
Note to Self
From Q&A’s and break up tips to simply navigating every stage of life, influencer-turned-entrepreneur Payton Sartain brings you the sisterly advice you didn’t know you needed and honest conversations you’ve always wanted. Whether it’s Payton alone or a conversation with a friend, Note to Self is a space to get grounded, explore new perspectives, and ultimately, empower yourself and others. Grab some wine or a mocktail and enjoy the conversation!
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Dec 14, 2023 • 56min
How To Cure Loneliness Around The Holidays
#123. After spending Thanksgiving alone, I started to think more about the extra pang of loneliness some of us may feel during the holiday season, a loneliness that may even be exacerbated in the presence of friends & family. Here are a few tools to help you get into the holiday spirit if you live alone, if you’re celebrating by yourself or if you’re feeling alone in a room full of people. SHOP NOTE TO SELF MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/note-to-self FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/NOTETOSELF and get on your way to being your best self.Start off gifting season on the right foot at Tecovas.com. Don't Go Gently, y'all.visit revolve.com/NOTETOSELF to shop my favorites for all your upcoming plans this holiday season. Download Go Puff and search Woo More Play, then sit back and relax... maybe light some candles... as your order gets brought right to your door.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dec 7, 2023 • 53min
ASK P: New Relationships, Judgmental Friends, & a Man Without a Plan
#122. In this year’s LAST installment of ASK P, we are covering questions on independence in new relationships & how to deal with friends who are kind of a buzz-kill. We also discuss a boyfriend who will not, for the life of him, plan a damn date. Also, as always: some life updates, content corner and a little note to myself for the rest of the year.SHOP NOTE TO SELF MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/note-to-self FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Start off gifting season on the right foot at Tecovas.com. Don't Go Gently, y'all.This holiday season, Woo is giving you 20% off your purchase AND randomly choosing orders that use my code to refund their entire purchase. Head over to WooMorePlay.com and use code notetoself at checkout.Visit revolve.com/NOTETOSELF to shop my favorites for all your upcoming plans this season.If you want to take ownership of your health, try AG1 and get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase at drinkAG1.com/notetoself.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 30, 2023 • 50min
Gifts That Don’t Suck (& Some Inspo For Your Holiday Wishlist)
#121. Are you stuck in gift-giving limbo? Today we’re talking about gifts that people will actually want, some coming from my own holiday wishlist and others inspired by the audience. From customized monopoly board games to cooking classes to streaming subscriptions, I’ve got you covered in various price points and time-frames. SHOP NOTE TO SELF MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/note-to-self FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Start off gifting season on the right foot at Tecovas.com Don't Go Gently, y'all.Head to FactorMeals.com/notetoself50 and use code notetoself50 to get 50% off.Visit revolve.com/NOTETOSELF to shop my favorites for all your upcoming plans this season.Visit SummerFridays.com and use code “NOTETOSELF” at checkout for 15% off your purchase. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 23, 2023 • 1h 12min
Getting Out Of Your Own Head, with Emma Brooks
#120. Emma Brooks is on NTS today to talk about everything from her love for reading to her time spent in a psych ward — and somehow it all connects to a familiar theme of getting out of our own heads in order to heal. We’re touching on boundaries, slipping into old patterns, and going home for the holidays, too. SHOP NOTE TO SELF MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/note-to-self FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:To learn more about the stringent ethical standards, commitment to sustainability, and progress of the modern diamond mining industry visit naturaldiamonds.com/thankyou.Start off gifting season on the right foot at Tecovas.com. Don't go gently, y'all.Visit Quince.com/payton to get free shipping and 365-day returns.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 16, 2023 • 1h 27min
Stop Telling Me To Be More Positive, a Pet Peeves Episode with Kelsey Conroy
Kelsey Conroy joins the host to discuss their most specific and irrational pet peeves. They cover topics such as annoying small talk at Trader Joe's, invalidation of emotions, and frustration with superficial country lovers. They also share personal pet peeves like loud chewing and putting stickers on car windows.

Nov 9, 2023 • 60min
Practicing Patience When You Want It All, Right Now
#118. If you’re anything like me, impatience is a PROBLEM in your life. In fact, I’m pretty sure practicing patience would solve, like, 95% of my life problems. In this episode, we talk cultivating patience and the importance of learning to ENJOY your time spent waiting (aka: your life). SHOP NOTE TO SELF MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/note-to-self FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Visit SummerFridays.com and use code NOTETOSELF at checkout for 15% off your purchaseTry today at StitchFix.com/NOTETOSELF and you’ll get 25% off when you keep everything in your Fix.Woo is giving you 20% off your purchase AND randomly choosing orders that use my code to refund their entire purchase at Head over to WooMorePlay.com and use code NOTETOSELF at checkout.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nov 2, 2023 • 1h 21min
ASK P: Red Flags, Breakups, Work/Life Balance, Ending Friendships, & Having Fun Without Alcohol
#117. We really cover a number of important topics in today’s installment of ASK P, our monthly advice column. We are answering questions about relationships, entrepreneurship, friendships, & social life transitions. ALSO: the new NTS merch drops today at 5PM PST. SHOP NOTE TO SELF MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/note-to-self FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors: Go to grammarly.com/STUDENTS to download and learn more about Grammarly.Discover new ways to shop for everything, every dat at Saks.comVisit Tecovas.com and Don't Go Gently, all season long.Head over to Woomoreplay.com and use code notetoself at checkout for 20% off your purchase.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 26, 2023 • 1h 9min
Style, Beauty & Wellness Favorites for Fall 2023
#116. Before we talk all things Fall-trends, let’s talk about how I got a PUPPY. I’ve adopted a little angel/menace, so today’s life update is a bit different. In this episode of NTS, we are keeping in light & easy, discussing favorite trends, places to shop, beauty treatments, makeup, wellness products and more. We’re getting specific, as usual. SHOP NOTE TO SELF MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/note-to-self FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your oder and 365-day returns.Discover new ways to shop for everything, every dat, at Saks.comWhen comfort leads, confidence follows, and Tecovas delivers both right to you poor. Visit Tecovas.com and Don't Go Gently, all season long.Head to FactorMeals.com/notetoself50 and use code notetoself50 to get 50% off.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 19, 2023 • 1h 14min
How to Better Regulate Your Emotions for Healthier Relationships, with Gayane Aramyan, LMFT
#115. Regulating your nervous system *might* just be the secret to not only better relationships, but to a better life as a whole. We are sitting down with LA-based women’s & couples therapist, Gayane Aramyan, LMFT to discuss emotional flooding, it’s causes, and strategies to regain a sense of control over our emotions. SHOP NOTE TO SELF MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/note-to-self FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/NOTETOSELF and get on your way to being your best self.You’ll wonder how you ever lived without Grammarly. Go to grammarly.com/STUDENTS to download and learn more about Grammarly.Try today at StitchFix.com/NOTETOSELF and you’ll get 25% off when you keep everything in your Fix.Discover new ways to shop for everything, every day, at Saks.comProduced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oct 12, 2023 • 1h 1min
A Guide To Becoming Your Own Best Friend
#114. How well do you know yourself, REALLY? One of the most important lessons I’ve learned in my 20s is that knowing, loving, and supporting yourself is the key to confidence (and possibly an underrated antidote to loneliness). In this episode, we are talking about becoming your own best friend in 4 crucial steps. SHOP NOTE TO SELF MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/note-to-self FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors: Discover new ways to shop for everything, every day, at Saks.comWith signature offerings that help you Move, Eat and Sleep Well, Westin hotels make travel an opportunity to enhance your well-being while you’re away.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.