The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair 437: High Functioning Codependency with Terri Cole
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Dec 19, 2024 
Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship expert, dives into high-functioning codependency, shedding light on its roots in societal expectations and family dynamics. She reveals how go-getters often sacrifice their well-being while managing others' lives. Terri offers insights on recognizing unhealthy patterns, the difference between guilt and shame, and the significance of setting boundaries. Listeners will appreciate her practical strategies for fostering genuine connections and reclaiming personal freedom.
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High-Functioning Codependency
- High-functioning codependents (HFCs) are often high-achievers who overinvest in others' well-being.
- This comes at the expense of their own internal peace and can lead to burnout.
Overwhelm and Refusal of Help
- Michelle Chalfant shares an anecdote about a friend who, despite being overwhelmed, refused help.
- This illustrates the HFC's difficulty in receiving, stemming from a need for hyper-independence.
Ask, Don't Advise
- Instead of offering immediate advice, ask open-ended questions to understand others' perspectives.
- Begin by asking "What do you think you should do?" and let them explore their own solutions.
