The Break Up Break Down

We're talking about dating and heartbreak through the lens of men who date women! Our dude correspondent Coworker Justin joins us to react to S3E6 and talk about where he relates, what he would've done different, and even share his own personal experiences with heartbreak. -Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(01:17): What do straight guys look at when they're on dating apps?-(08:57): Justin talks about his long-distance relationships-(13:10): Do men wait for 'the one'? -(18:48): The first time Justin was truly heartbroken-(22:45): Justin's general guy heartbreak advice Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're bringing awareness to Bradley Angle in Portland, Oregon: https://bradleyangle.org/give-support/donate/-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(04:36): How they met-(07:31): When problems arose-(11:32): When they finally broke up-(15:13): When his golf career took a hit-(17:20): Reflecting on the relationship-(22:56): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[SCROLL FOR CW] -Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary. -Check out Vernique Esther's:-Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/-The Wholeness Academy: https://www.thewholenessacademy.com/-Books: https://www.verniqueesther.com/shop-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Introducing Vernique-(00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated?-(04:06): Why do people manipulate?-(07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries?-(09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation?-(12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up?-(14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?-(15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation?-(18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies?-(20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me?-(23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better?-[CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're bringing awareness to My Sister's House in Charleston, SC: https://www.mysistershouse.org/give - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (05:26): Episode intro/her first marriage - (06:57): Introducing Anthony (her second husband) - (10:17): Introducing the The Boss (the third husband) - (11:27): The Affair - (13:29): Her second divorce - (17:01): When her 3rd marriage/relationship started going downhill - (20:46): When she started to realize this marriage was unhealthy - (25:32): Reconnecting with Anthony - (33:23): When she finally decided to leave The Boss - (34:29): Reflecting on these relationships - (40:51): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I don't know about you, but I often feel like a huge part of my identity is wrapped up in what I do. If you feel like if you lost a job, got ousted from a friend group, or left an organization, you'd lose a part of yourself- this episode is for you. My bestie from UF opens up the episode with me to talk about her experience not getting accepted to med school and then expert Shavonna Nicole jumps in to talk about how to find your identity in things other than your career.-Follow Shavonna: https://www.shavonnanicole.com/- Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Why do we put our identity into what we do?-(09:51): Interview with Shavonna Nicole Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're bringing awareness to Family Violence Prevention Services in San Antonio: https://fvps.org/donation-center/-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(07:10): Sorority Rush -(10:46): When things started to get toxic with her chapter-(16:02): The story about the cops getting called on her -(21:58): Why she decided to stay in her chapter-(23:08): When she caused a "commotion" at a sorority mixer-(29:13): Why sorority life just wasn't for her-(30:39): When her sorority randomly 'broke up' with her-(34:57): How her college life changed when she was dismissed-(37:35): How she became a better person after leaving/advice-(43:37): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why was S3E3 deleted? Will it ever be reposted? Also what was the story even about? Then, Lexi and Justin join in to talk about the craziest things they've ever done for love and the double standards they notice in relationships. -Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(01:56): Crazy things we've done for love-(07:27): Double standards in dating Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Science might be able to explain why you got cheated on. Scientist Macken Murphy joins Abby and Lexi to explain through research studies and data what influences people to cheat. He explains why your genetics may make someone more likely to cheat, why you're always dating serial cheaters, and how you can set yourself up (statistically) for a committed relationship.-Check out Macken Murphy!-Website: www.mackenmurphy.org-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mackenmurphy-Macken's Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5hhlSiS1hFW1pRWh8wfRy5-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Meet Macken-(02:08): What factors make someone more likely to cheat-(05:07): Once a cheater always a cheater?-(07:27): Factors that make you more likely to get cheated on-(16:05): Can a relationship continue after infidelity?-(18:19): Why do men statistically cheat more than women?-(21:58): Are humans built for monogamy? -(23:13): Things you can do to statistically reduce your risk of getting cheated on-(29:32): How studying infidelity affects his relationships-(33:22): PTSD after infidelity-(36:36): How Lexi felt about this convo, having been cheated on Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're raising awareness for the Georgia Coalition Against DV: https://gcadv.org/-Check out this week's bonus guest, Macken Murphy, before the episode airs!: https://pod.link/1334821500-Justin's brother who does Drag Yoga in Charleston!!: https://instagram.com/miss_amy_g_dala?igshid=Zjc2ZTc4Nzk=-Follow the podcast! -Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 -Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:02): This week's submission-(7:08): How they got together-(09:35): First signs that the relationship would end-(12:27): Should you go through your partner's phone?-(13:42): When things started to go south-(17:35): When she decided to end the relationship-(20:01): Why did he cheat?-(22:02): Why it was so hard to end the marriage-(23:58): The aftermath/reflecting on it-(26:29): Advice for people listening-(35:50): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Abby and Coworker Justin are back at it again and comment on this week's episode! They talk about how mental health affects relationships and the beauty of walking with your partner when they're really going through it (obviously, when they're not deceiving you about their condition). Dr. David Puder joins Abby at the end to talk about the impact of factitious disorder and other mental health concerns in relationships and how you can be the best partner for someone when they're in the trenches. -Check out Dr. David Puder!-On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.davidpuder/?hl=en-Learn more about factitious disorder/Munchausen Syndrome on his podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1W-lzI_nzUU-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): S3E1 Break Down-(26:42): Interview with Dr. David Puder Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.