Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

Angela is a journalist, editor, and author of Sam's favorite book, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex. The conversation covers emotional bravery, compulsory sexuality, and nuanced consent.You can buy Angela's book and read more of her work on her website.Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Vespertine by BjörkOriginal music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-Davis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We can’t move through this world without hurting people. Here’s what we CAN do: create new holiday traditions and hope our parents are okay with that, see our partners for who they are NOW and not who their exes say they were, and either shoot our shot or get off the pot (or simply say good to our nine-year vague-posting back-and-forth dumpster fire).We just added a bunch of new merchandise to our store and restocked a few favorites. Grab 'em now before they sell out! Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: timeshelJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If your cucumber is in brine, you can still stop it before it becomes a pickle. Effective interventions include: accepting that other forms of sex may be more available to and successful for you, communicating your boundaries actively, firmly, consistently, lovingly, and long before they’re needed, and working toward self-love that feels nothing like settling.(apologies for Sierra's audio! stuff happens! it'll be fixed next week!) Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: timeshelJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oscar is an actor, podcaster, and improviser from LA. Most recently, he played Richie on the hit HBO show Minx. The conversation covers male nudity in media, multi-dimensional queer characters, and learning body positivity through acting.Follow Oscar on Instagram, or check out his podcasts Inside the Disney Vault and Podcast Killed the Video Star.Join us on Patreon and get an extra episode each week, a back catalog of 100+ episodes, and video!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: The BreadOriginal music, recording, and editing by Spencer Wirth-Davis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is no path, just a forest full of trees. As you make your way through the woods, remember: your ex deleting pictures of you is not the same as erasing the memory of you, being right doesn’t mean it’s your right to interject, breakups are destabilizing and devastating and we WILL get through them, and Jafar is totally camp.Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: timeshelJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dignity? A thing of the past! The new thing is: holding firm to what you want in a relationship even if that means your current one ends, not letting one good night of conversation eclipse three years of harmful behavior, and going to therapy to work through retroactive jealousy (or just in general, if you have the means!).Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Queer For FearJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all tell ourselves stories. Just make sure you’re not using them to: avoid accountability for your actions, gaslight yourself into thinking your very reasonable discomfort is irrational jealousy, invalidate your future hardships because you’ve seen others go through worse, or, under any circumstances, justify buying a kitten for your ex.Our live show has been rescheduled to Friday, 10/21. Get tickets for the in-person show here, and for the livestream here. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Dang! That's WeirdJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don’t need to change someone’s perception of you to be valid. Here’s what you can do instead: sit with the discomfort that you’re the villain in someone else’s story, find ways to meet your needs without extracting them from other people, and refuse to give relationship nostalgia more weight than it needs (or say fuck it and shoot your shot—it worked for Sierra and her wife!).Our live show has been rescheduled to Friday, 10/21. Get tickets for the in-person show here, and for the livestream here. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Invisiblia - The P WordJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes you just have to learn a lesson until it’s learned. Worthwhile lessons include: trust is not the absence of jealousy, it’s not on you to turn your partner into the person you need them to be, true love is neither butterflies nor settling—it’s stability, contentment, fulfillment, vulnerability—and no, you probably don’t have a good reason to unblock-block-block your ex.Our live show has been rescheduled to Friday, 10/21. Get tickets for the in-person show here, and for the livestream here. Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Savage Appetites by Rachel MonroeJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your dream partner is out there, and they’ll make you work less hard for your love. Here’s what they WON’T do: make you doubt your stable, loving relationship for having innocent crushes, lead you on for sport, cheat on and lie to you, or leverage your imaginary wedding to absolve themselves of guilt (optional: leave the house without brushing their teeth).Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, exclusive livestreams, and more!SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.comFACEBOOK: /justbreakuppodINSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppodTWITTER: @justbreakuppodBLIND DATE: Savage Appetites by Rachel MonroeJust Break Up is a production of Du Vide Media. Make sure to check out all of our amazing shows! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices