Welcome to episode 155 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Fiona O'Farrell to the podcast. In this episode Fiona speaks with me about paper dolls, how they can be used as a vehicle for self-pleasure and understanding you can still be sexual when not reproductive.     Fiona O'Farrell is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Sex Educator and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. In her practice, she works with clients on issues relating to sexual identity, dismantling sex negative messages, and enhancing pleasure and intimacy.     She is the coordinator of the Sexuality Therapy and Sex Education Certificate Programs at Antioch University in Seattle and teaches classes in human sexuality, sex therapy, and relationship therapy. Fiona is dedicated to expanding sex ed resources to be inclusive of body diversity and challenge binary thinking.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How paper dolls allows for diversity   Having many options available as an add-on  Using paper dolls for sexual arousal  Accessing good materials to process self-image  Understanding you can still be sexual when not reproductive   The reactions Fiona sees from participants?  How you can use paper dolls as a vehicle for self-pleasure      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Fiona here:   www.adaptivecounselingseattle.com  fiona@adaptivecounselingseattle.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Discussing consensual non-monogamy, attachment quality, and handling minority stress with expert Amy C. Moors. Exploring diverse expressions of sexuality, promoting inclusion in higher education, and addressing challenges in non-monogamous relationships. Providing recommendations for therapists, exploring resources for research, and destigmatizing non-monogamous relationships.

Welcome to episode 153 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it is my pleasure to welcome Dr. Alison Ash to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about the art and science of seduction, differentiating between friendliness and flirting, and how anyone can develop seduction skills.    Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and educator, lecturer at Stanford University, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences.     Aly designs workshops and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     How Alison began working in sex education   Differentiating between friendliness and flirting   Mistakes people often make when flirting   Learning to seduce yourself   Looking at sleaze free seductions   The importance of safety + turn on   Understanding the founding principles of seduction  Balancing out escalation and de-escalation   Learning about the three-part invitation   How anyone can develop seduction skills   Recommendations if you want to go down this path        101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Alison here:   www.TurnON.love  www.TurnON.love/freegift     Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 152 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. Shannon Chavez to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about casual sex, how to best use dating sites like Tinder and emotionally preparing yourself for casual sex.     Dr. Chavez is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist with a private practice, SHAPE (Sexual Health and Pleasure Enhancement) Center in Beverly Hills, California where she provides individual and couples therapy, sex and relationship coaching, and workshops on sexual health and wellness.     Her work focuses on adult sex education, integrating sexuality and spirituality, and sexual discovery towards personal growth. She frequently appears on national news, radio, and media as a sexual health expert.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Limiting ideas that get in the way of women having casual sex  The importance of exploration and having fun  Learning to verbalize your wants and needs   How having casual sex can give you the opportunity to take different kinds of risks  How to best use dating sites like Tinder   Dealing with the issue of liking someone who only wants casual sex   Ways to initiate hook-up sex  Emotionally preparing yourself for casual sex  Making sure to manage your alcohol intake through this journey   Morning after etiquette to follow       101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Dr. Chavez here:   https://drshannonchavez.com     Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  Welcome to episode 151 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Shane Birkel to the podcast. In this episode he speaks with me about relationship challenges that affect sexual function, how excitement lessens as bonds deepen and ways in which we can assess ourselves in this situation.     Shane Birkel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice near Boston. He works primarily with couples and is a certified Relational Life Therapist with Terry Real as his mentor.     Shane hosts a weekly podcast called the Couples Therapist Couch that is all about the practice of Couples Therapy. He is the creator of the Couples Therapist Inner Circle which is a membership site supporting therapists in their work with couples.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Relational challenges that affect sexual function   How many people don’t realize the negative habits they have that will impact sex in a relationship   Looking at overdependence on our partners for how we feel about ourselves  The importance of showing up as yourself as your relationship evolves   Getting stuck doing the same things   Ways in which we can assess ourselves in this situation   Understanding that your partner cannot meet all of your needs  Learning to not put too much expectation on your relationship   How excitement lessens as bonds deepen   Looking at the issue of control       101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Shane here:   https://shanebirkel.com   https://couplestherapistcouch.com       Find me on social media:  https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 150 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am joined by Dr. Robert Glover. In this episode we discuss the Nice Guy Syndrome, the issues nice guys have around sex, and the ways they can change things inside and outside the bedroom.     Dr. Robert Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome and author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications. Through his book, online classes, workshops, podcasts, blogs, consultation, and therapy groups, Dr. Glover has helped change the lives of countless men and women around the world.     As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men's professional careers and intimate relationships.    Dr. Glover is the creator of Dating Essentials for Men and the director of TPI University. He lives in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     What is the nice guy syndrome?   What do nice guys struggle with?   How now guys are terrible receivers   The ways in which nice guys show up in the bedroom   Why nice guys have issues around sex   How nice guys struggle with being too routine   Looking at the issue of paying for forms of sexual pleasure over communicating what you want   Worrying too much about performance during sex   Learning to take off the pressure away from performance   How can nice guys change things in and outside of the bedroom?  Learning to ask for what you need        101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Dr. Glover here:   https://www.drglover.com/    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 149 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Tammy Nelson to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about sexual boredom, contributing factors as to why people cheat, and the concept of new monogamy.     Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. is a Board Certified Sexologist and Certified Sex Therapist as well as a  Relationship Therapist and author of several books for couples including Getting the Sex You Want, The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheated,  and the upcoming Integrative Sex and Couples Therapy due out in March.     She is the Director and Founder of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute in Washington DC., a training Institute, and Think Tank focused on obtaining and creating sustainable relationships. She is also an expert consultant for Ashley Madison, an online dating site for married people. She has been featured in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Business Insider, Time Magazine, and is the host of a popular podcast, The Trouble with Sex.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     The common mistakes people make to become sexually bored   How sexual boredom can be akin to eating the same food every day   Why being too comfortable in a relationship can cause sexual boredom   Contributing factors as to why people cheat   How desire can increase for a partner when they show interest in someone else  Increasing the quantity and quality of sex in a long-term relationship   Rebuilding sexual intimacy   How changes in personality and identity can lead to cheating   Looking at the concept of new monogamy   What’s the difference between new monogamy and old monogamy?   Managing your unrealistic expectations   The role that technology plays in these changes        Find Dr. Tammy here:   https://drtammynelson.com     Free gift:   Email Tammy through her website and she will send you "37 Questions for your New Monogamy Agreement" -  a handout to create a relationship discussion that can help you start your new vision for the future of your new monogamy.    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Bonus:  101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: Sign up and receive this checklist to spice things up in your relationship for free: http://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe     Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 148 of the Sexology Podcast! Today’s episode is a solo episode during which I will respond to listeners’ pre-recorded questions. Here are the questions that I will answer in this episode: Why do so many women have spanking fantasies? How common are BDSM fantasies? How hard should a “normal” erection be? How do I know if I am “hard enough”? What do I do if I can’t get “hard enough”? How can you get your partner to initiate sex more often? How do you ask your partner to have sex without sounding desperate? If you’ve got questions, I have answers! Record your questions here: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/ or email it to drmoali@sexologypodcast.com   Resources mentioned in the episode: Books: Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies https://www.amazon.com/Arousal-Secret-Logic-Sexual-Fantasies/dp/0312302428   Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life  https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want/dp/0738234958   Articles:  http://www.repositoryeffetti.it/2010/agoraDisfunzioneErettile/download/letteratura/efficaciaClinica/Mulhall_JSM2007.pdf   https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jsm.12734 Find me on social media:  https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   Work with me: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 147 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke to the podcast. In this episode they speak to me about the misconceptions people have around having good relationships, not over compromising in a relationship and finding your voice to communicate what you really want to your partner.     CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke are the co-founders of Thrive Inc. They’ve spent 20 years helping men, women, couples, and teams to resolve difficult conflicts and create strong, thriving relationships. They’ve written two books: The Beauty of Conflict and The Beauty of Conflict for Couples.     They’ve given presentations on conflict resolution, communication, teamwork, and creative problem solving at Fortune 100 companies like Johnson & Johnson, Microsoft, AT&T and Nationwide, as well as, at organizations like the Gates Foundation, University of Washington Medical Center, and San Francisco Giants and many others.     They also run transformational retreats for couples several times a year, including Couples Mojo and Couples Alive.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     The misconceptions people have around having good relationships   Learning to not over compromise in a relationship   How the blame game comes into effect when you’re changing too much of yourself for a relationship  The art of communicating this issue with your partner  How having a good relationship doesn’t always mean you’re having good sex  Strategies to help keep your partner excited   Unconventional ways people can feel closer to their partner  Being stuck having left over sex   Learning to say how what you really want   Recommendations to properly understand what your partner is communicating to you         Find CrisMarie and Susan here:   https://www.thriveinc.com   https://www.facebook.com/thriveincmt  https://www.instagram.com/thriveinc   https://www.beautyofconflict.com       Find me on social media: https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Extra Content    Bonus episode, Sex & Anorexia Nervosa: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 146 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Jose Luis Tapia-Fuselier Jr to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about sex and disability, the effect a chronic illness or physical disability will have on a person's sex life, and sex tips for individuals and couples.     Jose Luis Tapia-Fuselier Jr. (pronouns: he, him, his) is currently a third-year doctoral student in counseling education and supervision at the University of North Texas. Jose’s research is focused on clinical interventions for interabled couples in couples’ and sex therapy. Specifically, Jose focuses on the adjustment process after one partner acquires a disability. Jose provides individual, couples, play, and family therapy with a special focus in working with disabled people in three languages (English, Spanish, and American Sign Language) at a private practice.     Jose has spent time working with interabled couples at a private rehabilitation setting for people with brain injuries (TBI and Stroke). He has also presented at the national, regional, state, and local level on topics related to counseling disabled clients, interabled couples and sex therapy, and bilingual counseling and supervision.    Questions Asked & Topics Talked About:    Does having a physical disability change one’s sexuality? Is it possible for individuals with disability to have fulfilling sex lives?  How does chronic illness or disability affect couples’ relationship and sexual dynamics?  The research that Jose has done in this area   Taking a look at the different relationship dynamics   How couples can learn to enrich the emotional quality of their relationship after experiencing these changes?  Overcoming the challenges people face through therapy   What are some of sex tips that you have for these individuals and couples?    Find Jose here:   JoseTapia@my.unt.edu     Find me on social media:  https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Extra Content:   Bonus episode, Sex & Anorexia Nervosa: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-anorexia-nervosa-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy