The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

‘Tis the season…for triggers!   At the holidays, stress, drinking, spending money and spending time with others all increase. And with that, comes a decrease in patience, sleep, time for self and all the things that make us more resilient to stress.   Add in the fact that we tend to be around people we aren’t normally around for longer periods of time, and it’s a landmine for triggers.    But as you know, I love triggers because they are such a powerful opportunity to look at and work on our limiting beliefs.    So, I invite you to view this year’s triggers as a holiday gift…a chance to not only learn about yourself but eradicate triggers for good.   Don’t worry: I’m not sending you out there without a plan. I’m giving you 10 steps to work with a trigger so you can be prepared for whatever comes your way this holiday season.    The first four steps will help you regulate your nervous system, calm down and come back into balance when triggered. These are a lifesaver if you’re at a gathering where you need to keep your cool until you can work on the trigger!   Then the last six steps will teach you exactly how to work with your triggers so you can heal the limiting beliefs beneath them, get unstuck and get triggered a whole lot less in the future.   Listen to discover: Why the holidays are a prime time for triggers What a trigger is and where they come from  Why triggers are an amazing opportunity to work with limiting beliefs The difference between a trigger and a true emotion 10 steps to work with a trigger Sure, maybe triggers are like finding a pair of socks wrapped up under the tree – not what you wanted, but what you needed. They’re still a gift!  I hope you discover so much about yourself this holiday season and transform those triggers so you can live with more peace all year long!  “That is what a trigger is: it is a belief that I have about myself.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Triggers are a way to help us to find and identify limiting beliefs that we have about ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant    "A trigger is something that we carry with us…When you can move on from something, it's not a trigger.” - Michelle Chalfant    “More than likely, most of these beliefs – crazy enough – are from the age of zero to six. And Carl Jung says the average age is actually three, where these beliefs have been planted into the unconscious mind.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Your breath is your savior because it will help you to stay present. It helps to keep you slow. It helps to rebalance the nervous system.” - Michelle Chalfant   “The way out of our pain, the way out of our triggers is to go through.” - Michelle Chalfant   “​​Energy does not stay constant, my friends. So, if you allow it to do whatever it needs to do, it will start to move through you.” - Michelle Chalfant   “You will find [with] this tool [that] you're gonna be able to use it not just at the holidays but the rest of your life. It is empowering.” - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES Join The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Waitlist - Doors Open December 1!  https://theadultchair.com/certification   Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

The holidays are a time where it feels like everything is a bit magnified: there is so much joy and brightness in the world but also space for sadness, loneliness and grief to be amplified.   It’s a touchy time of year where whatever we’re feeling gets underscored by parties, gatherings and traditions.   But the holidays don’t create these feelings. In fact, according to my guest on the podcast today, WE don’t even create most of these feelings. Rather, we pick them up from our parents and the world around us, and the key to overcoming loneliness and sadness is to understand where it all began.   In this episode, I’m bringing back one of my favorite people, Dr. Dain Heer, to talk about loneliness, how to identify what is ours and what is not, how to clear what’s not ours, how to get out of victim and so many more important, empowering topics!    Dr. Dain also shares tools and techniques you can use immediately to start clearing negative emotions – one of the reasons I love his work so much!  Listen to discover: What loneliness is and where it comes from Why 98% of our thoughts and feeling aren’t actually ours – and where they come from How to get out of negative emotions What to do if you’re experiencing loneliness in life The true root of victimhood The “clearing statement” for fast transformation Dr. Dain’s work with Access Consciousness is all about realizing the power you have within you to change. When you’re able to get rid of what is not yours, it gives you the space and energy to work on what IS yours and create your life instead of falling victim to it. I hope the tools in this episode help you find your inner power, no matter what you’re feeling this holiday season – or any time of the year!    “Your point of view creates your reality. Your reality doesn’t create your point of view.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “It’s as simple as redirecting that energy out of your energy field.” - Michelle Chalfant   “It starts to undo the foundation of limitation.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “We don’t have to be limited by the world around us.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “When we open the door for possibilities, it makes that available to everybody else on the planet.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “People who do victim have learned it.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “Victims are actually victimizing others and controlling them with their victimhood.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “If we can just sit in someone else’s energy field that’s healthy, we become more like them.” - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES    Dr. Dain Heer Website https://drdainheer.com/    Dr. Dain Heer YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/drdainheer    Dr. Dain Heer Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DrDainHeer    Dr. Dain Heer Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dainheer/    Who Does This Belong To App https://www.accessconsciousness.com/en/shop-catalog/apps/who-does-this-belong-to-app/    The Clearing Statement https://theclearingstatement.com/    “Body Whispering” (Dr. Dain Heer Book) https://www.amazon.com/Body-Whispering-Dr-Heer/dp/1634934873    Join The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Waitlist - Doors Open December 1!  https://theadultchair.com/certification   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Theresa Steighner, a therapist specializing in self-care and regulating the nervous system, shares the importance of true self-care and the four pillars of self-care. She discusses 5 quick ways to regulate the nervous system, including nature walks, daily journaling, mindful therapeutic yoga, yoga and breathing techniques, and tapping for nervous system regulation.

Discover six practical tools to get unstuck and change your life. Learn about the power of acceptance, manifesting your future reality, and the impact of complaining. Explore the transformative practice of gratitude and the power of journaling for moving energy. Realize that small choices made consistently can lead to profound life changes.

We all have a “true self” – the essence of who we were before the world told us who to be.    We’re born with this essence, but over time, we start reacting to the world around us and create a false self out of our wounds, our experiences and our attempts to get our needs met.    The false self isn’t bad, but it isn’t who we really are – and a lot of the challenges we experience in life, like anxiety and depression, come from living out of alignment with our true self.   Any sort of healing work must begin with cracking open the false self and discovering who we really are.   This all might sound very philosophical, but the good news is that accessing our true selves is shockingly practical.    By using simple tools that we all have access to, we can begin to reconnect with who we really are and live with the peace, balance, happiness and fulfillment that comes from showing up authentically in the world.   In this episode, I’m giving you five simple ways to start living more from your true self. These are all tools that are totally free and available right now, wherever you are!    Listen to discover: What we mean when we talk about the “true self” Why we develop a “false self” 5 ways to connect with and live from your true self How to feel your emotions Practical self-care ideas How journaling can help you tap into a deeper part of self This is a process, but make sure you’re taking time to notice even the little wins. As you experiment with these tools, really sit with that wonderful feeling of rediscovering a tiny piece of yourself. Start paying attention and validating yourself for who you really are.   Over time, I think you're going to be really surprised (in a lovely way) when you begin to not only rediscover aspects of your true self, but also start claiming those aspects and living from that place more each day.   “Some of us have a much thicker layer of the false self, and some of us have a thinner layer of the false self. The good news is [that] anyone can learn how to penetrate that false self and rediscover and live from their true self.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Getting in touch with our emotions is such a magical thing.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We have a lot more emotions than happy, sad, mad, ashamed and glad.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When we put ourselves first and practice what we need as far as taking care of ourselves, it's really, really healthy.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Self-care is tuning in and asking, ‘What do I need right now in order to make myself feel more comfortable, safe, relaxed and de-stressed?’” - Michelle Chalfant   “Self-care activities will promote and help with self-love and self-worth.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Breathwork takes you deeper into yourself. It can truly crack you open and help you to get in touch with some emotions that have been trapped or stuck.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Journaling takes you on a journey to the depths of your soul.” - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES   Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge  https://theadultchair.com/30days    Share the Love - Review The Adult Chair® Podcast  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Everyone seems to have an opinion about psychedelics these days.   Doctors and therapists see them as potential treatments for things like anxiety, depression and PTSD. Spiritual communities believe they open us up to the divine. Politicians debate whether they should be legal or illegal.    I have to admit that when I first heard people talking about them, I was scared.   I’m not a big fan of substance use of any kind, and the idea of a “drug” becoming mainstream concerned me.   But when some respected psychologists and colleagues of mine started talking about the healing power of psychedelics — people who were far from the 1960s “Summer of Love” stereotype — I knew the topic at least deserved my honest research.   As I dug deeper into the science behind psychedelics and understood how they worked in the mind, I began to realize they weren’t about escaping but about going deeper into oneself by quieting the ego and opening the door to new parts of our consciousness.    But, I wanted to make sure my opinion was backed up by accurate, science-based, factual research. And there are few people who I’ve found better informed on this topic than Matt Zemon.   Matt was once a fellow skeptic like me who also became convinced through research and experience that psychedelics can play a positive role in therapeutic and medical settings.   He is one of the most grounded, scientific voices I’ve heard on this topic — perfect for anyone who simply wants to learn more and see what you think for yourself — and I am thrilled to have him share his wealth of knowledge in this episode.   Listen to discover: Matt’s story of opening his mind to psychedelics – and how they changed his life Safety considerations for psychedelic use  Whether or not psychedelics are addictive (and how they can help treat addiction) The different types of psychedelics and how they work in the mind How and why psychedelics can help us change our thought patterns The importance of therapeutic integration after a psychedelic experience Resources for doing your own research and safe psychedelic use The choice to have a psychedelic experience is very personal, and I would never tell someone they should or should not try a powerful substance like these.    But I do think we should all do our due diligence to research new breakthroughs in healing with an open mind — which I hope this episode helps you do.    Because whether you get there through a psychedelic or not, allowing yourself to see new perspectives and change your mind is how you grow as a human…and that’s always a path worth pursuing.   "In that first six- or seven-hour [psychedelic] journey, the entire way I look and interact with the world shifted." - Matt Zemon   "Physically, these substances are relatively safe." - Matt Zemon   "Not all psychedelics are the same, and you don't want to be on certain medications and taking a psychedelic." - Matt Zemon   "The psychedelic process can help us remember a way that we used to think, maybe before we had adopted those behaviors...and from that rememberance, we can then start to take the steps to change our life." - Matt Zemon   "It's not so much that [psychedelics are] a cure...they're really catalysts for change." - Matt Zemon   "It's not a magic pill. None of them are a magic pill." - Michelle Chalfant   "I felt like I was sitting with God each and every time. It was the most beautiful thing I've ever done." - Michelle Chalfant   "The most important thing was the integration. What do you do after you've had this experience and then how do you integrate that into your life?" - Michelle Chalfant   "In the psychedelic experience, a few things are going to happen. Your default mode network...is going to quiet down...Neurons fire together that haven't fired together in a long time...In this process, it's common that you will then feel connected to all things and all people. You'll feel loved. You'll feel enough. And that is, in my opinion, the reclaiming of your true self." - Matt Zemon   "When you know you're enough and you know you're loved, you're starting to take away the masks you've put on and have been put on you." - Matt Zemon   LINKS & RESOURCES   Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge  https://theadultchair.com/30days    Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   Matt Zemon Website https://mattzemon.com/   "Psychedelics for Everyone" (Matt Zemon Book) https://www.amazon.com/Psychedelics-Everyone-Beginners-Depression-Consciousness/dp/B0BCS7NM9H    Matt Zemon Instagram https://www.instagram.com/matt.zemon/    "How to Change Your Mind" Book https://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Mind-Consciousness-Transcendence/dp/0735224153    Spirit Pharmacist Psychedelic Consultations/Education https://www.spiritpharmacist.com/    "A Really Good Day" Book https://www.amazon.com/Really-Good-Day-Microdosing-Difference-ebook/dp/B01FPH0IUO/    Safe Drug Testing https://drugsdata.org/  https://dancesafe.org/    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Triggers are a gift.   Yes, you heard that right (and if you’ve been here for a while, you’ve heard me say it before) – I LOVE being triggered!    That’s not to say it’s fun being triggered, but working with triggers has led to some of the most transformational moments of my life.    See, triggers reveal unknown, unconscious beliefs we hold about ourselves – limiting beliefs that cause us pain and hold back in life.    When these beliefs rise to the surface in the form of a trigger, we get the beautiful opportunity to work with them and transform them…not only healing the trigger but helping us get unstuck and change our lives.   One of my Adult Chair® Coaches, Angela, recently had an experience working with a trigger that was so transformational that even she has jumped on the “triggers are a gift” bandwagon.   A tiff with her husband led to a HUGE moment of self-discovery and deeper connection in their relationship, thanks to the trigger tools Angela learned through The Adult Chair®.   I was so proud of the work she did that I invited her to come on the show and share exactly how she took ownership of the trigger (instead of blaming her husband) and then worked with the trigger to discover and heal the surprising belief underneath it — one she would have never recognized without the trigger    Listen to discover: How Angela used The Adult Chair (TAC) to work through a trigger and repair a relationship The surprising root of Angela's trigger that she was able to uncover How TAC has completely changed the way Angela responds when triggered Why triggers are the gateway to freedom How triggers work through the lens of the Child, Adolescent and Adult Chairs Steps for working through a trigger Why doing our work and healing can make us less vulnerable to triggers When we work on our triggers, it is true freedom.    We not only heal the limiting beliefs that hold us back but also find that we get triggered less with time.    This is one of my favorite conversations because it shows this work in action and breaks it down for you in a powerful way. You will discover exactly how triggers work through the lens of The Adult Chair, how to stay regulated and grounded next time you’re triggered and steps to work through and heal your triggers for good.   “When we work with ourselves and work on our own healing of our old wounds…it affects so many people around us.” - Michelle Chalfant    "Like you said, triggers are a gift. You say it. I don't want it to be true. But I'm learning that it is." - Angela Johnson   "[Triggers] are a gift...You will learn something about a part of you that's been buried for a very long time. And it is an opportunity to look at that and actually transform and bring that part into the light, and then it doesn't trigger you anymore." - Michelle Chalfant   "What we don't understand about this work sometimes, because it feels scary, is that on the other side of it is freedom." - Angela Johnson   "I've lived in that space of letting [triggers] disrupt my life and relationships for long enough that I just don't want to live that way anymore." - Angela Johnson   "When we're in our Adult Chair...we remember that life is a choice, and everything in life is a choice. And we get to choose, "Do I want to stay in victim seat?" or, "Do I want to reach over and be in my empowerment seat?'" - Michelle Chalfant   "Our perspective when we're triggered shrinks way down...what we want to do is broaden your perspective, and then you have all these different choices and options." - Michelle Chalfant   "In the Adult, we live in the moment. We don't drag things from the past into the moment." - Michelle Chalfant   "Freedom is not a quick little pill. It does take a little bit of work. But it's long lasting. This is not a band-aid approach." - Michelle Chalfant   "You don't get activated the same way after you do that work. That's the miracle." - Angela Johnson   LINKS & RESOURCES   Angela Johnson Website https://openhandscoaching.com/   Use code TRIGGER for $25 off a session   Find an Adult Chair® Coach  https://theadultchair.com/coaches/    Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge  https://theadultchair.com/30days    Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Do you ever wonder why you do what you do…and if it’s just you who does it?   Your gifts, your life’s mission, how much energy you have, what you need in relationships, how you view money – these are all unique to you.    And according to Human Design, you are the way you are for a special reason.   Unlike personality typing systems based on mental or behavioral patterns, Human Design is a system based on energy and what was going on in the universe when you were born. Though there are five main “types” within Human Design, it’s a very dynamic system that will help you understand what makes you you and what you need to thrive.   I’ve been hearing tons of buzz about Human Design recently, and in this episode, I talk with Human Design coach (and overall delightful human), Emma Dunwoody, about what Human Design is and how it can help us better embrace our true selves.   Not only does Emma answer all my questions about Human Design, but she also helped me decode my chart, and let me tell you – I felt so seen, validated and free to be myself once I understood I’m exactly who I’m meant to be (and you are too!).   Listen to discover: What Human Design is  The difference between Human Design and other personality systems  How Human Design can change your life How to decode your own Human Design chart  The five Human Design types  What "functional burnout" is  How Human Design can help us in dating and relationships  What Human Design teaches us about money As you know from The Adult Chair®, we are all a kaleidoscope of parts, talents and experiences.    Human Design is a fun, insightful tool to help us understand a little bit more about who we are — not to put us in a box but to give us permission to embrace and be our true selves.   Because all those things that only you do? They make you uniquely lovable YOU, and the world wouldn’t be the same without you.    "With Human Design, we don't go via the mind. We actually go via the energy…It gives us this energetic blueprint. I love to think of it as a treasure map to our authenticity." - Emma Dunwoody   "You don't go into future with this at all. It really is just about who I am today." - Michelle Chalfant   "So many people spend all this time trying to change themselves...With Human Design, it ultimately gives you a permission slip to be you." - Emma Dunwoody   "We think we need to become who other people tell us that we should become...but with Human Design, you really help people to touch their true self." - Michelle Chalfant   "Human Design teaches us that there are actually two different types of burnout...but what we don't talk about is this 'functional burnout.'" - Emma Dunwoody   "There's so many ways that Human Design can really amplify and improve relationships." - Emma Dunwoody   "Actually, what money is all about is being in alignment to your authenticity…When we are free to be ourselves, then we can't help but make money." - Emma Dunwoody   "Our profile really helps us understand how we do life, what people want from us, how we learn." - Emma Dunwoody   "Human Design is basically the science of being unique." - Emma Dunwoody   LINKS & RESOURCES   Emma Dunwoody Website (Get a Free Human Design Chart) https://www.emmadunwoody.com/    "The Human Design Podcast" (Emma Dunwoody Podcast) https://www.emmadunwoody.com/the-human-design-podcast    Emma Dunwoody Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_human_design_coach/   Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

When we think of trust in a relationship, most of us think of broken trust and big betrayals – things like infidelity, addiction and secrets.   But true trust is about the small actions that we take every day. Trust isn’t something we have by default unless it’s broken; it's something we have to build.   With every interaction, we’re either building or whittling away trust – and sometimes the things that break trust are so subtle, we don’t even know we’re doing them!    In this episode, I’m giving you six ways to build trust so you can grow your relationship with your partner. These are small, simple actions, but they require awareness, intention and being in your Adult Chair to do consistently.    If you want a long-lasting, deeper connection with your partner, this episode is a must listen!    Listen to discover: What trust in a relationship is and why it's so important  How trust deepens the bond in a committed relationship  6 steps to build trust today The importance of being true to your word How to own and apologize for mistakes and move forward  How to show up with presence and prioritize your relationship  Without trust, we can’t have healthy, connected relationships. Trust is an energetic bond that creates safety and allows us to open up, be vulnerable and grow together.    The good news is that it’s not about perfection. All of us – including myself – don’t get these right all the time.   What’s important is what we do when we mess up.    Honesty, presence and the ability to own our mistakes are the ways we as imperfect humans create deep bonds with other imperfect humans and the key to getting the love you want – not the perfect fairy tale, but a beautiful journey of learning and growing together.    “Trust is one of the essential components to a healthy, committed relationship.” - Michelle Chalfant   “If we’re going to speak something and promise something to our partner, we want to make sure that we are able to line up behind what we’re saying.” - Michelle Chalfant    “If you are going to speak something into existence, you have to speak it with your full energy and with you behind it…Your actions need to match your words.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Owning it does not mean that you’re a bad person. You’re a human person, and mistakes are gonna happen.” - Michelle Chalfant   “If you want to build trust and you’re in a committed relationship, apologizing is powerful. It helps to build a connection.” - Michelle Chalfant   "When we have important people in our lives, we need to put the phone down, not look at the television, not get distracted by the dog or the cat or the animal in your house. We want to make sure that we're prioritizing our person and giving them our full attention." - Michelle Chalfant   “We need to give our person eye contact when we’re listening. Because then they’re going to feel seen and they’re gonna feel heard, they feel important.”  - Michelle Chalfant   "You can't put the relationship on the back burner and your person on the back burner and expect [the relationship] to grow and flourish." - Michelle Chalfant    "If you've got friends that are...acting in a way that's disrespectful to your partner, it's your job to defend your partner." - Michelle Chalfant    "Even if the truth hurts, it's better than lying." - Michelle Chalfant   "It feels so good to know that your person has you and you've got them. That's that bond of trust. Trust is like this energetic bond that we form with our partner." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES   DOORS OPEN: “The Relationship Reset” Course https://resources.michellechalfant.com/relationships/   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

For millennia, cultures around the globe have known that there’s more to us than meets the eye and that our family trees really are a map to ourselves — an energetic portrait of our lives.   Today, epigenetics has proven that what our ancestors experienced can imprint on our genes and impact our lives today in unexpected ways.    That depression, anxiety, stress or limiting belief? It might be from long ago.   And the field of psychology is finally catching up with this.    A new methodology I just discovered (and got the chance to try as a client) is called Family Constellation work.    In this method, we find unconscious experiences and beliefs that we’re carrying from our ancestors — including those who we never knew — and work to transform them through awareness and compassion.   On the podcast this week, I talked with my Family Constellation practitioner, Emily Blefeld, about what Family Constellation work is, how our family history affects our lives today and how we can clear blocks and dismantle generational cycles by being bold and brave enough to look at what happened before we were even here.   It’s not that different from what we do with parts work in The Adult Chair®, except instead of working with parts of ourselves we’re working with parts of our family tree! It’s SO freaking cool!   Listen to discover: How our family history impacts our present reality The way our ancestors' patterns create patterns for us today What Family Constellation work is and how it works How to heal trauma and clear blocks through Family Constellation work Using Family Constellation work for business, non-biological relatives and more The cool thing about epigenetics is that it describes a tendency, not a fate. These experiences don’t change our DNA; they change the way our genes express themselves.   That means we get a choice in how these generational traumas will manifest in our lives.   We don’t have to agree with the beliefs and experiences of our ancestors. We can look them in the face and decide they stop with us.    And there’s no transformation more powerful than that – for ourselves and generations to come.   “We are victim to our lineage.” - Michelle Chalfant    “What’s unconscious will continue to permeate our lives until it’s made conscious.” - Emily Blefeld   “We actually carry the victims and the perpetrators in our inherited lineage.” - Emily Blefeld   “[Family Constellation work] is predominantly a therapy that looks at the system that we walk around with.” - Emily Blefeld   “Constellation work is less interested in what is causing the symptom, and they’re more interested in who is the symptom.” - Emily Blefeld   "I like to think of it as a family soul on some level." - Emily Blefeld   "There's so much more to us than meets the eye." - Michelle Chalfant   "There are so many different ways to clear our blocks. There's so many different ways to relieve anxiety, depression, feeling not good enough, our inner fraud, all of those things." - Michelle Chalfant   "You'll feel the generations behind heal and the generations following." - Emily Blefeld   "What an awesome thing to hear as a parent, your child thanking you for doing your work. Because it can stop with you." - Emily Blefeld   LINKS & RESOURCES   Emily Blefeld Website https://seeingwithyourheart.com/    FREE MASTERCLASS: How To Heal Your Relationship To Get the Love You Want https://theadultchair.com/healing     MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant