Wanderlust Swingers - A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP200 – Hotwife Glory Hole Experience & 3 New Swingers Clubs in 3 Weeks In our 200th episode, Cate and Darrell reflect on a decade in the lifestyle — and ask: can old swingers learn new tricks? From awkward dress-downs and single-guy overloads to sexy vibes, secret blowjobs, and diverse party crowds, this one is packed. We hit up three different swingers clubs in three weeks, including CitySwingers in Copenhagen (a real let down), Party Players in the Netherlands (a sexy swingers club but not a swingers event), and finally the X Club in Toronto — where a hotwife glory hole scene played out in real-time. You’ll also hear about: What makes a club feel sexy (or not) Swingers vs. sex clubs: what’s the difference? Party diversity, drug culture at events, and the illusion of no-phone policies Cate’s secret hotwife escapade: from business-bitch lingerie to anonymous cock sucking Plus, we tease what’s ahead for Cap d’Agde, share a major Libertine Events milestone, and celebrate hitting 200 episodes without a single piña colada spilled on the mic. Cheers, you filthy animals. What You’ll Hear in This Episode: Swingers Clubs Reviewed – CitySwingers (Copenhagen), Party Players (NL), and The X Club (Toronto) Dress Down Disasters – From mismatched underwear to sensory shutdowns Hotwife Glory Hole Fantasy – Cate and a stranger's cock, one hole, zero hesitation Diversity Wins – Why inclusive swinger parties feel better Behind the Curtain – Real talk on party rules, event polish, and the drug-vibe spectrum Useful Links from this Episode: Support Us + Access Exclusive Content - https://patreon.com/swingingdownunder X Club Tour on YouTube - https://youtu.be/YFmlAlm42E0?si=-h1iBPwUTnIVoI63 X Club Toronto Website - https://www.thexclub.net/ Party Players Lelystad (Netherlands) - https://partyplayers.nl/ CitySwingers Copenhagen (Denmark) - https://www.swingeren.dk/ Libertine Events – Swingers Takeovers & Parties - https://libertineevents.com Contact Us - email@wanderlustswingers.com   Tags: Swinger Podcast, Hotwife Lifestyle, Glory Hole Story, Swingers Club Reviews, Wanderlust Swingers, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Non-Monogamy Podcast, Lifestyle Events, Open Relationships, Party Players, X Club Toronto, CitySwingers, Sex Club vs Swingers Club, Hotwife Fantasy, Diversity in Swinging, Libertine Events

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP199 – Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire in the Swingers Lifestyle In this episode, Cate and Darrell dive into the psychology and practicality of spontaneous vs. responsive desire — and how this can make or break your experiences in the lifestyle. Whether you're the one who’s ready to go at the first flash of lingerie or someone who needs the right mood, connection, or even lunch before feeling sexy, we explore what it all means for swingers navigating clubs, hotel takeovers, and multi-day events. We also update you on the notorious dildo from the last episode — yes, Cate used it. Was it sexy? Science-y? Did it cause a UTI? (Spoiler: yes to all of the above). Plus, you’ll hear about Cate’s surprise visit to a Canadian club, her puffed-up chipmunk face courtesy of the Dutch healthcare system, and a viral Facebook video that got her slapped with a ‘bullying’ violation. You can’t make this stuff up. Finally, we tackle a fantastic listener question: Why are we pickier on dating sites than in real life? Is it about spontaneity, judgment, or just too many filters? What you’ll hear in this episode: The Dildo Debrief – Cate puts the giant toy to the test (with help) and shares the honest, messy aftermath Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire – What it means, how to spot it in yourself or your partner, and how it plays out at lifestyle events Desire Mismatches – What to do when one partner is ready to pounce and the other needs time to warm up Listener Q&A – Why are we all trolls online? Cate reflects on being pickier in apps than IRL, and what that says about connection Be A Better Swinger Tips – Learn your desire style and how to meet each other in the middle (without pressure)   Links: Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com YouTube: Wanderlust Swingers on YouTube Libertine Events – Texas Takeover: https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio Email: email@wanderlustswingers.com Support us & see the uncensored dildo pics: patreon.com/swingingdownunder   Are you spontaneous or responsive? Tell us what turns you on, how you navigate mismatched desire with your partner, or what you’ve learned in your own lifestyle journey — we love hearing your stories and insights. Tags: Spontaneous Desire, Responsive Desire, Swinger Podcast, Hotwife Lifestyle, Non-Monogamy, Lifestyle Events, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Hotel Takeovers, Sex Toy Reviews, Open Relationships, Lifestyle Club Tips, Group Play, Swingers Communication, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Desire Mismatch, Cap d’Agde, Sexual Compatibility

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP198 – Cap D Agde Desires, What’s in the Box and How to Small Talk Cate’s fresh back from Miami (just her this time!) and while we only touch on that wild weekend, we’re diving deep into what’s really heating things up: our return to Cap d’Agde in 2025, a brand new sex toy, and Darrell’s spicy fantasy. In this episode, Darrell receives a mystery box that leaves Cate both suspicious and very curious. Spoiler alert: it’s a new toy — but it’s not one we’ve ever used before. Unboxing it live kicks off a conversation about impulse sexy buys, techy pleasure, and how this toy might play into fantasy fufillment. We’re also answering a great listener question from a hotwife couple in New Zealand: How do you make small talk in the lifestyle when talking about work and kids feels out of place? From flirting in loud clubs to deep connection at weekend events, we’ve got practical tips, sexy one-liners, and a few hilarious fails to share. And finally — we’re going back to the Naked City! Cap d’Agde 2025 is on the horizon and we’re already fantasizing about beachside play, group massages, and balcony sex in the hot Mediterranean sun. This isn’t just a trip — it’s a sexual state of mind.   What you’ll hear in this episode: Mystery Box Reveal: Darrell’s new toy arrives and Cate’s imagination runs wild Lifestyle Small Talk: Flirty questions, fun energy, and how to connect without asking about someone’s 9–5 Cap d’Agde Desires: Why we’re going back and what (or who) we want to do when we get there Darrell’s Fantasy: How we're fulfilling it without putting anyone at risk Be A Better Swinger Tips: Mindset matters — whether it’s packing for Cap or chatting up couples at a club   Links: Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@WanderlustSwingers Libertine Events – Texas Takeover: https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio Email: email@wanderlustswingers.com   Are you coming to Cap d’Agde in 2025? Do you have a fantasy you’re dying to try? Or want to see what was in the box? Drop us a line — we love hearing from you!   Tags: Cap d’Agde, Swinger Podcast, Non-Monogamy, Hotwife Lifestyle, Sex Toy Reviews, Fantasy Play, Open Relationships, Swingers Club Tips, Lifestyle Small Talk, Hotel Takeovers, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Libertine Events, Voyeurism, Group Play, New Sex Toys

How does sexual trauma affect your lifestyle journey? Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of sexual trauma, abuse, and emotional triggers. Please take care while listening. In this vulnerable and powerful episode, Cate is joined by trauma-informed coach Meshai from Expansive Connection to explore what happens when past trauma meets lifestyle play. Cate also shares her personal experience with sexual trauma — opening up publicly for the first time. Whether you’re navigating your own healing, supporting a partner, or just want to be a more compassionate and informed member of the lifestyle, this conversation is essential. What we cover: ✔ What sexual trauma looks like in lifestyle spaces ✔ Common triggers during play or events ✔ What partners and playmates need to understand ✔ Cate’s story ✔ How to create trauma-aware swinger environments ✔ Supporting survivors without needing every detail ✔ Why trauma must be part of the conversation ✔ Real tools for safer play and stronger connections   Resources & Support: 1800Respect – www.1800respect.org.au | 1800 737 732 RAINN – www.rainn.org | 800-656-HOPE Rape Crisis UK – www.rapecrisis.org.uk SurvivorsUK (for men) – www.survivorsuk.org Let’s talk about it. Share this episode with your partner, club community, or friends in the lifestyle. The more we talk, the safer we all become. Join us in Texas https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio/  Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/swingingdownunder  Twitter https://twitter.com/swingdownunder  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@wanderlustswingers  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ShamelessNonMonogamywithSDU  Tags: Sexual Trauma, Swinger Lifestyle, Trauma-Informed Play, Non-Monogamy, Consent Culture, PTSD and Sex, Ethical Swinging, Open Relationships, Trauma Support, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories Cate and Darrell revisit soft swap play for the first time in seven years — and it happened at none other than Fun4Two, the iconic swingers club in the Netherlands. What started as a night out turned into a wildly sensual experience filled with connection, chemistry, a six-handed massage… and yes, some cum on the floor. We explore the dynamics of soft swap play, the assumptions people make about it, and whether full swap couples are missing out by skipping over these intimate encounters. Cate also makes a hilarious faux pas, and offers a boss-level club tour move, and together they reflect on how chemistry can totally eclipse categories. Here’s what you’ll hear: 🔹 The Night at Fun4Two: From flirting at the bar to hands-on tantra and one unforgettable group experience 🔹 Soft Swap Revisited: Why it felt complete, hot, and unexpectedly fulfilling — even without PIV 🔹 Redefining the Rules: Thoughts on how vague soft swap definitions can create confusion and missed connections 🔹 Club Tips: How to stand out in a room full of lingerie and boots  🔹 Red Flags, Green Flags & Play Pitfalls: Advice for newbies and seasoned swingers alike 🔹 Listener Reflections: Juicy comments from the community about the pros and cons of soft swap dynamics Plus, life updates! Cate’s heading to Miami, Darrell’s off to South Korea, and someone just turned 40… but we’re not talking about that, okay? Links: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@WanderlustSwingers Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com Join us in Texas this October - Libertine Events : https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio   Is soft swap the underrated gem of the swinger world? Rediscover it with us in this sexy, playful, and thought-provoking episode.   Tags: Soft Swap, Swinger Club Play, Full Swap vs. Soft Swap, Fun4Two, Swinger Podcast, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Hotwife Stories, Open Relationships, Lifestyle Tips, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Non-Monogamous Adventures

Steve Gagne, the owner of Wicked Fun Club, shares his fight against a cease and desist order from the Town of Plymouth. He discusses the implications of zoning laws on adult communities and the stigma surrounding non-monogamy. Listeners hear about the emotional toll on the club members and the need for community support to navigate these challenges. Steve emphasizes the nationwide significance of this battle, highlighting that it’s about safeguarding adult freedom and creating safe spaces for all.

Dive into the intriguing discussion on how scarcity versus abundance shapes decisions in the swinger lifestyle. The hosts share personal stories that highlight FOMO and late-night hookups driven by limited options. Witty anecdotes from Reddit and humorous misunderstandings keep the conversation lively. Discover practical tips to shift your mindset, embrace personal boundaries, and prioritize quality experiences. Plus, enjoy cheeky revelations about travel plans and personal updates that add a playful twist to their journey.

Join Darrell as he hilariously shares his wild Feeld experiment, managing a profile for his hotwife, Cate. Discover the secrets to optimizing profiles and wading through a sea of matches—over 1,300 likes! Hear about the art of standing out with top tips while navigating the complexities of the swinging lifestyle. With two dinner dates on the horizon, will Darrell succeed in choosing the right suitors for Cate? Tune in for laughs, insights, and the realities of dating in the hotwife community!

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories Join us for a jam-packed episode of Wanderlust Swingers as we dive into the highlights from the Libertine Events San Antonio Senses takeover! This episode features three incredible interviews with special guests who share their unique perspectives and experiences from the event. Jason and Sarah: Midwest-based hosts who joined Libertine for the first time as guest hosts. Hear about their role in hosting mingle games, how Sarah embraced a daring electric play demonstration with over 100 participants, and their tips for resetting energy at high-energy lifestyle events. Ed and Phoebe from Swinger University Podcast: Reflecting on Libertine's growth since Palm Springs in 2022, Ed and Phoebe share their impressions of the event's vibe, their favorite playrooms, and what sets Libertine Events apart in the lifestyle community. Kel from Expansive Connection Coaching: A specialist in coaching for non-monogamous individuals, Kel and her partner Meshai hosted an engaging edutainment session on crafting elevator pitches and handling rejection with grace. We discuss balancing work and play at lifestyle events and preview their upcoming jealousy workshop in January, focusing on dynamics with play partners. From electric play to meaningful connections, this episode offers a deep dive into the experiences that make Libertine Events so memorable. It’s a longer episode filled with insights, laughter, and a touch of sensual energy, thanks for hanging in there and listening to us! Jason and Sarah: [01:58] Mingle games and crowd energy Electric play demonstration highlights Tips for recharging your "power bar" Ed and Phoebe: [00:33:31] Libertine Events' evolution since 2022 Event atmosphere + the feel of the group Their favorite playrooms Kel from Expansive Connection Coaching: [1:00:35] Crafting elevator pitches and handling rejection Balancing hosting duties and personal enjoyment Sneak peek into the January jealousy workshop  Links Jealousy Workshop with Expansive Connection https://mailchi.mp/2116d78e5e3b/jealousyworkshop Swanky Unicorn Lifestyle Shirts https://swankyunicorn.com/  Swinger University website https://www.swingeruniversity.com/  Upcoming Lifestyle Events & Links: Want to connect with like-minded couples? Check out upcoming Libertine Events in the USA, UK, and Canada! Learn more at: www.libertineevents.com Join us in Miami from May 16-19, 2025: https://libertineevents.com/miami/ Wanderlust Swingers Podcast: Keep up with more sexy stories and lifestyle tips! www.wanderlustswingers.com Join us at Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism Resort from March 29 - April 5, 2025: http://www.casualswingerweek.com/   Tags: Swinger Lifestyle, Libertine Events, DTF Couples, Electric Play in the Lifestyle, Swinger Boundaries, Open Communication, Sex-Positive Adventures, Non-Monogamy Coaching, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Playroom Etiquette   Thank you for listening to Wanderlust Swingers!

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories The DTF Spectrum: Are Down to F*ck Couples Just More Fun? In this solo episode, Cate dives into a hot debate among swingers today: the phenomenon of “DTF” couples. Inspired by a lively discussion on Reddit, Cate unpacks the various interpretations of being “down to fuck” and how it impacts connections in the lifestyle. From couples who prefer a straight-to-the-fun approach to those with a selective DTF style, Cate explores why some embrace the label while others feel it’s misunderstood. Episode Highlights: What Does It Mean to Be “DTF” in the Lifestyle? Cate explores what it truly means to be a DTF couple, sharing both her thoughts and feedback from the lifestyle community on why this term is more complex than it sounds. The Red & Green Flags of DTF Couples Cate breaks down red flags that DTF couples should watch for, along with green flags that suggest this style may be the perfect fit. She shares insights into keeping experiences positive and aligned with personal values. How to Avoid Common Pitfalls & Clarify What You Want Clear communication is key in the swinger lifestyle. Cate provides tips on avoiding common DTF pitfalls, explaining how to openly define what you’re looking for to save time and find the right connections. Lessons Learned: Whether you're new to the concept or an experienced DTF couple, Cate highlights how to find your sweet spot on the DTF spectrum. This episode offers a fresh, judgment-free look at spontaneity, selectiveness, and the power of clear intentions. Upcoming Lifestyle Events & Links: Want to connect with like-minded couples? Check out upcoming Libertine Events in the USA, UK, and Canada! Learn more at: www.libertineevents.com Join us in Miami from May 16-19, 2025: https://libertineevents.com/miami/ Wanderlust Swingers Podcast: Keep up with more sexy stories and lifestyle tips! www.wanderlustswingers.com Join us at Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism Resort from March 29 - April 5, 2025: http://www.casualswingerweek.com/   Tags: Swinger Lifestyle, DTF Couples, Spontaneous Swingers, Lifestyle Pitfalls, Navigating Non-Monogamy, Red Flags in Swinging, Swingers Boundaries, Open Communication, Sex-Positive Lifestyle, Wanderlust Swingers