The Motherkind Podcast

Welcome to this really special episode. Patty Wipfler has been working with families and children for an incredible 46 years. You may not know her name, but you may have heard of her organisation called Hand in Hand Parenting. It’s a nonprofit international resource for parents.Patty is on a mission to help parents by teaching an approach she calls parenting by connection. She also has a book out called Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges.Hand in Hand is an incredible organisation and I would encourage you to look at their website. There are so many free resources and it’s all non-profit.They have 135 instructors in 18 countries. She is currently working with Harvard on a research project to bring Hand in Hand tools to early childhood educators.I love having guests like Patty on the podcast. She has an incredible perspective and this comes across in her tone, energy, wisdom and depth of expertise. When someone like Patty speaks, we want to listen.We chat about: Her moment of transformation Her life’s work and mission Crying and what it means if your child cries a lot Why we as parents need to allow ourselves to cry more What happens when we listen to our children’s emotions and when someone listens to ours Hand and Hand parenting tools for an incredible connection and relationship with your children What I take from this episode is that our children’s emotional release is an important and powerful thing that we do not want to shut down or worry about. She tells us that if your child cries a lot, as mine does, and releases a lot of emotion with you, that is an amazing sign of a close connection of safety.When we feel safe with someone, we can release that emotion and that is what we need to do. Crying is life’s natural healer.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Facebook: facebook.com/handinhandparenting Twitter: twitter.com/ListenToKids Website: handinhandparenting.org/blog/ Book: Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME STARTS JANUARY 2022 - Will you join us for Reconnect to you - the reboot? Click here to find out more and to register.About Patty WipflerPatty Wipfler is the Founder and Program Director of Hand in Hand parenting. Patty writes, speaks, trains parent leaders, and develops resources for parents to help them lift difficulties from their children's lives and their own.She directs the training of Parenting by Connection Instructors from all parts of the U.S. and abroad. Her focus is on building parents' emotional understanding and helping parents to build networks of mutual support that benefit their families and communities.In 1989, she founded the non-profit Parents Leadership Institute, which evolved into Hand in Hand Parenting.She is the author of Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. Through Hand in Hand, Patty offers monthly free teleseminars in conjunction with leading parent educators, writers, activists, and bloggers. Her articles have been published in Mothering Magazine, the Bulletin of Zero to Three, and Child Welfare News. She has been a keynote speaker at Association for the Education of Young Children conventions in Chicago and Philadelphia, and she has done workshops and trainings throughout California, and in Oregon, New Mexico, Texas, and Massachusetts, as well as in Beijing, China. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Moment. Your place on a Monday for calm and connection and maybe even a shift in perspective before the week ahead.Something a bit different this week because this Moment is with me. Throughout November, I have been delivering free coaching workshops online to help us have a calmer less stressful Christmas, which I think we all desperately need this year.Those of you who have come along and participated have kindly shared how powerful and helpful the workshops have been for you. It struck me that it could be useful for me to use these short Moment episodes to share some of the ideas from those workshops for those of you who perhaps couldn’t make it.For the next 4 Mondays in the run up to Christmas, I am going to be sharing ideas and tools to hopefully help you have your calmest least stressful Christmas ever.In today's moment, I want to talk to you about why you can’t please everyone at Christmas and what to do instead. Why does this matter and why have I chosen this topic? Listen to find out.My call to you at the end of the episode is to ask yourself: What is the one small change I can do to take my power back this Christmas?I also have to thank the revolutionary toy sharing service, Whirli, who have kindly sponsored these workshops which meant I could offer them for free for our community. We have a lot to thank them for. If you want to try the service you can get 30% off using the code: MOTHERKIND. Whirli.com/motherkind FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you, and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.FREE WORKSHOPS in NOVEMBER 2021 - The last one is 30 November at 8pm. How to have an (actual) Happy Christmas Motherkind + Whirli are pleased to offer 4 x free workshops for parents and carers. Click here to find out more and register. And go here for the discount. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest says there is a damn good reason why people are struggling. We are not raised to understand ourselves.Dr. Soph is a registered clinical psychologist and a Sunday Times best-selling author of the Manual for being human which is an incredible book.This is such an interesting episode where you are going to learn why going to therapy and seeking to understand ourselves better isn’t selfish at all and how it actually helps those around us.We chat about: Attachment styles, your type and how yours can help you and your parenting The one-minute practice to better be able to connect to your feelings How to challenge your feelings of guilt and why we might feel guilty - it’s not what you think It’s my whistle-stop tour of some of the most important psychological concepts us mothers need to know about. Here is the episode. I hope you enjoy it.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Instagram @_drsoph Website Her book: A manual for being human FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.FREE WORKSHOPS in NOVEMBER 2021 - How to have an (actual) Happy Christmas Motherkind + Whirli are pleased to offer 4 x free workshops for parents and carers. Click here to find out more and register.ABOUT DR. SOPHDr Soph has a bachelor’s degree in psychology, a master's in neuroscience and a doctorate in clinical psychology, and is one of the few clinical psychologists in the world right now taking psychology out of the therapy room. After seeing the staggering decline of the nation’s mental health, she left behind her traditional role as a clinical psychologist in the NHS in order to provide more people with the access they need to have good mental health. Since 2018, she has helped thousands manage their emotional wellbeing by sharing her psychological knowledge on Instagram, on her blog and through her online private practice. Dr Soph is an expert for the mindfulness app Happy Not Perfect and has been featured in global outlets including Vice Magazine, Girlboss, Psych Central and Teen Vogue. A Manual for Being Human is her first book. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Moment. Your moment for calm and connection for the week ahead. This week’s Moment is from Ep 27 June 2018 and in it, the world-renowned psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff shares the one tool that has transformed her parenting. And it can help transform yours too.What if I told you there was one tool that is proven to make you stronger, reduce anxiety, and even make you happier. That tool is self-compassion. Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness, care, and understanding that you would show to a friend.Isn’t it just a truism that we often treat ourselves differently from how we treat those we care about?As Dr. Neff says it isn’t what we face in life that determines how we cope but how we are with ourselves when we face difficult moments. And, aren’t there many difficult moments in parenting that we must face. As she explains in the clip we can either have an enemy or an inner ally.Having an inner ally, a kinder voice inside, actually makes us stronger.She also explains about mirror neurons. This is absolutely fascinating. I like to think about this as emotions being contagious. If we are stressed out and anxious our children will pick up on that and mirror it back on us. The opposite is also true. If they are anxious or tantrumming and we can find some calm and ease within ourselves, as hard as that is, then that will help them quicker than any words that we can say because of these mirror neurons.This is absolutely incredible and I wish that every single parent knew about this. The quickest way to help our children is to calm ourselves first.Here is this week’s clip. I hope you really enjoy it. Please do let me know what you thought. You can listen to the full episode here.FOR MORE ON DR. KRISTIN NEFF, PLEASE SEE: Test how self-compassionate you are here The fantastic books she has authored including ‘Self-compassion @self_compassion on Twitter Kristin’s inspirational Tedx Talk ABOUT DR. KRISTIN NEFFKristin Neff received her doctorate from the University of California at Berkeley, and is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you, and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.FREE WORKSHOPS in NOVEMBER 2021 - How to have an (actual) Happy Christmas Motherkind + Whirli are pleased to offer 4 x free workshops for parents and carers. Click here to find out more and register. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest is with one of the UK’s leading scientists, immunologist Dr. Jenna Macciochi, who is also a mum of twins. This is an incredibly powerful episode about the tension between motherhood and work. So if you have ever felt pulled in multiple directions, then this episode is for you.It is in two halves. The first half is very personal from Dr. Jenna. She shares so courageously and honestly about her experience with burnout and how it was the start of a total realignment of her priorities. I found it incredibly inspiring and thought-provoking. I think you are going to love what Dr. Jenna shares.The second half is from her professional expertise, about winter bugs and what we can all be doing to stay as well as possible this winter.We chat about: What can happen if we don’t look after our health The tension between motherhood and work How to use boundaries to reconcile this tension What to do to avoid getting ill this winter What to do if you do get ill And the answer to the question we all are asking: Is it true that we are all going to be more susceptible to winter bugs because we have been in lockdown and isolation? As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Author of Immunity: The Science of Staying Well Website www.drjennamacciochi.com Instagram www.instagram.com/dr_jenna_macciochi Twitter www.twitter.com/drjmacc FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.FREE WORKSHOPS in NOVEMBER 2021 - How to have an (actual) Happy Christmas Motherkind + Whirli are pleased to offer 4 x free workshops for parents and carers. Click here to find out more and register.About Dr. Jenna MacciochiDr. Jenna Macciochi has over 20 years' experience as a scientist researching the impact of lifestyle on the immune system in health and disease. A strong advocate of preventative medicine, she is on a mission to break down the science behind our health and share the secrets of how to be well. Based in Brighton, Jenna is a lecturer at Sussex University and a qualified fitness instructor. Her writing has been featured in The Times, Women's Health, Marie Claire, Glamour Magazine and Metro amongst others. She is a mother of 5-year-old twins and a keen home cook, creating recipes inspired by her farm-to-table Scottish roots and capturing her husband’s Italian heritage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to the third ever Moment. Your moment for calm and connection for the week ahead. This week’s Moment is with Dr. Shefali Tsabary who really needs no introduction.Oprah has called her the world’s most profound parenting teacher. She is a best-selling author, international speaker and she is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses all over the world.In this Moment clip, Dr. Shefali shares why we worry so much as parents, why it doesn’t help, and how to embrace the inevitable setbacks in life instead.My invitation for you this week having listened to this moment is - could you take one thing that you feel worried about, maybe something either about yourself or your children and choose to let that worry go and trust that it’s going to be ok and that there are some beautiful lessons hiding in that thing you worry about.Here is the episode and I hope you enjoy it. Click here to listen to the full episode.Resources: The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Dr. Shefali Tsabary Check out Dr. Shefali’s parenting, wisdom, and meditation courses. The Year of Manifestation Course by Dr. Shefali. Recordings of Evolve 2019 are now available on-demand About Dr. ShefaliDr. Shefali Tsabary is an author, international speaker, and a clinical psychologist specialising in the integration of Eastern and Western philosophies. She is the author of three best-selling parenting books: The Conscious Parent, Out Of Control and The Awakened Family.She is known as Oprah’s favourite parenting teacher, calling her the world’s most profound parenting coach. Dr. Shefali continues to share her knowledge and passion for conscious parenting through workshops, courses and personal coaching.Get to know more about Dr. Shefali through her website. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Youtube.Worry brings about stagnation.- Dr. Shefali TsabaryAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.FREE WORKSHOPS in NOVEMBER 2021 - How to have an (actual) Happy Christmas Motherkind + Whirli are pleased to offer 4 x free workshops for parents and carers. Click here to find out more and register. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest is my wonderful friend Jessica Huie. I cannot tell you how lucky I am to have her in my life.The word inspirational gets thrown around a lot these days doesn’t it, but Jessica really does live up to that description.She went from being a teen mother expelled from school and living in a hostel, to having an amazing career in PR. She founded two awarding-winning businesses and received an MBE for her contribution to promoting diversity in business.Having built the life she thought she desired and looking very successful on the outside, her father passed away. This gave her an awakening to really assess everything with fresh eyes. She is now on a mission to help us connect to who we really are and to live from the heart rather than the head.We chat about: How to find your purpose (it’s not what you might think) Why control is the enemy of authenticity and joy Why we have the desire to control everything in our lives How to live based on how it feels to you and not how it looks to others How to make bold choices even if they go against the grain Her parenting philosophy How she handled the fallout from moving with her son from Surrey to Jamaica in the middle of a pandemic This is an incredible episode, a very spiritual episode. My hope and intention is that you find real peace and comfort in Jessica’s words. Every time I speak with Jessica it just really helps me cut through the day-to-day stresses and worries and ask myself what kind of life do I really want to live and am I creating it for myself. I really hope this episode does that for you too.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Instagram: @jessica_huie_ Purpose: Pre-order Website FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins on 15 November 2021. Curious? Find out more.About Jessica Huie MBEJessica Huie MBE is the Founder of The Purpose Academy and the entrepreneur whose Color blind cards made history in 2007 as the first independent publisher to secure a presence for black cards in the British High-street.Despite humble beginnings, as a teen mother expelled from school aged 15, Jessica went on to enjoy a glittering career as a journalist and publicist and has worked with some of the world’s best-known stars and business people, including Samuel L. Jackson, Simon Cowell, Kelly Rowland & Duchess of Sussex Meghan Markle.Labeled one of Britain’s Most Inspiring Entrepreneurs by the Evening Standard, her first book, PURPOSE, evolved from the profound space between life and death in which she found herself as a carer for her beloved father. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to the second ever Moment. Thank you for taking this moment for yourself to help you feel calmer, lighter and perhaps even shift your perspective a little before the busy week ahead.This week’s Moment is with Dr. Gabor Maté. I am sure you know of him. He is a renowned addiction expert, speaker and author and sought after for his expertise on trauma, addiction, stress and childhood development.This is one of the most powerful conversations I have ever had on the podcast. It is still the most downloaded ever to date.It was so hard to choose a 10-minute clip. It is no exaggeration that I have listened to this episode about 5 times this morning trying to find the most powerful clip for you.The whole episode is just remarkable and powerful. I did manage to kick my perfection out of the way and decide on one. In this Moment he talks about why it is so hard to be a mother today and why it is our profound responsibility to keep being curious about our own behaviour on this remarkable journey of motherhood.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Find out more: Full episode, click here Hold On To Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld, PhD, and Gabor Maté, MD Follow his work on Facebook, Twitter, and his website. FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins in November 2021. Curious? Find out more.About Dr. Gabor MatéDr Gabor Maté is a renowned speaker and bestselling author who teaches about human development through the lens of science and compassion. He is a retired medical doctor who has over 20 years of family practice and palliative care experience.Dr. Gabor empowers people to promote their own healing by presenting a broad perspective on issues such as drug addiction, childhood development, trauma, and mental illness. His books include ‘In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters With Addiction’, ‘When the Body Says No’, and ‘Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers’, written with Dr. Gordon Neufeld. He is currently writing his next book, ‘The Myth of Normal: Illness and Health in an Insane Culture’. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest was suggested by many of you. And now after speaking with her, I know why. She is awesome.Lyndsey Hookway is paediatric nurse, children’s public health nurse, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Holistic Sleep Coach, Ph.D. candidate, and birth trauma recovery practitioner.She is the author of three books: Holistic Sleep Coaching, Let’s Talk About Your New Family’s Sleep, and her latest book called Still Awake. She is also co-founder of the Holistic Sleep Coaching programme.This is a really powerful episode about trusting ourselves in all areas of parenting but particularly sleep. We also talk about how hard that can be when we are exhausted or bombarded with conflicting information about how to get more sleep for both ourselves and our children no matter what age they are.We chat about: How to stop stressing about sleep Why there aren't any techniques that work for everyone The danger of the new sleep industry The big sleep myths How to find your instinct even when you are so tired Her own powerful journey with sleep What to do if you can’t sleep even though you have the opportunity to The importance of self-belief Once you hear it, I think you are going to want to share it with so many of your mum-friends. As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Instagram: @lyndsey_hookway Facebook: @LyndseyHookway Website: https://lyndseyhookway.com/ Holistic Sleep Coaching - available on Amazon and direct from the publisher PraeclarusPress.  Let’s Talk About Your New Family’s Sleep - now available on Amazon and from Pinter & Martin.  Still Awake - now available on Amazon and from Pinter & Martin.  FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins in November. Curious? Find out more.About Lyndsey HookwayLyndsey is an experienced paediatric nurse, children’s public health nurse, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Holistic Sleep Coach, Ph.D. candidate, and birth trauma recovery practitioner. She has worked in hospitals, clinics, the community and within clients’ homes for 20 years, serving within the UK NHS, in private practice and voluntarily.Lyndsey is a respected international speaker and teacher, and she regularly speaks out against the dominant sleep training culture, as well as advocating for the rights of families to receive high-quality, compassionate and expert lactation and respectful, responsive parenting support. She is the author of Holistic Sleep Coaching (2018), Let’s talk about your new family’s sleep (2020), and Still Awake (2021) and is currently working on three more books that will be published in 2022. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to the very first episode of the MOTHERKIND MOMENT. Every Monday I am going to release a short inspirational clip from one of my previous episodes. My intention is to give you a moment of joy, inspiration and perhaps even shift your perspective as we start a new week together.A little moment of Motherkind every Monday before the crazy week ahead.Today's Moment is 10 minutes long with sustainability author and speaker Jen Gale. It is in honor of COP26 climate talks in Glasgow, which started yesterday. Jen brilliantly breaks down the issues and the incredible power we each have to be part of the solution.You can listen to the full episode here.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins in November 2021. Curious? Find out more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices