The Motherkind Podcast

We have a special episode for you this week. If you followed my story about the birth of my first daughter, Jessie, who is nearly 6 now, you know that was a huge moment of transformation for me.Jessie was born, but also so was I. It was such an empowering experience for me that I felt called in my purpose and mission to work with mothers. So much so that I quit my corporate job of 12 years to start Motherkind. It was my purpose then and I feel that even more strongly today.This week’s guest was a hugely important part of that experience for me. Her name is Hollie de Cruz. Many of you will already know Hollie. She is a renowned birth coach, podcaster, author of Your Baby, Your Birth, and Motherhood Your Way and a mother of two boys.In many ways, we have lived parallel journeys of healing. This isn’t really an episode about birth. We touch on it and talk about it, but, this is actually an episode about purpose. It’s about healing and getting more and more comfortable about who we are.She is incredibly honest and vulnerable about her journey over the past few years and what that has meant for her and how she is different today.I think you are going to love this one. I hope you enjoy it.We chat about: Hollie’s journey and what it has meant to her Finding purpose The path of healing Asking ourselves: What is the fear? As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Yes Mum Cards - www.yesmumcards.com Instagram: @theyesmummum FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins in November. Curious? Find out more.About Hollie de CruzHollie is a renowned birth coach, author of Your Baby, Your Birth and Motherhood Your Way, podcaster and mother of two boys. She makes award-winning positive affirmation cards and is founder of the yesmum birth project – a hypnobirthing home study programme that supports women all over the world to feel empowered in pregnancy, birth and beyond. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this episode of the Motherkind podcast. My guest this week says that motherhood is a journey that has the power to help us evolve and transform. If you are a regular listener of this podcast then I know that will resonate with you.Shelly Robinson is the founder of Raising Yourself. She was also suggested by tons of you when I asked who you wanted me to have on the podcast.Shelly is a holistic family wellness coach, a workshop facilitator, and a conscious parenting advocate. She is on a mission to teach busy mid-life mothers how to heal unhelpful patterns and develop strong emotional health that they can pass on to their children.This is something that we talk about every week on this podcast. I hope you are going to love this episode.We chat about: Where does our deep well of anger come from? How to create a home where everyone’s voice is safe 2 truths and a lie The work of raising ourselves Disrupting generational patterns As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: Website - LINK Instagram - LINK FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you feel like you again. The next group begins in November. Curious? Find out more.About Shelly RobinsonShelly Robinson is a certified holistic family wellness coach, cycle-breaker, conscious parenting educator, and the creator of Raising Yourself. Her passion in life is to empower moms to turn their midlife crisis into midlife magic by teaching them how to reparent themselves, disrupt generational patterns, and take radically good care of their needs.When she's not connecting with her online community or geeking out on the latest neuroscience of cycle-breaking, she's likely making a mess in the kitchen with her two kids, trying to find her way out from under a pile of laundry, or decompressing with a good mystery in bed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this very special episode of the Motherkind Podcast created in partnership with the innovative and conscientious Whirli.I am super excited to be working with Whirli which is the UKs revolutionary toy subscription service.Think of it as the sharing economy for toys. It makes so much sense, doesn’t it? Sharing toys. What children like to play with changes so quickly and you can never predict what they are going to love or not even play with at all. I certainly would not like to add up all the money I have wasted on toys the girls never played with. Not to mention the additional mental load of researching and buying the right toys at the right time.I love Whirli because it’s a solution to all of that. Plus, it’s so much more sustainable than each of us buying all those toys. Think of it as a more affordable & sustainable alternative to buying toys. And more fun and memorable.This episode is created in partnership with Whirli because I was thinking about the best way to tell you about Whirli and the service, and I think this is it! I actually interview its founder Nigel Phan. Because who better to explain it.Let me know what you think of the sharing economy for toys. Will it work for you? And if you like this episode then I recommend you listen to, if you haven’t already, my conversation with Jen Gale Ep 140 You have more power than you think.We chat about: How it works and why How to get involved How to make Christmas buying so much easier this year As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Whirli homepage: https://bit.ly/giveitawhirli Whirli browse toys: https://bit.ly/whirli-toys Motherkind offer: https://bit.ly/motherkind - 30% off half-yearly Toy Box subscription (pay £57 instead of £81) MOTHERKIND to be entered at checkout FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.GROUP COACHING GROUP COACHING EXPERIENCE - Reconnect to you: the reboot. It’s a powerful 30-day programme to help you fee like you again. The next group begins in November. Curious? Find out more.ABOUT NIGEL PHANNigel grew up in Singapore and moved to the UK over 15 years ago to complete his education. He then spent 5 years as a management consultant at McKinsey & Company, where he was a junior Partner in the London office consumer retail practice. In 2018, Nigel left his corporate job to start Whirli - a venture that uses the power of sharing to help parents save money, declutter their homes, and consume eco-consciously. Nigel is also very passionate about helping children maximise their potential and opportunities. At Whirli, a strong emphasis is placed on early years development and the importance of learning through play. Nigel also volunteers as the Chair of the Board of Trustees for The Kids Network, a London-based charity providing mentorship to children who are going through extremely difficult challenges. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This could possibly be one of the most important conversations I’ve ever had on the Podcast. Nova Reid is a Ted speaker, anti-racism activist, and author. Her incredible debut book The Good Ally is out now. I think the book should be required reading. It is informative and incredibly researched, kind and compassionate. Nova invites us to do the self-inquiry and uncomfortable work of unlearning our own racism.We chat about: What racism is Why the definition we may have in our head isn’t helpful Why we have got to start having conversations with our children about race and how to do it Trauma and racism The heartbreaking impact of racism on Nova’s body It really is an incredible episode. It’s also important for me to say that I have so much to do in my own anti-racism work. To be honest, I have to admit to you that I was nervous about talking to Nova and having this conversation.What I’m learning is how important these conversations are, especially if you are uncomfortable.You will hear me in discomfort, with some shame and guilt. I think that is part of the importance of having these conversations and doing this work. As Nova says, there is always something to explore in what comes up for us.I hope you enjoy the episode. Please let me know what you think.As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Nova on Instagram Conversations with Nova Reid Podcast Anti-racism course Debut Book, The Good Ally FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.ABOUT NOVANova Reid is an Activist, TED speaker and author, with a mission to improve racial justice by helping people be the change they want to see by courageously unlearning their racism. Nova uses her professional background in mental wellbeing to encourage meaningful change from the inside out. Nova regularly appears on BBC News, Sky News and BBC Radio as a media expert and in 2018 was invited to attend the Royal Wedding of the Duke and Duchess of Sussex to provide expert media commentary on race. Her new book is the Good Ally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this very special episode of the Motherkind Podcast created in partnership with our lovely friends at Barbie.Do you remember last year when we had Dr. Michele Borba on the show talking about this amazing new research that Barbie had done with Cardiff University about doll play and empathy?Well, that study for the first time ever, through neuroimaging, showed that doll play activates the part of the brain that allows children to develop empathy and social processing skills.So many of you loved that episode. I think for lots of us it was a real aha moment that doll play even when played alone, can help develop those empathy skills that we want our children to have.I think that was especially important and interesting given the backdrop of the pandemic when those social interactions had been so limited.This episode is like the next installment to that conversation. Lots of you got in touch and asked about how to help your children play with dolls.So we have an amazing play expert on, Emma from the Playful Den. What Emma doesn’t know about play isn’t worth knowing. She is incredible.What I really took from this episode is that I am becoming increasingly fascinated with doll play and, secondly, just how amazing doll play is for helping our children understand the world around them. And don’t we need that for them right now.It is created in partnership with Barbie - I hope you love it.We chat about: What’s really going on when children play How to use doll play to help our children develop empathy How to process different social situations I think it is a real shame that doll play is associated as a girl’s activity.- Emma, The Playful DenAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: The benefits of doll play according to neuroscience LINK A doll can help change the world - Video The Playful Den FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.About Emma WorrolloEmma is the founder of The Playful Den where she translates her experience of looking at the world with childlike wonder and curiosity. The Playful Den has grown to be a place for courses, coaching, live events and content creation for people who want to play more.Thank you Barbie for sponsoring this episode Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Here is something a little bit different for you this week on The Motherkind podcast. I was recently interviewed on the Parental Control My Baba podcast with the lovely Leo Bamford. I’m sure many of you know that podcast and perhaps listen to it.I enjoyed the conversation so much, I thought I would put it out here as our episode this week.Leo and I had a such wide-ranging conversation. She was such a fantastic interviewer.We chat about: The power of giving ourselves just a few minutes Feelings and emotional health Identity Digital overwhelm Matressence Modern motherhood We teach our children by modeling more than anything we say.- Zoe BlaskeyAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.Resources mentioned in this episode: My Baba website Parental Control - The My Baba podcast @mybabainsta Motherkind group coaching programme - More info here GROUP COACHING STARTS 29 SEPTEMBER 2021 Last June I ran my first group coaching programme. It was such a success, I’m so excited to be running another one starting on the 29th of September. We still have a few places left. If you are curious please have a peak on the website and read the reviews from our first group. I’d love you to be part of it.FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is such a powerful episode. My guest today is Bethany Webster. She is the global expert on healing the mother wound.You might be thinking what is the mother wound? Do I have one? How do I know if I have one?Bethany would say most of us are carrying some wounding from our own mothers.The mother wound is when we split off from our authentic selves because of conscious and subconscious messages from our own mothers about who we need to be, about who they need us to be or about who society needs us to be.Our beliefs about ourselves are generally formed between the ages of 0-7. That is so powerful. And that is exactly the same time we need our caregiver’s love to survive. So what do we do? We adapt. We split off from who we really are to become who we think we need to be in order to get that love.And that is the mother wound.It is important to say that this is not about mother bashing or shaming our mothers. We are all mothers and know how challenging this role is.Bethany’s call to us is to look at this so it may be less likely that we will pass it on to our own daughters.This is an incredibly powerful episode and I think Bethany’s work is game-changing.We chat about: What is the mother wound Why we need to talk about it Shame-based identity What is the mother gap and how do we fill it Healing intergenerational patterns The difference between blaming and taking responsibility FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this episode of the Motherkind podcast. I’m delighted to introduce you to Penny Wincer. Penny has twice been a carer. First to her mother and now as a single parent to her autistic son. Her first book is called Tender: The Imperfect Art of Caring.In her book, and in this episode, Penny shares how looking after ourselves is a fundamental part of caring for another.This is a really beautiful conversation. I found it emotional and inspiring. I was so inspired by Penny. Despite some of the monumental challenges she has faced her ability to take insights and wisdom and to share those with us is quite mind-blowing.I hope you find her equally inspiring and that you take from this episode what you need. We cover a lot of ground and I suspect that every single person listening is going to take something different from it.Do let us know what you thought of the conversation, and if you know anyone who can benefit from Penny’s words, I hope you’ll share it with them.We chat about: The range of carers and complexities What’s essential for being a carer A shift of opinion about boarding schools Her self-care go-to’s as a carer Her number one reason for self-care which might surprise you Resources mentioned in this episode: Book Tender Instagram Penny Wincer - website Learn tools to better support yourself and your children emotionally through the coronavirus pandemic. Join The Family Reset Plan workshop for a limited introductory price of £25. It’s FREE for all NHS Staff! Register today! FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co. Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.About Penny WincerPenny was born and raised in Melbourne where she completed a degree in film and creative writing before moving to London. After many years as a freelance interiors photographer, Penny began writing about life as a creative freelancer, a single parent and raising a disabled child. She has written for The Telegraph, The i Paper, The Metro, Radio 4 and Red Magazine and co-hosts the podcast Not Too Busy To Write with fellow author Ali Millar. hwas published in June 2020. Penny lives in South London with her two children. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I’m super excited to be speaking with Ella Mills.Ella is the founder and creator of Deliciously Ella. From her early beginnings as a blogger, Ella has grown the brand into a hugely successful company, spanning a number of bestselling cookbooks, an app, a deli in central London and a range of plant-based food products. I’ve been following Ella online for a long time and we had such a brilliant conversation about motherhood and redefining success. Ella is mum to her daughter Skye, who just turned one. When we recorded this conversation, she was 33 weeks pregnant and getting ready to give birth to her second child.We talked about Ella’s experience of early motherhood from her first pregnancy and what she plans to do differently this time. She shares her journey with guilt and pressure and how she is finding balance as a mother and founder of a a very busy, successful company. We also talk about Ella’s own childhood and how it’s shaped how she is now raising her own daughters.I really loved my conversation with Ella, and I hope you enjoy it too. As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so do come and join us there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this week’s episode. It’s a very special one. Perhaps one of the most important conversations I’ve ever had on the podcast. Dr. Nicole Le Pera, who you might know as the holistic psychologist, was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the School for Social Research.As a clinical psychologist with her own private practice, she found herself really frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. And I know many of you have experienced that and I have experienced that myself.Wanting more for her patients and for herself. She began a journey to develop a philosophy of mental, physical and spiritual health to help people heal themselves. After experiencing the life-changing results herself, she began to share what she’d learned with others—and soon “The Holistic Psychologist”, now with over 3.5 million followers, was born.This work and this conversation that we have is a paradigm shift.Her teachings empower us in actually quite simple ways to break free from the generational cycles that we get stuck in and to create who we really are and who we want to become. This is what she calls self-healing.The massive changes I have experienced in myself have not come from traditional therapy. They have come from me observing a behavior in myself I want to change, trying a new behavior and becomming aware of what I have noticed. Journaling is probably the cornerstone of that practice for me, and that’s why you hear me talk about it week in and week out.This is a really important conversation. We talk about how behaviors get passed down through the generations.There is nothing more profound for us to do as mothers and parents than to work on our own stuff. The sad truth is that what we don’t heal we can pass on. And that is why this inner work is so important.This conversation is like the masterclass about why that is and how to do it.I wish every parent could listen to this conversation. What a shift we would see in the world. If you enjoy it and it resonates and you feel empowered and inspired please share it.It was amazing for me to sit with Dr. Nicole. I hope you enjoy it.We talk about: Why your past is still informing your present How to stop living on auto-pilot How to heal your deepest patterns, on a daily basis Why modeling to our children is the most effective way to teach them Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices