The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

Envision Only Positive Outcomes So says Tony Burroughs this week as we continue our conversation on intentionality. Tony's work is all around intentions; he's co-founder of The Intenders of the Highest Good and one of his greatest gifts to all of us is the practice of the Intender's Circles, now a global community of people joining together to envision a better world, and find greater personal alignment in it. We've put a bunch of links to Tony's work below, including his original — and inspirational — book, The Code. Check it out, and start your own Intender's Circle today! Links & Notes What you Need to Know Now: The Lee Ching Messages The Code: Use the Laws of Manifestation to Achieve Your Highest Good The Bridge The Vision Alignment Project Intenders The Intenders of the Highest Good Tony Burroughs

It's January! With the turn of the New Year come all sorts of promises we make to ourselves as we look to make change in our lives. From losing weight to desires of greater mindfulness, these resolutions are signposts that we've crossed another year off the calendar. Painful truth: Resolutions don't work! After 30 days, 75% of our resolutions have been long forgotten. In this podcast we discuss what does work, INTENTION! More than they typically fly-by-night ideas of the mind, intentions come from deep within us and they stick. Join us this week as we discuss the difference the real power of intention, kicking off a series of great conversations to come!

Want to learn how to de-stress and find balance in the holiday season or anytime throughout the year? Meditation is a wonderful practice that can do this for you. So many of us shy away from meditation as we don't know how, don't have time, etc. Pete and I have a discussion on these obstacles and others as well as the benefits and "How To's" of meditation. Included in the next podcast is a guided meditation for de-stress, anxiety and overwhelm.

When we look outside of ourselves for validation for who we are, we become dependent on others for our sense of self and happiness. When we learn to self-validate, we become internally strong in knowing who we are. We easily access our faults, with little to no effort. When asked what's good about us or what our positive strengths are, we scramble and have to stretch our minds to muster up even one positive about ourselves. In this podcast Michelle touches on projection, self esteem and the power of self validation and how it can build a solid foundation for our lives.

"If I don't learn to take care of myself, who will?" Boundaries and confrontations are two very different things. One teaches others how we want to be treated and the other is getting in someone's face to elicit change. Which one sounds better to you? In this podcast, we discuss the difference between the two and what, how and why it's important to learn how to set effective boundaries. Unfortunately, most of us weren't taught how to set boundaries so when we are faced with upsets or hurt we typically do one of the following: "suck it up" (and pretend nothing has happened), shun the person that hurt us and disown them or get angry, yell and/or rage. There is a healthier way! This episode explains how.

Need help with a relationship? Whether it be your partner, family member, or friend, this information will shift how you interact in relationships. In today's podcast we discuss ways to improve relationships using techniques from the Adult Chair model. They are simple, easy to understand, empowering, and cultivate true connection. Join us for a conversation that will not only change your troubled relationship, but transform how you interact with everyone.

We get triggered, feel painful emotions and go into "fix it mode." The answer to our triggers and pain is to find the core emotion and go into it. This is where true healing occurs. Bonding with our Inner Child is the only way to do this. In this episode, I have an excerpt from a session with "Sarah" who is learning about the chairs and how to bond with her inner child. It's the part of the session right after she discovers the feeling of "I don't matter." We work with her inner child, bond with her and she ultimately finds peace.

The concept of the Adult Chair is simple. We live in the moment, in fact and truth, set healthy boundaries, feel empowered and we become an observer of our lives (and not stuck in the drama) and make decisions for our lives. Sounds like a wonderful idea, right!? What happens when we get stuck? When we feel overwhelmed, not in our bodies, scared, can't think straight, afraid to make the wrong decision etc. How then can I bring in my adult? In today's podcast we discuss ways to do this. To find peace and regain balance in a storm.

Walking the spiritual path is not easy. It's not instant. It takes practice and dedication. These are the truths of awakening that sometimes plague those on the hunt for instant gratification. More often than not, it's less a field of wildflowers than a pile of crap! But walking the spiritual path is a journey of reward! In spite of the work and attention required, in all the years I've been working with individuals on their own journey, once I've seen people truly find their path, I've never seen them leave it. This week on The Adult Chair, Pete and I are checking in with a conversation about walking the spiritual path. I hope you find it gives you hope. Whatever you're dealing with in your life, you are never alone! We're in the middle of our own summer break, and will be back with regular episodes in September. Until then, I wish you all peace!

We are beings of energy. It's how we get up and out of bed in the morning, how we make it through our days, and how we recharge in sleep at night. Our state of being — and our ability to heal — is largely depended on the way we are able to channel and process our energy. That's why I'm so excited to have Sarah Weiss of the SpiritHeal Institute on the show with us today. With Sarah, I'd like to introduce the concept of grounding on the show, an incredibly important energy practice that can help you find your true self. We talk about our own energy, what it means to ground, the critical role of relaxation — and how the vast majority of us don't really know how to relax! This episode is a bit longer than normal. Sarah gives us the gift of a grounding meditation at about 11 minutes in. I hope, once you listen to this episode, that you'll keep it around and practice your own grounding with Sarah. As a holistic healer, I love this topic, and can have no better partner on the show today to introduce it than Sarah Weiss! About Sarah Weiss, MA, LMT Sarah Weiss, MA, LMT, founder of the SpiritHeal Institute awakens heart centered living and intuitive wisdom in her clients and students. She is a "practical mystic" and recognized teacher in the Sufi Path, the Andean Q'ero tradition and the Taoist lineage. Sarah serves as a healer, spiritual mentor, medical intuitive and retreat guide illuminating the path for those who are called to discover the light, depth and power of the heart.