Note to Self

#215. I’m sitting down with creator & best-selling author, Eli Rallo, to talk about navigating a new era of life, building community through change, & more. Eli’s new book, Does Anyone Feel This Way?, is out Oct. 14!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Peloton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go. Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.comHormone Harmony: For a limited time, you can get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com just use the code NOTETOSELF at checkoutCanopy: Go to getcanopy.co to save $25 on your Canopy Humidifier purchase today with Canopy’s filter subscription. Even better, use code NOTETOSELF at checkout to save an additional 10% off your Canopy purchase. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#214. I’m sharing all my fall favorites for 2025 in this episode. We’re covering beauty products, shopping destinations, tech and apps, must-follow accounts, and my personal fall themes for the season. Everything you need to curate your best hot girl fall yet.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episoded Sponsors:Peleton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go. Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+ at onepeloton.comHormone Harmony: For a limited time, you can get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com just use the code NOTETOSELF at checkoutSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#213. Dr. Tara brings her PhD expertise in human sexuality to tackle the conversations most of us are still too uncomfortable to have—from unlearning sexual shame to talking about what you actually want with a long-term partner. She addresses realities like foreplay that no one discusses openly, and offers concrete guidance for women who have never experienced orgasm. With frank expertise, Dr. Tara explains why good sex education starts with unlearning the shame we've all absorbed and provides strategies for having the conversations that could transform your intimate life. This isn't typical "spice things up" advice—it's about fundamentally changing how we think and talk about pleasure, desire, and sexual communication.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#212. Forget everything you think you know about wedding planning. Jaleigh Friend, founder of The Friend Club and veteran of 1,500+ couple consultations, is here to demolish the outdated rules keeping your wedding from feeling authentic. We’re talking about which traditions you can toss, how to handle family pushback when you go rogue, and why the “rules” might actually be costing you money. Whether you’re planning your own wedding or just love hearing about creative celebrations, this episode will change how you think about saying “I do.”                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns.Head on over to Rula.com/notetoself to get started today.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#211. I'm opening up about five things I'm actively learning rather than pretending to have figured out. From adopting patience as a daily practice to learning that disappointment is a fact of life, we’re discussing what I’m currently working through. This isn't about having all the answers—it's about staying curious, staying human, and finding freedom in the messiness of still figuring it out. Join me for an honest conversation about growth, vulnerability, and the beauty of being a work in progress.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Give your summer closet an upgrade—with Quince. Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#210. What if your financial plan received the same amount of care as your skincare routine? In this episode, fractional CFO and "dumb rich" newsletter creator Ariel LaFond joins me to reframe money as wellness. We're breaking down the HENRY trap (High Earner, Not Rich Yet), sharing financial rituals that actually work, and building budgets that include joy—not just survival. Because money isn't just about security, it's about creating a life that feels abundant and free.FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#209. Breakups, boundaries, and brutal honesty. In this Ask P, I answer your questions on handling hate comments, moving on from long-term relationships, opening up to friends after heartbreak, navigating toxic family dynamics, and finding peace when you feel out of place.                                                                                                                                                                                              FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Give your summer closet an upgrade—with Quince. Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today we are revisiting a classic Note To Self episode: Dating Horror Stories with Emon and Kristen. Hope you enjoy!#132. We are reading & discussing some pretty horrific listener dating stories in this episode of NTS. I have two of my favorite friends, Emon & Kristen, in the studio to weigh in on your experiences and share some of their own.SHOP NOTE TO SELF MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/note-to-self FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#208. Feeling stuck, confused, or like your “real life” hasn’t started yet? In this episode, we’re talking about the sneaky ways we postpone joy, progress, and big decisions while waiting for the “perfect” timing. I’ml sharing practical, low-pressure strategies to help you get unstuck, from clarifying your values to taking small, meaningful risks. Whether you’re in a career limbo, a relationship crossroads, or just feeling unmotivated, this conversation will help you see that life is already happening—and you need to start living now.                                                                                                                                                                                             FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Thousands of people are already using Rula to get affordable, high-quality therapy that’s actually covered by insurance. Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get started. After you sign up, you’ll be asked how you heard about them — please support our show and let them know we sent you. You deserve mental healthcare that works with you, not against your budget.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#207. I’m catching up with my favorite roommate of my 20s, Taylor King aka TK, while our paths crossed in NYC. We’re talking dating in the modern era, the formula for finding the perfect roommate, and so much more. This ep is best listened to on your hot girl walk, pregaming the bars, or doing an apartment deep-clean, btw.                                              FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonsartain  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhhhttps://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 → Simple Pleasures: https://forms.gle/PFmEU9BFRtyE7Dt57 → Your ICKS: https://forms.gle/pgcr9LhmyyvyAyVk7→ Most Embarrassing Stories: https://forms.gle/qpZBp9bxdcH77Utf8→ Little Acts of Love: https://forms.gle/ReEoo6HBoC4QspQs9→ Juicy Confessions: https://forms.gle/Uuz5KdUkC4c3NnFw5Episode Sponsors:Build your own furniture rental package today at cort.com/podcast.Visit cowboycolostrum.com and use code NOTETOSELF for 20% off your first purchase.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.