
Note to Self
From Q&A’s and break up tips to simply navigating every stage of life, influencer-turned-entrepreneur Payton Sartain brings you the sisterly advice you didn’t know you needed and honest conversations you’ve always wanted. Whether it’s Payton alone or a conversation with a friend, Note to Self is a space to get grounded, explore new perspectives, and ultimately, empower yourself and others. Grab some wine or a mocktail and enjoy the conversation!
Latest episodes

Mar 13, 2025 • 41min
Listen To This If You’re Experiencing an Identity Crisis
The host shares a humorous take on managing life transitions, like preparing for a move and coping with identity changes. They reflect on thrilling moments, like their first courtside experience and a recent engagement. Emphasis is placed on the emotional turmoil tied to stability amid significant life shifts. The journey from twenties to thirties is explored, emphasizing growth through love and self-discovery. Listeners are encouraged to embrace change and understand personal values during these transitional phases.

Mar 6, 2025 • 42min
What to Do When You’re on the Verge of Crashing Out (from very personal experience)
#187. Whether it’s due to recent world events, personal struggles, or simple brain chemistry, we all know what it feels like to feel a crashout (ie mental breakdown) coming. Here’s what I do to slow down, reset, and change perspective in order to avoid a spiral. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Sign up now and join the over 13 million all-time customers who have already saved and invested over $22 billion dollars with Acorns. Head to acorns.com/notetoself or download the Acorns app to get started.Cancel your unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster with Rocket Money. Go to RocketMoney.com/notetoself today.With R.W. Knudsen, krush 100% of your day with 100% juice. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today.Shop now at weareohho.com and use code NOTETOSELF for 20% off.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 27, 2025 • 54min
ASK P: Learning to Live for Yourself, Remedies to Feeling Stuck, & Seeking Closure After a Breakup
#186. In this month’s installment of ASK P, a segment where I do my best to answer listener Qs, we’re discussing relationships, independence, mental health & breakup aftermath. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Prose is SO confident that you’ll love your results that they’re offering an exclusive trial offer: FIFTY percent off your first haircare subscription order at Prose.com/notetoself.With R.W. Knudsen, krush 100% of your day with 100% juice. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today.Visit Halfdays.com and use code NoteToSelf at checkout for 15% off your first purchase.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 20, 2025 • 51min
Oversharing About Wedding Planning, Mental Breakdowns, Keeping the Spark Alive, & More
#185. In a rare turn of events, we are doing a Q&A episode today. You’re being nosey, I’m (happily) oversharing about all things wedding, relationships, mental health, & more. This episode is meant to make you feel a little better about yourself as I share how not-together my life truly is (because NO ONES is… it’s always something). FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:With R.W. Knudsen, krush 100% of your day with 100% juice. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today.Give yourself the luxury you deserve with Quince! Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Shop now at weareohho.com and use code NOTETOSELF for 20% off.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Feb 13, 2025 • 50min
Dating 101: The Ground Rules for Dating Confidently & with Intention
In this discussion about intentional dating, the hosts tackle the complex journey of modern relationships. They emphasize self-awareness and clarity, encouraging listeners to approach dating with purpose. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding personal values and effective communication in the search for a life partner. Plus, they share tips on navigating relationships while avoiding unproductive patterns. It’s a refreshing take on finding love that prioritizes confidence and intentionality.

Feb 6, 2025 • 51min
Switching Career Paths & Growing on Social Media, with Hannah Chody
Hannah Chody, a former finance professional turned content creator in fashion and beauty, discusses her bold career transition. She shares insights on navigating the challenges of switching paths and emphasizes the importance of authenticity in content creation. Hannah offers practical tips for growing on social media, tackling the intricacies of platforms like TikTok and YouTube. She also reflects on the personal growth that comes from embracing change and the thrill of pursuing one's passions.

Jan 30, 2025 • 49min
ASK P: sexual fulfillment in relationships, talking mental health with your partner, compromising on engagement timeline, & more
#182. We’re back with another installment of ASK P, an episode where I answer listener Qs and give, surprisingly, SOLICITED advice. In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to handle body talk in relationships, and asking “how important is sexual fulfillment in a relationship?” Listeners write in about lowkey despising their best friend’s partner, approaching mental health-related topics with their boyfriend and compromising on engagement & marriage timelines. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Note to Self is sponsored by Better Help. Visit betterhelp.com/NOTETOSELF today to get 10% off your first month.With R.W. Knudsen, krush 100% of your day with 100% juice. Pick up a bottle at your local grocery store today.Prose is SO confident that you’ll love your results this year that they’re offering an exclusive trial offer: FIFTY percent off your first haircare subscription order at Prose.com/notetoself. That’s Prose.com/notetoself for your FREE consultation and FIFTY percent off your custom routine.Listen to grownkid wherever you get your podcasts from or follow them on Instagram @grownk1d.Visit Halfdays.com and use code NoteToSelf at checkout for 15% off your first purchase.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 snips
Jan 23, 2025 • 52min
How to Be a Niche Luxury Hot Girl, with Caroline Stern
Caroline Stern, the creative force behind the "Niche Luxury Hot Girl" concept, shares her journey toward intentional consumption. She discusses how thoughtful lifestyle choices enhance daily experiences and foster emotional connections with belongings. The conversation explores the joys of purposeful shopping, unique purchase significance, and the emotional complexities of influencer culture. Listeners are encouraged to prioritize meaningful items over mere consumerism, curating special moments in life instead.

Jan 16, 2025 • 58min
We’re Engaged! My Engagement Story (ft. a Special Guest)
#180. Joe and I are getting married! Today’s episode is about my engagement story and the importance of connecting with yourself during these memorable life moments. I’m dishing some details about the ring, and Joe joins us at the end to answer a few questions. FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Visit JustIngredients.us and use code NoteToSelf for 15% off—the best discount available! Or, for more wellness tips, follow @just.ingredients on Instagram.Upgrade your closet this year without the upgraded price tag. Go to Quince.com/payton for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!Head to acorns.com/notetoself or download the Acorns app to start saving and investing for your future today!Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jan 9, 2025 • 49min
Your Hot Girl Toolkit for 2025
Dive into a treasure trove of resources for personal growth in the new year! Discover newsletters and apps designed to boost your well-being. Unpack the essence of Gen Z culture, emphasizing therapy and body autonomy. Explore impactful educational podcasts that offer fresh insights on self-improvement. Plus, get practical tools and goal-setting strategies for 2025, including the use of AI like ChatGPT. It's your ultimate toolkit for a hot girl year ahead!