The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

This 5-minute meditation promotes relaxation, healing, and self-love.   It’s a wonderful meditation for emotional healing and/or physical healing or for anyone seeking greater peace in their lives.

Feeling stuck in life is one of the worst feelings. It can feel helpless, hopeless and confining — like no matter what we do, nothing is going to change and we have no options.   But this is a story from the ego! From our Adult, we know we ALWAYS have choices. That doesn’t always mean we love every option or we get the exact outcome we want, but we are never stuck. We can always make the next best choice.   Many of our listeners have written in asking about how to get unstuck, move forward or get their joy back, so today I’m sharing five simple steps to start getting change from the inside. These steps are easy but PACKED with power. If you try these and don’t see a change, I want to hear about it — I’m that sure they will help you!   Listen to discover: Five simple (but powerful) steps to getting unstuck What keeps us from making the changes we want How to reconnect back to ourselves The power of nature and a gratitude practice in getting unstuck How to stop talking and start doing Everything in your life begins with a dream. It starts with your imagination, daydreaming and really feeling how the life you want could feel (this is how we begin to shift energy). Then it becomes reality as your intention and action align.   The answer never comes from the outside. We have to patiently take one step forward at a time, knowing change takes time (but that it can be faster than we think). The life you deserve and are waiting for is right at your fingertips, and you can get there with these simple steps.   “If you don’t know yourself, how in the world are you going to change?” - Michelle Chalfant   “Oftentimes when we’re stuck it’s because we’re not creating.” - Michelle Chalfant   “What you talk about comes about.” - Michelle Chalfant   “The only thing that’s stuck is your thinking.” - Michelle Chalfant   “From our Adult Chair, we know we have choices.” - Michelle Chalfant   Resources   14 Days to Peace and Balance Journaling Prompts https://theadultchair.com/14days   5-Minute Self-Love Meditation https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/5-minute-self-love-meditation/   Episode #254: Change Your Life With Breath With Nevsah Karamehmet https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/254/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   P&G Hair Food https://hairfood.com/ Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart   More Adult Chair   The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   Stay Connected   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/   The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant   ***   EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.   He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.   Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com  

Would you believe me if I told you that 90% of unexplained illnesses could be traced to one simple thing...something you do every day? Believe it or not, they can, and that thing is breathing.   Studies have shown that hundreds of different ailments that can’t be traced back to a known cause can often be connected to dysfunctional breathing. The good news is that breathing is SO simple and easy to work with (all it takes is about five minutes a day), and in this episode, I’m interviewing the perfect person to help you get started.   Nevsah Karamehmet is a breathing expert and a wealth of knowledge on the science behind the breath and how it impacts every system in our bodies. In this episode, she shares how breathing affects our thinking and ability to process emotions, what healthy breathing really looks like and how to change your life through your breath.   Listen to discover: The connection between breath and psychology The science behind healthy breathing How balancing the inhale and exhale balances the nervous system Why breathwork is a great introduction to meditation The connection between different types of breathing and different health issues Simple exercises to help you start breathing better I know what Nevsah is saying is true, because I’ve had this experience working with a personal trainer on my lower back. He connected my pain back to my breathing and has me doing breathwork to heal a physical issue. How much more is our breathing also affecting our thoughts, feelings and emotions every day? Breath is the essence of life, so it’s absolutely something we need to learn how to do. Nevsah gives us a few really basic exercises to begin with that are SO easy and can make such a huge difference in our overall well-being. Every human needs to hear this episode! “Breathing affects our psychology. The way we breathe affects how we think.” - Nevsah Karamehmet “There is no correct way to breathe on the mechanical level...We all have different breathing habits. Some of those habits are helpful and some of those are harmful.” - Nevsah Karamehmet “If your breathing is flexible, then you are healthy.” - Nevsah Karamehmet “When we don’t stop the emotions, they pass through us.” - Michelle Chalfant “In my breath journey, I became an Adult.” - Nevsah Karamehmet Resources   Nevsah Karamehmet Website https://www.nevsah.com/   Breath Coaching Federation https://www.breathcoachingfederation.org/   Breath Hub App https://breathhub.app/   Nadi Shadan Breathing Technique https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1jb7l2Uf7c   Belly Breath Technique https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9q9WTzqQTns&t=2s   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   P&G Hair Food https://hairfood.com/ Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart   More Adult Chair   The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   Stay Connected   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/   The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant   ***   EPISODE CREDITS:   If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.   He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.   Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com  

Those who struggle with codependency often struggle with anger as well...but not in the way you might think. Unlike ragers or those with explosive anger, codependents tend to stuff and suppress anger to please others and avoid conflict...often not even knowing what they’re feeling themselves. This is just as unhealthy!   We need anger to guide us towards our needs and connect us to our experience. Anger, when expressed in a healthy way, can also lead to healthier relationships as we begin telling others how we feel and resolving problems before they turn into resentment.   Today, I’m talking with Michelle Farris, a licensed psychotherapist and anger management specialist, who is sharing her experience of learning to own and communicate her anger. She talks about how codependency forms, why feeling our anger is important and how to begin overcoming the fear of conflict and expressing yourself in relationships.   Listen to discover: Concrete examples of what people pleasing looks like The importance of validating emotions Beginning recovery from codependency How to catch the first thought and regulate anger (while still owning it) How to communicate your anger in a healthy way   Anger is such an important human emotion...I think of it as rocket fuel to propel us towards what we want. When we’re codependent and don’t know ourselves, anger can be a key way to tap into our core needs and desires. It’s not selfish to look inward...and what you tap into inside of yourself might surprise you.   "Whenever we hit a road bump, I always remember there's going to be a huge gift on the other side of that." - Michelle Farris   "Healthy anger is us owning how we feel in the moment." - Michelle Farris   "When we stuff our anger, we're denying our own experience." - Michelle Farris   "I think of anger as rocket fuel. It really helps to push us forward in life." - Michelle Chalfant   "We don't cross the finish and feel 100% healthy. We are all a work in progress. But the thing you want to be doing is making sure you're walking forward on your journey."  - Michelle Chalfant   “As you get healthier, you will attract healthier people into your circle.” - Michelle Chalfant   Resources   Michelle Farris Website https://www.counselingrecovery.com/   Michelle Farris Facebook https://www.facebook.com/CounselingRecovery/   Michelle Farris Instagram https://www.instagram.com/counseling_recovery/   Episode #11: Codependency: I’m Ok If You’re Ok https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/11-codependency-im-ok-if-youre-ok/   Episode #127: Codependency: Ending the Addiction to Help Others https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/127-codependency-ending-the-addiction-to-help-others/   Episode #172: The Joy of Codependency https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/172-the-joy-of-codependency/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   P&G Hair Food https://hairfood.com/ Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart   More Adult Chair   The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   Stay Connected   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/   The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant   ***   EPISODE CREDITS:   If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.   He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com  

Wow — I was blown away by the response to last week’s episode (#251) with my one and only, Graham Chalfant. It seems like so many could relate to our relationship dynamics and the learning and work we’ve done over the years...and so many of you also asked how we started doing the work and making changes in our relationship.   In this week’s episode, I’m focusing the conversation back on the self and how we can each choose to show up differently in our relationships from our Adult Chair. We can’t make anyone change, but if we think of relationships as a dance, we can change the way we’re dancing, which gives our partners the opportunity to shift and fall into step with us. This is true for all kinds of relationships, not just romantic ones.   Listen to discover: My story of changing the dance in my own marriage How to change the tone of your relationship by doing your own work Finding your self-worth and setting boundaries in relationships How to be more open and relational   We all bring our wounds, expectations and “stuff” to a relationship. When we do our work, we not only transform our own lives but we change the tone of our relationships, inviting friends and partners who are a true match for us into a new way of relating to each other. Everything — including strong, connected relationships — starts within!   “If you want to change your relationship with anybody, you’ve gotta change the dance.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We are always attracting in other people based on our unconscious programming.” - Michelle Chalfant   “You’ve gotta see yourself as a very beautiful, precious diamond, and when you can see yourself like that, boundaries become more natural.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When you own your stuff, it sets you free.” - Michelle Chalfant   Resources   Episode #251: How Feeling Your Emotions Can Change Your Relationship with Graham Chalfant https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/251/   P&G Hair Food https://hairfood.com/ Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   More Adult Chair   The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)     Stay Connected   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/   The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant   ***   EPISODE CREDITS:   If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com    

Everyone wants connection — we’re hardwired for it as humans! But we can only connect as deeply with others as we’ve connected with ourselves. Strong relationships start by going within, feeling our emotions and being willing to open up and share with our partners.   On this week’s podcast, I have a very, very special guest...my husband! We’re talking with you today together and sharing some very personal details about our marriage and how feeling emotions has changed our relationship for the better.   Graham comes from a background where emotions weren’t expressed, and I come from an Italian family that was very expressive. For so many years, we both saw the other as not emotional enough or too emotional. Learning to feel, honor and share our emotions has deepened our connection so much and been so transformational for us.   In this episode, Graham shares what helped him learn to process his emotions, how that’s changed his response to different situations and the changes we’ve both seen in our relationship.   Listen to discover: How relationships can help us overcome childhood issues when we approach them with consciousness The importance of raw, open communication in a relationship Somatic processing and the power of feeling emotions in the body Navigating anger and stress in a relationship How feeling emotions deepens intimacy (both emotional and physical)   By the way, Graham did all of this work on his own (no bonus points for having a spouse who is a therapist and coach!). Which means YOU can do this too! We’re all born with the ability to feel our emotions, but we have to tune in with intention instead of running away from them. When we do, we’ll find they stop coming out sideways and are instead an invitation into deeper connection with others.   “When we engage in a relationship with another human being, our childhood issues are going to rear up. That person is here to help us work through those childhood issues.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Once our youngest child left the house, then it all slowed down and it became more apparent to me that I needed to figure out this ‘feeling’ thing.” - Graham Chalfant   “I learned I could just sit with it and in 30 seconds, that heaviness would literally melt away.” - Graham Chalfant   “Everybody has the ability to feel emotions. At some point along our life journey, we turn them off and turn them down.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When you feel an emotion without building a story around it, the emotion goes through you in 90 seconds.” - Michelle Chalfant     Resources   Episode #42: Inviting Your Relationship into The Adult Chair with Michelle and Graham Chalfant https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/42-inviting-your-relationship-into-the-adult-chair-with-michelle-and-graham-chalfant/   Episode #49: Am I Fraud? Imposter Syndrome & You! https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/49-am-i-a-fraud-imposter-syndrome-you/   P&G Hair Food https://hairfood.com/ Or find at Bed Bath & Beyond, Amazon, Target or Walmart   The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston New Dates: September 16-18, 2021 https://theadultchair.com/charleston/   More Adult Chair   The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)     Stay Connected   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/   The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant   *** EPISODE CREDITS:   If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.   He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.   Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

One of the biggest complaints I hear from clients is, “I wish my partner/parent/friend/whoever would be more empathetic!” We often look down on or get frustrated with those we don’t feel are empathetic enough, but empathy isn’t a trait you either have or you don’t...or a trait that makes someone good or bad. Like any healthy habit, it’s a skill we learn...and anyone can learn it if they want to!   Everyone wants to be heard and understood, and this is why empathy is such a beautiful skill in life: it’s a tool that helps us connect more deeply with others and show them we care. In this episode, I’m giving you four simple steps that you can use to begin practicing and building empathy with any relationship in your life!   Listen to discover: The definition of empathy Four simple steps to build empathy How to get started with feeling emotions Things you can ask the other person to show you care Why showing empathy is different than prying When you practice empathy, you open your own heart and emotional body. You deepen connection with others but also yourself! Being able to show empathy is deeply connected to our ability to feel our own emotions. And since feeling emotions and being present are core parts of The Adult Chair, as you do your own work and live in your Adult Chair more often, don’t be surprised when you find that empathy begins to come more naturally. It’s all part of being healthy!    “If you don’t listen well to others and automatically go into “fix it” mode, you may need to brush up on your empathy.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Offering empathy to another human being will get you much further than fixing them.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Deep listening with empathy can change someone.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Empathy is a skill that can be learned.” - Michelle Chalfant   Resources   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   More Adult Chair   The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   Stay Connected   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/   The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant   *** EPISODE CREDITS:   If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Compassion is something we have when we live in our healthiest Adult self, but how easy is it for you to turn around and offer that compassion to yourself? Most of us speak very differently to ourselves than we would to a friend, especially when we make a mistake or are going through a hard time.   But self-compassion is an essential part of healing! In fact, studies show that truly effective therapy is improved by increasing our self-compassion so we can live with more love and less anxiety and stress. My guest today, Dr. Kristin Neff, is one of the world’s leading self-compassion experts and one of the first to conduct scientific research on the benefits of self-compassion and how it can change your life. I LOVED our conversation, which covers everything from what self-compassion is and how to cultivate it to the inner critic, anger, gender roles and the way society often makes it difficult to cultivate self-compassion.   Listen to discover: What self compassion really is The three core components of self-compassion Emotional and behavioral self-compassion practices Why self-compassion is not selfish When anger is constructive and loving Why self-compassion is essential for overcoming depression, anxiety and stress Self-compassion is not selfish. In fact, studies show that when we show ourselves compassion, it actually increases our compassion for others! Life is messy and none of us is perfect, which is why approaching the journey — both ours and others’ — with gentleness and kindness is so important to being healthy! “The biggest problem with self-esteem is it’s contingent on success.” - Dr. Kristin Neff   “The word ‘compassion’ by definition is a connected stance.” - Dr. Kristin Neff   “I know from practicing The Adult Chair, where we’re mindful, we practice self-compassion, we’re living in the moment, we’re tuning into the moment...it gets easier.” - Michelle Chalfant   “What reminds you to practice self-compassion is your suffering.” - Dr. Kristin Neff   “I really changed myself through self-compassion.” - Michelle Chalfant   Resources   Dr. Kristin Neff Website https://self-compassion.org/   “Fierce Self-Compassion” (Kristin Neff Book - Pre-Order) https://www.amazon.com/Fierce-Self-Compassion-Harness-Kindness-Thrive/dp/006299106X   The Adult Chair Membership: $1 offer Use promo code “ANITA” to try your first month for $1 February Theme = “I Love.” https://theadultchair.com/membership/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   More Adult Chair   The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   Stay Connected   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/   The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant   ***   EPISODE CREDITS:   If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com    

Narcissistic abuse is, I believe, one of the most toxic experiences out there. While NO kind of abuse is ok, narcissists can be extremely subtle, sneaky and manipulative, making them difficult to spot. Anyone who has been in a relationship with one knows how confusing and damaging it can be.   My guest today, Meredith Miller, is a holistic coach who helps people heal themselves from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. After experiencing abuse from a narcissistic parent for nearly 38 years, she has a deep understanding of a narcissist’s traits, how to rebuild a sense of self and how to turn the experience into an opportunity for healing and growth.   Meredith shares her own story of abuse and healing, and we talk about SO many important topics, from what narcissistic abuse is to the myths around abuse and how to start healing.   Listen to discover: How to identify abuse (and steps to take to get out) Navigating toxic families and people Tools for healing trauma Setting boundaries and reprogramming the subconscious mind How to navigate narcissistic partners as a parent How to go “no contact” (if that’s right for you) There is SO much incredible information packed into this hour! Meredith truly gets it, and I’m so grateful for the gift of her time and expertise in helping the world recognize and transform the effects of abuse.   “You can’t share your hopes and dreams with toxic people.” - Meredith Miller   “It’s so important that we stop, pause, work on our own healing and transform those programs.” - Michelle Chalfant   “The trauma awakens you to this whole new potential...we start to discover the parts of ourselves that weren’t hurt.” - Meredith Miller   “When you give explanations for boundaries, toxic people just see that as points to keep negotiating with you on.” - Meredith Miller   Resources   Meredith Miller Website https://www.innerintegration.com/   Meredith Miller Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/inner-integration-podcast/id1418633395   Meredith Miller YouTube https://www.youtube.com/innerintegration   Meredith Miller Instagram https://www.instagram.com/inner_integration/   Meredith Miller Facebook https://www.facebook.com/InnerIntegration/   The Adult Chair Membership: $1 offer Use promo code “ANITA” to try your first month for $1 February Theme = “I Love.” https://theadultchair.com/membership/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   Episode #179: I’m in a Relationship with a Narcissist https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/179/   Episode #196: Spotting Covert Narcissism https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/196/   Episode #207: The Narcissism and Codependency Connection with Ross Rosenberg https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/207-the-narcissism-and-codependency-connection-with-ross-rosenberg/   More Adult Chair   The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/   TAC Circles https://theadultchair.com/taccircles/ (Previously “TAC Gatherings”)   Stay Connected   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/   The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant   *** EPISODE CREDITS:   If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Decisions, decisions. We are all faced with dozens of choices every day — some that we make without a second thought and others that can leave us wrestling with all our options or get us completely stuck.   When we are in the Adolescent Chair (the seat of the ego), decisions can feel intimidating or impossible, not only because we’re worried about making the “right” choice, but also because it comes with the other traps of the ego: ruminating thoughts, negative self-talk and stuck parts. Getting into the Adult Chair and bringing in consciousness completely transforms the way we approach and make decisions!   In this episode, I walk you through the reasons you might get stuck making a decision, hands-on tools for easier decision making (I love a good pros and cons list) and tools you can use to find blocked parts and get more confident in whatever decision you choose.   Listen to discover: Reasons why you might struggle with decision making The downward spiral of self-judgment that can keep us from making decisions Practical steps to get unstuck and make conscious decisions A parts work process to work with blocked parts Choice is a gift, and with these steps, you will find that you can enjoy easy decision making and make the most of the many beautiful opportunities you are offered in life! “This is why we have such a difficult time making decisions: the ego is unconsciously whispering to us ‘Don’t do that. That’s not safe.’” - Michelle Chalfant   “The ego can run wild if we’re unconscious.” - Michelle Chalfant   “If you can feel at least 80% [ready to make a decision], it’s ok to have a little bit of fear.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When you bring consciousness into your reality when it comes to decision making, your life will change and you will find that decision making becomes easier than you imagined.” - Michelle Chalfant   Resources   The Adult Chair Membership Use promo code “ANITA” to try your first month for $1 https://theadultchair.com/membership/   TAC Gatherings https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings   The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/     More Adult Chair   The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com    The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/   The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/   The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/   TAC Gatherings https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings/   Stay Connected   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/   The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant   *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com