Deep Penetration | Gay and Bisexual Dating Advice with Daniel Morales

For a lot of you, this represents laziness, lack of goals, complacency, immaturity, etc. Did you ever stop to think the decision to stay home was a conscious decision that was rooted in effective future planning? Maybe it is based on cultural beliefs? Or maybe he is a caretaker for an aging or ill parent?   Here are some possible reasons:   1. Financial Considerations: One of the primary reasons individuals in their 30s may continue living with their parents is financial stability. Factors such as student loan debt, high living costs, and a challenging job market can make it difficult for individuals to afford independent living.   2. Cultural and Family Dynamics: In some cultures, Latino culture being one, living at home with parents well into adulthood is common and socially acceptable. Strong family ties and a sense of responsibility toward parents and extended family may influence an individual's decision to continue living at home so cultural values and expectations play a significant role in this scenario.   3. Emotional and Caregiving Responsibilities: Family dynamics, including the need to provide emotional or physical support to parents or family members, can contribute to the decision to live at home. This may be particularly true for individuals with aging parents or those facing health challenges.   Recommendations for Navigating the Situation:   1. Open and Honest Communication: Effective communication is crucial when dating someone who lives at home in their 30s. Have open and honest conversations about their living situation, their reasons for living at home, and their plans for the future. Express your own needs, concerns, and expectations in a non-judgmental manner. 2. Assess Compatibility and Future Goals: Consider how the living situation aligns with your own values, goals, and vision for the future. Reflect on your expectations regarding independence, privacy, and autonomy. Assess whether your values and long-term goals align with your partner's situation.   3. Evaluate Personal Boundaries: Living with a partner who is in their 30s and still lives at home requires clear personal boundaries. Discuss and establish boundaries regarding privacy, alone time, and shared responsibilities. It's essential to ensure that both individuals have space to pursue their individual interests, socialize with friends, and maintain a healthy sense of independence within the relationship.   4. Support and Encourage Independence: If your partner expresses a desire to move toward independent living, offer support and encouragement. Help them explore potential avenues for increased financial stability, such as career advancement or additional education.   5. Consider the Big Picture: Evaluate the overall compatibility and connection in the relationship beyond the living situation. Assess the strength of your emotional connection, shared values, and compatibility in other aspects of life. The living situation is just one factor in a relationship, and it's important to consider the entirety of the connection before making judgments or decisions. Chapters: Intro 00:01 As Queer men, we hold ourselves to a higher standard 02:20 Let me paint a picture for you (hypothetical scenario) 05:30 Reasons why he might be living at home 12:06 How to navigate him living at home 18:36 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order

Sexuality and the exploration of sexuality is at the CORE of queer culture and our individual/collective experiences within that culture. As a love and self-esteem coach, I am a HUGE proponent of exploring your sexuality and becoming comfortable in your own skin, but we also can't deny that sex can have its issues as well.    I have worked with many men who struggled to see the differences between sex positivity and sex enabling. Although they may not seem all that different, they are. It's important to understand the differences. So, let's define sex positivity:   Sex positivity is a philosophy that promotes a healthy and affirming attitude toward consensual sexual behavior. It involves the following:   a. Consent and Communication: Sex positivity emphasizes the significance of enthusiastic and informed consent, open communication about desires, boundaries, and preferences between you and your sexual partners. It also encourages continued open dialogue that is non-judgmental and free of criticism   b. De-stigmatization: Sex positivity aims to challenge societal stigmas surrounding diverse sexual orientations, identities, and practices. It advocates for a non-judgmental and inclusive approach to sexuality, recognizing that consensual sexual activities between adults are personal choices.   c. Empowerment and Education: Sex positivity encourages you to explore and understand your own desires, preferences, and boundaries. It emphasizes the importance of comprehensive sex education, promoting knowledge about sexual health, consent, and safe practices. This knowledge empowers you to make informed decisions and engage in sexual experiences that are both pleasurable and safe.   d. Body Positivity: Sex positivity promotes body acceptance, encouraging you to embrace your body and recognize that diverse bodies are beautiful and worthy of pleasure. It rejects body shaming and celebrates the uniqueness of each individual's physical form. So what does enabling look like?   a. Lack of Consent or Coercion: Enabling disregards the importance of consent and may involve engaging in sexual activities without obtaining clear consent or using coercion or manipulation to get someone to agree or accept.   b. Disregarding Boundaries: Enabling fails to acknowledge and respect personal boundaries in sexual interactions. It may involve pressuring or ignoring the objections or discomfort of sexual partners.   c. Normalizing Abuse or Non-consensual Acts: Enabling creates an environment where non-consensual or abusive behavior is downplayed, excused, or accepted as a norm. It perpetuates a culture that tolerates harm and fails to prioritize the well-being and autonomy of individuals.   d. Ignoring Power Imbalances: Enabling overlooks power imbalances in sexual relationships, such as those related to age, authority, or emotional vulnerability. It fails to address these dynamics, leading to the potential for manipulation, exploitation, or coercion. Chapters: Intro 00:01 Defining sex positivity 02:52 How to spot sex positivity vs. enabling 05:18 Defining enabling 06:05 How to spot enabling vs. sex positivity 11:50 My personal story with sexual enabling 12:35 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order

In today's society, the influence of drinking culture on relationships is undeniable. While alcohol can enhance social experiences, it can also have detrimental effects on romantic partnerships. So let's talk about the impact of drinking culture on relationships.    I think it's important that we look at the role that alcohol has played on queer culture.    a. Celebration and Community: Alcohol has acted as a tool for celebration and fostering a sense of community. Bars and clubs have historically been safe spaces for the LGBTQ+ community, providing opportunities for socializing and finding acceptance.   b. Coping Mechanism: For many of us, alcohol has served as a coping mechanism to navigate the challenges associated with coming out, facing discrimination, or dealing with internalized shame which means it can be used as a coping mechanism.   c. Normative Pressure: The prevalence of drinking culture in the LGBTQ+ community can create a sense of normative pressure, where individuals feel compelled to drink excessively to fit in or conform to social expectations. So, how does it impact YOUR romantic relationship? Here are 4 ways:    Impaired Communication: Excessive alcohol consumption can hinder effective communication in relationships. It can lead to misunderstandings, arguments, and an inability to express emotions clearly, causing strain on the partnership.   Increased Risk-Taking Behavior: Alcohol reduces inhibitions, which can result in engaging in risky behaviors that may jeopardize the relationship. This includes infidelity, reckless decision-making, or compromising personal boundaries.   Emotional Intimacy Challenges: Alcohol can hinder the development of emotional intimacy within a relationship. It may serve as a barrier to vulnerability, preventing partners from connecting on a deeper level and addressing underlying issues.   Dependence and Codependency: In some cases, people in relationships may develop a codependency on alcohol, relying on it to maintain a connection or avoid facing unresolved personal issues. This can be detrimental to the health of the relationship. Chapters: Intro 00:01 The role of alcohol in Queer culture 01:42 The role alcohol played on my Queer experience 03:14 4 ways alcohol can impact your relationship 04:34 Recommendations if you want to abstain from alcohol 06:43 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order

Vulnerability is the willingness to be emotionally open, honest, and transparent. It is the act of sharing your thoughts, feelings, and fears with another person without fearing judgment or rejection. Vulnerability is often associated with weakness, but in reality, it is a sign of strength. It takes courage to expose your innermost self to others, especially when you have been hurt in the past.   Let's talk about the benefits: 1. Improved Relationships   When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you give others the opportunity to get to know the real you. This can lead to deeper and more meaningful connections.   2. Greater Self-Awareness   Vulnerability can help you become more aware of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. When you are open and honest with yourself, you can identify your strengths and weaknesses and work towards personal growth. Being vulnerable also allows you to confront your fears and face them head-on.   3. Increased Confidence   When you embrace vulnerability, you become more confident in yourself and your abilities. You learn that it is okay to make mistakes and that you do not have to be perfect all the time. This can help you become more self-assured and willing to take risks.   So, how can YOU embrace your vulnerability?   1. Recognize Your Fears   The first step in embracing vulnerability is to recognize your fears. What are you afraid of? What is holding you back from being emotionally open with others? Once you identify your fears, you can work towards overcoming them.   2. Practice Self-Compassion   Being vulnerable can be scary, and it is important to practice self-compassion as you navigate this process. Be gentle with yourself and recognize that vulnerability takes time and practice.   3. Set Realistic Goals   If you are new to vulnerability, it is best to start small. Share something small with someone you trust and work your way up to more significant disclosures. This will help you build confidence and become more comfortable with vulnerability.   4. Choose Your Trust Circle   It is essential to choose the right people to share your vulnerability with. You want to choose people who are trustworthy, non-judgmental, and supportive. This will help you feel safe and secure as you open up.   5. Be Authentic   When sharing your vulnerability, it is crucial to be authentic. Do not try to hide your true feelings or present a false image of yourself. Authenticity is essential for building deep connections and relationships.   Embracing vulnerability is crucial for building deep connections, gaining self-awareness, and increasing confidence. While vulnerability can be scary, it is a sign of strength, and it takes courage to be emotionally open with others. By recognizing your fears, practicing self-compassion, starting small, choosing the right people to share with, and being authentic, you can embrace vulnerability and use it to your benefit. Remember, vulnerability is not a weakness, it is a superpower. Chapters: Intro 00:01 Understanding the definition of vulnerability 03:41 Vulnerability leads to improved relationships 4:39 Vulnerability leads to a greater sense of self-awareness 05:34 Vulnerability leads to increased confidence 08:49 What love taught me 10:18 The steps to embracing vulnerability 12:48 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order

What is Detachment?   Detachment is the ability to distance yourself emotionally from a situation or person in order to gain perspective, maintain boundaries, and protect yourself. This can be especially important in relationships where boundaries have been crossed, emotional wounds have been inflicted, or the relationship has become toxic. Detachment is not the same as disconnection, it is simply a way of creating emotional space to reassess the situation.   Healthy detachment means recognizing the emotions that arise in a situation but not allowing them to control your behavior. It allows for a more objective perspective and a less reactive response.   What is Avoidance?   Avoidance, on the other hand, is a negative coping mechanism that involves actively avoiding emotional pain, stress, or conflict. Avoidance can manifest in different ways, such as avoiding difficult conversations, deflecting emotional issues with humor, or completely shutting down emotionally. I have seen first hand how problematic this can be in relationships because it can prevent the development of emotional intimacy, communication, and trust.   Unlike detachment, avoidance has nothing to do with gaining perspective or creating boundaries, rather it is about avoiding the issue altogether. Avoidance may provide temporary relief, but it can be detrimental to the long-term health of a relationship.   Here are some common signs to help you identify the patterns:   Negative Detachment (Disconnect):   - Disinterest in emotional connection - Preferring to keep conversations superficial - Being dismissive of emotional needs of others - Difficulty expressing emotions - Staying in a relationship even if it is not fulfilling   Avoidance:   - Deflecting emotional issues with humor or sarcasm - Refusing to engage in emotional conversations - Blaming others for emotional issues - Avoiding emotional connection altogether - Shutting down emotionally in response to conflict or stress   Here are some recommendations for developing healthy emotional attachments:   Developing healthy emotional attachment involves learning to balance detachment and engagement in a way that allows for emotional intimacy while maintaining healthy boundaries. It involves recognizing and communicating emotional needs, and being open to vulnerability and emotional expression.   One way to develop healthy emotional attachment is to practice mindfulness. Mindfulness involves being present in the moment, and observing thoughts and emotions without judgment. This can help increase awareness of emotional patterns and allow for more intentional and healthy responses.   Another important aspect of developing healthy emotional attachment is communication. Communication involves being open and honest about emotions, needs, and desires. It also involves active listening, and responding in a way that is supportive and validating. Chapters: Intro 00:01 The difference between detachment and avoidance 01:06 Understanding detachment 04:53 Understanding avoidance 06:30 How to you identify the negative pattern and change it 11:34 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order

People who are TRULY narcissists are focuses on maintaining control at whatever cost. They will break you down emotionally and mentally over time and will manipulate every situation so that you come to believe YOU are at fault and they are the victims. So, how to you identify a narcissist? It can be very hard in the beginning because their controlling behavior might appear as self-confidence or genuine concern for your wellbeing, but her are 5 common traits and behaviors that you should be on the lookout for:   1. Overly Self-Centered: they tend to talk about themselves and their accomplishments a lot, and may not show much interest in your life or feelings.   2. Sense of Entitlement: they believe they are special and deserve special treatment. They may expect you to go out of your way to please them.   3. Lack Empathy: they have a hard time putting themselves in other people's shoes and may not be able to understand or care about how you're feeling.   4. Controlling: they may try to control what you do, who you see, and how you think.   5. Inflated Sense of Self-Importance: they believe they are better than others and may belittle or put down those around them. Instead of acknowledging your feelings and taking responsibility for his actions, he immediately dismisses your concerns and starts gaslighting you:   1. Denial: "I never cancel plans without discussing it with you. You must be imagining things or exaggerating. I always consider your opinions."   2. Blame-Shifting: "You're too sensitive. It's not my fault you're overreacting to minor things. Maybe you should work on controlling your emotions better."   3. Minimization: "It's not a big deal. You're blowing this out of proportion. I cancel plans occasionally, but it's not like it happens all the time. You're making it seem worse than it is."   4. Gaslighting: "Actually, you're the one who cancels plans more often than me. You're just trying to turn the tables and make me look bad."   5. Invalidation: "I can't believe you're upset about this. It's really not worth getting worked up over. You're being unreasonable and now you're making ME feel like shit." Unfortunately, the success rate of a relationship with a narcissist is VERY small so if you are in this situation and you are trying to get out, here are some recommendations:   1. Be Clear and Firm: When you decide to end the relationship, make sure you are clear and firm in your decision. Don't leave any room for negotiation or hope of reconciliation.   2. Set Boundaries: He may try to contact you or make demands after the breakup. Set clear boundaries and stick to them.   3. Limit Contact: If possible, limit your contact. This may mean blocking his number, avoiding social events where he will be present, and cutting ties with mutual friends who may try to involve you in drama.   4. Don't Engage: He may try to make you jealous or play mind games with you. Don't engage in his behavior or try to get revenge. This will only fuel their need for attention and drama.   5. Get support: Ending a relationship with a narcissist can be emotionally draining. Make sure you have a support system of friends, family, or a coach/therapist who can help you through the process. Chapters: Intro 00:01 The 5 Common Traits to Help You Identify a Narcissist 04:32 What Dialogue with a Narcissist Looks Like 06:22 How to End a Relationship with a Narcissist 10:44 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order

Infatuation is characterized by an intense attraction to another person, often based on physical appearance or other superficial qualities. Infatuation can be intoxicating, exhilarating, and it feels like you're getting hit by a million different emotions all at once. It's the 0-100 approach of dating and is usually pretty short lived. Most relationships that are infatuation last anywhere between a few weeks to four months.    Love, on the other hand, is a deep and lasting emotional connection between two people. It is built on a foundation of trust, respect, and understanding. Love requires time, patience, and effort to grow and develop. Unlike infatuation, love is not based on physical appearance or superficial qualities, but on a deep connection and shared values. That doesn’t mean physical appearance doesn’t play a role as it is a natural part of attraction, but it's not at the root.   So, how can you tell the difference?   One of the key differences between love and infatuation is the way they make you feel. Like I mentioned before, Infatuation can feel exhilarating and exciting, but it can also be unstable and unpredictable and there are usually a lot of intense highs and lows which can leave you feeling anxious, jealous, or insecure. Infatuation is also usually a self-centered experienced because you are more focused and your needs and getting what you want out of the relationship (validation, sex, attention, etc.)   Love is a more stable and consistent emotion. It can bring feelings of happiness, contentment, and security, and is less likely to be influenced by external factors. Love  involves a level of commitment and responsibility to another person which requires sacrifice, compromise, and a willingness to put the needs of your partner before your own.   Here are 2 Things to Look Out For:   One way is to consider the level of emotional investment you have in the relationship. Infatuation tends to be more focused on the physical aspects of the relationship, while love involves a deeper emotional connection.  Another way to differentiate between love and infatuation is to consider the level of commitment and responsibility involved. Love requires a willingness to make sacrifices and put the needs of your partner before your own, while infatuation is often self-centered or self-serving.   It is important to note that both love and infatuation can be positive experiences. Infatuation can be a fun and exciting part of the early stages of a relationship, while love can bring a sense of security and happiness. However, it is important to recognize the difference between these two emotions in order to build healthy, long-lasting relationships.   As a love and self-esteem coach, I often work with clients to help them differentiate between love and infatuation. One of the most important things I emphasize is the importance of taking the time to get to know someone before committing to a relationship. Rushing into a relationship based on infatuation can lead to disappointment and heartache, while taking the time to build a deep connection can lead to a more fulfilling and lasting relationship. Chapters: Intro 00:01 The differences between love and infatuation 02:04 Our relationship with conditional love 08:00 Understanding infatuation 10:26 Understanding love 11:16 Two things to look out for in order to identify whether is love or infatuation 14:43 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order

While hookup culture may be enticing or exciting to some of you, it can negatively impact your ability to find a long-term, fulfilling relationship.   We've all been there, at least I have and I believe I speak for a majority of men that identify as queer: hookup culture is almost a right of passage. Even if you are someone who initially is not into hookup culture, a lot of people approach dating very casually due to "lack of commitment oriented men." So, even if you find someone you feel connected to… most men I have spoken to have reported being ghosted after. I don’t say this to scare you are feed into the stereotype, I say this because it's important to acknowledge the truth of MANY peoples experience so we can learn from it and challenge the established norm.   So how does hookup culture contribute to your chances of finding love? Here are a few things I have come to find over the years:   Mentality of Disposability:   In a hookup culture, you are often treated as an object to be used for someone else's pleasure, with little regard for your feelings or desires. This mentality can carry over into other aspects of your life, making it difficult to form meaningful connections with others. When people are viewed as disposable, it can be difficult to establish trust, intimacy, and vulnerability, all of which are crucial components of a healthy relationship.   Lack of Emotional Intimacy:    Many people who engage in hookups do so purely for physical pleasure, without the intention of forming any kind of emotional connection. I've said this many times before and will say it AGAIN, there's nothing wrong with engaging in casual sex. If that is what you and the other person are looking for. However, having casual sex exclusively can make it difficult to build emotional intimacy with a partner.   Lacking Sense of Personal Identity:   In a culture where casual sex is the norm, it can be challenging to determine what your own values and priorities when it comes to relationships. You may find yourself feeling confused or uncertain about what you want from a relationship, which can lead to further difficulties when attempting to establish a long-term connection with someone.   Take Time to Focus on Personal Growth and Development:    By cultivating a sense of personal identity and prioritizing your own needs and desires, you'll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of relationships. This can include things like engaging in self-care practices, pursuing your passions and interests, and considering coaching or counseling if needed. When you're feeling confident and secure in yourself, you'll be more likely to attract partners who are looking for a long-term, healthy relationship.   Finding a Long-Term Relationship Takes Time and Patience:   While hookup culture may make it seem like everyone is just looking for a quick fling, the reality is that many people are also seeking meaningful connections with others. By being patient, staying true to your values and priorities, and continuing to communicate openly and honestly with potential partners, you can increase your chances of finding a long-term, fulfilling relationship. Chapters: Intro 00:01 Mentality of Disposability 03:13 Lack of Emotional Connection 08:42 How to get out of the hookup cycle 11:22 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order

As a love and self-esteem coach, I have seen many men fall for the "bad boy" stereotype in relationships. The allure of the bad boy can be strong, but it often leads to heartbreak and disappointment. I work with clients who REALLY struggle with picking the "healthy" guy because they are "boring or too predictable." I understand this in the sense of wanting excitement and adventure in your relationship but it usually raises a red flag for me. The question I ask my clients and I'll ask you now is this…   "Are you really concerned about having a predictable life or have you grown accustomed to instability?" There is a difference.   I understand the need for fun and adventure in a relationship, but those are things that can be worked on and brought up to your partner as something that needs to be a part of the relationship. This requires having open and honest conversation and be willing to put in the work. If you have grown accustomed to instability, there are a couple possibilities as to why:   1. It’s familiar to you and a bit of a comfort zone: Why? There are many reasons but research points towards an unstable childhood, trauma, or a multitude of failed relationships that have caused you pain and a fear of being vulnerable 2. Self sabotage or fear of success: which may stem from the need to validate a negative self-perception which can be rooted in low-esteem, a fear of failure, or deep seated beliefs about unworthiness 3. Escaping emotional pain: instability can be a distraction from emotional pain 4. Seeking validation: some people confuse drama and instability with passion and intensity   The Appeal of the Bad Boy  The bad boy is often seen as exciting and unpredictable, a rebel who doesn't play by society's rules. He may be confident, charming, and sexually adventurous, making him an attractive prospect for those seeking a thrill. He may even be "straight" presenting.   However, the bad boy often comes with a host of issues as well. He may be emotionally unavailable, disrespectful, and prone to cheating or other harmful behavior. He may struggle with addiction or other issues that make a healthy relationship difficult to sustain.   Why We Fall for the Bad Boy  There are many reasons why some gay & bisexual men are drawn to the bad boy type. One possible explanation is a desire for excitement and adventure in their lives. The bad boy offers a break from routine and a chance to experience something new and different.   Another reason may be a desire to fix or rescue the bad boy. Men who struggle with low self-esteem or self-worth may see the bad boy as a challenge to overcome or a project to fix. This can lead to an unhealthy dynamic in the relationship, where one partner is constantly trying to change the other. This is also where we start to get into the patterns of anxious attachments and codependency.   Finally, some men may simply be attracted to the bad boy's confidence and charisma. They may overlook warning signs or red flags because they are enamored with the bad boy's charm and charisma. Chapters: Intro 00:01 Question to ask yourself to gain more understanding 03:04 The reason behind falling for the "bad boy" 06:08 Identifying the red flags 09:24 How to break the cycle of dating the bad boy 12:22 Breaking historical dating patterns is very hard 16:09 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order

Often, because many of us have been ousted by family we create a family of our own… a chosen family. What does that mean? We are more protective of the family we have chosen because of our negative experiences coming out… we become more "defensive" or "protective" of that chosen family. We also cant deny that as queer men, we're a little more sassy and sarcastic. That’s not the case for everyone, but a majority of us have developed a sense of humor to protect against criticism or judgement. Therefore, when someone new is introduced to the group there is almost this hazing process that occurs.    As I have mentioned many times before, we experience a lot of rejection and therefore, there is a need that develops over time to be accepted and loved by any means necessary. If you had a bad experience coming out to your family, you probably prioritize and rely heavily on your chosen family for support. We all want to be accepted, therefore, trying to impress your partners friends can be an incredibly daunting task. Here are 3 ways to win them over!   1. Show Genuine Interest and Respect One of the best ways to win over your partner's overprotective friends is to show genuine interest and respect. Take the time to get to know them, ask about their interests and hobbies, and listen actively when they speak. Show them that you value their opinions and that you're interested in building a relationship with them.  So often, we are quick to get on the defensive because we feel the need to protect ourselves. I understand why you would feel the need to do so, but if you stop and think about it… you are validating for that person why you cant be trusted. If you managed to keep your cool and talk things out in a respectful and compassionate way, you will gain their respect MUCH faster. Granted if they are being blatantly rude, condescending, or aggressive… THAT is a different story. At that point, I would recommend setting some very firm boundaries and communicating your discontent of their treatment towards you.   2. Be Open and Honest Another way to win over overprotective friends is to be open and honest. Share your feelings and thoughts with them, and be transparent about your intentions. Let them know that you value their friendship with your partner and that you're not interested in causing any harm. 3. Show Your Commitment Finally, showing your commitment to your partner and to the relationship can go a long way in winning over overprotective friends. Show them that you're serious about your partner and that you're committed to building a healthy and loving relationship. Make an effort to spend time with them, and show them that you respect their relationship with your partner.   Actions speak louder than words, so make sure to follow through on any promises or commitments you make. Show them that you're willing to put in the effort and time to build a relationship with them, and that you're not just interested in a short-term fling.   Chapters: Intro 00:01 The importance of a chosen family 02:40 Show genuine interest/respect in your partner's friends 07:14 Be open and honest 14:21 Show them you are committed to your partner 15:56 Want to connect with me? INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/coach_dannymorales  TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdannymorales  WEBSITE: https://www.thecoachdanny.com EMAIL: danny@thecoachdanny.com  LINKTREE: https://linktr.ee/thecoachdanny FREE GIFTS: Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/overcoming-infidelity-capture Queer Dating 101:  https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/mens-dating-gift COACHING:  One-Hour: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/1h-coaching-order  30min: https://www.click.thecoachdanny.com/30min-coaching-order