“I’m such a horrible person.” “I can’t believe I did that…I’m so stupid.” “I’m not good enough.” Do these types of thoughts sound familiar? If so, you’re not alone. As humans, we can be so mean to ourselves. We make a mistake and beat ourselves up for hours. We look in the mirror and are met with a barrage of negative self-talk. Sometimes these thoughts come at us relentlessly, like a flood. But these thoughts are not the truth about who we are. They come from an inner part or voice inside of us that is actually trying to keep us safe.  And when we have the tools to work with these parts of self, we can stop these critical and ruminating thoughts in their tracks – and transform so many of the struggles that come with them, like depression, low self-worth and overwhelm. In this episode, I’m sharing the story of a friend who came to me for help with critical thoughts that she couldn’t shake. I walk you step-by-step through the parts work method I used with her and the process she went through that stopped those thoughts almost instantly.  Then, I explain why parts work is so powerful, how it works in our unconscious mind and exactly how you can use it to work with your own critical parts – or any other part of yourself for that matter!  Listen to discover: How to stop ruminating and negative self-talk in its tracks The process I used with a friend to help her quiet her critical, ruminating thoughts My own experience using parts work to transform a ruminating thought I was having How to use parts work to transform any part of yourself A step-by-step parts work process you can use anytime, anywhere The amazing thing about parts work is that you don’t have to spend years working with a part or even be in a coaching or therapy session to do this work. My friend’s transformation happened during a casual conversation we had after work. And as I share in this episode, I use parts work when I’m out for a walk or in the middle of the day. This is an empowering tool we ALL need in our toolbox!  At the heart of parts work is giving ourselves what we needed but didn’t get when we were young. As a healthy adult, you now get to be that strong, caring adult for your younger self – and when you do, you will be amazed at the deep inner healing that takes place.   “I started doing parts work when I was 30 years old, and I changed my life.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Not everybody’s visual, so please don’t think there’s something wrong if you [don’t visualize a part].” - Michelle Chalfant   “I always thank these parts because they are doing such a good job at keeping me safe.” - Michelle Chalfant   “This is what I love about the unconscious mind…they pull things out of left field.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When you are hearing these voices in your head, the ruminating thoughts, the beating up on self…start asking yourself this question: ‘Who is saying that?’” - Michelle Chalfant   “I really think you are going to be amazed at the different parts of yourself that you will start to discover.” - Michelle Chalfant   “This is how we really experience more of who we are, and this is the journey we are on in order to rediscover and live from our true self.” - Michelle Chalfant   Resources from this Episode michellechalfant.com/52weeks for the 52 Week Journal   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com $1 for a month promo code - NEWYEAR1   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

You’re here today, doing the work, living from your Adult Chair, becoming who you want to become.  It feels really good. But as we live and grow and transform, it can sometimes bring up negative feelings about our past. Whether we made mistakes, missed opportunities, were hurt by someone or experienced a life-altering loss, every one of us has something about our past we wish we could change. Regret can cut deep – into our very souls – and bring a lot of pain, shame and blame with it.  But whenever we live in regret, it causes us to miss another opportunity: the chance to make the most of the moment we have right now.  In this show, I’m giving you three common reasons we get stuck in the past and six ways to make peace with your past and start living in the present moment.  You will gain a new perspective on your past and learn to reframe it so you can rewire your brain to live without regret. Listen to discover: 3 reasons we get stuck in the past (and what to do about them) Why living in present reality is so much better than past reality How to reframe how you think about your past 6 ways to make peace with your past Remember, today will soon become your past. Will you look back and wish you hadn’t spent it stuck in regret? Or will you make the most of the moment and use the power you have right now to be who you want to be today? The present moment is such a powerful reality to live in. It's here that we find peace and joy. It’s here that we have the ability to make this moment one we won't regret.   “The decision that we made in that moment, I don’t care how old you were…the person that we were in that moment, we were showing up the very, very best that we could.” - Michelle Chalfant   “97% of the time, our assumptions are incorrect.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Things that happened in our past, no matter if it’s a death or someone has done something to us or we made mistakes, it can be difficult to move on, but it’s possible.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When we live in the moment, it’s a much different reality. It’s almost as if the world opens up.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Living in the past is like having an anchor tied around our waist trying to move forward.” - Michelle Chalfant    “What I’m giving you today are ways to move you forward into the moment.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we don’t feel our emotions around something, guess what? It keeps us stuck.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we block our emotions, we’re blocking ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Forgiveness releases the hold that the past has on you.” - Michelle Chalfant    “When we get in the habit of going back and beating up on ourselves or being mad about someone else…what we do is we form these neural pathways, and they are not healthy. It’s like we set the roadmap in our brains to go back and beat up on self.” - Michelle Chalfant  Resources from this Episode   michellechalfant.com/52weeks for the 52 Week Online Journal.    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com $1 for a month promo code - NEWYEAR1   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship expert, dives into high-functioning codependency, shedding light on its roots in societal expectations and family dynamics. She reveals how go-getters often sacrifice their well-being while managing others' lives. Terri offers insights on recognizing unhealthy patterns, the difference between guilt and shame, and the significance of setting boundaries. Listeners will appreciate her practical strategies for fostering genuine connections and reclaiming personal freedom.

Today, we have a conversation with Prema Gaia, a somatic teacher and meditation guide. We discuss nervous system regulation and spiritual awakening. Prema shares her journey from modeling to finding spiritual depth and self-empowerment, opening up about her struggles with trauma and addiction and how she found peace through spirituality and nervous system balance. Prema talks about key moments in her spiritual awakening, like a life-changing book and walking 350 miles with just the clothes on her back. We also cover the temptation of external validation, the need for authenticity, and how mentors and plant medicine helped her transform. For highly sensitive people, Prema offers practical tips for managing overstimulation and improving vagal tone. Whether you're interested in the vagus nerve reset, breathing exercises, or self-soothing techniques, this episode has tools to help you find peace in a chaotic world. In this episode, you will hear: Prema's personal journey from trauma and addiction to spiritual awakening and self-empowerment. The transition from the modeling industry to a life of spiritual depth and self-worth. Insights on overcoming the allure of external validation and embracing authenticity. Techniques for nervous system regulation, including vagus nerve exercises and breathing techniques. The role of mentors and plant medicine in Prema's transformative journey. Tools for managing overstimulation and enhancing vagal tone for stress relief. Resources from this Episode Prema Gaia’s website: nervoussystemsupport.org Get 20% off Prema’s course with promo code: adultchair20 Instagram: @premagaia Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/premagaia  Michelle's 52 Week Online Journal - michellechalfant.com/52weeks   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

We have the fabulous Michelle Galoob joining us to unravel the mystique of intuition and the spiritual realm. This episode is a goldmine for anyone curious about distinguishing between the whispers of intuition and the shouts of ego.  Michelle shares her personal tale of shifting from a logic-driven life to embracing the universe's guidance. It's a wild ride that kicks off with a chance encounter with a healer from Argentina, flipping her world upside down and unveiling her hidden intuitive gifts. We chat about the dance between skepticism and belief and how those unexpected twists can lead to a more fulfilling path. And for those wondering how to tap into your higher self, we've got you covered. Michelle offers practical tips on tuning into your inner guidance and spotting signs from the universe. Plus, she treats us to a live mini-reading with Michelle Chalfant, giving us a sneak peek into her intuitive sessions. We wrap things up by encouraging you to trust your inner healer and embrace your unique spiritual connection.  In this episode, you will hear: Exploring the distinction between intuition and ego and how to communicate with spirit guides and angels. The power of intuitive gifts and the tension between skepticism and belief. Practical advice on connecting with higher selves and celestial guides to alleviate anxiety. Understanding and trusting different intuitive senses and signals from the universe. Embracing one's role as a healer and tapping into the universe's offerings for fulfillment. Insights into the Akashic records and how they can be used to uncover personal blockages and empower transformation. Resources from this Episode Learn more about Michelle Galoob: https://www.michellegaloob.com/  Receive a 1-hour reading at an introductory rate of $250 for a first-time reading (instead of the normal $320 rate). Book here: https://calendly.com/michellegaloob-aoy/1sttimereading Get 20% off at Aquatru.com with promo code: ADULTCHAIR   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Have you ever felt stuck in life, like you dislike where you are but think you have no other options?   This is one of my least favorite places to be (and I’ve been there many times). Being unhappy feels bad enough…but what truly feels terrible is thinking there’s no way out.   And when we believe there’s no way out, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.    That’s because it’s not our circumstances that keep us stuck, but our thoughts and beliefs. Stuck thoughts lead to stuck energy, which paralyzes us.    To get unstuck, we have to interrupt this thought pattern and shift our energy so we can move forward!   In this episode, I’m giving you six of my favorite ways to do that. These are the tools I turn to when I’m feeling stuck…and if you know me, you know I like things that I can start applying right away. So, if you’re ready to get unstuck and start seeing transformation TODAY, this is the show for you! Listen to Discover: 6 practical tools to get unstuck The power of acceptance How to manifest your future reality today Why complaining keeps us stuck How to practice gratitude for true transformation Why journaling is such a powerful tool for moving energy The #1 way to change your life   I’ve realized over the years that the way we change our lives is through the small choices we make every day.   These small steps – things like gratitude, watching our thoughts, being honest with ourselves – done with consistency transform us over time.   If you’re feeling stuck and discouraged, I’ve been there, and I get it.   But I KNOW you can change your life, because I’ve changed mine using the tools in this episode…and if I can do it, you can too!    Which of these tools will you choose today to start moving toward the life you want?   ​​“You’ve got to own what’s in your life.” – Michelle Chalfant   “Acceptance starts to move our energy out of a stuck place.” – Michelle Chalfant   “In order to really get unstuck and create change, you’ve got to get really, really clear about what you want instead.” – Michelle Chalfant   “We can manifest anything – anything at all. But you’ve got to use your mind…to get out of the place that you are in.” – Michelle Chalfant   “Your thoughts are very powerful, but the spoken word is even more powerful. When you speak about your limitations, you’re anchoring into your current reality your limitations.” – Michelle Chalfant   “Think about how much energy you’re giving the thing that you don’t want anymore…We want to talk about what’s coming.” – Michelle Chalfant   “Many studies have even shown that journaling can be similar or feel similar to going to a therapist or coach. Because what happens is, when we’re journaling, we’re purging.” – Michelle Chalfant   “Life, my friends, is a choice. What are you going to choose for yourself? Are you going to choose to go into that victim seat or are you going to choose to feel more empowered?” – Michelle Chalfant   “The way we change our lives is to be intentional with all of our choices.” – Michelle Chalfant    “You’re the only one that can transform your life. You just have to take time and choose to put yourself first and get unstuck and change your life. You can do this.” – Michelle Chalfant     Resources from this Episode Share the Love – Review The Adult Chair® Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634  MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Hey there! Today, we’re journeying into the world of attachment theory and inner child work with the amazing Karen Gelstein. In this episode, we explore how early childhood bonds set the stage for our adult relationships. Whether you're navigating a romance or trying to keep the peace at work, understanding your attachment style is key. Are you secure, anxious, avoidant, or maybe a mix of it all? We've got you covered! Karen, a seasoned trauma and addiction expert, joins us to shed light on the four primary attachment styles and how they play out in our daily lives. We'll chat about the impact of parenting styles and how to mend those pesky attachment wounds. Ever wondered why you're drawn to certain people or situations? This episode might just have the answers. We'll also explore the role of modern technology in shaping our connections — spoiler alert: it's a mixed bag! Plus, Karen shares some practical tips for doing inner child work, emphasizing the power of self-awareness and emotional validation.  In this episode, you will hear: The four primary attachment styles: secure, insecure preoccupied, avoidant dismissive, and fearful avoidant. Examination of how parenting styles and early childhood bonds influence attachment styles. Insights into the role of inner child work in healing attachment wounds and fostering personal growth. Impact of modern technology and social media on anxiety and attachment styles. Strategies for improving communication, setting boundaries, and nurturing secure attachments. Resources from this Episode embracingchangenow.com Deepening the Connection with your Inner Child Course: michellechalfant.com/innerchild  Get 20% off at Aquatru.com with promo code: ADULTCHAIR MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

In this heartfelt episode, we dive into the often uncharted waters of grief with the incredible Meghan Riordan Jarvis. As a trauma-trained psychotherapist and TEDx speaker, Meghan joins us to uncover the hidden layers of grief that many of us don't recognize. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about tears and sadness. We explore how grief can sneakily manifest in our bodies as physical ailments or even mimic depression. Join us as we journey with Meghan, who shares her personal experiences and expert insights on processing grief instead of letting it simmer under the surface. You'll learn why acknowledging grief as an energy that needs to be expressed, not suppressed, is crucial. Meghan and I discuss practical strategies for emotional healing through movement, nourishment, and connection. Plus, we touch on those pesky feelings of guilt and regret that can hold us back. Whether you're navigating a loss yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode serves as a compassionate guide to integrating grief into a life filled with growth and healing. In this episode, you will hear: Understanding grief as an energetic response that can manifest as physical symptoms or depression. The importance of processing and expressing grief rather than suppressing it. Societal shortcomings in supporting those experiencing grief and the need for cultural change. Practical strategies for managing grief through movement, connection, and nourishment. Differentiating between guilt and regret in the grieving process and the role of vocabulary in healing. Resources from this Episode Instagram: @meghan.riordan.jarvis Website: https://meghanriordanjarvis.com/  MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Creating lasting change begins with acceptance. In this meditation, you’ll be guided to embrace your present reality, including your current circumstances and perceived flaws, with compassion and without judgment. By fully accepting where you are right now, you’ll unlock the ability to shift and transform in a meaningful way. This practice will help you identify what you want to change within yourself and empower you to take the first step toward creating that change.

Today, we're diving into the world of emotional alignment and self-trust with the incredible Leah Guy, a spiritual teacher and intuitive healing artist. If you've ever found yourself chasing after external validation through relationships or career success, this episode is for you.   We kick things off by exploring how misalignment with our higher selves can leave us feeling off-kilter, like we're constantly efforting and pushing without making progress. But fear not, Leah is here to guide us back to our center and help us cultivate a loving relationship with ourselves and the divine.   We also touch on the power of surrender and openness, encouraging you to chase your dreams, no matter your age. It's all about transforming those pesky emotional wounds into stepping stones for growth and fulfillment. Plus, we discuss the art of processing toxic emotions, setting healthy boundaries, and fostering meaningful connections even when beliefs differ.   Oh, and did we mention it's the 10-year anniversary of The Adult Chair Podcast? We're so grateful for your support over the years, and if you enjoy the show, don't forget to leave a review or share it with a friend. Join us as we continue building a community rooted in authenticity and alignment. In this episode, you will hear: Identifying signs of misalignment with one's higher self and the pursuit of external validation. Understanding toxic emotions and their impact on personal growth. Building trust within oneself and with the divine to alleviate stress and fear. Embracing dreams, taking risks, and healing emotional wounds for personal transformation. Navigating emotional imprints, toxic emotions, and maintaining healthy relationships through boundaries. Resources from this Episode WWW.LEAHGUY.COM  IG: @leahthemodernsage YouTube: Leah Guy - https://www.youtube.com/@LeahGuy  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leahthemodernsage  Get 20% off go to Aquatru.com promo code: ADULTCHAIR MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Membership: The Academy of Awakening theacademyofawakening.com   Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant