Les Chat Podcast - LGBTQ+ - Lesbian Latinas

In this episode we talk about THE L-WORD! We focus on some scenes from the Original L-Word (2004-2009). You don’t need to watch the L-Word to understand what we’re talking about in this podcast episode. Is there such a thing as “coming out too late” in life? Listen/watch Phyllis ask Bette if it’s too late for her to come out (she’s an older married woman with kids)... Imagine coming out in front of your Latinx family? Remember when Carmen comes out? Or when Bette goes off on the homophobe or when Kit (the biggest Ally) disagrees with Max’s transgender “decisions”? Family Q&A Do y'all think you can have a successful relationship with someone who is "straight"? In a relationship with a girl who loves and respects me, but her friends have no boundaries and I feel uncomfortable. I can’t get an 0rga$m from p0rn but I can when I watch some tiktoks… How We Stay Updated with the NEWS! BadQueersPod - Podcast ShaunKing IG Impact IG Matt Bernstein IG

Sex may be the most desirable type of intimacy to share with a partner but it certainly isn’t the only form!! Dayra and I share our top form of intimacy followed by some research on “12 different types of intimacy to experience with you partner”. We also go over the 5 E’s to help improve intimacy in a short time span from Jay Shetty’s Podcast! We discuss our definition of intimacy and how we experience it in our own relationship. We also go over the 3 following family meeting questions! 1. Thoughts on breaking up & making up.. 2. “Feeling lost when it comes to relationships, I haven’t dated anyone in 4 years” 3. “Where do you find queer friends/ queer people to mingle with?! As a fem, how do I signal that I’m gay in public?”

Lesbians are known to u-haul in a short time span! However, when is it an appropriate time to move in together? What are the common problems couples encounter after moving in together? How does living together affect the relationship? In this episode we discuss OUR story of living together. We talk about finances, chores, boundaries, pet peeves, alone time, etc! We end it with family Q&A’s and would you rather! “I got married to a woman and my family didn’t congratulate me, they texted me saying I was making the worst mistake of my life by committing this sin.” “How should someone who had trust issues feel about her girlfriend making ONLY lesbian/bi friends?” “Have you ever gotten into a situationship with one of your friends and lost the friendship because of it.” “I am 51 years old & now after 15 years of being with my wife she has decided she’s no longer in love with me and has left.”

We all have our own personal opinions but we don't always choose to voice them. Sometimes the subject can be a little more touchy so people shy away from those discussions in fear of being judged. However, in this episode we are choosing to STIR the pot and go over some of the most commonly controversial unpopular opinions about relationships. Some are.. is marriage only for business purposes? Do fems run the relationship? Is it okay to go through your partners phone? Is it healthy to argue?  FAMILY Q&A:   1. How do you “come out” as a stemme? I have been femme presenting all my life but I’m having trouble finding my masculine style. I’m also afraid of not attracting stemmes myself if I am dressed masculine.  2. My partner had sex with their best friend in high school, but hangs out with them all the time and walks around half naked. Should that make me mad or should I get over it.  3. What can I do when my gf is frustrated? 4. So my partner of almost 2yrs has a bestfriend that doesn’t like me. Her bestfriend has NEVER met me and she claims that she dislikes me bc my gf is always with me and she’s changed her ways bc of me. Would you be mad at your gf for still talking to her best friend?

In this episode we chat with Steve and Mateo about the differences and similarities between lesbian couples and gay couples! Steve and Matt are married and share their story on how they met.. We talk a little bit about about what we were afraid of before coming out and what made us wanna come out. What is dating like as a gay man? Do you think you can turn someone straight?…How does gay sex work for gay men, are there tops and bottoms? We educate Steve and Mateo on the lesbian terms like “pillow princess” and “gold stars”.  Steve’s IG - @professorsmm Steve’s Tiktok - @professor_smm  Matt’s IG - @matthhhew Matt’s Tiktok - @matthhhew97  Family Meeting Q&A's "Should couples only talk about their issues with their partners & not ask others for advice about what to do?"  "Should my partner being with guys before bother me as much as it does"?   "She ghosted me & posted her new gf on social media".

We all remember our "Baby Gay" phase where we were quiet, timid, and full of questions! The most frequently asked question like.. How do I flirt with girls? How do you show that you're gay for girls to know? Where did you find your queer friends? How do you know if someone is just friends or likes you? etc. All of which are normal questions to ask. Dayra & Jojo answer those questions to help shed some light on this journey for our newly queer friends. Family meeting Q&A: “I’m a virgin baby gay and I don’t know what to do! How can I get over the fear of being bad in bed?” “How do you balance religion and being queer”? “How do you know when your partner is the one?” “What is your opinion on colorism in the LGBTQIA community?” “Can you share some tips on moving out?”

Being bullied in grade school is something we all experienced at least once... For our lgbtq+ listeners, how has being gay affected how you navigate through life? We talk about our personal experiences during high school from shaving our latina mustache to our glow up experience. We talk about how WNBA Candice Wiggins was "bullied" in the league for being "straight"..  Dayra brings up current events and our thoughts on the "Don't Say Gay" bill.  FAMILY MEETING Q&A "What do y’all think about exes commenting under someone you talk to pictures ?" "I’m talking to someone and she is giving me mixed signals.. sometimes she tells me she misses me and sometimes she clearly ignores me. Should I cut her off?" "What does it mean when a females tells you that you are not ready for her?"

In a world full of imperfection we know that NO ONE is perfect! Have you ever played or treated someone bad and then felt bad about it after? Has anyone done any shady things to you? In this episode we talk about our experiences and tell your our dirty little *secrets*.    Also, WHAT is considered a hoe phase do you think it’s necessary? Dayra says yes it’s essential! Lastly, If you came with a warning label what would it say? Warning labels would save us a lot of time when it comes to the dating scene!   FAMILY MEETING Q’s & A’s  When did you know you were lesbian? 49:15 (We also talk about this in EP1)  Have you ever been with a girl during seggs she says “get me pregnant”, What is your response?” 53:39  "Whats your opinion when a girl with 2 kids is lesbian?” 55:27 (Watch EP2)

To be in love is something we all crave to experience.. but not all love stories have a happy ending. Love isn't meant to be perfect but with the right person it won't always feel so hard. Dayra and I open up about our not so "happily ever after" relationships that ended in heartbreak. We speak on the red flags and signs we noticed leading up to the break ups as well as touch base on how it can negatively affect ones mental health. Although it was a rough journey, down the path of healing, both Dayra and I found the light at the end of the tunnel that lead to our inner happiness and peace followed by a lot of self-love.

“Lesbians fall in love fast” may be the most COMMON stereotype but it isn’t completely wrong. Dayra & I share a lot of personal experiences from coming out, to old relationships, red flags, cheating, stereotypes/preferences & even had the SEX talk… but we haven’t shared the story of how we met! For some, dating during Covid wasn’t at all ideal & for others “quarantine quickies” was all that was needed. However, eager to get back to life as we knew it (before the pandemic) some of us still managed to find our person.