Sexology

Welcome to episode 76 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R. Rebecca talks to us about why it is difficult to talk about sex with our partners, the need to spend time with our bodies and discover what feels good and how anxiety can affect performance in the bedroom.     Rebecca is a relationship therapist and consultant. She’s also the creator of Connectfulness, a research-based practice that encourages you to explore and embrace every aspect of your humanity – including everything that’s marvellous and all that’s messy.    Rebecca takes you on a deep dive into that middle place between the personal and the professional, between the places you explore in therapy and the work you do in coaching.     When you explore this fertile in-between space, you can make great things happen. When you truly see yourself, you create the ripple that allow you to be the change you wish to see in the world – and that invites everyone around you to do the same.    In this episode, you will hear:     Why it is difficult to talk about sex with our partners  The difficulty of escaping the narrow view of what is “normal” within sexuality   The need to spend time with our bodies and discover what feels good   Guidance points for talking about these issues with our partners   Learning to be supportive whilst being true to yourself   The power dynamics that exist within couples   How anxiety can affect performance in the bedroom   The dynamics of masculine and feminine energy     Resources  https://connectfulness.com  https://www.omgyes.com  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 75 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Sophie Lucido Johnson, who talks to us about her new book Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s), what a polyamorous lifestyle looks like to her and the difference between polyamory and open relationships.     Sophie Lucido Johnson gets a lot of questions when she tells people that she’s polyamorous. Many Love is an intimate look at this often misunderstood practice: its history, its misconceptions, and Sophie’s personal transformation from serial monogamist to proud polyamorist.    After trying for years to emulate her boomer parents’ forty-year and still-going-strong marriage, Sophie realized that maybe the love she was looking for was down a road less travelled. In this bold, graphic memoir, she explores her sexuality, her values, and the versions of love our society accepts and practices. Along the way, she shares what it’s like to play on Tinder side-by-side with your boyfriend, encounter—and surmount—many types of jealousy, learn the power of female friendship, and other amazing things that happened when she stopped looking for “the one.”    In a lot of ways, Many Love is Sophie’s love letter to everyone she has ever cared for. Witty, insightful, and complete with illustrations, this debut provides a memorable glimpse into an unconventional life.    In this episode, you will hear:     What a polyamorous lifestyle looks like to Sophie   How Sophie emphasizes the relationship whilst being polyamorous   Why polyamory is a good fit for many people but not everyone  Understanding you’ll have to deal with the issue of jealously when becoming polyamorous   Learning how to make polyamory work within a family dynamic   The difference between polyamory and open relationships  The connection between polyamory and queer culture     Resources  http://www.sophielucidojohnson.com   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 74 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Dr. Lori A. Brotto, PhD. In this episode, Dr Brotto and I talk about using mindfulness to improve sexuality, how stress levels have impacted our sexuality and learning to use mindfulness in intimate situations.     Lori A. Brotto, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, a sex researcher, and the author of Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire (Greystone Books, 2018). A member of various sexuality organizations, she is also Canada's Research Chair in Women's Sexual Health and an associate editor for Archives of Sexual Behaviour.    In this episode, you will hear:     The findings that Lori has found through her work and research in this area   How stress levels have impacted our sexuality   The importance to reduce our stress levels to improve sexuality   Learning to overcome and pass through the “honeymoon period” in a relationship   Why Lori became interested in sex and mindfulness  The ways in which mindfulness can improve our sexual functioning   The best ways to encourage people into this practice to improve their sex life   Learning to use mindfulness in intimate situations   Manging and using fantasies in a healthy way   Recommendations from Lori on the first steps to take using mindfulness to improve sexuality     Resources  http://www.loribrotto.com  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 73 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, who speaks to me about the common challenges couples face during pregnancy, why many women are scared to have sex during pregnancy and recommendations on how to approach and improve communication on these sensitive subject matters.    Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, is an internationally recognized licensed psychologist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. Dr. Buehler is director of the Buehler Institute, where she provides sex and relationship therapy as well as continuing education programs.    She is also part of Hoag for Her Center for Wellness, where she specializes in helping women overcome painful sex, as well as helping high-risk breast cancer patients. She has published on sexuality for both professional and lay audiences, including her books What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know About Sex, 2nd Edition and Sex, Love, and Mental Illness: A Couple's Guide to Staying Connected.    In this episode, you will hear:     The common challenges couples face during pregnancy   How the lack of sexual drive can carry on after giving birth   The ways in which pregnancy affects a woman’s libido   Why many women are scared to have sex during pregnancy   The unique challenges that happen during the post-partum period   How many women find sex painful after giving birth   Recommendations on how to approach and improve communication on these sensitive subject matters   The ways in which breastfeeding can impact sexual relations    Resources  http://learnsextherapy.com  www.LearnSexTherapy.com  www.TheBuehlerInstitute.com  https://www.amazon.com/Stephanie-Buehler/e/B004ANMUHO/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 72 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Alice Little who is the number one booking legal sex worker in the United States, she is 4ft 8 and works at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch.       Alice writes advice articles for She Knows Media and has been a guest on the Tim Ferriss Show. She has been interviewed and featured by CNN, ABC’s Nightline, Re nery29, Quartz, Shane and Friends, and other podcasts and news outlets. She is a proponent of sex positivity and women’s rights and has marched for equality. Alice is also one of the founders of the “Hookers for Healthcare” movement, petitioning the government for effective health care that works for everyone.    Alice frequently sees couples in and out of the bedroom, coaching them on how to enhance their relationships, increase the quality of their communication, and help bring intimacy back into their interactions. She hosts a weekly vidcast titled ‘Coffee with Alice,’ where she discusses sex work, fields questions, and aims to inform on all things sensual. Alice has also presented at over 50 Kink and BDSM events nationwide.    In this episode, you will hear:   How Alice became involved in this profession  The pros and cons of being a legal sex worker  The difference between a legal sex worker and prostitution  Why communication is the key in this profession  Working with clients and their emotions  How Alice makes people comfortable if it’s their first time with a legal sex worker  How couples who use legal sex workers can improve their sex lives afterwards  The common misconceptions and challenges legal sex workers face    Resources  https://thealicelittle.com   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 71 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Robert Cox who talks to us about the developing rape culture in our society, how we can combat objectification of men and women and the need for rape victims to know it’s ok to reach out and talk about their experiences.   Robert Cox is a therapist in private practice in Liberty, MO.  He specializes in the treatment of Trauma, Addictions and Autism.  Robert creates a podcast providing psycho-education and mindfulness training called Mindful Recovery. In addition, he is a guest blogger on the Huffington Post.      In this episode, you will hear:   What is rape culture and who does it protect?  Roberts experience of defending his daughter for wearing “in appropriate” clothing in school   Why we shouldn’t protect anyone who has abused or raped women, even if they are close friends or relatives   Making sure we don’t invalidate people’s experiences   How men need to take more responsibility for their hormones and actions   How we can combat objectification of men and women   The role that fear and control plays within these issues   The need for rape victims to know it’s ok to reach out and talk about their experiences     Resources  http://liferecoveryconsulting.com   https://liferecoveryconsulting.com/listening-to-autism/  https://liferecoveryconsulting.com/podcast-2/  http://oasis2care.com/podcast/hook-up-culture/   http://oasis2care.com/podcast/rape-culture-popular-media/   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  Welcome to episode 70 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Robert Kandell who speaks to me about non-monogamous relationships, the pros and cons of being in a non-monogamous relationship and advice on how to approach this topic with others.   Robert Kandell has 18 years’ experience in helping men find themselves. Through the practice of absolute approval in his teaching, he sees those parts that are hidden in their shadows. These are the fetishes, hurts, or hidden desires. He draws them out with a firm but loving hand so what was once hidden can now become internal power.   An expert in interpersonal communication and relationship, he has helped thousands of students become happier, have better relationships, more sex, and a more balanced, energized life. Working with Robert is not for the faint of heart. He has been described as “part football coach, part loving dad and part slightly crazed drill sergeant.  In this episode, you will hear:   How Robert became interested in this area   The pros and cons of being in a non-monogamous relationship  How most people are not actually monogamous  Why non-monogamous relationships aren’t the solution for everyone   The role that jealously plays in this issue   Learning to have open and honest communication your partner about this   The issue of fear of abandonment Advice on how to approach this topic with others   Resources  http://tufflove.live   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care     Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    Welcome to episode 69 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. M. Max Ezzati M.D., FACOG who speaks to us about the common misconceptions around fertility treatment, how struggles with infertility can have an impact on sexual relations and recommendations for couples currently going through this process.   Dr. Ezzati is a fertility specialist and reproductive surgeon at Palo Alto Medical Foundation, affiliated with Sutter Health in the Bay Area in Northern California. Dr. Ezzati received his medical degree from Tehran University in Tehran, Iran. After medical school, Dr. Ezzati moved to England to pursue specialty training in obstetrics and gynecology at the teaching hospitals of the University of Cambridge and the University of London, where he also served as a clinical lecturer.  In 2007, Dr. Ezzati moved to the United States and completed his internship and residency at Georgetown University Hospital/Washington Hospital Center, in Washington, D.C. Following his residency, he completed a fellowship in reproductive endocrinology and infertility at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center/Parkland Hospital, in Dallas, Texas. Dr. Ezzati is double board-certified in both Obstetrics & Gynecology, and Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility (REI).  Dr. Ezzati’s special professional interests include fertility preservation through oocyte cryopreservation (egg freezing) and embryo cryopreservation (embryo freezing), fertility treatment for older women and those with diminished ovarian reserve, and minimally invasive reproductive surgery using the da Vinci robot to treat endometriosis and uterine fibroids. He has published numerous peer-reviewed clinical and scientific research papers, review articles, case reports and textbook chapters on these and other topics.  He is currently on the Editorial Board of the Journal of Minimally Invasive Gynecology and also serves as an ad hoc peer-reviewer for several other high impact journals such as Human Reproduction, Journal of Assisted Reproduction and Genetics, Placenta, and Reproductive BioMedicine Online    In this episode, you will hear:   The most common misconceptions about fertility treatment   The frequency of intercourse needed through fertility treatment  How struggles around infertility can have an impact on sexual relations   The best way to define infertility   Is it safe for couples to have sex during pregnancy?   The need to keep with the treatment over a long period of time for success   Recommendations for couples currently frustrated going through this process      Resources  https://www.sutterhealth.org/find-doctor/dr-mohammadmax-ezzati   https://twitter.com/maxezzatimd   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care     Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 68 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Renelle E. Nelson who is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She has been providing therapy for over 10 years. In this episode, she speaks to me about her thoughts on a listener’s email worrying her husband might be gay, discovering your own body and pleasures and actionable steps that can be taken to improve your sex life.   Renelle knows that you are facing a lot of challenges right now from dealing with Anxiety, Depression and even disbelief. You may also have been given an ultimatum in your relationship. Relax and take a deep breathe, now come in and let’s talk about your concerns. At Kaleidoscope, her passion and goal is to help you develop the skills that are needed to address the challenges that you are currently faced with. Whether you are dealing with communication issues, lack of desire or Infidelity, it is important for you to know you don’t have to go through this alone. If there is a problem then there has to be a solution.  Together let's work to solve the solvable and use the Kaleidoscope of change to give you a different view of the unchangeable.  In this episode, you will hear:   Renelle’s thoughts on a listener’s email worrying her husband might be gay   The importance of communication to improve sex in a relationship   Discovering your own body and pleasures   Not confusing a partner potentially being gay with low libido   How sex is still viewed in a negative light in many societies   Actionable steps that can be taken to improve your sex life  How journaling and self-care can improve your sex life     Resources  https://kaleidoscopeservicesllc.org   https://www.facebook.com/kaleidoscopeservices   http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/05/30/mismatched-libido-with-renelle-nelson-lmft/  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 67 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m joined by Erica Garza who talks to us about her book Getting Off, the connection between sexual shame and addiction and the story of her recovery from sexual addiction  Born in Los Angeles to Mexican parents, Erica Garza has spent most of her adult life traveling and living abroad. She currently lives in Los Angeles with her husband and daughter. Erica’s essays have appeared in Salon, Narratively, BUST, Marie Claire, Good Housekeeping, Refinery29, Bustle, Alternet, Vivala, HelloGiggles, the Los Angeles Review, and Australia’s Mamamia and The Motherish.   She has appeared as a guest on BBC Radio 4, Thom Hartmann’s The Big Picture, and August McLaughlin’s Girl Boner Radio. In 2010, she earned her MFA in Creative Nonfiction at Columbia University. Her memoir on sex addiction, Getting Off, is her first book.   Her addiction follows and transforms with her in each point in her coming-of-age, which spans the transition from dial-up to digital in the 1990s and early 2000s. From Playboys hidden discreetly under mattresses to softcore on late night cable to vast varieties of porn ubiquitous and easily accessible across the internet, Garza’s personal account is also a study of an era in which both technology and sex changed dramatically in our everyday lives.   GETTING OFF is as raw and unflinching a personal story as it is an insightful and modern perspective on sexuality and addiction. Garza doesn’t find a tidy cure for her obsessions, but in the absence of false hope and prepackaged redemption is a credibly imperfect and remarkably relatable journey toward self-acceptance.   In this episode, you will hear:   The challenge of talking about her sex life openly Why Erica decided to share her story The perspective of sex addiction being an ethnic minority and female How sex addiction can affect anyone in life The ways in which porn can be used as a crutch How over-viewing porn can lead to desensitization The connection between sexual shame and addiction What made Erica comfortable disclosing her issues to her now husband   Resources http://www.ericagarza.com https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care https://twitter.com/oasis2careAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy