The Break Up Break Down

This week we're bringing awareness to Crisis Center North in Pittsburgh: https://www.crisiscenternorth.org/-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:00): How they met-(07:43: How her best friend became her doula-(10:50): When the affair began-(14:08): When she caught them-(18:49): Why she decided to stay with him at first-(21:08): When she was finally done with her marriage-(23:43): How she "broke up" with her best friend-(28:12): Things that helped her through her divorce-(31:51): How her past relationships shaped her future ones-(33:45): How purity culture impacted her marriage-(36:48): Advice she'd give to people wanting to leave their marriage-(38:47): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

S3E9 was all about exploring your sexuality as an adult. Lexi joins Abby to talk about how similar her own coming out journey was to this week's main episode's guest. She talks about how she dated only guys until college and the experience that made her decide she'd prefer to date women. We also get into coming out to friends and family and how difficult it can be when they don't take it well.-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): General reaction to S3E9-(02:21): Lexi talks about dating women for the first time-(08:31): The people in Lexi's life who questioned her coming out-(11:54): How to trust a new partner after getting cheated on-(13:29): Lexi's favorite part of dating men vs. dating women-(15:26): Keeping things from relationships-(18:02): Lexi's advice for people entering their first queer relationship Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're bringing awareness to the Hubbard House in Jacksonville, FL: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/neededmost-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(05:23): Talking about discovering her sexuality-(10:14): Her first date with a woman-(12:21): Coming out to her family-(16:15): When she first stated dating her ex-gf-(18:11): When things got tense in her relationship-(20:58): When her ex broke up with her-(22:55): Reflecting on the relationship-(25:06): Lessons learned from the relationship-(29:47): How her dating life looks now-(32:25): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[SCROLL FOR CW]-Are you having a hard time trusting your new partner after your last relationship? Your ex may have damaged your ability to trust again, but you don't have to live in fear forever. Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins Abby to talk about what you can to have a healthy relationship with your new partner. -Check out Dr. Margaret Rutherford's:-Website: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/-Podcast: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/selfwork/-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Introducing the episode-(00:42): The key to learning to trust again.....-(06:45): How to not use relationships for validation-(09:47): How to build up your own self-worth-(11:54): How to trust a new partner after getting cheated on-(13:44): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?-(14:33): When do I draw boundaries OR when do I leave if I feel like I'm being gaslit?-(19:05): Final piece of advice for building a strong sense of self-[CW: Abuse] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're bringing awareness to the New Life Center in Phoenix, AZ: https://fundraise.givesmart.com/form/voQ1ig?vid=xaqjj-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:55): How they met-(05:27): Introducing her best friend-(07:40): When the gaslighting began-(11:55): When they finally broke up-(14:44): Reflecting on the relationship-(20:25): Lessons learned/advice-(24:15): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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[SCROLL FOR CW] This week we're bringing awareness to One Place Family Justice Center in Birmingham, AL: https://oneplacebirmingham.com/donate-now/ - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (05:00): How they met - (07:25): When their relationship got more complicated - (12:19): How her pregnancy complications led to their biggest fight - (18:01): Why the pregnancy caused tension in their engagement - (22:56): How she's advised her friends from her experience - (27:54): Reflecting on the behavior she witnessed in the relationship/advice - (29:38): Teaser - [CW: Domestic Violence, Abortion] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We're talking about dating and heartbreak through the lens of men who date women! Our dude correspondent Coworker Justin joins us to react to S3E6 and talk about where he relates, what he would've done different, and even share his own personal experiences with heartbreak. -Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(01:17): What do straight guys look at when they're on dating apps?-(08:57): Justin talks about his long-distance relationships-(13:10): Do men wait for 'the one'? -(18:48): The first time Justin was truly heartbroken-(22:45): Justin's general guy heartbreak advice Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're bringing awareness to Bradley Angle in Portland, Oregon: https://bradleyangle.org/give-support/donate/-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(04:36): How they met-(07:31): When problems arose-(11:32): When they finally broke up-(15:13): When his golf career took a hit-(17:20): Reflecting on the relationship-(22:56): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[SCROLL FOR CW] -Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary. -Check out Vernique Esther's:-Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/-The Wholeness Academy: https://www.thewholenessacademy.com/-Books: https://www.verniqueesther.com/shop-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Introducing Vernique-(00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated?-(04:06): Why do people manipulate?-(07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries?-(09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation?-(12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up?-(14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?-(15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation?-(18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies?-(20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me?-(23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better?-[CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.