How to Not Get Laid at Swingers Events

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EP207 – How to Not Get Laid at Swingers Events (aka: are you “social-sexual”ing your way out of play?)

Ever left a lifestyle party with a sore throat from talking…and nothing else? In this episode we unpack why being a charismatic, chatty social butterfly can accidentally cock-block your own fun. Social sexual vs. DTF energy, how mixed signals stall momentum, and the exact moves to shift from talk to touch, without being creepy. Yes, there are wombat and platypus facts. No, we’re not sorry.

• Social V's Sexy: why holding court makes you look “unavailable,” the “talk block,” and how intent signals attraction better than endless banter.
• 6 Social Archetypes that Miss the Moment: the MC, the Talker, the Broad Flirt, the RBF, the “One More Drink,” and the Ghost
• Poll Results: 47% chat and forget to switch to play; 47% sometimes drift that way
• From Flirt to Close: specific lines that move things forward (“Are you free later?” vs. “Wanna go now?”)
• Listener Q: Tiffany’s husband holds court; Cate’s tactics to isolate, redirect, and actually get to a playroom
• Animal Fact Interlude: UV-glowing platypuses and cube-pooping wombats (you’re welcome, Charlotte).

Coming Up Next

EP208 – Sex Parties vs. Sexy Parties & the Dirty Vanilla Epidemic: how to read formats, avoid “no playroom” traps, and set expectations.

Useful Links from this Episode

• Libertine Events – 2026 takeovers (Miami, Scottsdale, France) https://libertineevents.com/ 
• Patreon – BTS outfits, bonus audio & polls https://www.patreon.com/SwingingDownunder 
• Wanderlust Swingers Website https://wanderlustswingers.com/ 
• Join SDC – Meet other swingers in your area https://www.sdc.com/?ref=32122 

 

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