Unapologetically Sensitive
Patricia Young
In this podcast, we explore how sensitivity weaves itself into our lives. We talk about the richness that it adds, and the strengths we have BECAUSE of our sensitivity and some of the challenges it poses as well. If you are a Creative, a deep thinker, a deep feeler, neurodivergent, autistic, a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), an introvert, or identify as INFJ or ENFJ, you may enjoy the in-depth conversations where we talk openly and honestly about how we experience life. This is a podcast where you can learn, relate, laugh and maybe even live a bolder, brighter life.
Have you been told you're "too" (fill in the blank)? You're too sensitive; you think/worry too much; you take things too personally; you're too emotional, too finicky, too fragile, too intense, too uptight, too slow. Have you been told you can't take a joke; you can't go with the flow? You can't let go of things? Making decisions can be very difficult. You might have an acute sense of smell, and strong odors, crowded noisy environments and bright lights are just too much!
You notice things that no one else does. You have a strong sense of justice and you may be a peace-keeper. Conflict feels uncomfortable. You're the one that everyone tells their problems to because you're a good listener who cares deeply.
You're in the right place!
You may have been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, ADHD or something else. Sometimes Highly Sensitive People are misdiagnosed. Our brains are wired differently. We are born with the trait of High Sensitivity. There's nothing wrong with you! You will learn that your perceived weaknesses are really are your superpowers! Dr. Elaine Aron coined the term Highly Sensitive Person (also known as Sensory Processing Sensitivity).
Have you been told you're "too" (fill in the blank)? You're too sensitive; you think/worry too much; you take things too personally; you're too emotional, too finicky, too fragile, too intense, too uptight, too slow. Have you been told you can't take a joke; you can't go with the flow? You can't let go of things? Making decisions can be very difficult. You might have an acute sense of smell, and strong odors, crowded noisy environments and bright lights are just too much!
You notice things that no one else does. You have a strong sense of justice and you may be a peace-keeper. Conflict feels uncomfortable. You're the one that everyone tells their problems to because you're a good listener who cares deeply.
You're in the right place!
You may have been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, ADHD or something else. Sometimes Highly Sensitive People are misdiagnosed. Our brains are wired differently. We are born with the trait of High Sensitivity. There's nothing wrong with you! You will learn that your perceived weaknesses are really are your superpowers! Dr. Elaine Aron coined the term Highly Sensitive Person (also known as Sensory Processing Sensitivity).
Episodes
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Nov 8, 2018 • 5min
Bonus episode 7 Unexpected Changes
Sometimes where there are unexpected changes, we have a little bit of a harder time going with the flow. This episode talks about some of the types of big and small changes that might throw us off, and how we can work with our reactions so that when life gets bumpy, we learn how to ride the bumps www.patriciayounglcsw.com www.unapologeticallysensitive.com unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com facebook group--Unapologetically Sensitive instagram--Unapologetically Sensitive Music--Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.AndyRobinson.com
Nov 7, 2018 • 3min
Bonus Episode 6 How to Take a Mini-Break When We're Overwhelmed
When there is too much going on, and we need to find a quiet place to retreat in order to get some balance, what can we do? In this short episode I give a tip on how to get grounded if you're at work or home and only have a few minutes. Sometimes we just need to take what we can get.
Nov 6, 2018 • 1h 5min
004 When You're an Effeminate kid, and you love Wonder Woman, you Learn to Push that Down Quick, with Matt Marr
Matt Marr is a therapist, actor, podcaster & activist, just to name a few. Matt brings an open and refreshing view about growing up being an effeminate kid with a lisp in the South, and the mixed messages he received. We talk about the intersection of sensitivity and being gay in terms of degenderizing the world. Matt takes Dr. Elaine Aron's self-test to see if he rates as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). The was the very FIRST interview I did for the podcast, and Matt was exceptionally kind and supportive as I felt my way through the interview. We talk abut code switching, and how it affected Matt. We talk about bullying and playing sports as a kid when he wasn't athletic and didn't respond well to being athletic. Matt talks about his involvement with Camp Brave Trails and The Trevor Project. http://dearmattieshow.com/ https://twitter.com/themattmarr?lang-en https://www.youtube.com/user/talktomattmarr Camp Brave Trails https://www.bravetrails.org/ Trevor Project https://www.thetrevorproject.org Dr. Elaine Aron HSP self-test https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ www.patriciayounglcsw.com www.unapologeticallysensitive.com https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com show hashtag #unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC--Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
Nov 5, 2018 • 3min
Bonus Episode 5 Being Conscientious
Highly Sensitive People are extremely conscientious. We care deeply about the work we do. We show up on time; we're prepared and we work hard. We think everyone has the same work ethic and values that we do, but it's not true.
Nov 4, 2018 • 3min
Bonus Episode 4 How to Create Peace and Calm
As Highly Sensitive People, our nervous systems often get overwhelmed and overstimulated. Learn how you can calm and soothe your overactive nervous system.
Nov 3, 2018 • 3min
Bonus Episode 3 Where We Feel Connected
Highly Sensitive People often feel more connected when they are in nature, or listening to music, or watching performing arts. We feel things deeply and pick up on subtleties, so these things nurture our spirit.
Nov 2, 2018 • 3min
Bonus Episode 2 Being a Deep Thinker
Highly Sensitive People think deeply about things that have happened; conversations they have had, and even about upcoming events. We take in so much information, that we explore multiple aspects of things we've experienced. Sometimes this means that we play "Could have, would have, should have" and it's usually not in our favor. We tend to be hard on ourselves and beat ourselves up wishing the conversation might have gone differently. Sometimes we need more time to process, and don't say what we want to in the moment.
Nov 1, 2018 • 6min
Bonus Day 1 Overwhelmed by strong smells, sounds, bright lights, sounds and scratchy stuff
Highly Sensitive People are easily overwhelmed by sensory input (think the 5 senses--taste, touch, smell, hearing and sight). Bright lights and bright sunshine can feel like too much, strong smells, loud noises or unappealing noises can feel assaulting to our finely-tuned nervous systems. The texture of clothes can strongly impact us (tags, itchy fabric, restrictive clothing, tight belts or waistbands). We may have a favorite blanket or pillow because it is soft and comforting. It might be difficult to tune out noises in the environment that others don't even hear or notice.
Oct 28, 2018 • 1h 4min
003 This Emotion is Perfect for this Moment with Lauren Selfridge, AMFT
Lauren talks about the power of mirroring in relationships, and how it positively impacts her work as an interviewer and a therapist--mirroring is reflecting back what the other person has shared in order to improve communication. Lauren beautifully describes how she intentionally feel into emotions before and during sessions/interviews as a way to be an even more effective practitioner practitioner/interviewer. We also talk about friendships, and Lauren talks about specific exercises and tools that can be sued with a partner or friend to get closer and learn more about each other. QUOTES-- This emotion is perfect for this moment My goal is to feel everything that arises in me Feeling are superpowers Another name for HSP--A person who gets the texture of life BIO-- Lauren is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist in San Francisco, California. She works with couples, individuals and people living with chronic illness. Lauren was diagnosed with Relapsing Multiple Sclerosis in 2015, and has found that although living with an autoimmune disease is not an easy path, it's brought more joy and fulfillment into her life than before. This January (2018) she launched the podcast "This is Not What I Ordered;" a weekly interview show about full-hearted living with chronic illness and health challenges. She believes that the biggest difficulties in our lives are often invitations into a deeper, richer, more conscious relationship with ourselves. HIGHLIGHTS-- Imago Couple's Dialogue Sender (no blaming, shaming or criticizing) Receiver mirrors word for word (provides summary and validating Validation--why it makes sense based on who the sender is (not based on the receiver) Two styles of conflict Minimizer Maximizer Both partners are needed to maintain the ecosystem (the balance in the relationship) Reflections to do weekly with your partner Something you did to support our relationship this week What was it like when you did that? Something I did this week to support the relationship How was it helpful to me If I could have a do-over this week, this is what I would do differently LINKS www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com www.laurenselfridgetherapy.com www.laurenselfridgephotography.com Twitter: @NWIOpodcast and @HelloSelfridge Instagram: @NWIOpodcast @LaurenSelfridgeOfficial Facebook: www.facebook.com/thisisnotwhatiordered Show hashtag: #NWIOpodcast Website-- www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast-- www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Youtube-- www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6foodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Show hashtag-- #unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC--Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive!gmail.com
Oct 28, 2018 • 1h 12min
002 You're not Fragile; You're Very Strong with Annie Schuessler, LMFT
Annie talks about overwhelm, and how she has created an environment that works for her, and as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), what she needs when she travels. Annie talks about how she helps others create fulfilling businesses. We talk about podcasting (and as an introvert), what this has allowed her to do. Annie talks about being called a crybaby, and she would say now to her younger self. Quotes-- You're not fragile; you're very strong Annie's response to being an HSP--"I love me, and it's absolutely a part of me." I am strong, and I want to be in difficult conversations Another name for HSP--"Highly Perceptive" or "Tuned in" Bio-- Annie Schuessler, LMFT, is a business coach and the creator of The Superpower Method for therapists Program and the podcast Therapist Clubhouse. She's been a private practice therapist for over 15 years, and since 2010, she's been helping private practice entrepreneurs build profitable and fulfilling businesses by leveraging their unique superpowers. You can find her resources for entrepreneurs trained as therapists at www.coachingwithannie.com Highlights-- The card game Annie talks about is Settlers Catan (or simply Catan) Associations made with the term HSP--difficult, sensitive, fragile Annie helps clients identify ideal working hours, what drains their energy, and how to make more room for themselves We talk about perceived weaknesses and the corresponding strengths of being an HSP Annie talks about the myths that clients have when trying to decide what their ideal business looks like The challenges Annie experiences when anticipating new situations How podcasting has allowed her to have full creative control and the unexpected gifts it has brought her Links-- Annie's website--www.coachingwithannie.com To learn more about Patricia--www.patriciayounglcsw.com podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com facebook--www.facebook.com/groups/20997055880047619/ youtube--www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO31w0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music--Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
