Welcome to episode 165 of the Sexology Podcast! Today we have a solo episode where we hear from listeners about their experiences of sexual fantasies, erectile dysfunction and coming out later in life.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Learning to not add unnecessary pressure to yourself   Looking at achievements we to aim for in relationships   Understanding and talking about the monogamous agreement   Making long distance relationships successful   Understanding your sexual fantasies   Ways you can play out your fantasies   Approaching your partner with your fantasies  Looking at erectile dysfunction and what can be done   The importance of seeing a sex therapist to overcome sexual issues   Exploring mutual masturbation   Looking at premature ejaculation and it’s causes  How you can improve upon premature ejaculation  How longer intercourse doesn’t always mean better sex   Coming out later in life   Recognizing signs that you might be gay and how you can come out earlier in life    References Sexology Podcast EP133: Penile Implant Surgery with Dr. Jeffrey Loh-Doyle Sexology Podcast EP58: Keeping a Long Distance Relationship Hot Huffpost: 11 Sex Tips For People In Long-Distance Relationships   Download my new ebook, How to Increase Your Libido - For Women, for free!  https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/   25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 164 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD to the show. In this episode Dr. Jen speaks with me about reconnecting with your sexual self, why people feel discomfort around sex and looking at the main motivators for sex.     Sociologist and intimacy coach, Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, is the author of the new book, From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. Dr. Jenn is a national speaker on sexual consent, couples intimacy, women’s empowerment, gender communication, erotic play, and mindful sex.     She has presented two TEDx Talks, is the co-host of the podcast Sex Talk with Clint & the Doc, and has over 1.6 million hits on her In the Den with Dr. Jenn YouTube video series.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Why sex matters?  What are some of the messages that contribute to people feeling discomfort with sexuality?  The importance of critical thinking   How can we expand our comfort zone around sex?  Ways in which we can honor own bodies through sex  What are some of the main reasons that motivate people to have sex and which ones are often more present in a long-term relationship?  Looking at sexual archetypes and how one can discover their sexual archetype     25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Dr. Jen here:   https://www.drjennsden.com   From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 163 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Molly Winterrowd to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Winterrowd speaks with me about how attitudes and beliefs impact the quality of our sex lives, creating more space in your life for sex and how to know if we need a sexual attitude adjustment.   Dr. Molly Winterrowd is an advocate in providing affirmative care, is dedicated to creating a safe space where individuals and partners experiencing challenges with their sexuality or gender are able to explore these aspects openly and honestly with care and compassion. Dr. Winterrowd believes that individuals are courageously vulnerable in therapy, and it is a privilege to be trusted to explore others’ deepest needs. In our work together, she helps to navigate how to fulfill these needs most functionally within clients’ lives. Dr. Winterrowd strives to create a safe space where open communication and honesty are welcomed and embraces a holistic approach that combines various therapies to help individuals and couples achieve greater levels of satisfaction in their relationships as well as lives.     Currently, Dr. Winterrowd is a Postdoctoral Fellow in Human Sexuality at the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health and is devoted to helping clients to overcome sexual and relationship challenges by improving the connection with partners, enhancing relational intimacy by focusing on desires, and identifying new ways in which to bond that fulfill each person’s needs. Dr. Winterrowd helps individuals navigate the physical and emotional process encountered by sexual pain challenges, erectile dysfunction, or struggling with out of control sexual behaviors that are causing emotional pain and difficulties in their relationships. Dr. Winterrowd received her Bachelors of Arts Degree in Psychology and Comparative Sociology from University of Puget Sound, her Master of Arts Degree in Clinical Psychology from George Fox University, and Doctoral Degree in Clinical Psychology from George Fox University.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How does one’s attitudes and beliefs impact the quality of her/his sex life?  What are some of the limiting beliefs that you have come across in your clients who are struggling with sexual dysfunction?  How creating more space for sex can lead to better sexual experiences   How does our language impact our sexual attitudes?  The correlation between the way we consume food and sex   How does one assess if her/his attitudes are getting in the way of a fulfilling sex life?  Looking at the benefits of sexual examination and exploration  How do we know if we need a sexual attitude adjustment?      25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Dr. Winterrowd here:   https://sextherapyhawaii.com     Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 162 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Amir Mohebbi to the podcast. In this episode Amir speaks with me about Sexsomnia, the behavioral patterns around this issue and what treatment can look like.     Amir Mohebbi is a proud Iranian-American currently completing his psychiatry residency at St. Louis University. He trained under mentorship from world-renowned forensic psychiatrists, Drs. William J. Newman and Brian J. Holoyda, whom co=authored a review related to his interests in sleep medicine and forensics entitled “Sexsomnia as a Defense in Repeated Sex Crimes”.     Amir presented his work alongside an expert panel consisting of forensic psychiatrists at the American Psychiatric Association 175th Annual Meeting in San Francisco, CA. In 2020, he will join a panel consisting of sleep medicine experts at the SLEEP 2020 conference hosted by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine and the Sleep Research Society in Philadelphia, PA. He earned his medical degree from St. Louis University and holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Biology from the University of California, Irvine.       In This Episode You Will Hear:     What is Sexsomnia?   Looking at the behaviors people are showing and engaging in   Sexual acts people can perform in their sleep   Looking at this through a psychiatric lens  What treatment for Sexsomnia looks like   The relationship between this condition and criminal law   How this issue stretches back hundreds of years   Why lawyers are very skeptical of Sexsomnia   Evaluations that can be made around Sexsomnia   Taking a look at ictal orgasms     25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Amir here:   https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/29618539    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 161 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Carol Queen, PhD to the podcast. In this episode Carol speaks with me about overcoming sexual shyness, things we can do to expand our horizons and tools we can add to our sexual toolbox.     Carol Queen is an American author, editor, sociologist and sexologist active in the sex-positive feminism movement. Queen has written on human sexuality in books such as Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture. She has written a sex tutorial, Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot, as well as erotica, such as the novel The Leather Daddy and the Femme.     Queen has produced adult movies, events, workshops and lectures. Queen was featured as an instructor and star in both instalments of the Bend Over Boyfriend series about female-to-male anal sex, or pegging. She has also served as editor for compilations and anthologies.   In This Episode You Will Hear:     The ways in which people experience sexual pleasure  How people integrate their sexuality into relationships  Looking at various we can give and receive pleasure  How we can more tools to our sexual toolbox  Building good compatibility with good communication   Where does our sexual shyness come from?  Getting over our sexual shyness  How erotic audiobooks can expand our sexual horizons   Looking at our fantasies and how they play out  Why going too far outside your comfort zone isn’t always the best thing    25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Carol here:   https://carolqueen.com   https://twitter.com/carolqueen    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 160 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Ela Darling to the podcast. In this episode Ela speaks with me about how she became involved in virtual reality porn, it’s social implications and how she sees it expanding in the future.     Ela Darling is a former librarian who has since become the leading voice in the intersection of Virtual Reality and the Adult Industry. As the world's first VR camgirl, Darling is a pioneer in the field of Virtual Reality pornography, having worked with a variety of elite adult companies, on both sides of the camera.     After a decade as an adult film performer, she is now the Director of Marketing for ViRo Club, a private, inclusive, judgement-free adult VR play space.      In This Episode You Will Hear:     How Ela went from being a librarian to working in the adult movie industry   What is Virtual Reality porn?  How did Ela transition to webcamming?   The impact bringing the camera into the experience has for VR porn   Taking a look at Telidildonics  Who are the people watching VR porn?  Looking at the content of VR porn   The importance of the plot within porn   How Ela see’s this technology expanding in the future  The social implications of VR  Looking at the pros and cons of VR as it grows         25 Ways to Increase Desire https://www.oasis2care.com/opt-in 101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Ela here:   https://twitter.com/eladarling  https://viro.club     Find me on social media: To celebrate Sexology’s 3rd anniversary, we are giving away great items this month. Follow me on Instagram to find out more! https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 159 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Barbara Carrellas to the podcast. In this episode Barbara speaks to me about Tantra, how you can enjoy it with a partner and we also take a look at Energygasms and Sex Magic.     Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®, a hot and healing approach to sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century—now in its second edition, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving.     She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine for her Urban Tantra workshops, and received a Lifetime Achievement Award at the Sexual Freedom Awards in London. She is a proud graduate of the Coney Island Sideshow School with a double major in fire eating and snake handling.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     What is Tantra?  Ways you can approach Tantra?  How can one enjoy tantric sex with a partner? What are some of the rituals involved?  Learning how to slow our minds and bodies down  Looking at breathing exercises   Are men able to maintain erections with Tantra?  Why erections alone are not the focus point  What is an Energygasm? How can one achieve it?  The relationship between energy and thought  What is sex magic and how can that be a form of relaxation?     25 Ways to Increase Desire https://www.oasis2care.com/opt-in 101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Barbara here:   https://barbaracarrellas.com/    Find me on social media:  To celebrate Sexology's 3rd anniversary, we are giving away great items this month. Follow me on Instagram to find out more! https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 158 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a special anniversary episode celebrating three years of Sexology Podcast. In this episode we hear from Dr. Cat Meyer, Tara Galeano, Jessica Graham, Dr. Ari Tuckman, Wendy Maltz LCSW, Rachel Grant and Jonathan Miller on their best sex tips. Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed couples therapist #88224, sex therapist, yoga instructor, published researcher, and reiki practitioner dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. She hosts an online women's sexuality + embodiment program called LOVE.body   Tara Galeano helps women reimagine their bodies after cancer and rekindle their sexuality. She is a certified sex therapist and teaches the class, Rediscovering My Body after Cancer, to amazing, courageous women who have had cancer.  Jessica Graham is a meditation teacher, sex, relationship, and spiritual guide for couples and individuals, speaker, and author of Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out.  Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine countries. His fourth book, ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship, was just published and is the first to examine how ADHD impacts a couple’s sexual and relationship satisfaction and how to improve both.  Wendy Maltz LCSW, DST, is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker, with more than thirty-five years of experience treating sex and intimacy concerns.   Rachel Grant is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse.  Jonathan Miller helps high-performing couples upgrade their communication skills to have fight-free relationships. As a speaker, coach and trainer, Jonathan is dedicated to empowering others to communicate mindfully.    In This Episode You Will Hear:   Learning about mirror work  Embracing new things in your life  Looking at self-love  The importance getting more sleep can have on your sex life  Understanding the need for more intimacy   Looking at trust and surrendering   Paying attention to external factors that can affect our sex life      25 Ways to Increase Desire https://oasis2care.com/opt-in/ 101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find me on social media: https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  Welcome to episode 157 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Xanet Pailet to the podcast. In this episode Xanet speaks to me about she overcame a sexless marriage, looking at the barriers of sexual shame and taking the power back over arousal.   Xanet Pailet is the best-selling author of Living an Orgasmic Life. Xanet is a recovered NYC health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades.  After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach.       Xanet believes that pleasure is our birthright and she is passionate about helping women and men find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure.  Xanet works with couples who are in sexless marriages and women who have experienced abuse and trauma. She helps them heal their wounds, release their shame, and reconnect with their sexuality.      Xanet is a certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Sexological Body Worker, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, Tantra Educator and Somatic Experiencing Trauma practitioner. She is on the faculty of 1440 Multiversity, Ecstatic Living Institute and the Somatica Institute.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How Xanet pursued overcame a sexless marriage   The tremendous amount of shame that surrounds sex  The way in which couples lose intimacy when they stop having sex   How many people don’t see themselves as sexual beings   The negative messages women receive throughout life about sex   Overcoming the barriers of sexual shame   How women are programmed to say no to sex   Taking a look at the Madonna–whore dilemma   How women get sexualised in a negative way   Looking at the issue of verbal harassment   Dealing with the issue of slut shaming   Learning to take the power back over your own arousal         25 Ways to Increase Desire https://oasis2care.com/opt-in/ 101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Xanet here:   https://www.powerofpleasure.com     Find me on social media:  https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  Welcome to episode 156 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. JoAnna Nguyen to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Nguyen speaks to me about labia surgery, why people have the surgery, how common it is and looking at the process of the surgery.     Dr. JoAnna Nguyen is a board-certified plastic and reconstructive surgeon in Los Angeles, California, with expertise in all fields of plastic surgery, including aesthetic, reconstructive, pediatric, hand, and burn surgery.  She has a particular interest in aesthetic surgery of the eyes and face, breast surgery and labiaplasty. Dr. Nguyen is also passionate about skincare and has extensive experience with non-surgical treatments such as lasers, peels, and topical treatments.      Dr. Nguyen was born and raised in beautiful Southern California. Spoiled by the perennial sunny weather in Huntington Beach, her curiosity for the seasons led her to the the East Coast, where she attended Boston University. There she graduated Summa Cum Laude with dual degrees in Psychology and Biology with a Specialization in Neuroscience. After volunteering with a non-profit organization that provides plastic surgery to children in need, Dr. Nguyen’s interest in plastic surgery was ignited.      Having experienced her fair share of Boston weather, Dr. Nguyen was drawn to the sunshine of Miami where she received her Doctorate in Medicine (M.D) from the Univeristy of Miami Miller School of Medicine. She returned home to Southern California to complete a one year clinical research fellowship in reconstructive plastic surgery at the University of Southern California. During that year, she was the driving force behind 23 research projects, presented at numerous national meetings, and published over 11 manuscripts.      She then went on to complete six years of formal plastic and reconstructive surgical training at the prestigious plastic and reconstructive surgery program at USC. During her training, Dr. Nguyen operated at premier hospitals on the west coast, including Cedars-Sinai Medical Center and USC Keck Medical Center. Dr. Nguyen lives with her husband and daughter in Los Angeles and in her free time, she enjoys exercising, cooking, listening to music, and traveling.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Is there a medical guideline to how labia should look?  How labia surgery is much more common now than in the past   How can women realize the difference between a medical and aesthetic issue?   Is this a common surgery in Los Angeles?  Looking at the process of the surgery   The risk involved with the surgery   Looking at sexual health issues, are there side effects?  The age range of people participating in this surgery   Can you have this surgery after having a child?         101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Dr. Nguyen here:   https://www.joannanguyenmd.com/  https://www.instagram.com/drjoannanguyen/    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy