Welcome to episode 49 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Dr. Joe Kort, Ph.D. He talks to us about why some straight men are drawn to gay sex, the taboo of talking about this topic and how are compulsive behaviors different from sexual attraction. 

Psychotherapist, coach and author Joe Kort, Ph.D., MSW, MA founded his practice in 1985. Its specialties include: Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy, emphasizing how being knowledgeable about gay issues informs the therapeutic process, and IMAGO Relationship Therapy, a specific program to help couples and singles learn to improve their communication and relationship skills. It is based on the books Getting The Love You Want and Keeping The Love You Find by Dr. Harville Hendrix. 

This practice specializes in sex therapy and sexual identity issues, including Out-Of-Control Sexual Behavior; responsible non-monogamy/monogamy; childhood sexual, physical and emotional abuse; mixed-orientation marriages; coming out; and depression and anxiety. The group offers workshops for couples and singles.

In this episode, you will hear:  

• Why some straight men are drawn to gay sex but aren’t gay
• The compartmentalization men can make between gay sex and being gay
• How society says it’s ok for women to have sex other women but not the same for men
• How trauma reenactment can play a role in this issue
• The taboo and difficulty to talk about this with partners
• How are compulsive behaviors different from sexual attraction?
• How the more this issue gets repressed, the more it will come up
• The role shame plays around this issue
• How homophobia can be used as a smokescreen

Resources

http://www.joekort.com

http://www.straightguise.com