The Break Up Break Down

[SCROLL FOR CW]-Saying we have a lot to unpack from S3E11 would be an understatement. Trauma therapist Katherine Ripley joins the podcast again to explain the difference between Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence. She explains how to identify it and how to plain a safe exit strategy if you or someone you love finds yourself in an abusive relationship.-Follow Katherine Ripley, LMSW: linktr.ee/katherineripleytherapist-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Intro-(00:27): Defining the difference between domestic violence and intimate partner violence.-(04:18): Early signs that your partner may become abusive-(09:24): How to create a safe exit plan if you're in an abusive relationship-(11:48): Why victims may return to their abusers-(13:55): How to accept that the person you love is abusive-(16:17): First steps for victims of IPV-(18:12): Words of encouragement for victims-CW: Domestic Violence/Abuse Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[SCROLL FOR CW] -This week we're bringing awareness to Bridges Domestic Violence Center near Nashville, TN: https://www.bridgesdvc.org/donate/-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(06:08): How they met-(08:04): Introducing Sarah-(09:27): How the couple became a throuple-(19:28): When she decided she wanted out of the throuple-(26:38): When the police were called-(29:10): When charges were pressed-(40:08): When she went to jail-(50:01): When she went to trial for the first charges-(01:02:00): Reflecting on what she's learned-(01:11:00): Teaser-CW: This episode discusses domestic violence, thoughts of suicide, child abuse, sexual assault, and gun violence. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Getting cheated on is unbelievably painful and can leave you with deep emotional wounds. Katherine Ripley, LMSW, joins the podcast to comment on this week's main episode's relational topics and gives her professional insight. Katherine explains how to recognize how that trauma will show up in your life and how to tackle it on your own or with a mental health professional!—-Follow Katherine: https://linktr.ee/katherineripleytherapist?fbclid=PAAab8jFX7mqwuDALKVAObUzGn2od9bH-H3R-KrwrS1xL29b3O4nGcp27s98E-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're bringing awareness to Crisis Center North in Pittsburgh: https://www.crisiscenternorth.org/-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:00): How they met-(07:43: How her best friend became her doula-(10:50): When the affair began-(14:08): When she caught them-(18:49): Why she decided to stay with him at first-(21:08): When she was finally done with her marriage-(23:43): How she "broke up" with her best friend-(28:12): Things that helped her through her divorce-(31:51): How her past relationships shaped her future ones-(33:45): How purity culture impacted her marriage-(36:48): Advice she'd give to people wanting to leave their marriage-(38:47): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

S3E9 was all about exploring your sexuality as an adult. Lexi joins Abby to talk about how similar her own coming out journey was to this week's main episode's guest. She talks about how she dated only guys until college and the experience that made her decide she'd prefer to date women. We also get into coming out to friends and family and how difficult it can be when they don't take it well.-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): General reaction to S3E9-(02:21): Lexi talks about dating women for the first time-(08:31): The people in Lexi's life who questioned her coming out-(11:54): How to trust a new partner after getting cheated on-(13:29): Lexi's favorite part of dating men vs. dating women-(15:26): Keeping things from relationships-(18:02): Lexi's advice for people entering their first queer relationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're bringing awareness to the Hubbard House in Jacksonville, FL: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/neededmost-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(05:23): Talking about discovering her sexuality-(10:14): Her first date with a woman-(12:21): Coming out to her family-(16:15): When she first stated dating her ex-gf-(18:11): When things got tense in her relationship-(20:58): When her ex broke up with her-(22:55): Reflecting on the relationship-(25:06): Lessons learned from the relationship-(29:47): How her dating life looks now-(32:25): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[SCROLL FOR CW]-Are you having a hard time trusting your new partner after your last relationship? Your ex may have damaged your ability to trust again, but you don't have to live in fear forever. Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins Abby to talk about what you can to have a healthy relationship with your new partner. -Check out Dr. Margaret Rutherford's:-Website: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/-Podcast: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/selfwork/-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Introducing the episode-(00:42): The key to learning to trust again.....-(06:45): How to not use relationships for validation-(09:47): How to build up your own self-worth-(11:54): How to trust a new partner after getting cheated on-(13:44): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?-(14:33): When do I draw boundaries OR when do I leave if I feel like I'm being gaslit?-(19:05): Final piece of advice for building a strong sense of self-[CW: Abuse] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're bringing awareness to the New Life Center in Phoenix, AZ: https://fundraise.givesmart.com/form/voQ1ig?vid=xaqjj-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:55): How they met-(05:27): Introducing her best friend-(07:40): When the gaslighting began-(11:55): When they finally broke up-(14:44): Reflecting on the relationship-(20:25): Lessons learned/advice-(24:15): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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[SCROLL FOR CW] This week we're bringing awareness to One Place Family Justice Center in Birmingham, AL: https://oneplacebirmingham.com/donate-now/ - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (05:00): How they met - (07:25): When their relationship got more complicated - (12:19): How her pregnancy complications led to their biggest fight - (18:01): Why the pregnancy caused tension in their engagement - (22:56): How she's advised her friends from her experience - (27:54): Reflecting on the behavior she witnessed in the relationship/advice - (29:38): Teaser - [CW: Domestic Violence, Abortion] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.