The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

Today’s episode is an absolute gem, especially if you’ve ever felt that nagging feeling that something just isn’t quite right, but you can’t put your finger on it. You know, those moments when everything seems okay on the surface, but deep down, you feel uneasy?  Well, you’re not alone, and we’ve got an expert to shed some light on this! We’re thrilled to welcome Dr. Meg Arroll to the show. Dr. Arroll is a psychologist, scientist, and the brilliant author of "Tiny Traumas: When You Don’t Know What’s Wrong but Nothing Feels Quite Right." In our chat, she dives deep into the concept of "tiny traumas" — those small, often overlooked experiences that accumulate over time and can significantly impact our mental and physical health. Listen in to learn the significance of these tiny traumas and what you can do about it. In this episode, you will hear: The connection between trauma and conditions like IBS, anxiety, and depression. Examination of high-functioning anxiety and its manifestations, such as emotional blunting and sleep problems. The stigma around health issues like urinary incontinence and menopause and the importance of open conversations. Techniques for nervous system regulation and grounding to address underlying anxiety. The prevalence of imposter syndrome, especially among women and marginalized groups, and its link to microaggressions in the workplace. Emphasis on the mind-body connection and the role of psychological treatments in improving physical conditions. Resources from this Episode Dr. Meg Arroll  Drmegarroll.com   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In this episode, I sit down with Ross Rosenberg, a global thought leader in codependency, narcissism, and trauma treatment. We discuss how traditional approaches often missed the mark and led to stigmatization. Understanding the roots of these behaviors — often linked to childhood trauma — is crucial for breaking free from unhealthy relationship patterns.  Ross also introduces his innovative Human Magnet Syndrome, explaining why certain personality types are irresistibly drawn to narcissistic partners. It's a hopeful and eye-opening discussion for anyone struggling with codependency. I talk about overcoming my own codependent tendencies in my marriage, demonstrating that change is possible with mutual growth and self-love. We touch on Ross's Relationship Compatibility Theory, and by the end of the episode, you'll have a new perspective on codependency and be equipped with actionable insights for your own self-love and recovery journey! In this episode, you will hear: The concept of Self-Love Deficit Disorder and the inadequacies of traditional codependency treatments. Early misinterpretations and the role of childhood attachment trauma in developing codependent behaviors. Why certain personality types are drawn to narcissistic partners and how this impacts relationships. How to transform codependent tendencies into balanced partnerships. Tips on resolving core shame, supporting each other, and maintaining fulfilling relationships through the Relationship Compatibility Theory. The importance of understanding and addressing the deep-seated trauma that underlies codependency for effective healing. Resources from this Episode Green Chef. Greenchef.com/adult50 and use code adult50 to get 50% off, plus 20% off your next two months.  elfloverecovery.com Help@selfloverecovery.com  MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

There’s someone in your life you love, but the relationship just isn’t working.  Despite your best efforts to communicate and try to work things out, nothing is changing. This person seems totally uninterested in listening to you or working on the relationship. You’ve hit a wall, and the relationship feels stuck. This can be so maddening, frustrating, disappointing and painful! You wouldn’t be trying to make it work if you didn’t care for this person, but you can’t make them change…and you’re hurting in the meantime.  I hear from listeners all the time who find themselves in this situation, with a romantic partner, a friend, a family member or a colleague. They want to know: How do you approach this with an Adult Chair perspective…not just for the relationship, but for yourself? In this episode, I’m giving you five steps to take when you feel stuck or at an impasse with someone in your life. These are all things YOU have the power to do, no matter the other person’s response, and they will help you find new clarity, perspective and ideas for navigating this situation.  Listen to discover: A higher perspective on why relationships come and go Five steps to working through a relationship dead end or stalemate The power of acceptance and letting go How to control what you can and release what you can’t How to take care of yourself no matter what happens in the relationship  Relationships can be beautiful, hard and everything in between.  It’s ok – and even expected – that certain people will come and go throughout our lives. Perhaps you’ve learned what you’re meant to learn and it’s time to let go, or perhaps there’s something for your soul to learn by working through this difficult process together. Whether you want to keep fighting for a relationship or you know it’s time to end it, the steps in this episode will help you stay in your Adult Chair, control what you can, let go of what you can’t and take care of YOU, so you can live with peace and hope no matter what happens with the relationship.   “Have you considered that the reason that you’re with this person…is because you needed to learn, grow, transform or find something about yourself?” - Michelle Chalfant   “Acceptance and liking are two very different things.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When you’re able to accept somebody for who they are, there’s almost like a release that happens. There’s a detachment that happens.” - Michelle Chalfant   “People are not going to change until they’re ready and willing to change.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Just because the relationship needs to be shifted, it doesn’t mean it has to end.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We cannot go around our pain. We go through our pain, and we are stronger on the other side.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Emotions are meant to be experienced, felt and processed, or metabolized, through the body and the energy field. And if we don’t build a story around what we’re feeling…those emotions move through us.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Boundaries are not confrontational.” - Michelle Chalfant   “To let go is to truly detach from [the] outcome, and we let go of our expectations as well.” - Michelle Chalfant   “It’s beautiful when we are able to look at our lives and ask, ‘What do I need?’” - Michelle Chalfant   “Relationships can be beautiful, but they can also be really hard…and they can also be somewhere in the middle.” - Michelle Chalfant   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Have you ever wondered what it truly means to live a soul-driven life? In this episode, join me and my son, Blake Chalfant, as we dive into the world of soul alignment, self-discovery, and embracing your unique path. We'll explore the ancient wisdom of indigenous cultures, the power of rites of passage, and how modern societal pressures often lead us away from our true essence. Together, Blake and I address the global mental health crisis, discussing the critical link between emotional and physical well-being. We'll share how aligning with your soul's purpose can bring profound peace and fulfillment. Learn to interpret life's signals and navigate various forms of resistance to foster a more meaningful existence. We also touch on the balance of masculine and feminine energies within us, the importance of creating spaces for voicing needs, and the role of parents in nurturing their children's unique paths. Whether you're seeking to reconnect with your soul's purpose or find inspiration to live authentically, this episode provides nuggets of wisdom.  In this episode, you will hear: Exploring self-discovery and finding one's unique life path. Discussing the global mental health crisis and the link between emotional and physical well-being. The importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies within individuals and society. Creating space for individuals to voice their needs and the role of parents in supporting children's unique paths. Nurturing self-trust and aliveness in children through diverse experiences and positive male role models. Reigniting passion and finding purpose, especially in the mid to later stages of life. The power of rites of passage and indigenous wisdom in uncovering true essence.   Blake Chalfant Website https://www.blakechalfant.com/   The Human Experience Podcast https://www.blakechalfant.com/podcast   Greenchef.com/adult50 Use ADULT50 to get 50% off your order + 20% off your next two months!   Use  Promo code: Adultchair for 20% at Aquatru.com.   MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

What happens when we cross over to the other side? In this episode, spiritual medium and healer Kristen Numen shares her near-death experience, detailing her vivid encounters with the afterlife.  Join us as we uncover Kristen's emotionally charged journey into what many describe as heaven, offering comfort and understanding to those curious about the afterlife and the spiritual realm. Kristen recounts her life review, where she saw the ripple effect of her actions on others and experienced a moving reunion with her spiritual family. Her miraculous return to life, the sheer joy of waking up in the hospital, and the subsequent challenges of memory recovery are shared and will leave your mind racing.  This leads to exploring themes of self-love, personal growth, and overcoming life's challenges. Kristen's opinions on intentional thinking, the law of attraction, and the beauty of being true to oneself are deeply inspiring.  In this episode, you will hear: A vivid recount of Kristin’s crossing over and experiences such as visiting the Akashic Records. Themes of self-love, intentional thinking, and embracing one's authentic self. A discussion on planning lifetimes, reuniting with spiritual family, and the role of divine beings. About overcoming life's obstacles, the significance of self-awareness, and channeling messages from divine beings. An emphasis on gratitude, living in the present, and the power of spirituality in personal growth. The power of mind, body, and spirit interconnectedness through near-death and spiritual experiences. MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

In this episode, we’re having a conversation with the inspiring Elyse Archer, founder of Super Human Selling. This isn't your everyday chat; we're peeling back the layers to uncover the raw and real magic of embracing your authentic gifts. Forget chasing someone else's dream – it's all about shining in your unique light, and Elyse is here to show us how. Elyse takes us on her personal journey, swapping the relentless pursuit of external success for a life rich with genuine talent and passion. It's about getting real with yourself and recognizing those innate strengths that make you, well, you. We tackle the often tricky task of accepting compliments and owning our talents without an ounce of guilt. We also chat about facing fears, embracing change, and the exhilarating journey towards a life that resonates with your truest self.  Feeling stuck or blocked creatively? We dissect the difference between ego-driven and soul-inspired ideas and share strategies to navigate inspiration and overcome those pesky mental roadblocks. This isn't just about tapping into your gifts; it's a journey to living a life that's undeniably yours. If you're ready to unlock your potential and live out loud, this is your sign. Hit play, and let's get this transformation party started! In this episode, you will hear: The journey from external success to aligning with authentic talents and passions. Creative pursuits as a path to personal and professional fulfillment and success. Overcoming societal pressures and learning to receive compliments and recognize personal talents authentically. Embracing discomfort and initiations for self-discovery and personal growth. Shifting mindset and self-worth to break through financial limitations and achieve greater income. Differentiating between ego-driven and soul-inspired ideas.   Resources from this Episode www.elysearcher.com/moneymindsetlive https://elysearcher.com/4quadrants/    MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Hey everyone, today we're hanging out with Dr. Katie Deming, an oncologist with a whole new take on cancer care. Forget the usual clinical jargon – we're going deep into the world of conscious medicine.   Dr. Deming has this incredible story about how she moved from traditional to integrative oncology, bringing a holistic approach to well-being into her practice. We chat about how crucial things like diet, grounding, sunlight, and emotional work are in fighting cancer. If you're up for a chat about aligning your emotional, mental, and spiritual health to face illness, you're in the right place.   We also touch on the stresses of daily life and how to avoid them. Dr. Deming gives some tips like wearing blue blocker glasses and using grounding pads to improve your well-being.   Lastly, we chat about handling emotions during treatment and the importance of having the right people in your corner. Dr. Deming shares some powerful stories about visualization, the power of mindful communication in healthcare, and more.   This isn't just for people affected by cancer but anyone looking for a more conscious approach to health and life. So, if you're interested in a fresh look at medicine that puts patient independence and holistic healing front and center, give this a listen. In this episode, you will hear: Dr. Katie Deming's journey from traditional oncology to advocating for integrative and conscious medicine. How holistic well-being, including emotional, mental, and spiritual health, helps with cancer prevention and recovery. Strategies to mitigate stress from modern living and boost mental health. The role of emotional management, supportive environments, and empowering communication during cancer treatment. Rethinking healthcare to prioritize patient independence and self-reliance in the healing journey.   Resources from this Episode Katie’s website: katiedeming.com   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In episode 408, I explore the transformative world of healing ancestral trauma, limiting beliefs, and patterns with the incredible Alyse Bacine. Alyse is a spiritual mentor and breathwork practitioner whose journey into the realms of deep healing and spiritual growth is both inspiring and profound. She shares her profound insights on recognizing and dealing with trauma, understanding childhood wounds, and connecting with one's higher self through breathwork.  Listen to discover: Why addressing trauma isn’t about actively seeking it out but rather dealing with it as it presents itself in your life. How triggers, especially within relationships, are opportunities for healing and growth. The importance of understanding your birth story and early experiences to uncover core beliefs and childhood wounds. Practical breathwork tips including a demonstration. Insights into the fears women face and how to overcome these fears by following intuition and understanding trauma. Felt called to start business, thrived despite COVID. Embracing soul alignment, following your heart. Overcoming fear of judgment and loss. Taking steps forward, overcoming fear, feeling momentum. Ancestral and familial trauma affect energetic imprints. Recreating childhood trauma in romantic relationships for healing. Recognize triggers as opportunities for growth. Impact of early relationships on adult dynamics. Reconnect by understanding, shifting energy, and contributing. Partners should grow, see each other's potential. Creating intentional breath work for healing and guidance. Find rhythm, body breathes, just go. Healing mother wounds impacts relationship with money. Breathwork clears blocks and enhances intuition. Receiving wisdom through breath work for clarity. To reduce dizziness, slow down and breathe. Promoting Instagram, podcast, Facebook, website, freebie. LINKS & RESOURCES https://wwww.aquatru.com Promo code: Adultchair for 20% off Alyse Bacine Website: https://www.alysebreathes.com/ Download Alyse’s free resource, The Metamorphosis Method: 5 Ways to use Breathwork: https://alyse.myflodesk.com/5waystousebreathwork The Adult Chair® Website: https://theadultchair.com    Download the 5 Myths Keeping You Disconnected From Your Partner: https://courses.theadultchair.com/myths Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/  The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Did you know that your physical health directly impacts your emotional state — and vice versa?  Think about it: when you’re not in a good place emotionally, how does your body feel? Full of aches and pains, stomach issues, or other not-so-comfortable symptoms?  In today’s episode, Dr. Tom O'Bryan, an internationally recognized speaker on food sensitivities, environmental toxins, and the development of autoimmune diseases, joins me to discuss the intricate link between physical and emotional health. You may be surprised to know that everyday substances like gluten in modified food, toxins in the environment, and even electromagnetic waves can trigger an immune response that leads to inflammation and a range of health issues, including serious conditions like Alzheimer’s. Dr. Tom shares startling insights into how certain foods, especially those altered chemically to enhance taste, can adversely affect our body’s defense mechanisms and even lead to addiction. We'll also explore the crucial differences in the prevalence of chemicals allowed in food and household products across different regions, like the US and the European Union. Of course, we also talk about small lifestyle adjustments that you can do right now to dramatically improve your health, such as opting for glass Tupperware or incorporating more organic products into your diet.  Listen to discover:   The link between emotional and physical health. How unresolved emotional issues can manifest physically.  Why inflammation is at the core of most health issues. The significant impact of our diet on our health, focusing on common culprits like gluten. Why small lifestyle changes can make massive impacts on your overall health.   Listen to continue your wellness journey with us and understand how to take charge of your health in today’s complex world. Quotes to Remember: "If there’s any area that people don’t want to talk about, it’s their emotions. And anytime I have a patient that says, ‘I’ve been everywhere, and I’ve tried everything, and I’m still not better,’ it almost always is emotional baggage that’s buried so deep, they don’t know it’s there." - Tom "We’re born and raised in this world to think that when you have a symptom, you take whatever they tell you to take, and the symptom goes away. Now you’re healthy. No, you're not. You didn’t have a deficiency of the medicine." - Tom "So many people are walking around with trauma, and they don’t know it; it’s either they haven’t touched it, they haven’t looked at it, or they’re walking around with anger, they’re walking around with unprocessed grief, sadness, whatever it might be. And it’s contributing physically." - Michelle Connecting with Dr. Tom O'Bryan: For those looking to dive deeper into the relationship between chronic inflammation and various health disorders, explore Dr. O'Bryan's resources. His insights into the effects of diet and environment on health are transformative and can be explored further through his published works and his website.   As we wrap up this enlightening discussion, consider how your own physical health could be influencing your emotional well-being. Remember, it’s not just about treating symptoms but addressing the root causes that intertwine our mental and physical states. And if you’d like to join Dr. Tom O’Bryan’s upcoming summit, just click here.    LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Tom O’Bryan Website https://thedr.com/   The Inflammation Equation Summit theinflammationequation.com/adult   Dr. Tom O’Bryan Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/thedrtomobryan   Dr. Tom O’Bryan Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedr.com.english/   Dr. Tom O’Bryan YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzlefeGh3JA-Nm0jtf9iYoQ   FLFE https://www.flfe.net/   Air Doctor airdoctorpro.com/AdultChair   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Tips on improving relationships through self-awareness, communication, and effective repair strategies. Insights on childhood wounds' impact on interactions and managing emotional needs. Emphasis on clear communication, self-reflection, and personal growth for healthier, happier relationships.