mental health care. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode386. --- BetterHelp: Navigate the complexities of relationships and dating with BetterHelp. It's not just about couples therapy; individual therapy can significantly enhance your dating journey, improving communication and self-awareness. Start your journey with BetterHelp online, tailored to your schedule, and get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff. Dive into therapy designed for you, because understanding yourself is the first step to connecting with others. Babbel: Kickstart your language learning journey in 2024 with Babbel! Whether refining conversational skills or mastering pronunciation, Babbel's 10-minute, expert-crafted lessons pave the way to fluency in just 3 weeks. Embrace a new language with tools rooted in real-life situations, and get 50% off a lifetime subscription at babble.com/duff. Let's learn together and make language barriers a thing of the past.

Feb 16, 2024 • 26min
Episode 385: Obsessing Over New Relationships & Recovering from Sexual Assault
Hello, friends! In today's episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Navigating Romantic Relationships and Self-Esteem: A listener seeks advice on managing the anxiety and self-doubt that accompany new romantic relationships. We discuss the concept of "correct rejections" and explore strategies for nurturing a healthy sense of self-esteem, such as focusing on personal growth and savoring moments of joy. Overcoming Trauma and Self-Doubt: Another listener shares their struggle with self-doubt stemming from a traumatic experience. We emphasize the importance of self-compassion and challenge the stigma associated with seeking help. We discuss the benefits of therapy and self-help resources, as well as the empowering nature of setting challenges and connecting with others. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode385 ---- OneSkin: OneSkin's skincare products, developed by Ph.D. level scientists, simplify your routine and reduce skin's biological age with their proprietary peptide OS-1. Use code "DUFF" at oneskin.co for 15% off. AirDoctor: AirDoctor's air purifier removes 100% of particles as small as .003 microns, circulating air in 600 square foot rooms four times per hour. Use promo code "DUFF" at airdoctorpro.com for up to 40% off.

Feb 9, 2024 • 37min
Episode 384: All About Depression
Explore the multifaceted nature of depression, including its clinical aspects, personal stories, and common misconceptions. Learn about the criteria for diagnosing Major Depressive Disorder and the diversity of symptoms. Discover the experiences of James and Ellie, two hypothetical cases illustrating the varied manifestations of depression. Challenge stigmas associated with depression and the idea that it can affect anyone, regardless of appearances. Delve into the benefits of medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes in treating depression and explore treatment options for those with treatment-resistant depression.

Jan 26, 2024 • 34min
Episode 383: Alternatives to Adderall & My Therapist Talks Too Much!
Today's podcast explores two listener questions: one about dealing with a talkative therapist and the challenge of feeling heard, and another about alternatives to Adderall for managing ADHD. The discussion includes the role of therapist self-disclosure, the concept of transference, the complexities of ADHD diagnosis and treatment, the pharmacology of Adderall, and alternative medications like Provigil. The importance of therapy, coaching, and addressing comorbidities with anxiety and depression is also emphasized.


