Sexology

Welcome to Episode 448 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Kate Balestrieri, who speaks to me about navigating low desire and reigniting intimacy in long‑term relationships.In this conversation, Kate and I normalize the reality that everyone, including sex therapists, experiences fluctuations in sexual desire. She shares the multifaceted story behind her own temporary drop in libido, touching on burnout, perimenopause, pandemic stress, and relationship “growing pains.” Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D is a Licensed Psychologist (Clinical and Forensic) in CA, FL, NY and IL. She is a Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – Supervisor, and PACT III trained couples’ therapist. The Founder of Modern Intimacy, a nationwide therapy practice, Dr. Balestrieri is a passionate advocate for mental, relational and sexual health. Throughout her work, Dr. Balestrieri focuses on helping people build resilience and recovery from what ails them to move from a position of pain or discomfort to one of thriving, holistically in their lives. Dr. Balestrieri is the author of What Happened to My Sex Life? A Sex Therapist’s Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection and Pleasure, and is the host of the Get Naked with Dr. Kate podcast.In this episode, you will hear:·      Normalizing Fluctuating Desire·      Multifaceted Roots Of Low Libido·      Love–Lust Divide In Long‑Term Bonds·      Stress And Burnout As Desire Dampeners·      Role Of Novelty And Mystery·      Dangers Of Obligatory Or “Pity” Sex·      The 30% Orgasm Gap Explained·      Embodiment And Pleasure Practices·      Rekindling Passion With Intentional Effort It’s back, our L.A. Love Lab – Matchmaking Event! Happening Saturday, October 4, 2025 in Manhatten Beach, California with Dr. Moali and Dr. E…we hope you can join us and let us work our matchmaking magic on you! Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 447 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Patti Britton, who speaks to me about her new memoir Chasing Sex, the life events that shaped her as a pioneer in sex coaching, and how we can all cultivate pleasure and transcendent intimacy at any age.In this heartfelt conversation, Patti traces the winding path from her “little girl named Patti” to the globally known “Dr. Patti.” She opens up about the matriarchs who modeled sexual confidence, the traumas she survived, and the counter-culture influences that called her to sexology. You’ll hear how writing her memoir became a race against time to preserve her stories, and why she now gifts readers “52 Lessons for Life” drawn from those pages.Dr. Patti Britton is a nationally board-certified, world recognized Clinical Sexologist, known as the “Mother of Sex Coaching”. She’s the author of hundreds of articles, book chapters, forewords, and five major books in sexology. She is a proud member of the LA writers’ community, having studied Method Writing for over 20 years. She is published in several anthologies with a variety of her stories. Her memoir, Chasing Sex, Wanting Love, Finding Myself was released in 2024 from Balboa Press.In this episode, you will hear:·      Dr. Patti Britton’s Matriarchal Role Models·      From Trauma to Thriving: Finding an Authentic Sexual Voice·      Why She Wrote Chasing Sex in Her Seventies·      Pleasure Framed as a Fundamental Human Right·      The Five-Level Touch Continuum Explained·      Transcendent Sex vs. “Good Enough” Sex·      Aging, Orgasm, and Embracing New Erotic Scripts·      Tips for Men: Shift From Performance to Sensation·      Keeping Desire Alive Through Novelty and Play·      Patti’s Free “52 Lessons for Life” and Ongoing Legacy It’s back, our L.A. Love Lab – Matchmaking Event! Happening Saturday, October 4, 2025 in Manhatten Beach, California with Dr. Moali and Dr. E…we hope you can join us and let us work our matchmaking magic on you! Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 446 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Inka Winter, who speaks to me about her journey from surviving a sex cult to pioneering feminist, female-gaze erotica that centers women’s pleasure and authentic consent.Inka Winter is an erotic filmmaker and founder of ForPlay Films, an independent, all-woman porn production company. Spending her formative years living in an alternative artist commune in Austria gave Inka a critical eye for what constitutes sexy, consensual female pleasure and set the foundation for her creative endeavors in erotic filmmaking. Her background in costume design and styling informs her aesthetic and translates to the editorial feel of her films.In our conversation, Inka opens up about growing up in an Austrian commune that devolved into an authoritarian sex cult. She describes the rigid hierarchy, the separation of children from parents, and the constant pressure to conform to cult-mandated ideas of “free love.” We discuss the lingering impact of early exposure to sexual activity, the leader’s eventual arrest, and the complex process of unraveling trauma, reclaiming agency, and seeking reparations decades later.In this episode, you will hear:·      Childhood In Authoritarian Sex Cult·      Leader’s Arrest & Commune Collapse·      Processing Trauma Through Therapy·      Documentary Mirror Of Lived Reality·      From Fashion Design To Erotic Filmmaking·      Defining The Female Gaze On Screen·      Consent-Driven, Performer-Led Scenes·      Holistic Porn As Sex Education·      Debunking Porn “Addiction” Myths·      Empowering Women’s Pleasure & Fantasy Free Resources for Your Erotic Awakening: If you are searching for Dr. Moali’s recommendations for steamy reads, erotic audio, and ethical porn that will help you feel sexually energized, this is for you.Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 445 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Darshana Avila, who speaks to me about mindful masturbation as a form of self-care and erotic exploration. In this conversation, Darshana and I dive into why so many of us default to the same quick, goal-oriented masturbation routine and how that habit is wired into our neural pathways. We explore the power of slowing down, setting an intention, and treating solo pleasure as a ritual, complete with an opening, body-centered exploration, and a conscious closing.Best known for her contributions to Netflix's Sex, Love & goop, trauma informed,pleasure centric, culturally relevant erotic education is Darshana's sweet spot. Supporting women & queer community, individually or alongside their partners, is her deepest passion She's a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker, guiding & serving through her private practice, public speaking & online offerings.In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Mindful Masturbation·      Neural Pathways And Habit Loops·      Intentional Rituals For Solo Sex·      Full-Body Touch Before Genitals·      Navigating Boredom And Plateaus·      Sensate Focus Vs. Visual Stimulation·      Fantasy As A Creative Arousal Tool·      Scheduling Familiar And New Practices·      Challenging Inner Critic Narratives·      Pleasure As Personal And Collective Liberation Check out our YouTube for new videos dropping twice a weekBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this discussion, Lisa Schaefer, VP of Marketing at Promescent, dives into the exciting world of sex tech. She explores innovative products like wearable male vibrators and blood-flow-boosting arousal gels that aim to close the orgasm gap. The conversation also touches on the healthy nature of sexual fantasies and provides scripts for openly discussing kinks with partners. Listeners get insights into the growing inclusivity in sexual wellness and the importance of communication in enhancing intimacy.

Epiphany Jordan, a public health expert and author of 'Somebody Hold Me', discusses the critical importance of non-sexual touch for emotional well-being and healing. She shares insights on how touch can combat loneliness, particularly for singles, and explores its role in nurturing relationships. Epiphany emphasizes the healing potential of structured, non-sexual touch experiences while tackling societal norms around affection. This conversation highlights practical ways to enrich human connection and why touch is a fundamental biological need.

Welcome to Episode 442 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Eleanor O’Brien who speaks to me about exploring erotic fantasies through creativity, theater, and self-expression. In this conversation, Eleanor shares how her personal journey with fantasy evolved from taboo-fueled curiosity to embodied empowerment. We explore the fascinating world of erotic storytelling, from her theater adaptations of fantasy monologues to the value of devising your own erotic scenes through selfies, writing prompts, and roleplay. Eleanor O’Brien is the artistic director of Dance Naked Creative, a sex-positive theater and event company. She is a writer, performer and facilitator. She is the creator of solo shows Plan V, How to Really, Really? Really! Love a woman, GGG: Dominatrix for Dummies and Lust & Marriage. She directed and starred in the Inviting Desire series, ensemble productions that include A Theatrical Aphrodisiac, Lubricate Your Libido, Pleasure, Permission, Possibility...and The Dawn of Sex. She has produced & directed the community cabarets What Is Erotic?, Revelations, and Sex We Can! and is the founder of the biennial sex and culture theater festival Come Inside. She hosts the monthly erotic open mic Stand Up Smut, and teaches workshops exploring the intersection between sexuality and creativity. She is the captain of the Erotic Creators Club on Patreon.In this episode, you will hear:·      Erotic Fantasy As A Tool For Self-Discovery·      How Nancy Friday’s Work Sparked A Creative Revolution·      The Healing Power Of Erotic Theater·      Ways To Cultivate An Erotic Inner Life·      How To Use Fantasy As Connection, Not Escape·      Role Of Taboo And Power Dynamics In Desire·      Creating Erotic Rituals With A Partner·      Why Investment Behaviors Are Arousing·      Moving Beyond Porn To Create Personal Erotica·      How Set And Setting Can Enhance Arousal Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this engaging discussion, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, a physician coach and Intimate Marriage Expert, shares her transformative insights on cultivating intimacy in long-term relationships. She reveals how the common practice of compromise can stifle erotic connection, advocating instead for 'Uncompromising Intimacy.' Listeners will learn about the signs of a sexless marriage and the vital role of authentic communication. Alexandra also emphasizes the power of curiosity in rekindling intimacy and self-esteem, offering practical strategies to reignite passion.

Welcome to Episode 440 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Jeff Abraham, CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, whose lead product is Promescent. Jeff speaks to me about the deeply misunderstood topic of premature ejaculation (PE) and the emotional, relational, and physiological dimensions behind it.In this enlightening conversation, Jeff and I unpack the complex web of stigma, shame, and misinformation that surrounds early ejaculation. We discuss the difference between perceived and clinically defined PE, the real physiological roots beyond just anxiety or lack of willpower, and the often-overlooked arousal gap between partners.Once retired, Jeff found his encore career in the sexual wellness space, bringing sharp business instincts, integrity, and a bold sense of mission to Promescent.Originally from a struggling town in Pennsylvania, Jeff built a successful recruiting career in Silicon Valley, placing top engineers at tech giants like AMD, Motorola, and Lam Research. During his career, he was instructed by a major car manufacturer to discriminate against women and people of color in the hiring process, an order he refused to follow. Instead, Jeff took a stand and filed an anti-discrimination lawsuit against the company. Against the odds, he won, driven by a core belief in doing the right thing.In this episode, you will hear:·      Understanding The Root Causes Of Premature Ejaculation·      Why Most PE Cases Are Physiological, Not Psychological·      How Porn Skews Our Expectations Of Sexual Performance·      Defining PE: Clinical Criteria Vs. Subjective Experience·      Closing The Arousal Gap For Mutual Satisfaction·      Why Communication Is Crucial For Sexual Confidence·      How Promescent’s Patented Formula Avoids Numbing Your Partner·      Tips For Introducing Delay Sprays Without Hurting Feelings·      The Psychological Boost Of Feeling In Control During Intimacy·      Why Quality Sex Toys And Lubes Are Investments In Your Wellbeing Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

A panel of sex therapists shares wisdom on the most common bedroom blunders. They stress the power of non-verbal communication and the benefits of slowing down to enhance pleasure. Insights about the interplay between emotional security and intimacy shine a light on fostering deeper connections. Listeners are encouraged to embrace playfulness, tackle awkwardness with humor, and engage in open, honest discussions to improve their sexual experiences. This advice invites a refreshing take on pleasure and intimacy.