Deep Penetration | Gay and Bisexual Dating Advice with Daniel Morales

How come it seems SO difficult to find men that are interested in commitment or monogamy? Have you ever wondered what it would feel like to connect with a man that wanted all the same things that you do? Today, Danny welcomes you to have a conversation about commitment in the LGBTQ+ community, specifically with Gay & Bisexual men. It is often said that finding commitment in the Gay community is a rarity, but that is not necessarily the whole truth. There are several men who are looking for commitment, most just don't know what to do with it when they have it. The LGBTQ+ community has put an emphasis of sex for a long-time and therefore, many people fall into the trap of casual connections resulting in frustration, lack of fulfillment, and loneliness. For several of you, it is possible you have fallen into the, "if you can't beat them, join them" mentality. Have you ever stopped and asked yourself, "what if I stick to my boundaries and not tolerate anything less than my desired outcome from a relationship?" If you have, this episode will provide you with some tangible steps you can take! In the episode, you will learn: The 3 lessons that will change your dating life Understanding why commitment is important The greatest lesson you can apply to your relationship What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:35 Allowing your personal insecurities to impact your dating life 04:13 The first lesson is "perception is reality" 07:41 The second lesson is "love is earned, not guaranteed" 10:30 The third lesson is "short-term commitment, creates long-term happiness" 13:00 Commitment is important 14:55 The greatest lesson I have learned about love Resources: FREE GIFT | ⁠https://stan.store/QueerLoveCoach⁠ YouTube | ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thecoachdanny⁠ TikTok | ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales⁠ Insta | ⁠https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales/⁠ Website: ⁠https://www.thecoachdanny.com⁠

How come rejection amongst Gay and Bisexual men in the world of dating is SO common? Why do most men feel the need to reject someone without explanation? Have you ever been rejected and wondered why? Was it something you did wrong? Did it impact your experience with dating or did it cause you to lose trust in men? Today, Danny welcomes you to have a conversation about rejection and how you can take advantage of it. For many of you, the experience itself has been a negative one due to a multitude of different reasons (lack of commitment, self-esteem issues, casual mindset, hookup culture, ghosting, avoidance, etc.) In this episode, you will learn how to navigate rejection by reframing your thoughts & feelings. Most if not all of us have experienced rejection while dating, especially Gay & Bisexual men and for many, it has jaded you. Don't allow another persons actions to determine your future happiness. Have you ever stopped and asked yourself, "what would it feel like to not be affected by rejection?" If you have, this episode will provide you with some tangible steps you can take! In the episode, you will learn: Defining rejection in the context of interpersonal relationships The common rejection scenarios The steps to reframing rejection The process of accepting rejection and using it to your benefit What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:25 My first same sex crush & experience with rejection 04:17 What is your experience with rejection? 05:13 Defining rejection in the context of personal relationships 06:04 Rejection scenarios 08:16 Rejection can become your super power 09:11 The steps to reframing rejection 13:22 Accepting rejection releases you from the pressure of living up to someone else's expectations 14:46 A confident individual will reject you in a healthy way Resources: FREE GIFT | ⁠https://stan.store/QueerLoveCoach⁠ YouTube | ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thecoachdanny⁠ TikTok | ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales⁠ Insta | ⁠https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales/⁠ Website: ⁠https://www.thecoachdanny.com⁠

Why is it so difficult for the LGBTQ+ community to be open and accepting of Bisexuality when the community was formed for the purposes of inclusivity? Have you ever heard the phrase, "everyone is a little Bi?" If you haven't, that is what Danny is discussing in the episode so stick around if you want to learn a little more about Bisexuality! Today, Danny welcomes you to have a conversation about Bisexuality. For anyone that identifies as Bisexual, you have likely experienced criticism from those in the heterosexual world and those in the LGBTQ+ community. The common misconception is that Bisexuality does not exist and is a phase when in reality, many researchers and scientists believe that Bisexuality is actually the baseline for sexuality. If you are someone that does not identify as Bisexual, you are invited to tune in and educate yourself on Bisexuality. Whether you don't believe it exists or you support those that identify as Bi, this episode with provide you with some information that will hopefully open your mind and allow you to change your perspective. In the episode, you will learn: A brief history of Bisexuality The "science" behind sexuality, specifically, Bisexuality The Kinsey Scale Common misconceptions about Bisexuality What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 3:00 Using Bisexuality for clout 5:21 Is everyone a little "Bi?" 07:00 The common things I hear from people who don't understand Bisexuality 9:46 Proving that Bisexuality exists 11:48 The term heterosexual was a byproduct of creating the term homosexual 13:49 The Kinsey Scale 17:23 You are valid, regardless of how you identify Resources: FREE GIFT | ⁠https://stan.store/QueerLoveCoach⁠ YouTube | ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thecoachdanny⁠ TikTok | ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales⁠ Insta | ⁠https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales/⁠ Website| ⁠https://www.thecoachdanny.com⁠ Email | dannymoralescoaching@gmail.com

Why is it that many of us struggle to accept who we are and live unapologetically a life that is true to ourselves? Have you ever struggled with your sexuality? If so, did you ever dream of living a life free of fear, judgement, criticism, or rejection? Today, Danny welcomes you to have a conversation about embracing your sexuality and living a life that is authentic without the need to apologize for it! For many of you, the experience of coming out, self-acceptance, and navigating the LGBTQ+ community as a Gay or Bisexual man has been a negative one for a multitude of different reasons (being disowned by family, fear of rejection, safety reasons, etc.) In this episode, you will learn about the emphasis of the "nuclear family" after WWII and how it perpetuated heteronormativity, the 4 steps to accepting your sexuality, and recommendations from Danny's personal experience with self-acceptance. Have you ever stopped and asked yourself, "what would it feel like to just BE myself, unapologetically?" If you have, this episode will provide you with some tangible steps you can take! In the episode, you will learn: The 4 steps to accepting your sexuality Brief history & how it impacts us as Gay & Bisexual men Book recommendations for anyone in the LGBTQ+ community Recommendations from Danny based on his personal experience navigating his Bisexuality What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:26 Every persons process of accepting their sexuality will be different 5:20 How WWII put a spotlight on the "nuclear family" and perpetuated heteronormativity 9:08 The first step to accepting your sexuality is knowledge 10:05 My book recommendations 13:41 The second step is embracing self-discovery 16:11 The third step is sexual exploration 18:22 It's a game in the LGBTQ+ community to see how many people you can sleep with 19:34 The fourth step is drowning out the noise Resources: FREE GIFT | ⁠https://stan.store/QueerLoveCoach⁠ YouTube | ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thecoachdanny⁠ TikTok | ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales⁠ Insta | ⁠https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales/⁠ Website: ⁠https://www.thecoachdanny.com⁠ Email | dannymoralescoaching@gmail.com

Why is it that most people understand how important communication is, but don't prioritize it? Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have a healthy relationship without toxic or destructive arguments? Today, Danny welcomes you to have a conversation about communication and the importance of healthy communication in your relationships. It has often been said that people who struggle to communicate do not feel confident within themselves. Most men struggle to communicate due to a variety of reasons (societal expectations, emotional repression, familial dynamics, self-esteem issues, etc.) which contributes to the issues we see within the LGBTQ+ community when it comes to dating and relationships. Avoidance runs rampant amongst Gay & Bisexual men and the solution is embracing your voice and learning how to communicate effectively. Have you ever stopped and asked yourself, "what would it feel like to find someone that is serious about building a life together?" If you have, then you must realize how important communicating your expectations will be! In the episode, you will learn: The reason most men struggle to communicate The difference between healthy and unhealthy communication The best ways to overcome challenges in communication Tips on how to navigate conflict The need to take accountability What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:05 How do you expect to connect if you cant communicate? 05:20 Communication has been one of the biggest struggles for many people 06:12 The difference between healthy and unhealthy communication 08:30 The best things you can do to navigate conflict 11:15 The underlying fear of not being good enough 12:38 Learn to take accountability 13:35 The best ways of overcoming communication challenges 17:00 Ask your partner what they need Resources: FREE GIFT | ⁠https://stan.store/QueerLoveCoach⁠ YouTube | ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thecoachdanny⁠ TikTok | ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales⁠ Insta | ⁠https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales/⁠ Website: ⁠https://www.thecoachdanny.com⁠

How come it seems SO difficult to find healthy and long-lasting love in the LGBTQ+ community? Have you ever wondered what the steps are to finding that "dream" relationship? Today, Danny welcomes you to have a conversation about dating in the LGBTQ community. For many of you, the experience itself has been a negative one due to a multitude of different reasons (lack of commitment, self-esteem issues, casual mindset, hookup culture etc.) In this episode, you will learn about intentional dating, the core values necessary to have a healthy & long-term relationship, as well as some tips and tricks to turning your dating luck around. Have you ever stopped and asked yourself, "what would it feel like to find someone that is serious about building a life together?" If you have, this episode will provide you with some tangible steps you can take! In the episode, you will learn: The core values that are necessary to build a healthy relationship Understanding what intentional dating means and how to do it The role of self-esteem in dating The common challenges we face as Gay & Bisexual men The need for authenticity to attract the right partner What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:54 What is at the core of every relationship 03:10 To find balance you have to be intentional 04:45 Unpacking intentional dating and what it means 07:55 The role of self-esteem in dating 09:06 The primary steps to dating intentionally 14:50 Pretending to be someone you are not won't get you anywhere 15:07 The common challenges we face as Gay & Bisexual men 18:55 If you don't invest in yourself, you cant expect your partner to 20:15 Beauty fades, connection lasts forever Resources: FREE GIFT | https://stan.store/QueerLoveCoach YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@thecoachdanny TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales Insta | https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales/ Website: https://www.thecoachdanny.com

The Queer community, as much as I love it and my passion is in supporting the community, has its issues that need to be fixed. At the end of the day, no community is perfect but we have allowed our personal insecurities to impact how we treat each other within the community. I can speak for myself when I say, I have DEFINITELY curved my personality in certain social settings to try and fit in. The need for acceptance, love, and validation was so strong that in my desire to be accepted, I lost myself.    So, if we are going to unpack this… we should start with understanding the queer experience.   1. Understanding the Queer Experience:   The queer experience often involves a search for acceptance, love, and a sense of belonging. Society's heteronormative ideals and stigma surrounding homosexuality can create feelings of exclusion and isolation. Because of this, a lot of us have been left to deal with trigger emotions like shame, which can be deeply ingrained, resulting from societal messages that suggest being gay or bisexual is somehow wrong or unacceptable. This usually leads to self-doubt, self-criticism, and a sense of unworthiness.   2. Impact of Losing Yourself:   In the pursuit of belonging, you may feel compelled to hide or suppress your true self, conform to societal expectations or try to fit into predefined molds. This can result in a loss of authenticity and disconnection from our core identity. When you compromise your true self to fit in, it can strain your relationships. Authentic connections require vulnerability and the ability to show up as our genuine selves. Losing yourself in the search for belonging can stop the development of deep, meaningful connections.   3. Healing and Reclaiming Authenticity:   Focusing on self-compassion allows you to embrace your authentic self with kindness and understanding. Practicing self-acceptance is crucial in challenging the shame and self-judgment that may have accumulated over time. As queer individuals, our experiences of rejection result in long-term insecurity issues that MANY of us bury. These buried emotions result in difficulty with navigating and managing emotions so recognizing and addressing trigger emotions like shame is essential for healing.   4. Surrounding Yourself with Support:   Seek a Supportive Community: Surrounding yourself with a community of like-minded individuals who embrace and celebrate your authentic self is vital. Seek out LGBTQ+ organizations, social groups, or online communities where you can find support and connect with others who have shared experiences.    5. Embrace Self-Exploration:   a. Define Your Values and Beliefs: Take the time to explore and define your own values, beliefs, and aspirations. This process will allow you to align your actions and choices with your authentic self, promoting a sense of congruence and fulfillment.   b. Practice Self-Expression: Engage in activities that allow you to express your true self, whether it's through art, writing, fashion, or any form of creative expression. Embracing self-expression can be empowering and help you reclaim your authentic voice Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:45 There is No Perfect Way of Being Gay or Bi 05:00 Understanding the Gay/Bi Experience 08:03 Focus on Self-Compassion and Healing 10:55 Embrace Positivity and Change Resources: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order

Are you emotionally bankrupt? To find out, let's explore what emotional currency actually means and how it is applicable to you!   1. Understanding Emotional Currency:    Emotional currency refers to the resources we invest in our relationships, like time, affection, trust, and support. It involves both giving and receiving, creating a dynamic exchange that sustains the health and vitality of our connections and just like financial currency, emotional currency requires a balance between giving and receiving. It involves understanding our own emotional needs and boundaries, as well as those of our partner, to achieve mutual growth and fulfillment.   2. Assessing Emotional Investments:   Take a moment to evaluate the emotional investments you're making in your relationships. Are you giving too much and neglecting your own needs, or are you withholding and depriving your partner of the emotional support they deserve? The goal is balance in the emotional bank account to create and maintain a sustainable connection. Healthy emotional investments involve acts of kindness, active listening, empathy, and understanding. They contribute to the emotional growth and well-being of both partners which creates a sense of security, trust, and intimacy.   3. Establishing Boundaries and Self-Care:   Boundaries are essential to ensure your emotional well-being. Communicate your needs, limits, and expectations to your partner, and encourage them to do the same. Respect each other's boundaries and work together to find a balance that honors yours and their emotional needs. It’s also very important to take time for self-reflection and self-care. Try new activities that bring you joy, practice mindfulness and self-compassion, and nurture your own emotional well-being. Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup, so fill your cup first before investing in others.   4. Effective Communication:   Practice active listening to genuinely understand your partner's emotions, concerns, and needs. Create a safe space for open and honest communication, free from judgment or criticism. It's very important to validate each other's feelings and seek mutual understanding. Creating a safe space also allows for you and your partner to be vulnerable and share your emotions, fears, and desires. By opening up and creating an environment of trust, you foster deeper emotional connections that contribute to the richness of your relationship.   5. Cultivating Gratitude and Appreciation:   Regularly acknowledge and appreciate the emotional investments your partner makes in the relationship. Expressing gratitude fosters a positive and appreciative atmosphere, deepening the emotional bond and strengthening the connection. To do this, you'll need a level of self-awareness. Reflect on the emotional investments you receive from your partner and express gratitude for their presence and support in your life. Recognize the value they bring to your emotional bank account and reciprocate their efforts. Recommendations:   1. Balance Your Emotional Bank Account   2. Practice Emotional Awareness   3. Embrace Personal Growth 4. Foster an Emotional Support Network   Chapters: Intro 00:01 The 5 elements of emotional currency 04:10 Recommendations on how to balance emotional currency 11:00 Understanding infatuation 10:26 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order  

Let's talk about some of the most common masks I have found people wear.   1. The Mask of Perfection:   Society often imposes unrealistic standards of perfection upon us, making us to believe that we must present ourselves as flawless. This mask convinces us that revealing our flaws will result in rejection and judgment. When you finally decide to explore your sexuality, the truth is… the queer community can be hyper-critical ourselves. We don’t only receive judgement from outside the community, we receive it from within the community as well.   2. The Mask of Masculinity:   In a world that often associates masculinity with strength, dominance, and emotional detachment, many of us feel compelled to wear the mask of masculinity. We suppress our emotions, fearing that expressing vulnerability will be seen as weakness or result in us getting hurt. Why? Being ourselves caused of years of pain and discomfort. That is not the case for everyone but it is the case for a majority of the men I have worked with.   3. The Mask of Confidence:   We wear the mask of confidence to shield ourselves from feelings of inadequacy or self-doubt. We project an image of self-assuredness to protect ourselves from potential rejection or judgment. I have often found that people who come off as OVERLY confident are hiding deep insecurities that they don’t want anyone to see. The problem with that is, wearing this mask excessively can prevent us from showing our true selves. True confidence embraces vulnerability and acknowledges that imperfections are part of being human.   4. The Mask of Independence:   As gay and bisexual men, some of us have developed a strong sense of independence as a means of self-preservation. We fear relying on others, believing that doing so makes us vulnerable to abandonment or disappointment. For many of us, we have had to FIGHT to survive and thrive in the face of adversity. Wearing the mask of independence can create barriers in our relationships.   Recommendations for Shedding the Masks:   1. Self-Reflection and Awareness:   Take time for self-reflection to identify the masks you wear and the underlying fears that drive them. Journaling, therapy, or engaging with a support network can help you gain insight into your own patterns. Practice self-awareness in your daily life.   2. Embrace Vulnerability:   Recognize that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. Challenge the belief that showing your true emotions makes you less desirable or valuable. Start by opening up to trusted friends or a supportive partner. 3. Seek Authentic Connections:   Prioritize relationships that encourage open communication, emotional intimacy, and mutual support. Surrounding yourself with individuals who value and embrace your true self will create a space for genuine connection and growth.   4. Practice Self-Compassion:   Embrace self-compassion as a way to counteract the need for masks. Treat yourself with kindness, understanding, and forgiveness. Remember that you are worthy of love and acceptance, both from others and from yourself.   5. Seek Professional Support:   a. Consider working with a love and self-esteem coach, therapist, or counselor who specializes in LGBTQ+ issues. Chapters: Intro 00:01 My story with wearing masks 02:10 The most common masks people wear 06:30 How do you start to get rid of the mask? 13:44 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order

Your mindset plays a significant role in your dating experiences and the quality of your relationships. So, what is possibly keeping you single? 1. Limiting Beliefs and Self-Sabotage:   a. Negative Self-Talk: Our internal dialogue shapes our self-perception. If you constantly criticize yourself, doubt your worth, or believe you're undeserving of love, these limiting beliefs can manifest in your dating life. Recognize negative self-talk patterns and challenge them with positive affirmations and self-compassion.   b. Fear of Rejection: The fear of rejection can hinder your ability to put yourself out there and pursue romantic connections. It's important to remember that rejection is a natural part of dating and doesn't define your worth.   2. Unrealistic Expectations and Idealization:   a. Prince Charming Syndrome: Fantasizing about finding the perfect partner who meets all your expectations can set you up for disappointment and missed opportunities. Be open to different types of people and embrace the beauty of diverse connections. Focus on building genuine connections rather than seeking perfection.   b. Comparison Trap: Constantly comparing yourself to others or idealized versions of relationships can hinder your own self-esteem and dating success. Embrace your unique qualities and understand that everyone's journey is different. Celebrate your own achievements and progress instead of measuring yourself against others.   3. Scarcity Mindset vs. Abundance Mindset:   a. Scarcity Mindset: Believing that there are limited opportunities for love or that there's a lack of compatible partners can create an aura of desperation and neediness. Shift your perspective to an abundance mindset, recognizing that there are plenty of potential partners out there and that you deserve love and happiness.   b. Fear of Vulnerability: Opening yourself up to vulnerability is essential for building intimate connections. However, a fear of being hurt or rejected can make you close yourself off emotionally. Practice self-compassion, set healthy boundaries, and gradually allow yourself to be vulnerable in safe and trusting relationships.   4. Lack of Self-Confidence and Self-Worth:   a. Building Self-Confidence: Cultivating self-confidence is key to attracting and maintaining healthy relationships. Focus on self-care, engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, and surround yourself with supportive friends and communities. Celebrate your strengths and achievements, and remember that confidence is an ongoing journey.   b. Enhancing Self-Worth: Your self-worth should not be dependent on external validation or finding a partner. Prioritize self-love, embrace your unique qualities, and nurture your own personal growth and happiness. Understand that you deserve love and respect, both from yourself and potential partners. Recommendations for Shifting Your Mindset:   1. Self-Reflection and Awareness 2. Embrace Growth and Personal Development   3. Practice Self-Compassion and Self-Care:   4. Create an Authentic Dating Strategy   5. Seek Support and Community   Chapters: Intro 00:01 Life is all about balance. Do you run when the first issue comes up? 03:53 Some of the reasons your mindset is keeping you single 07:38 Scarcity vs. abundance mindset when dating 14:24 Lack of self-confidence and self-worth 17:57 Recommendations on how to change your mindset 20:00 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order