The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

What if everything you do in your life is actually driven by one question – a question that is unconscious to you but acts as the command center for how you show up in the world?   That question is what Mike Foster calls your “primal question,” and let me tell you, when I discovered mine, it was like my whole life made sense.    Mike developed The Seven Primal Questions system based on his research and work as a coach.   The idea is that we all have a question – like, “Am I safe?” or, “Am I loved?” – that we didn’t get answered in childhood and that we continue to ask as adults.   When the answer to this question is “yes,” we feel good and become our best selves.   When it’s “no,” we start scrambling. Our emotional reactions, compulsions, unhelpful behaviors and survival strategies (things like perfectionism and people pleasing) are all attempts to get this question answered in the way we want.   The cool thing? When we understand our primal question and the question of our loved ones, we can change everything about our relationships by healing our wounds, connecting to our gifts and intentionally answering each others’ question with a “yes!”   I LOVE this system, and I’m thrilled to have Mike on this show giving us a crash course in it as he breaks down the seven questions, their corresponding “primal truths” and “primal gifts” and how these questions can show up in our lives in different ways.   Listen to discover: The Seven Primal Questions and what they mean for your life How to replace your primal question with a primal truth Why the flipside of your primal question is your superpower How you can stop letting your child self run your life and live from your healthy adult self How to apply your primal question in business and relationships  I have a feeling you’ll have some lightbulb moments during this show. I also have a link below to help you find your primal question if you’re having trouble figuring it out.   This tool is a GAME CHANGER for more consciously relating to ourselves and others, and I’m thrilled to share it with you! It gets down to the core of what makes us tick and shows us how to love ourselves and the people in our life better…and who doesn’t want that?   “In our early childhood, we get imprinted with a primal question…The primal question just represents our highest...emotional need.” - Mike Foster   “‘Am I safe?’ is really about survival…where security is really about, ‘Am I resourced appropriately to be able to protect myself and sustain myself?’” - Mike Foster   “[That’s] what children do, we perceive the world we’re in and then we make conclusions about it.” - Mike Foster   “The other side of the question is what I call your primal gift, and it’s this superpower that every question has.” - Mike Foster   "[During the first six years of life] we don't have discernment...we take it on as, 'It's my fault. I did something wrong.'" - Michelle Chalfant   "When we start attuning to our team members' primal question, we can really become a very effective leader with them." - Mike Foster   "What we need the most is what we want to give away to others." - Mike Foster   "Under every behavior is an emotional or feeling driving that behavior. But under every emotion and feeling is an unmet need driving that emotion or feeling." - Mike Foster   "A question being imprinted by trauma is just gonna carry a lot more weight to it than a question just imprinted through confusion." - Mike Foster   "I just see this as such an empowering tool that can help any relationship." - Michelle Chalfant   "I need to be really aware of how my question is showing up in my life." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES   Mike Foster Website https://www.mikefoster.tv/    Seven Primal Questions Assessment  https://mikefostercoaching.outgrow.us/mikefostercoaching-2   "The Seven Primal Questions" (Mike Foster Book) https://shop.mikefoster.tv/products/seven-primal-questions-book    Mike Foster Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mikefoster2000/    FREE DOWNLOAD: 5 Healthy Relationship Myths https://theadultchair.com/myths    Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/60adult Use code 60ADULT for 60% off + free shipping   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Grief is a messy, complicated emotion, and very few of us know what to do with it.   We don’t want to (or know how to) feel it, and when we’re around others who are grieving, most of us freeze.   We feel uncomfortable, so we say nothing or say the wrong thing or stay away, all of which just adds to the pain.    That was me in my 20s and 30s. But when I lost my father, I could no longer avoid grief. He taught me how to grieve…and I found that grief, as painful as it was, connected me to the deeper parts of my soul and made me a more whole-hearted person.    In this episode, I was fortunate to connect with a new soul sister, Kris Carr, about her own journey with grief following the loss of her father.    She experienced a lot of loss — including 20 years of living with Stage 4 cancer — but like me, she had spent her life shoving grief down until her dad passed away.   As she walked with him from diagnosis until his death, she experienced heartbreaking moments, precious moments, joyful moments and spiritual moments that taught her more about being human and opened her up to life.   We talk about how grief can show up in many different ways (not just death), what happens in our bodies when we don’t process it, how to support each other through this universal human experience and how to find joy even in a world where pain is part of our reality.   Listen to discover: Kris's story of learning to live with both grief and hope What to say and not say to someone who is grieving What happens when we don't process grief Healthy ways to process grief  Taking a "joy inventory" of your life   This conversation is raw, real and beautiful — it’s wisdom earned by being in the trenches, and I hope it helps you get a little more comfortable with the discomfort of grief.    There is no formula for grief. It’s something we simply have to be there with.    And when we learn to be there with each other and hold space for it, it can become a sacred moment of deeper connection to ourselves and to each other.     "Grief is such a touchy topic, and sometimes it can be hard to even approach the idea of learning more about it." - Kris Carr   "In many ways, grief is a master healer." - Kris Carr   "I couldn't hold [grief] in any longer and expect to be whole." - Kris Carr   "We don't want to feel [grief]. We don't want to go into the negative emotion zone. If emotions are on that spectrum of love to fear, we don't want to go on that side of the spectrum at all. And grief is sitting right there glaring at all of us." - Michelle Chalfant    "None of us are going to get out this life scratch free and stain resistant." - Kris Carr   "I want to welcome all the parts of me and all the emotions to the table." - Kris Carr   "I don't think the [stages of grief] were ever intended to be linear." - Kris Carr   "There's nothing you can do to make my pain go away. So, it's not your responsibility to fix it. It's your responsibility to be present." - Kris Carr   "There's nothing anybody can say or do to make the grief go away...but showing up with presence is one the best things we can do...As a human being, to feel witnessed is such a healing experience for us." - Michelle Chalfant   "Not only are [our emotions] information, but they're energy. [Crying] is just letting that energy out." - Kris Carr   "While you have the chance to be alive, how can you live as fully as possible, even though you've experienced enormous heartache?" - Kris Carr   LINKS & RESOURCES   Kris Carr Website https://kriscarr.com/   "I'm Not a Mourning Person" (Kris Carr Book) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401970060    FREE DOWNLOAD: 5 Healthy Relationship Myths https://theadultchair.com/myths    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

You’re here today, doing the work, living from your Adult Chair, becoming who you want to become.    It feels really good. But as we live and grow and transform, it can sometimes bring up negative feelings about our past.   Whether we made mistakes, missed opportunities, were hurt by someone or experienced a life-altering loss, every one of us has something about our past we wish we could change.   Regret can cut deep – into our very souls – and bring a lot of pain, shame and blame with it.    But whenever we live in regret, it causes us to miss another opportunity: the chance to make the most of the moment we have right now.  In this show, I’m giving you three common reasons we get stuck in the past and six ways to make peace with your past and start living in the present moment.  You will gain a new perspective on your past and learn to reframe it so you can rewire your brain to live without regret. Listen to discover: 3 reasons we get stuck in the past (and what to do about them) Why living in present reality is so much better than past reality How to reframe how you think about your past 6 ways to make peace with your past Remember, today will soon become your past. Will you look back and wish you hadn’t spent it stuck in regret? Or will you make the most of the moment and use the power you have right now to be who you want to be today?   The present moment is such a powerful reality to live in.   It's here that we find peace and joy. It’s here that we have the ability to make this moment one we won't regret.   “The decision that we made in that moment, I don’t care how old you were…the person that we were in that moment, we were showing up the very, very best that we could.” - Michelle Chalfant   “97% of the time, our assumptions are incorrect.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Things that happened in our past, no matter if it’s a death or someone has done something to us or we made mistakes, it can be difficult to move on, but it’s possible.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When we live in the moment, it’s a much different reality. It’s almost as if the world opens up.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Living in the past is like having an anchor tied around our waist trying to move forward.” - Michelle Chalfant    “What I’m giving you today are ways to move you forward into the moment.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we don’t feel our emotions around something, guess what? It keeps us stuck.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we block our emotions, we’re blocking ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Forgiveness releases the hold that the past has on you.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we get in the habit of going back and beating up on ourselves or being mad about someone else…what we do is we form these neural pathways, and they are not healthy. It’s like we set the roadmap in our brains to go back and beat up on self.” - Michelle Chalfant    LINKS & RESOURCES   Podcast #381: Summer Series: How To Get Rid of Negative Emotions https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/381/    A Guided Meditation for Cleansing Relationships and Cutting Cords https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/a-guided-meditation-for-cleansing-relationships-and-cutting-cords/   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Codependency is one of those issues that can often come across as selfless to those around us...in fact, it might even earn us praise because we seem so nice and helpful (although at our own expense).    But what if I told you that codependency was actually a form of control? This episode today was inspired by a very insightful question from one of our listeners who shared his realization that in his codependency, he was being unintentionally manipulative and controlling. He was showing up as the ever-helpful husband, but he was often doing this from a place of trying to get his own needs met (earning his wife’s love, support, etc.). Of course, this was not conscious, and once he had his awakening, he wanted to know how to move forward and learn how to be genuinely helpful and healthy.    Codependency is one of my favorite topics to talk about, and in this episode, I’m giving you five simple steps for what to do next when you find yourself asking, “I’m codependent. Now what?”   Listen to discover: How we improve our relationships with others when we’re codependent Why this is different than intentional or abusive control Five steps to break the pattern of codependency  Why realizing you’re codependent isn’t a bad thing If this is you, the first step is to drop the blame and shame. You weren’t trying to be manipulative; you were trying to survive based on what your programming told you to do. Once you realize this, you can step into a whole new chapter in your life...one filled with healthier relationships and a healthier connection to self!   “We’re controlling and being manipulative from an unconscious place.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We betray ourselves and change who we are in order to make sure other people outside of us are happy and peaceful. That’s how it’s manipulative and controlling.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We need someone who can fact check us.” - Michelle Chalfant   “That’s why so many codependents are so exhausted, because our energy is going out to others all day, every day.” - Michelle Chalfant   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Grief, anger, sadness, fear…YUCK! I don’t know anyone who likes to feel these emotions.    I get emails from you guys all the time asking how to get rid of “negative” emotions like these.   But are these emotions really negative? Or do they serve a purpose in our lives?   While some emotions might feel more unpleasant than others, I personally don’t believe any emotion is negative. All emotions are part of the human experience and carry information for us.   However, they can create negative experiences in life when we get stuck in them.   The problem isn’t the emotions; it’s that we don’t know what to do with them!   In this show, I’m teaching you how to work through the full range of emotions you were designed to experience as a human and how to get unstuck if you find yourself lost in anger, grief or fear.   You’ll discover practical steps for feeling your emotions in a way that allows them to move through you, no matter how you saw emotions modeled growing up.   Listen to discover: Why “negative” emotions serve a purpose in life The messages we receive about emotions as children What causes emotions to get stuck Practical steps to feel emotions and move them through you Emotions are simply energy that moves through our body and creates sensation. And on the spectrum of emotions from love to fear, some feel better than others…but because they are energy, they can ALL move through us (and move through us quickly).   Problems arise when emotions come up that we don’t want to feel. We avoid them and shut them down, which makes us more likely to get stuck in these “negative” experiences.    That's why we have to start going INTO our emotions, no matter how uncomfortable it might feel. When you do this, you’ll be surprised how quickly they move through you...and what powerful insights they might hold for you.   ​​“We’re human, and humans were created to have emotions. We were created to have a range of emotions.” - Michelle Chalfant   “There’s an energy to emotions that rises up and passes through us.” - Michelle Chalfant   “I don’t even like to call emotions on the fear end of the spectrum ‘negative.’” - Michelle Chalfant   “Anger propels us forward.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Energy is always in motion, and emotions are energy.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Something that keeps emotions stuck is a story.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Just let it go and be present with whatever is coming up.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When you put pen to paper, you’re tapping into your unconscious world.” - Michelle Chalfant   “There’s power when someone is witnessing what’s going on in our inner world.” - Michelle Chalfant   “If you feel the energy of peace, it's neutral.” - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES    Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/adult50   Use code ADULT50 for 50% off + free shipping   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Our society today is facing an epidemic of anxiety. Despite technology that promises to make our lives faster and easier, it seems that we’re more anxious than ever. In 2020, Google searches for “anxiety” reached an all-time high.   We have to look beyond the diagnosis of anxiety and seek to find the root cause of why so many people are living with such high stress and dysregulation that are creating anxiety. There is something bigger going on here.   And since we’re whole humans, we need to look at the whole picture – mind, body and spirit – when thinking about how we heal and manage anxiety.   My guest on this show, Dr. Ellen Vora, is a psychiatrist who takes a functional medicine approach to anxiety, looking at mental health factors and physical health factors, such as sleep, digestion and blood sugar, that can add up to throw us out of balance and contribute to feelings of anxiety.   She also helps us to distinguish between feelings of anxiety that come from a physical imbalance vs. true anxiety, which comes from our inner compass telling us something truly isn’t ok.   Listen to discover: What's causing our current epidemic of anxiety The connection between sleep and anxiety   Why blood sugar imbalances can cause "false anxiety" The difference between true anxiety and false anxiety  The many reasons for cell phone-induced anxiety  Spirituality and anxiety management  A psychiatrist’s honest opinion about psychedelics, medications and anxiety  We need to start taking a “layered” approach to treating and managing anxiety by looking at the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual elements of our lives and how they work together to create stress or health. This hopeful approach to anxiety empowers us all to make choices that support our well-being, even in the face of real personal and mental health challenges.    "I was sort of taking the temperature of our society, and the temperature right now is anxiety." - Dr. Ellen Vora   "False anxiety is anxiety that is not our true essence." - Dr. Ellen Vora   "It's not just one thing that we have to look at." - Michelle Chalfant   "Genes plays a role, but that keeps a lot of us feeling stuck and feeling destined to be anxious....it's more dynamic than we appreciate." - Dr. Ellen Vora   "Our problems, our stressors are still valid. It's just that if we had a snack and our blood sugar was more stable in that moment, we would be more resilient in the face of our stressors." - Dr. Ellen Vora   "Our mind is the consummate meaning maker." - Dr. Ellen Vora   “It’s not like we have to dramatically change everything that we do, but we just want to make informed choices.” - Dr. Ellen Vora   “We don’t get to gluten free or decaf coffee our way out of our true anxiety.” - Dr. Ellen Vora   “I would have my clients sit in their bodies and feel what was going on, and their physical symptoms would start to change.” - Michelle Chalfant   “[Anxiety] is the physical manifestation of unfelt emotions.” - Michelle Chalfant    “It’s our body that’s able to listen and really dial in and tap into a deeper knowing.” - Dr. Ellen Vora   “It’s turning toward the anxiety instead of turning away from.” - Michelle Chalfant    “We reach outside of ourselves to ‘fix us’…and it doesn’t end it. We’ve gotta get to the root.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We need to change our narrative of what is materially possible.” - Dr. Ellen Vora    “We’re never stuck. We are never broken.” - Dr. Ellen Vora   LINKS & RESOURCES    Dr. Ellen Vora Website https://ellenvora.com/   Dr. Ellen Vora Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ellenvoramd/    "The Anatomy of Anxiety" (Dr. Ellen Vora book) https://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Anxiety-Understanding-Overcoming-Response/dp/0063075091    The Self-Worth Meditation Bundle https://theadultchair.com/worthy    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Dr. Ken Adams discusses enmeshment, codependency, and boundaries, highlighting the challenges of setting healthy boundaries in relationships. Topics include the difference between codependency and enmeshment, managing guilt, and tips for enmeshed parents wanting to change. The episode offers insightful advice on navigating familial relationships and fostering independence.

Rejection is one of the greatest fears we have as humans. Even simple rejections like not making the team or being chosen for a job – things we know aren’t personal – still sting deeply. Why does rejection seem to hit at the core of who we are?   Susan Anderson began asking this question when she went through a personal experience of abandonment. The love of her life left her suddenly for another woman, and although she was a practicing psychotherapist with immense knowledge of the human mind, she still found herself in emotional crisis and doubting herself and her worthiness.    As she dug more into this topic, she discovered that we as humans have a primal abandonment wound – a universal experience that begins when we are born and go from deep union and connection with our mother to a feeling of being separate. This creates deep shame and causes us to search for belonging and worthiness throughout our lives.   And this is why rejection hurts so much: it triggers this deep fear that we might not belong and we might not be worthy.    In this fascinating and important episode, Susan shares her discoveries on the topic of abandonment, why we experience it the ways we do and how a whole host of other issues in our lives can stem from this wound. We discussed why healing abandonment trauma looks different from healing other traumas, the five stages of healing and the tools (all of which are part of The Adult Chair® model) that can heal it.   Listen to discover: The hidden shame we all have and the root of it The different defenses we put up against shame How to raise our awareness to our abandonment wounds Why healing from abandonment looks different from other forms of trauma healing Steps to healing abandonment wounding How working with abandonment wounding can help with people pleasing, codependency and self-sabotage  5 stages of processing abandonment hurt  The primal wound of abandonment is also an opportunity for primal healing. When we learn to love and accept ourselves as worthy and recognize how deeply connected we truly are, we not only heal our abandonment wound, but we can change almost anything in our lives. "The loneliness is sort of a secondary feeling. The primary is the primal fear and the shame of maybe never being worthy of keeping someone." - Susan Anderson   "The personality itself is a defense against the shame." - Susan Anderson   "When we look at a relationship that ends, it is a retraumatization of what we experienced as a child." - Michelle Chalfant   "The history that leads to a strong reaction in adulthood to abandonment could be very subtle." - Susan Anderson   "You have to take this step, and you go through it...The pain is there, but you go through it, and you get to the other side." - Michelle Chalfant   "Your adult self can now develop an intense, loving, reassuring relationship with your inner child."  - Susan Anderson   "It turns this awful emotional crisis that's so painful into an opportunity for something that's probably long overdue, which is self-love." - Susan Anderson   "Doing these steps, you will become an even better, stronger, more self-loving person on the other side of it...even stronger than you were prior to this abandonment wound." - Michelle Chalfant   "The kind of self-love that we're developing is deeper, more mature self-love...the kind of love you give yourself because you respect yourself so much." - Susan Anderson   "We have to stop looking outside of self and turn our attention inward. That's where healing, that's where love, that's where hope, that's where peace, that's where all the things are that we're looking for outside of ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant   "When the adult gets strong and is in command, it limits all of this self-sabotage." - Susan Anderson   LINKS & RESOURCES    Susan Anderson Website  https://www.abandonment.net/  https://abandonmentrecovery.com    "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing" (Susan Anderson book) https://www.amazon.com/Journey-Abandonment-Healing-Surviving-Recovering/dp/0425273539   Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/adult50 Use code ADULT50 for 50% off + free shipping   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com     The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification   STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

In my 25 years of private practice, the #1 issue I worked on with clients was feeling their emotions.  Whether someone was anxious, reactive and raging or numb to the world, the question they were all asking was, “What the heck do I do with these emotions?” I’ve been there too. And it breaks my heart, because experiencing emotions is one of the gifts of being human.  But the good news is that all of us can reclaim this part of ourselves and learn to feel our emotions. And when we do, it unlocks all kinds of possibilities in life!  In this episode, I’m breaking down why it’s so important that we learn to feel our emotions and some practical ways to do that. I’m also addressing some of the common fears and discomfort around feeling emotions (like, “What if I get stuck in this emotion?”) and helping you understand why this is your birthright – and how it can improve your relationships, your intuition and your life!  Listen to discover: Why it's so important to feel your emotions Why most humans struggle with this Four practical ways to feel your emotions  How to connect with your inner child How to overcome blocks in feeling emotions No one is born without emotions, but along the way, we learn to suppress them – and in turn, disconnect from who we really are.  Feeling emotions is the key to connecting back to yourself and one of the foundational pillars of being a healthy adult. I hope this episode helps guide you back to this essential part of you. "We'd have a completely different world if we were all able to tune into what our emotions are." - Michelle Chalfant "We become whole humans when we feel our emotions." - Michelle Chalfant "We're all born to feel emotions." - Michelle Chalfant "When we feel our emotions, it is a gateway into our intuition. We have enhanced intuition when we are in tune with and know what we are feeling emotionally." - Michelle Chalfant "Instead of asking yourself, 'What do I think?" ask yourself, "What do I feel?'" - Michelle Chalfant "Empathy is when we're able to tune into another person and feel what they're feeling. It's a beautiful skill to have." - Michelle Chalfant "Connecting with the inner child is simply activating an energy." - Michelle Chalfant "There's so much power in feeling our emotions." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES  Free Inner Child Resource https://theadultchair.com/innerchild MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com   The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/  The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

You landed the dream gig, got the promotion, submitted your book for publishing, had an amazing first date. So, why do you feel so insecure, unsure and even unworthy? Hello, imposter syndrome! Imposter syndrome, or feeling like a fraud, is something that everyone struggles with from time to time — yep, even those super successful people you look up to. It’s that feeling that you don’t really deserve the recognition or opportunities you’ve earned or you worry you’re not really good enough for them. It often sounds like, “If they only knew…” Imposter syndrome can pop up when something good happens in our life or it can hold us back from ever going after our dreams.  In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly what imposter syndrome is, where it comes from and the concrete steps you can take to work through it and overcome it! Listen to discover: What imposter syndrome is Where it comes from Practical steps to stop feeling like a fraud or an imposter Feeling like a fraud is part of the human experience. But because this feeling causes us shame, we hide it and then end up thinking we’re the only ones. It’s time we talk about it openly — and talk about what you can do so it doesn’t hold you back any longer! I hope the steps in this episode are steps you can turn to anytime you feel imposter syndrome creep up.  "If you feel this way, don't feel like you're the only one." - Michelle Chalfant   "It's the feeling that you're a fraud, that you don't deserve compliments, praise or success that you rightfully earned." - Michelle Chalfant   "When we have imposter syndrome, we feel like our success happened by chance or by luck." - Michelle Chalfant   "It's like we're carrying around this big, dark secret that we want no one to know about." - Michelle Chalfant   "It's critical to have self-worth. This is one of the ways that we work ourselves out of feeling like a fraud or an imposter."  - Michelle Chalfant   "When we can become witness to it, we give ourselves another perspective." - Michelle Chalfant   "Don't let your rouge thoughts run your life." - Michelle Chalfant   "When we change our thoughts into positive, conscious thoughts about who we are, it feels better." - Michelle Chalfant   "What we're not great at doing is accepting and owning our accomplishments." - Michelle Chalfant   "These are your accomplishments. They're yours. Claim them. Be proud of them." - Michelle Chalfant   "Self-worth is key to changing your mindset about being a fraud." - Michelle Chalfant   "Self-worth is all about value." - Michelle Chalfant   "Imposter syndrome is much more common than you would think." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES    Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/adult60   Use code ADULT60 for 60% off + free shipping   The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com     The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification   STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ \   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant