Sexology

Welcome to Episode 471 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Ita O’Brien, who speaks to me about intimacy coordination, embodied consent, and creating safety and authenticity in intimate storytelling.In this episode, I sit down with Ita to discuss what an intimacy coordinator actually does and why this role has become so essential in film, television, and theatre. We talk about how intimacy coordination brings structure, clarity, and care to intimate scenes, not only to protect performers, but to serve the story, the characters, and the creative vision. Ita O’Brien is an intimacy coordinator and movement director for film, television, and theater. For more than a decade, she has been developing “intimacy on set” guidelines: best practices for working on scenes with sexual content and nudity in film, TV, and theater. O’Brien pioneered the role of intimacy coordinator, which is used in production companies including HBO and Netflix. Her work has been featured in publications such as The Guardian, The New York Times, and NBC. She’s contributed to the intimate content praised in shows such as Normal People, Sex Education, and I May Destroy You.In this episode, you will hear: ·      What An Intimacy Coordinator Does·      Creating Safety On Set·      Consent As A Creative Foundation·      Embodiment And Somatic Awareness·      Choreographing Intimate Scenes·      Anatomy And Authentic Storytelling·      Power Dynamics And Character Choice·      Training And Professional Standards·      Emotional Safety In Long Term Relationships·      Bringing Intimacy Practices Into Daily LifeThank you to our sponsor Filthy Milfs! Your podcast lineup is about to get filthy. Get ready for a completely uncensored, outspoken, dirty-minded, and eye-opening look from the most adventurous milfs on the block, Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine. They're filthy. They're milfy. And they’re waiting for you on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you catch your favorite podcasts.Get your FREE Sex Bucket ListBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 470 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Margeaux Feldman, who speaks to me about trauma, chronic illness, intimacy, and pleasure, inspired by their book Touch Me. I’m Sick.In this episode, we discuss the personal and academic journey that led them to write Touch Me. I’m Sick., which began as a PhD dissertation and evolved into a deeply human book about sickness, trauma, disability, and love. Margeaux shares how their own experience with chronic illness shifted their work away from purely academic analysis and toward something more accessible, relational, and rooted in lived experience. Margeaux Feldman is a writer, a public educator, and an artist. They hold an MFA in Creative Writing from CalArts and a PhD in English Literature and Sexual Diversity Studies from the University of Toronto. Margeaux's first book Touch Me, I'm Sick: A Memoir in Essays was just published with Beacon Press. They also created the popular meme account @softcore_trauma on Instagram, where they share memes and writing that testifies to their experiences living with trauma and chronic illness.In this episode, you will hear: ·      The Origin Story Of Touch Me. I’m Sick.·      Chronic Illness And Trauma Connections·      Redefining Intimacy And Care·      Independence, Codependence, And Interdependence·      Wellness Culture And Performativity·      Trauma, Pleasure, And Ambivalence·      Dissociation As A Survival Strategy·      “Ugly Sex” And Sexual Healing·      Somatic Therapy And Embodiment·      Pleasure As A Political ActThank you to our sponsor Filthy Milfs! Your podcast lineup is about to get filthy. Get ready for a completely uncensored, outspoken, dirty-minded, and eye-opening look from the most adventurous milfs on the block, Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine. They're filthy. They're milfy. And they’re waiting for you on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you catch your favorite podcasts.Get your FREE Sex Bucket ListBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 469 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Laura Federico and Morgan Miller who speak to me about cycle tracking, hormones, and the mind body connection in sexuality and health. In this episode, we discuss what inspired Laura and Morgan to write their book “The Cycle Book” and how their personal and professional experiences shaped their approach. We talk about the profound gaps in education around hormones, menstruating bodies, and sexual health, and how this lack of information often leaves people feeling confused, dismissed, or disconnected from their own bodies. Laura Federico is a psychotherapist and AASECT-certified sex and relationship therapist in private practice, and Morgan Miller is a certified professional midwife, lactation consultant, activist, and birth center founder in private practice. Developed by Laura & Morgan, The Cycle Book helps you find clarity, the right treatment, and real relief, so you can finally feel like yourself again. We’re in the midst of a hormonal health awakening. For too long, those navigating PCOS, perimenopause, endometriosis, PMDD, and other hormonal symptoms have been dismissed and left without real support. The Cycle Book’s effective and trusted approach helps decode your body’s patterns. Rooted in science and beautifully crafted, this 12-month undated workbook blends expert insight with clean, functional design.In this episode, you will hear: ·      What Cycle Tracking Really Means·      Hormones And The Mind Body Connection·      Personal Journeys Into Cycle Awareness·      Endometriosis And Medical Dismissal·      Tracking Desire And Sexual Arousal·      Understanding Vaginal Dryness And Lubrication·      Perimenopause And Hormonal Shifts·      Tracking What Feels Good Not Just Pain·      Using Data To Advocate In Healthcare·      Why Analog Tracking Can Be PowerfulThank you to our sponsor Filthy Milfs! Your podcast lineup is about to get filthy. Get ready for a completely uncensored, outspoken, dirty-minded, and eye-opening look from the most adventurous milfs on the block, Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine. They're filthy. They're milfy. And they’re waiting for you on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you catch your favorite podcasts.A Woman's Guide to Reviving Sex Drive Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 468 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Alyssa Yee, who speaks to me about the realities of vulvar and vaginal pain, the challenges of diagnosis, and how partners can offer meaningful support. In this conversation, we discuss the wide range of painful symptoms many vulva owners experience, from burning and sharp stinging at the vestibule to deeper pelvic discomfort that can appear during or after sexual activity. Dr. Yee helps clarify how conditions such as vestibulodynia, hormonal disruptions, pelvic venous disorders, and endometriosis often go unrecognized or are dismissed in medical settings, leaving patients feeling isolated and unsure where to turn for help. Dr. Alyssa Yee is a Sexual Medicine Physician and Reconstructive Urologist who completed her clinical fellowship at San Diego Sexual Medicine in 2021-2022 under the mentorship of Dr. Irwin Goldstein. In her fellowship, she was awarded the SMSNA Foundation Research grant to investigate the pathophysiology of neuroproliferative vestibulodynia–a painful sexual condition of the vulva. Drawing from her research, Dr. Yee innovated the first sub-epithelial complete vestibulectomy surgery, allowing for decreased blood loss and post-operative pain with excellent response.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Understanding Vulvar And Vaginal Pain·      Why Pain During Sex Is Often Normalized·      Common Symptoms Of Vestibulodynia·      How Hormones Influence Genital Pain·      Inflammation And Nerve Related Causes·      Endometriosis Symptoms And Misdiagnosis·      Why Patients Feel Gaslighted In Medical Settings·      How Partners Can Offer Support And Validation·      Effective Treatment Options And Hormonal Therapies·      Resources For Finding Knowledgeable ProvidersThank you to our sponsor Filthy Milfs! Your podcast lineup is about to get filthy. Get ready for a completely uncensored, outspoken, dirty-minded, and eye-opening look from the most adventurous milfs on the block, Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine. They're filthy. They're milfy. And they’re waiting for you on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you catch your favorite podcasts.Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 467 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Suzannah Weiss who speaks to me about understanding and addressing the orgasm gap in long term relationships.In this conversation, we look at why orgasm inequality persists even among couples who consider themselves progressive, communicative, and sexually informed. We discuss how cultural narratives, media scripts, and outdated beliefs continue to shape expectations around women’s pleasure, often leaving vulva owners feeling inadequate or unseen in intimate relationships. Suzannah Weiss is a writer, sexologist, and psychotherapist in Los Angeles. She is the author of Eve's Blessing: Uncovering the Lost Pleasure Behind Female Pain and Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject. She runs a psychotherapy practice focused on sex and couples' therapy and neurodiversity. She is also a certified sex educator, sexual assault counselor, and birth doula.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Understanding the Origins of the Orgasm Gap·      Cultural Versus Biological Explanations·      How Porn Shapes Early Sexual Scripts·      Prioritizing Clitoral Stimulation·      Working With Vibrators and Sexual Aids·      Techniques for Sharing Pleasure Preferences·      The Role of Fantasy in Partnered Sex·      Mindfulness and Embodiment Practices·      Reducing Performance Pressure for Both Partners·      Building Relaxation and Trust Before SexThank you to our sponsor Filthy Milfs! Your podcast lineup is about to get filthy. Get ready for a completely uncensored, outspoken, dirty-minded, and eye-opening look from the most adventurous milfs on the block, Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine. From ways to spice up your sex life at any age, to insightful wellness tips to keep you feeling happy, healthy, and hot in and out of the bedroom, they have got you covered. They're filthy. They're milfy. And they’re waiting for you on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you catch your favorite podcasts.Get your FREE Woman's Guide to Reviving Your Sex DriveBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 466 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Jessica Fern who speaks to me about consensual non-monogamy, secure attachment, and the inner work required to build healthy open relationships.In this conversation, Jessica shares her personal journey into non-monogamy and the ways her clinical work pushed her to explore the topic more deeply. We talk about emotional exclusivity, the origins of Polysecure, and how people can distinguish between personal triggers, relational dynamics, and the messages they have absorbed from society. Jessica offers thoughtful insights on insecurity, jealousy, and the importance of intentional repair when conflict arises. Jessica Fern holds a Master’s degree in Conflict Resolution, is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, a trained Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, and an integrative therapist drawing on 25 years of experience in somatic, narrative, psychotherapeutic, and spiritual healing modalities. She is the internationally recognized author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Nonmonogamy, The Polysecure Workbook, and Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. In this episode, you will hear: • Jessica’s Early Exploration Of Non Monogamy• Unconscious Beginnings And Identity Formation• How Clinical Work Sparked Conscious Alignment• Emotional Exclusivity And Realistic Expectations• Origins And Meaning Of The Term Polysecure• Hearts Model For Secure Attachment• Differentiating Me We Or Society• Conflict Repair And Nervous System Regulation• Assessing Readiness For Opening Relationships• Misconceptions Around Jealousy And CompersionThank you to our sponsor Hily! Hily is a dating app that connects singles with new people while supporting them in remaining authentic. Short for “Hey, I Like You,” it encourages users to be themselves, focusing on real connections over competition. With features like Icks&Clicks compatibility check and Consent Guard, Hily supports more genuine and safer interactions. Launched in 2017, it ranks among the top 10 US dating apps, with over 40 million users globally.Book an Appointment with Dr. MoaliSpice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 465 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Jessica Baum, who speaks to me about how attachment styles shape our sexual connection and intimacy within long-term relationships. In this episode, we explore how attachment theory helps us understand why so many couples struggle with maintaining desire over time. We discuss how patterns rooted in early childhood, such as anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment, influence not only our emotional connection but also our erotic lives. Jessica explains how couples often repeat familiar relational scripts, sometimes mistaking intensity or chaos for passion, and how real intimacy requires safety, awareness, and conscious effort.Jessica Baum is a licensed psychotherapist whose journey began with a lifelong curiosity about the “Whys” of life, why we feel, connect, and experience the world the way we do. This passion led her to specialize in trauma, attachment theory, and interpersonal neurobiology. Jessica believes that connection to ourselves and others is at the heart of healing, and she uses a range of modalities to help individuals and couples return to wholeness. She is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, a private group practice, and she leads a global coaching company offering support to clients worldwide. In this episode, you will hear:·      Understanding Attachment and Sexuality·      The Link Between Love and Desire·      How Attachment Forms in Infancy·      Traits of Anxious and Avoidant Styles·      Recognizing Pockets of Disorganization·      How Childhood Shaped Adult Intimacy·      Repairing Attachment Through Awareness·      Creating Safety for Passionate Sex·      Somatic Tools for Healing·      Moving Toward Secure AttachmentThank you to our sponsor Hily a dating app that connects singles with new people while supporting them in remaining authentic. Short for “Hey, I Like You,” it encourages users to be themselves, focusing on real connections over competition. With features like Icks&Clicks compatibility check and Consent Guard, Hily supports more genuine and safer interactions. Launched in 2017, it ranks among the top 10 US dating apps, with over 40 million users globally. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 464 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Riana Milne, who speaks to me about emotional disconnection, communication breakdowns, and their impact on sexual desire in relationships. In this episode, Riana and I explore how emotional safety and communication are at the heart of sexual connection. We discuss why unresolved conflicts and stress responses, like fight, flight, or freeze, can suppress desire, and how couples can learn to reconnect through conscious communication and emotional regulation. Riana Milne MA is a Certified, Global Life and Love Trauma Recovery Coach, a Cert. Clinical Trauma & Addictions Professional, a Certified Mindfulness Coach, #1 Bestselling Author, the Host of her Podcast called Lessons in Life & Love'', an Educational Speaker, and Licensed Mental Health Counselor for over 21 years living in Palm Beach County, Florida. Riana specializes in helping those who have had past Childhood or Love Relationship Trauma to Heal, Transform & Thrive; leading them to Create the Life They Desire & to Have the Love They Deserve! She offers Coaching programs for both Straight & LGBTQ Singles & Couples globally for ages 16-76.In this episode, you will hear:·      Emotional Safety As The Foundation Of Desire·      Why Communication Comes Before Sexuality·      How The Brain Reacts To Conflict And Stress·      Understanding Fight, Flight, And Freeze In Relationships·      The “Tea Break” Technique For Conflict Resolution·      Why Couples Must Approach Problems As A Team·      The Role Of Fun And Dating In Rekindling Intimacy·      Healing Childhood And Love Trauma Patterns·      Balancing Household Roles To Create Partnership·      How To Rebuild Connection After DisconnectionThank you to our sponsor Hily a dating app that connects singles with new people while supporting them in remaining authentic. Short for “Hey, I Like You,” it encourages users to be themselves, focusing on real connections over competition. With features like Icks&Clicks compatibility check and Consent Guard, Hily supports more genuine and safer interactions. Launched in 2017, it ranks among the top 10 US dating apps, with over 40 million users globally. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 463 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by, Hily Dating App's sexologist and sexuality educator, Dr. Mindy DeSeta, who speaks to me about flirting, sexting, and the art of digital consent in modern dating.In this conversation, we discuss how to move from casual conversations to more intimate ones, without it feeling awkward or forced. Dr. DeSeta shares how flirting and sexting are forms of vulnerable communication, not just sexual expression, and why pacing, consent, and emotional awareness are vital. We also touch upon the nuances of reading digital signals, how to avoid common mistakes like jumping ahead too soon, and what healthy, sexy communication looks like in both text and real life. Dr. Mindy DeSeta has a Doctorate in Clinical Sexology and is a Board Certified Sex Therapist and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She has been in private practice since 2017 when she founded her concierge and bespoke mental health practice, Insight Counseling Center Miami. From 2025, Dr. DeSeta works with Hily Dating App as sexologist and sexuality educator consulting on product development, research and communication with the users.In this episode, you will hear:·      The Art Of Transitioning From Flirting To Sexting·      How To Gauge Interest And Enthusiasm Digitally·      Why The Lost “Courting Process” Still Matters·      Recognizing Red Flags During Text Conversations·      Handling Awkward Gray Zones In Online Dating·      The Psychology Behind Unsolicited Explicit Photos·      Understanding Digital Consent And Its Importance·      Introducing Hily’s “Consent Guard” Feature·      How Asking For Consent Can Be Sexy And Empowering·      Tips To Create More Authentic And Respectful ConnectionsThank you to our sponsor Hily a dating app that connects singles with new people while supporting them in remaining authentic. Short for “Hey, I Like You,” it encourages users to be themselves, focusing on real connections over competition. With features like Icks&Clicks compatibility check and Consent Guard, Hily supports more genuine and safer interactions. Launched in 2017, it ranks among the top 10 US dating apps, with over 40 million users globally. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 462 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Ali Mezey, who speaks to me about ‘The Heart Sexuality Split’, a powerful framework she uses to help clients understand how love, desire, and trauma shape our most intimate connections.In this conversation, we explore the concept of ‘The Heart Sexuality Split’, how many people find themselves loving but not desiring their partners. Ali explains her Personal Geometry model, which uses physical mapping to externalize inner dynamics, offering profound insight into where we may feel emotionally blocked or disconnected. She also shares her own story of growing up in a sexualized environment, the early disconnection between heart and body, and her journey toward reintegrating love, desire, and authenticity.Ali Mezey is a Body Therapist, Family Constellation Work Facilitator, Sexologist and Media Maker with over 40 years of experience. Ali has worked in renowned rehab centers in Los Angeles for sex, drug, and alcohol addiction. She developed her groundbreaking body-based method Personal Geometry® to address the challenges of working with sexual trauma, compulsivity, dysfunctions and discontents. She works internationally with individuals, couples, in groups, speaking publicly and as a teacher of Personal Geometry® and hosts The Brilliant Body Podcast.In this episode, you will hear:·      Understanding The Heart–Sexuality Split·      How Early Experiences Shape Our Erotic Blueprint·      The Role Of Trauma And Cultural Conditioning·      Religion, Shame, And Disconnection From The Body·      Using Personal Geometry To Map Relationships·      How Emotional Incest Impacts Adult Intimacy·      Bridging Love, Lust, And Long-Term Relationships·      Integrating Spirituality With Sexuality·      A Guided Mapping Practice You Can Try At Home·      Finding Wholeness Through Embodied AwarenessDownload the sex therapist approved list of 101 different ways to spice up your sex life NOW and to turn up the heat in the bedroom.  Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy