
The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych
This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com
Latest episodes

May 31, 2024 • 31min
399: Dating with a Stutter & Self-Harm Scars
Discussing the challenges of dating with a stutter and overcoming self-harm scars. Providing practical advice on managing anxiety, building self-confidence, and embracing uniqueness in social contexts. Encouraging self-acceptance, vulnerability, and reframing scars as symbols of resilience and survival.

May 24, 2024 • 36min
398: Choosing to be Childless, Sex Mismatch, & Inpatient Treatment
Topics discussed include choosing to be childless due to mental illness, barriers to inpatient treatment, and addressing mismatched sex drives in relationships. The importance of respecting personal choices, navigating treatment options, and fostering open communication are highlighted.

May 17, 2024 • 49min
397: What Kind of Therapy Is Right for Me?
Explore the complexities of finding the right therapy, from navigating different therapy options to understanding therapist qualifications. Delve into therapeutic approaches for anxiety, trauma, and ADHD, emphasizing the importance of tailored treatments. Discover unique therapy modalities like art therapy and somatic therapy, and learn practical tips for finding the right therapist through online search tools and specialized platforms.

May 10, 2024 • 22min
396: Her Doctor Failed Her - Privacy for Youth in Psychiatry, Suicidality Assessment, and Advocating for Your Past Self
Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle a profound listener question that may resonate with many of you. A listener who survived a suicide attempt at 13 is considering reaching out to the pediatric psychiatrist who assessed them during their hospitalization. They feel that the presence of medical students during their assessment was inappropriate and impacted their honesty. They're seeking guidance on how to provide feedback and advocate for their younger self. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode396 Links: https://www.nami.org/advocacy/ https://www.patientadvocate.org/ --- Ready to release your stressors and find a safe space to talk? Try BetterHelp, an entirely online therapy platform that fits your schedule. Fill out a brief questionnaire to get matched with a licensed therapist, and switch therapists anytime for no extra charge. Get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff

Apr 26, 2024 • 27min
395: Overcoming Agoraphobia, Common Exposure Mistakes, Amygdala Reactivity, and More
Dive into the complexities of overcoming agoraphobia with insights from a listener's journey. Discover the importance of prolonged exposure therapy and its common pitfalls. Explore unique strategies to build motivation and cope with anxiety, especially when facing physical conditions like multiple sclerosis. The conversation offers hope for finding freedom from avoidance and taking meaningful steps toward recovery.

Apr 19, 2024 • 29min
Episode 394: Finding Focus with ADHD & The Surprising Upside of Missing Medication
Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two thought-provoking listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Cymbalta Conundrum: A listener shares their experience with Cymbalta, a medication prescribed for panic disorder. They noticed feeling amazing on days they forgot to take the medication, leading them to wonder if they truly needed it. We explore the concept of conditioned compensatory response, the effects of medication on the body, and the importance of gradual tapering. ADHD Focus Struggles: Another listener struggles with focus and motivation despite trying various medications and strategies. We discuss the complexities of ADHD, the importance of environmental adjustments, and techniques like mindfulness, Pomodoro intervals, and accountability to improve focus and productivity. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode394 --- Take care of your social battery with BetterHelp! Their online therapy platform offers flexible scheduling and matching with licensed therapists. Get 10% off your first month with the code "duff" at http://betterhelp.com/duff

Apr 12, 2024 • 25min
Episode 393: When to Say I Love You & Numbness in Face After TBI
Hello friends! In today’s episode, we explore the deep and complex emotions involved in expressing love within romantic relationships and the challenging path to recovery following a severe traumatic brain injury. We kick off with a question about the appropriate timing for saying “I love you” in a romantic context, especially considering cultural differences and personal challenges such as being on the autism spectrum. Our listener’s journey brings forward the importance of understanding personal feelings and the unique dynamics of each relationship. We then shift to an inspiring yet poignant story of miraculous recovery and the persistence of hope. Another listener shares the journey of their mother’s recovery from a severe traumatic brain injury resulting from a car accident. While her recovery has been astonishing, they grapple with the lingering issue of facial numbness. This story highlights the incredible resilience of the human body and spirit, the complexities of the brain's healing process, and the necessity of advocating for comprehensive care that addresses all facets of recovery. As we navigate these profound topics, remember, whether it's about expressing love or facing the aftermath of a traumatic event, the journey is deeply personal and filled with opportunities for growth and understanding. As always, you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode393 --- Are you trying to find the perfect balance between social activity and recharging your batteries? Therapy can help! Try it out with BetterHelp at http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.

Apr 5, 2024 • 29min
Episode 392: Helping a Friend with OCD & Being Controlling After Moving In
Hello friends! In today’s thoughtful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Contemplating Harm OCD and Supporting a Friend: A listener shares their concerns about how to best support a friend struggling with harm OCD. They've noticed their attempts to help by offering reassurance or checking things for their friend might actually be counterproductive. We dive into the nature of OCD, the impact of well-meaning actions, and how to genuinely support someone without reinforcing their compulsive behavior. Finding Balance Amidst Life's Transitions: Another listener talks about the challenges of transitioning to a full-time job and living with their partner after college. They've found themselves clinging to rigid routines that have begun to control their life, seeking advice on how to break free from these patterns without losing their sense of stability. We explore the importance of flexibility, communication, and self-awareness in navigating these significant life changes. As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode392 ---- Are you trying to find the perfect balance between social activity and recharging your batteries? Therapy can help! Try it out with BetterHelp at http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.

Mar 29, 2024 • 33min
Episode 391: Panic Disorder & Caregiving for a TBI
Hello friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two interesting questions that delve into the heart of mental and emotional challenges many of us face. First, we explore the complex world of panic disorder through the eyes of a 24-year-old graduate student grappling with severe panic attacks. Their story illuminates the physical and psychological intensity of panic disorder, revealing how it transcends mere stress or anxiety to significantly disrupt daily life. We dissect the cycle of fear and avoidance intrinsic to panic disorder and discuss the critical importance of specialized care and therapy in navigating this condition. Next, we turn our attention to the challenges faced by caregivers of individuals with dementia resulting from traumatic brain injuries (TBI). One listener shares the struggle of balancing caregiving with personal self-care, seeking resources and support to manage this demanding role. We offer guidance on finding online and in-person resources, emphasize the importance of self-care for caregivers, and encourage seeking professional help to ensure both the caregiver's and the loved one's needs are met. As always, you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode391. --- Exploring what truly matters to you can be transformative, and therapy can help. BetterHelp provides convenient, online therapy to fit your life. Start with a questionnaire, match with a licensed therapist, and switch anytime. Focus on what makes you happy with BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff.

Mar 22, 2024 • 36min
Episode 390: Gender Identity in Therapy & Standing Up to Mom
Exploring dealing with hurtful family comments and navigating gender identity in therapy. Discussing strategies for coping with negative remarks, understanding gender identity in conservative environments, and finding supportive professionals. Delving into the emotional impact of hurtful words and addressing discrimination against non-binary individuals.