The Break Up Break Down

[SCROLL FOR CW]-It can be so easy to look back on a relationship with hindsight bias. How many times have we all said, "Oh I should have done this" or "said this" or "done this differently"? The reality is, we're only in control of what we bring to the relationship and we're certainly not at fault for the horrible things a toxic ex has done. Let's unpack some of the hardest parts of this week's episode, just you and me!-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Interest in coming to the Break Up Break Down Brunch in ATL?: https://forms.gle/dqhvvAEJmKWt4nS3A- Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps-(00:00): Intro-(01:38): Break up withdrawals-(07:22): His manipulative tactics-(11:47): Grappling with his suicide-(14:23): Her sexual assault-(17:05): Outtro-[CW: Sexual Assault, Suicide, Intimate Partner Violence] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[SCROLL FOR CW]-This week we're bringing awareness to Mosaic Family Services in Dallas, TX: https://mosaicservices.org/donate/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:02): How they met-(08:34): When the red flags started to show-(14:47): When he went to jail for the second time-(19:30): When his mom revealed what he was lying about-(24:55): When she gave him a second chance-(28:21): The aftermath of the break up-(42:27): Reflecting on the relationship-(55:20): Teaser-[CW: Sexual Assault, Suicide, Domestic Violence, Child Molestation, Intimate Partner Violence] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do they REALLY like me...or am I being love bombed? How do I identify it in my relationship? Is an age-gap relationship a bad idea? Like...how many years a part is too much?? We're breaking down this week's episode and covering all the hot topics in this quick break down bonus with Lexi. -Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Lily Womble (The Date Brazen Podcast) Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/777HQvFseDMXe0YKF9dxqt?si=31iSSSg1SPSHfyV8rMoWUw-Are Age Gaps Actually Toxic? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3zC7YCVR28-5 Signs of Love bombinghttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlXoI_XJGAg&t=348s- Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[SCROLL FOR CW]-This week we're raising awareness for Respond in Boston, MA: https://www.respondinc.org/donate/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:06 ): How they met-(08:41): How her first relationship impacted her first marriage-(10:46): When she finally got together with her first ex husband-(16:47): When she decided she wanted her first divorce-(25:09): When she started a relationship with husband #2-(30:35): Her second divorce-(32:43): Was there ever a throuple??-(41:26): How she grew and moved past the relationships-(53:25): Teaser-[CW: Sexual Assault, Intimate Partner Violence] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why are we so quick to prioritize our partners? This week's bonus content breaks down this week's episode with Abby, Lexi, and Justin. They talk about the importance of making your partner earn your trust in the beginning and throughout the relationship. They'll also touch on recognizing domestic violence in the workplace from personal experience.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Think your coworker/friend is in a dangerous relationship? Start here: https://www.thehotline.org/resources/talking-to-your-coworker/-Dr. Margaret Rutherford Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1pFwVmNGSDEiihTfhuXNEp?si=uVS-xTMGRkOvyg0rYp5sYQ- Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[SCROLL FOR CW]-This week we're raising awareness for Women Against Abuse in Philadelphia, PA: https://www.womenagainstabuse.org/donate-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(05:55): How they met-(07:13): The first signs of toxicity-(10:07): When she found signs of infidelity-(15:36): When she finally left-(17:17): When she found out who he was cheating on her with-(23:24): Reflecting on her life now/advice-(28:56): Teaser-[CW: Intimate partner violence] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever been "the other person" in someone else's relationship? Abby, Lexi, and Ex-Coworker Justin hash out all the details from this week's main episode where our interviewee had NO IDEA she was the "other woman". Abby also references a podcast episode from the OPENHOUSE podcast where experts commented on a similar situation. She'll help make sense of this week's story by bringing up advice and information mentioned by the therapists in that episode.-The OPENHOUSE Podcast: The Psychology of "The Other Woman" and how to avoid becoming her.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're bringing awareness to The Spring of Tampa Bay: https://host.nxt.blackbaud.com/donor-form/?svcid=renxt&formId=f38033d6-4629-4986-ac4e-d63b706f96ef&envid=p-eHffd6codUik0Q42qq8gwA-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(02:27): How they met-(04:31): When she found the PICTURES-(08:00): When she breaks up with him-(13:51): When his wife reached out to her-(17:39): When she and the wife confront him-(20:13): Reflecting on the relationship/advice-(30:37): When she finally broke things off-(26:33): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Things not going super well in your relationship for the last few weeks? Months? Years? If things aren't great, but not glaringly harmful, it can be difficult to decide whether or not it's worth fighting for or if you're better off moving on. Abby breaks down this week's main episode with clips from previous bonus episodes that help us better understand this week's interview and how to determine when you should get out of a rocky relationship!-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Lily Womble (The Date Brazen Podcast) Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/777HQvFseDMXe0YKF9dxqt?si=31iSSSg1SPSHfyV8rMoWUw-Veronique Esther, LMSW Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1sEN1ePQ3JcPsLJ2GjgIXF-Dr. Margaret Rutherford Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1pFwVmNGSDEiihTfhuXNEp?si=uVS-xTMGRkOvyg0rYp5sYQ- Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps-(02:01): Does the amount of sex you're having=how healthy your relationship is?-(03:37): My partner is manipulative- how do I know if I should leave them for good?-(07:01): What if I want to work through my partner's manipulative tendencies?-(09:37): I always seem to date manipulators. What should I do?-(12:18): Advice for people who decide to stay with a toxic partner.-(14:13): How to rebuild self-trust.-(16:55): Advice on rebuilding your self-worth.-(19:02): Mic drop moment from Dr. Margaret. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[SCROLL FOR CW]-This week we're bringing awareness to Safe Alliance in Charlotte, NC: https://www.safealliance.org/donations/make-a-donation/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:03): How they met-(07:13): When she started noticing problems-(15:53): The camping trip that exposed a huge secret-(20:03): When more secrets got exposed-(26:21): "The one year plan"-(30:37): When she finally broke things off-(33:28): Reflecting on the relationship/advice/lessons/etc-(45:28): Teaser-[CW: Intimate partner violence, Gun Violence] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.