

Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties
Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell
Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)
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Jan 20, 2022 • 44min
Desire and Communication: An Interview with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner
In this episode of Head and Heart Work Conversations, Sam and Sierra talk with Casey Tanner, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist who combines evidence-based research, queer affirming care, and pleasure activism to cultivate powerful relationships. Check out Casey's instagram page, Queer Sex Therapy, or learn more about their practice here.Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Original music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-DavisAdvertise on Just Break Up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 17, 2022 • 1h 24min
Episode 175: There's Something Better Out There
This episode tackles topics like falling back into bad habits, when hard conversations feel one-sided, and cycles of mistrust. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: WordleOriginal music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-DavisAdvertise on Just Break Up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 10, 2022 • 1h 21min
Episode 174: Our Tiny Little Brains!
This episode tackles topics like marriage as the end goal, doing everything right and it still isn’t enough, and struggling with spontaneity. Check out the trailer for Spencer's new podcast, Finding Quantum Quest, and subscribe now. First episode launches 1/26!Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Finding Quantum QuestOriginal music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-DavisAdvertise on Just Break Up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 6, 2022 • 1h 20min
Polyamory & Non-Monogamy: An Interview with Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers
In this episode of Head and Heart Work Conversations, Sam and Sierra talk with Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers, a Personal Coach specializing in Relationship Dynamics and Non-Monogamy. The conversation covers non-monogamy, polyamory, and relationship dynamics.Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual NonmonogamyOriginal music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-DavisAdvertise on Just Break Up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 3, 2022 • 1h 14min
Episode 173: A Band-Aid for a Wound of Insecurity
This episode tackles topics like clothes, feeling like you’re being hidden, and dealing with our partner’s jealousy.Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Children of Time by Adrian TchaikovskyOriginal music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-DavisAdvertise on Just Break Up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 27, 2021 • 40min
Patreon Bonus: Humbled by the Breadth of Human Experience
Since we're taking the week off, we thought we'd share a recent Patreon episode. In this episode, Salmon Sierra talk about advice that has impacted them the most, then answer a letter about when it’s time to give up on a relationship.Join us on Patreon for as little as $5/month and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodOriginal music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-DavisAdvertise on Just Break Up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 20, 2021 • 1h 19min
Episode 172: Is It Us, or Is It Capitalism?
This episode tackles topics like growing together in a system that’s working against us, when our friends date our exes, and when they say they love us only during the breakup. Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: The Business of Being BornOriginal music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-DavisAdvertise on Just Break Up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 16, 2021 • 1h 20min
Navigating Grief & Cultivating Joy in Partnerships: An Interview with Alyesha Wise and Matthew Cuban-Hernandez
In this episode of Head and Heart Work Conversations, Sam and Sierra talk with Alyesha Wise and Matthew Cuban-Hernandez, Los Angeles-based writers, educators, and long-term partners. The conversation covers grieving in partnership, finding ways to laugh, and alien documentaries.Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Street Poets IncOriginal music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-DavisAdvertise on Just Break Up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 13, 2021 • 1h 15min
Episode 171: Traditions Are Just Patterns
This episode tackles topics like the ghost of relationships past, when you won't be home for Christmas, and crush shame.Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Single All the Way on NetflixOriginal music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-DavisAdvertise on Just Break Up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 6, 2021 • 1h 15min
Episode 170: You Deserve to be Caretooketh
This episode tackles topics like relationship relapses, breakup shame, and how life goes on.Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: After the Breakup: A Self-Love Journal by Lindsey Dortch BrockOriginal music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-DavisAdvertise on Just Break Up! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices