
Who We Are with Rachel Lim
Who we are is an ever-evolving journey without limits.
Join the ever-curious Rachel Lim as she delves into every facet of our lives — from work and family to relationships, self-discovery, and beyond.
Experience a series of conversations and shared reflections that span from in-depth discussions with thought leaders around the world, to personal lessons shared with friends. Each episode offers valuable insights into our identities and pathways to self-improvement.
Welcome to Who We Are — a podcast devoted to the continuous journey of uncovering our ever-evolving selves.
Latest episodes

Jul 2, 2024 • 31min
#13: Lessons from the Harvard's Longest Study on Happiness with Dr. Robert Waldinger
Dr. Robert Waldinger, from the Harvard Study of Adult Development, shares insights on happiness, quality relationships, intentional living, and mindfulness. Discusses generational patterns of happiness, advice for strong relationships, and the impact of technology on well-being. Offers valuable guidance for living a happier, more intentional life.

Jun 25, 2024 • 51min
#12: The Power of Modern Etiquette with Sara Jane Ho
In this special episode, join me for an exclusive live recording featuring the esteemed Sara Jane Ho, internationally renowned etiquette expert and host of Netflix's "Mind Your Manners." Recorded during our recent CLOSER event in Singapore, Sara Jane shares her fascinating journey from founding an etiquette school in Beijing to becoming a global authority on modern manners.
We dive into a range of topics, from the most unusual etiquette practices she's encountered to the essential role etiquette plays in today's fast-paced digital world. Sara Jane's unique approach combines tradition with contemporary relevance, offering practical insights that are both enlightening and entertaining.
Highlights include:
- Surprising etiquette practices from around the world
- Sara's most memorable success stories and testimonials
- Behind the scenes of "Mind Your Manners"
- The critical link between etiquette and emotional intelligence
- Light-hearted discussions on bedroom etiquette and Feng Shui
Whether you're an etiquette enthusiast or simply curious about enhancing your social skills, this episode promises to be an unforgettable journey into the world of modern etiquette.
Tune in and discover how mastering manners can transform your personal and professional life.
00:00 Introduction
01:17 Unusual Etiquette Practices
03:39 The Start of Sara Jane's Journey
06:44 Sara Jane's Most Memorable Success Stories
10:43 Inside Her Netflix Show 'Mind Your Manners'
17:03 The Relevance of Etiquette Today
22:09 The Link Between Etiquette and Emotional Intelligence
23:41 Breaking Up Over Text: Sara Jane's Perspective
28:38 Knowing Your Worth: Don’t Settle for Less
30:58 Bedroom Etiquette: Tips and Insights
32:26 Feng Shui: Self-Fulfilling Prophecy or Practical Wisdom?
37:22 Q&A with Sara Jane
49:10 Final Thoughts
Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/
Follow Sara Jane Ho here: https://www.instagram.com/sarajaneho/
Watch 'Mind Your Manners' on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/81109061

Jun 18, 2024 • 42min
#11: Embracing 'Not-Having-It-All' with Karen Tay
Dynamic leader Karen Tay discusses her transition from the Singapore Government to Silicon Valley, emphasizing the challenges of balancing professional ambitions and family responsibilities. She shares insights on empowering women in the workplace, embracing life's messiness, and recognizing inherent value.

Jun 11, 2024 • 42min
#10: Inside the Mind of a Therapist: Joshua Fletcher on Anxiety
Renowned psychotherapist Joshua Fletcher discusses anxiety disorders, therapy benefits, tips on seeking help, and personal therapy journey. His candid insights offer valuable advice, inspiring listeners to prioritize mental wellness and seek support.

Jun 4, 2024 • 49min
#9: Raising Secure Kids: From Theory to Practice with Eli Harwood
Today, I am thrilled to have Eli Harwood, a leading expert in attachment relationships, join us. With 17 years of experience as a licensed therapist, Eli has devoted her career to understanding how we connect and heal. Join us as we embark on a journey from theory to practice, exploring the importance of secure attachment and its impact on relationships and parenting.
In this episode, Eli shares her extensive experience and expertise, offering insights gleaned from years of attachment research. From debunking cultural myths surrounding attachment parenting to defining the core concepts of attachment theory, Eli guides us through the intricacies of forming secure bonds with our loved ones.
Discover practical strategies for navigating modern parenting challenges, including realigning with your children after conflict, and striking a balance between attachment and independence. Explore the CALM approach to regulating a child's emotions and learn how to address the legacy of insecure attachment with compassion and understanding.
Let’s dive in.
00:00 Introduction
02:01 The Importance of Secure Attachment
05:58 Eli Harwood’s Journey in Attachment Research
08:29 Debunking Cultural Myths of Attachment Parenting
12:05 Core Concepts of Attachment Theory
22:02 Defining Secure Attachment
22:49 Modern Parenting Challenges in Achieving Secure Attachment
27:24 Realigning with Your Kids After Conflict
30:12 Balancing Attachment and Child Independence
35:00 Benchmarking Secure Attachment
37:22 Repairing the Parent-Child Bond After Conflict
38:03 Regulating a Child’s Emotions: The CALM Approach
42:21 Addressing the Legacy of Insecure Attachment
43:40 Building Secure Attachment
46:15 Final Thoughts
Follow Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/ms_rach/
Follow Eli Harwood here: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd?igsh=ZGdraWpkYnJnOG90
Purchase her latest book 'Raising Securely Attached Kids' here: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0CPDP7DT5/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?ie=UTF8&qid=&sr=

May 28, 2024 • 30min
#8: Shifting from Scarcity to Sufficiency with Joyce Chen
Expert Joyce Chen from The Conscious Leadership Group discusses shifting from scarcity to sufficiency mindset, highlighting toxic fears and beliefs that drive scarcity. She shares practical strategies to cultivate sufficiency, emphasizing gratitude and inner riches over constant wanting. Joyce introduces the three truths of sufficiency, guiding individuals toward an abundant mindset and addressing common misconceptions about sufficiency.

May 21, 2024 • 49min
#7: Redefining Success: Inside The Mind Of 31-Year-Old Retiree Ashish Kumar
Former top PSLE scorer turned 31-year-old retiree, Ashish Kumar, shares his unconventional perspectives on life and work. Topics include his formative years studying overseas, challenges in the civil service, early retirement, societal expectations, personal freedom, and living authentically. Prepare to be inspired, provoked, and enlightened on this thought-provoking journey.

May 14, 2024 • 50min
#6: Practical Marriage Advice From America’s Top Divorce Attorney James Sexton
Join Rachel Lim for a chat with James Sexton, America's top divorce attorney, as they unravel the root causes of marital breakdowns, discuss red flags in relationships, emphasize effective communication, and explore the art of reverse-engineering relationships for lasting connections.

May 7, 2024 • 15min
#5: What's Your Apology Language?
Leo, the podcast host's husband, joins her to discuss the 5 Apology Languages. They share personal anecdotes, practical tips, and how understanding each other's apology language can enhance relationships. They cover expressing regret, accepting responsibility, making restitution, planned changes, and requesting forgiveness, showing how these languages can transform conflicts into growth opportunities.

Apr 30, 2024 • 1h
#4: Confronting Loneliness, Hard Lessons, and Cultivating Leadership with Pat Law
Join Pat Law, founder of GOODSTUPH, as she shares her 14-year entrepreneurial journey, reflecting on hard lessons, loneliness, and leadership. Learn about her childhood selling spiders, key principles that drove her success, and valuable advice for aspiring entrepreneurs.