Sexology

Welcome to Episode 445 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Darshana Avila, who speaks to me about mindful masturbation as a form of self-care and erotic exploration. In this conversation, Darshana and I dive into why so many of us default to the same quick, goal-oriented masturbation routine and how that habit is wired into our neural pathways. We explore the power of slowing down, setting an intention, and treating solo pleasure as a ritual, complete with an opening, body-centered exploration, and a conscious closing.Best known for her contributions to Netflix's Sex, Love & goop, trauma informed,pleasure centric, culturally relevant erotic education is Darshana's sweet spot. Supporting women & queer community, individually or alongside their partners, is her deepest passion She's a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker, guiding & serving through her private practice, public speaking & online offerings.In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Mindful Masturbation·      Neural Pathways And Habit Loops·      Intentional Rituals For Solo Sex·      Full-Body Touch Before Genitals·      Navigating Boredom And Plateaus·      Sensate Focus Vs. Visual Stimulation·      Fantasy As A Creative Arousal Tool·      Scheduling Familiar And New Practices·      Challenging Inner Critic Narratives·      Pleasure As Personal And Collective Liberation Check out our YouTube for new videos dropping twice a weekBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this discussion, Lisa Schaefer, VP of Marketing at Promescent, dives into the exciting world of sex tech. She explores innovative products like wearable male vibrators and blood-flow-boosting arousal gels that aim to close the orgasm gap. The conversation also touches on the healthy nature of sexual fantasies and provides scripts for openly discussing kinks with partners. Listeners get insights into the growing inclusivity in sexual wellness and the importance of communication in enhancing intimacy.

Epiphany Jordan, a public health expert and author of 'Somebody Hold Me', discusses the critical importance of non-sexual touch for emotional well-being and healing. She shares insights on how touch can combat loneliness, particularly for singles, and explores its role in nurturing relationships. Epiphany emphasizes the healing potential of structured, non-sexual touch experiences while tackling societal norms around affection. This conversation highlights practical ways to enrich human connection and why touch is a fundamental biological need.

Welcome to Episode 442 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Eleanor O’Brien who speaks to me about exploring erotic fantasies through creativity, theater, and self-expression. In this conversation, Eleanor shares how her personal journey with fantasy evolved from taboo-fueled curiosity to embodied empowerment. We explore the fascinating world of erotic storytelling, from her theater adaptations of fantasy monologues to the value of devising your own erotic scenes through selfies, writing prompts, and roleplay. Eleanor O’Brien is the artistic director of Dance Naked Creative, a sex-positive theater and event company. She is a writer, performer and facilitator. She is the creator of solo shows Plan V, How to Really, Really? Really! Love a woman, GGG: Dominatrix for Dummies and Lust & Marriage. She directed and starred in the Inviting Desire series, ensemble productions that include A Theatrical Aphrodisiac, Lubricate Your Libido, Pleasure, Permission, Possibility...and The Dawn of Sex. She has produced & directed the community cabarets What Is Erotic?, Revelations, and Sex We Can! and is the founder of the biennial sex and culture theater festival Come Inside. She hosts the monthly erotic open mic Stand Up Smut, and teaches workshops exploring the intersection between sexuality and creativity. She is the captain of the Erotic Creators Club on Patreon.In this episode, you will hear:·      Erotic Fantasy As A Tool For Self-Discovery·      How Nancy Friday’s Work Sparked A Creative Revolution·      The Healing Power Of Erotic Theater·      Ways To Cultivate An Erotic Inner Life·      How To Use Fantasy As Connection, Not Escape·      Role Of Taboo And Power Dynamics In Desire·      Creating Erotic Rituals With A Partner·      Why Investment Behaviors Are Arousing·      Moving Beyond Porn To Create Personal Erotica·      How Set And Setting Can Enhance Arousal Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this engaging discussion, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, a physician coach and Intimate Marriage Expert, shares her transformative insights on cultivating intimacy in long-term relationships. She reveals how the common practice of compromise can stifle erotic connection, advocating instead for 'Uncompromising Intimacy.' Listeners will learn about the signs of a sexless marriage and the vital role of authentic communication. Alexandra also emphasizes the power of curiosity in rekindling intimacy and self-esteem, offering practical strategies to reignite passion.

Welcome to Episode 440 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Jeff Abraham, CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, whose lead product is Promescent. Jeff speaks to me about the deeply misunderstood topic of premature ejaculation (PE) and the emotional, relational, and physiological dimensions behind it.In this enlightening conversation, Jeff and I unpack the complex web of stigma, shame, and misinformation that surrounds early ejaculation. We discuss the difference between perceived and clinically defined PE, the real physiological roots beyond just anxiety or lack of willpower, and the often-overlooked arousal gap between partners.Once retired, Jeff found his encore career in the sexual wellness space, bringing sharp business instincts, integrity, and a bold sense of mission to Promescent.Originally from a struggling town in Pennsylvania, Jeff built a successful recruiting career in Silicon Valley, placing top engineers at tech giants like AMD, Motorola, and Lam Research. During his career, he was instructed by a major car manufacturer to discriminate against women and people of color in the hiring process, an order he refused to follow. Instead, Jeff took a stand and filed an anti-discrimination lawsuit against the company. Against the odds, he won, driven by a core belief in doing the right thing.In this episode, you will hear:·      Understanding The Root Causes Of Premature Ejaculation·      Why Most PE Cases Are Physiological, Not Psychological·      How Porn Skews Our Expectations Of Sexual Performance·      Defining PE: Clinical Criteria Vs. Subjective Experience·      Closing The Arousal Gap For Mutual Satisfaction·      Why Communication Is Crucial For Sexual Confidence·      How Promescent’s Patented Formula Avoids Numbing Your Partner·      Tips For Introducing Delay Sprays Without Hurting Feelings·      The Psychological Boost Of Feeling In Control During Intimacy·      Why Quality Sex Toys And Lubes Are Investments In Your Wellbeing Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

A panel of sex therapists shares wisdom on the most common bedroom blunders. They stress the power of non-verbal communication and the benefits of slowing down to enhance pleasure. Insights about the interplay between emotional security and intimacy shine a light on fostering deeper connections. Listeners are encouraged to embrace playfulness, tackle awkwardness with humor, and engage in open, honest discussions to improve their sexual experiences. This advice invites a refreshing take on pleasure and intimacy.

Welcome to Episode 438 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, who speak to me about emotional regulation, co-regulation, and their transformative journey in creating a stronger sexual connection through emotional attunement.In this heartfelt episode, Glenn and Phyllis share their personal story of early sexual struggles and emotional disconnect in their marriage, which eventually led them on a lifelong quest for answers. Married since 1982, they recount decades of feeling lost and misunderstood, highlighting how a lack of emotional education contributed to sexual dissatisfaction and relational distance.Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school & became a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. But, it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of all of their disconnect. From there, Dr Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes- a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4-minute exercise. In this episode, you will hear:·      The Hills’ Personal Journey·      Why Emotional Education is Critical for a Healthy Sex Life·      The Impact of Emotional Wounding on Physical Intimacy·      How Emotional Dysregulation Disrupts Sexual Desire and Connection·      The “Four-Minute Tool” for Tuning Into Core Emotions·      Co-Regulation and Building Emotional Safety With Your Partner·      The Power of Naming Emotions Like Sadness, Hurt, and Joy·      How Sexual Banter Can Foster Intimacy Outside the Bedroom·      Practical Advice for Communicating Emotional Overwhelm Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order.Free Erotica ChecklistBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Connection CodesUpgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 437 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Brittany Steffen, LMFT, who speaks to me about how couples can navigate and deepen their sexual communication. In this episode, Brittany and I discuss the kinds of conversations couples should be having but often aren’t, especially when it comes to sex. We talk about the importance of discussing how and when to initiate sex, redefining what “counts” as sex, and how understanding each other’s intentions can greatly enhance intimacy. Brittany Steffen is the owner and founder of Steffen Counseling Services. She earned her graduate degree in marriage and family therapy from Seattle Pacific University in 2012 and has worked as a therapist in the Seattle area for over a decade. In 2018, she began the process of becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist to meet the growing demand for specialized sex therapy services.In this episode, you will hear:·      Top Three Conversations Every Couple Should Have About Sex·      How To Navigate Desire Discrepancy Without Blame·      Shifting From Yes/No Sex to a Menu of Possibilities·      Why Defining “Sex” Broadly Can Improve Intimacy·      Understanding the Emotional Weight of Sexual Rejection·      How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure or Shame·      Requests vs. Demands: A Key Distinction in Sexual Communication·      Common Traps That Lead to Sexual Conflict in Long-Term Relationships·      How Self-Reflection Can Improve Your Sex Life Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order.Free Erotica ChecklistUpgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 436 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, co-founders of the Somatica Institute, who speak to me about sex parties. In this episode, we discuss the evolving landscape of sexual exploration, intentional relationship structures, and how sex parties can be transformative when approached with clear communication, consent, and a sense of curiosity.Danielle and Celeste share their personal journey of entering the world of sex parties, offering valuable insight into how these experiences can deepen intimacy, spark erotic creativity, and provide healing opportunities for individuals and couples alike.Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., are pioneers in intimacy, sexuality, and relationship coaching. Co-founders of the Somatica® Institute, they’ve transformed how love and connection are taught through their experiential, science-based Somatica Method. Together, they’ve trained over 1,000 coaches and helped countless individuals and couples embrace vulnerability, rediscover desire, and create deeply fulfilling relationships.In this episode, you will hear:·      Understanding the Modern Role of Sex Parties·      Exploration of Monogamy, Polyamory Relationships·      The Importance of Clear Communication and Consent·      How Sex Parties Can Strengthen Emotional Intimacy·      Navigating Jealousy, Compersion, and Erotic Curiosity·      Preparation Tips for First-Time Attendees·      How to Host a Consent-Centered and Inclusive Event·      The Emotional Core Behind Erotic Desires·      Addressing Relationship Misconceptions Around Opening Up·      Resources for Finding and Learning About Sex-Positive Communities Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Their diverse lineup includes delay sprays, lubricants, vibrators, and more - all carefully curated to support sexual wellness and intimacy. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order.  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy