Unapologetically Sensitive

The podcast discusses the struggles of showing up and doing life even when it's hard, touching on topics such as PDA, rejection-sensitive dysphoria RSD, and the pressure of gift-giving. They also emphasize the importance of communication and staying connected, even when feeling tired or overwhelmed. The conversation explores their personal struggles with health issues, the challenges of navigating uncertainty, and the significance of connection, vulnerability, and understanding in supporting one another during difficult times.

The podcast discusses the challenges of understanding autism and pathological demand avoidance (PDA), emphasizing the importance of understanding the lived experience of autism. It also explores the impact of suppressing stimming on mental health, reflections on winter and self-care, and a transformative course designed for neurodivergent individuals.

Building Trust in Neurodivergent Settings: Overcoming Group Apprehension Ellie and Patricia highlight the importance of creating inclusive spaces that foster trust, comfort, and collaboration for neurodivergent folks. They discuss the benefits of tailoring curriculum to individual and group needs. This episode also touches on the depth and organic nature of group conversations, and the role of personalized attention within a structured framework. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of creating supportive and inclusive environments for neurodivergent individuals.   GUEST Ellie   HIGHLIGHTS Summary   This conversation explores the experiences and dynamics of the Online HSP Course and how it fits with being autistic or identifying as neurodivergent. The episode covers topics such as trust and comfort in the group, creating a safe and supportive environment, addressing social issues, embracing whole identities, gaining different perspectives, and forming connections and friendships. The conversation highlights the importance of personalized attention, optional participation, and creating a neurodivergent-friendly space. It also emphasizes the value of feeling seen, heard, and honored in the group. The participants discuss the unexpected benefits and the lasting connections that were formed through the course.   Takeaways   Creating a safe and supportive environment is crucial for a group focused on highly sensitive people and neurodivergent individuals. Embracing whole identities and recognizing marginalized parts of ourselves can lead to a sense of belonging and understanding in the group. Optional participation and personalized attention allow individuals to engage in a way that feels comfortable and authentic to them. Forming connections and friendships within the group can provide validation, support, and a sense of community. The dynamics of a smaller group can lead to deeper conversations and a stronger sense of cohesion.   Some topics covered in this episode: 1. Neurodivergence and its representation in the course 2. Personal perspectives and interactions with course material 3. Overcoming apprehensions about joining a group 4. The dynamics of group participation and introversion 5. Creating a supportive and inclusive group environment 6. Addressing potential group members' concerns 7. Establishing core values and expectations for group participation 8. Discussions on social issues and human rights 9. Tailoring the curriculum to individual and group needs 10. Group size and its impact on interactions 11. Depth and organic nature of group conversations 12. Personalized attention within a structured framework 13. Flexibility and guidance in group discussions 14. Trust and comfort in participating in the course 15. Impact of discussions on autism and neurodivergence within the HSP group   Chapters (please add time to account for introduction   00:00 Introduction and Spontaneous Recording 00:46 Initial Thoughts about the Group 01:45 Trust and Comfort in the Group 02:09 Discussion about Autism in the Group 03:08 Creating a Safe and Supportive Environment 04:27 Addressing Social Issues in the Group 05:29 Intersectionality and Embracing Whole Identities 06:15 Recognizing Marginalized Parts of Ourselves 07:02 Expectations and Insight in the Group 08:17 Gaining Different Perspectives in the Group 09:24 Learning and Sharing Experiences in the Group 10:40 Creating a Cohesive Group 11:19 Building Trust and Connection in the Group 12:02 Different Perspectives on Group Cohesion 13:03 Feeling Safe and Comfortable in the Group 14:03 Optional Participation and Individual Needs 15:47 Forming Connections and Friendships in the Group 17:40 Validation and Understanding in the Group 19:37 Feeling Seen, Heard, and Honored in the Group 20:23 Personalized Attention and Tailored Discussions 23:14 Flexibility and Personalized Approach in the Group 24:46 Creating a Safe and Neurodivergent-Friendly Space 26:12 Feeling Safe and Understood in the Group 28:18 Addressing the Lack of Mention of Neurodivergence in the Course 30:17 Recommendations for Joining the Course 32:57 Continuing Connections and Friendships after the Course 36:31 Smaller Group Dynamics and Cohesion 39:25 Acknowledging Different Group Experiences 40:07 Gratitude and Positive Feedback   GUEST BIO Ellie is a corporate professional in a senior manager position. Through experiencing significant burnout, she was identified as autistic earlier this year. Her formal diagnosis followed. Leading up to her diagnosis and through today, she has been searching for information to help her understand her autism and for strategies for managing the seemingly endless effort it takes to be her in a world that expects her not to be autistic.   LINKS   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Neurodivergent Insights: Navigating ADHD, Autism, PDA, and Communication   Jen and I discuss the challenges of living with ADHD, Autism and PDA, including communication difficulties and perception of reality. We talk about how these show up for us differently, and how we navigate some of the challenges. I also share about disclosing to my MD about being autistic, and how that was received. We also talk about the difficulty of the holidays for some, and some end of year reflections that may (or may not be) helpful.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary This conversation explores the challenges and dynamics of relationships when one or both individuals have Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), also known as Pervasive/Persisten Drive for Autonomy, a profile of autism. The speakers discuss how PDA shows up in their lives and the importance of understanding and managing individual differences. They emphasize the need for generosity, repair, and open communication in relationships. The conversation also touches on the impact of sensory issues, the role of medication in managing ADHD and autism symptoms, and the significance of end-of-year reflections and holiday traditions. Overall, the speakers highlight the importance of embracing and honoring different experiences and finding gentleness in navigating relationships and the holiday season. In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss the importance of effective communication and provide practical tips for improving communication skills. They cover topics such as active listening, empathy, non-verbal communication, building trust and rapport, and conflict resolution. The conversation emphasizes the significance of clear and open communication in personal and professional relationships.   Takeaways   Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), also called Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy, can present challenges in relationships, particularly in terms of communication and managing expectations. Generosity, repair, and open communication are essential in maintaining healthy relationships when one or both individuals have a PDA profile. Understanding and embracing individual differences, such as sensory issues and different perspectives, can foster empathy and connection in relationships. Managing ADHD and autism symptoms may involve medication, but it is important to consider individual needs and preferences. Effective communication is crucial for building and maintaining relationships. Active listening and empathy are key components of effective communication. Non-verbal communication, such as body language and tone of voice, can greatly impact the message being conveyed. Building trust and rapport is essential for effective communication. Conflict resolution skills are important for resolving disagreements and maintaining healthy relationships. Finally, end-of-year reflections and holiday traditions can be meaningful to assess growth and change during the year. Some ideas for these reflections are given, but it is essential to prioritize self-care and find what works best for each individual.   Topics covered in order:   Introduction and PDA in Relationships Managing PDA in Relationships Understanding Different Perspectives Generosity and Repair in Relationships Sensory Issues and Individual Differences Communication and Understanding in Relationships Shared Realities and Overlapping Perspectives Embracing Quirks and Repairing Relationships ADHD Medication and Neurodivergent Perspectives Managing ADHD and Autism Symptoms Reflections on the End of the Year Finding What Works for You Disclosing Autism to Healthcare Practitioners Navigating Holiday Cards and Expectations Taking Time for End-of-Year Reflection Honoring Different Experiences during the Holidays Unpacking Expectations and Finding Gentleness The Importance of Effective Communication Active Listening and Empathy Non-Verbal Communication Building Trust and Rapport Conflict Resolution Conclusion PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

The podcast explores redefining success for neurodivergent individuals, emphasizing the importance of authenticity, hard conversations, and embracing imperfection. The conversation also delves into the value of uncertainty and not knowing, which can lead to creativity and growth. Success can be measured beyond productivity and achievements, and personal growth and new opportunities can arise when embracing uncertainty. The hosts discuss their own experiences and provide takeaways for listeners to redefine success on their own terms.

Navigating Relationship Bumps: Whose Stuff is This?   Once again, I had a bump in a relationship, and I got to see that I had a part in it. Our fear of rejection, abandonment, or someone getting angry with us, can prevent us from having difficult conversations. We minimize our feelings for fear of being too sensitive. When we do this work enough, eventually, remaining silent, no longer works. I got pretty dysregulated, but I was able to manage. It was more important to share my feelings than worrying about managing the other person’s feelings.   HIGHLIGHTS   What you will learn from this podcast: ·         Strategies for managing stress during the holiday season ·         How to navigate relationship bumps and take responsibility for our own feelings ·         The concept of "gremlins" and how they can hold us back in life ·         How to identify and recognize when our gremlins are present ·         The importance of practicing self-compassion and reframing negative thoughts ·         How to manage fear of rejection and being "too much" ·         The difference between our expectations and reality ·         How to find balance and fulfillment in life ·         The benefits of setting boundaries in relationships ·         How to communicate effectively in relationships ·         The importance of self-care and self-love ·         How to deal with feelings of overwhelm and burnout ·         The role of perfectionism in our lives and how to overcome it ·         How to cultivate gratitude and noticing what is going right ·         The power of vulnerability and authenticity in relationships ·         How to set goals and work towards them ·         The benefits of mindfulness and meditation ·         How to develop a growth mindset ·         The importance of self-reflection and self-awareness ·         How to cultivate resilience and bounce back from setbacks   What are Gremlins and how to work with them:   "Gremlins" refer to the negative self-talk and limiting beliefs that can hold us back in life. Acknowledging your gremlins can make them feel more manageable. Identifying them and recognizing them when they are present can also help. Practicing self-compassion and reframing negative thoughts into more neutral thoughts can help. PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD (autistic and ADHD), with a PDA profile, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Navigating Competing Needs in a Relationship Jen & I talk about having competing needs while I was visiting her, and what came up for me, and how we navigated having uncomfortable feelings. We look at this through the lens of neurodivergence (Autism, HSP, ADHD and PDA). We also explore the difficulty I had as a neurodivergent person assessing if I had a good time on the trip or not. We also look at where we blended well and what we will do differently next time. CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC HIGHLIGHTS Navigating shifts in relationships can be challenging, but there are strategies and tools that can help. By being proactive and intentional, we can build stronger, more resilient relationships that can weather the storms of change. Some specific strategies and tools for navigating shifts in relationships include: - Communication: Open and honest communication is key to navigating shifts in relationships. This includes ·         Active listening, expressing needs and boundaries, and being willing to compromise and negotiate. ·         Self-reflection: Taking time to reflect on our own needs, values, and goals can help us navigate shifts in relationships more effectively. This includes identifying our own triggers and patterns, and being willing to take responsibility for our own actions and emotions. ·         Seeking support: Building a support network of friends, family, or professionals can provide us with the resources and guidance we need to navigate shifts in relationships. This includes seeking out therapy, coaching, or other forms of support when needed. ·         Practicing self-care: Taking care of ourselves physically, emotionally, and mentally can help us navigate shifts in relationships more effectively. This includes getting enough sleep, exercise, and healthy food, as well as engaging in activities that bring us joy and fulfillment. ·         Cultivating gratitude: Focusing on the positive aspects of our relationships and expressing gratitude for the people in our lives can help us navigate shifts in relationships with a sense of perspective and appreciation. Navigating shifts in relationships can be tough, and it's okay to feel overwhelmed or uncertain. It's important to recognize that these challenges are normal and can be overcome with the right tools and support. By acknowledging and addressing these difficulties, we can strengthen our relationships and build deeper connections with those we care about.   Some common challenges people face during times of change include ·         Uncertainty and fear of the unknown ·         Loss of trust or communication breakdowns ·         Competing needs and priorities ·         Differences in values or goals ·         Resistance to change or difficulty adapting ·         Emotional triggers or unresolved issues from the past   During times of change, it can be tempting to withdraw or put up walls to protect ourselves. However, by embracing transparency and vulnerability, we can create a deeper sense of connection and understanding with those around us. By sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences, we can build trust, encourage empathy, and foster growth and learning. This can help reduce conflict and misunderstandings, and create a sense of safety and security for ourselves and others. Ultimately, by being open and honest, we can strengthen our relationships and build deeper connections with those we care about.   ·         Building trust and intimacy: When we share our thoughts, feelings, and experiences with others, we create a deeper sense of connection and understanding. ·         Encouraging empathy and compassion: By being vulnerable, we allow others to see our humanity and can inspire empathy and compassion in others. ·         Fostering growth and learning: When we are transparent about our struggles and challenges, we create opportunities for growth and learning, both for ourselves and for others. ·         Reducing conflict and misunderstandings: By being open and honest, we can avoid misunderstandings and conflicts that can arise from miscommunication or hidden agendas. ·         Creating a sense of safety and security: When we are transparent and vulnerable, we create a safe space for ourselves and others to be authentic and true to ourselves.   PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. LINKS Jen’s Links Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/ Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com    

When Your Stuff Bumps Up Against Your Friend’s Stuff How do you navigate feeling hurt in a relationship, and the other person doesn’t understand (or realize) that you have been hurt? What do you do when the other person thinks you want space, but you feel hurt, and that’s not what you need, but you think the other person is distancing from you? Is it ok to text or email someone when you feel hurt and a phone call or in-person conversation feels overwhelming? I also talk about my dislike of costumes and what that brings up for me. HIGHLIGHTS ·        The episode discusses what happens when our stuff bumps up against someone else's stuff and how to navigate those situations. • ·        The author shares a personal experience of sharing an experience on the podcast and how the person being talked about felt about this. ·         The importance of communication and being mindful of how our words and actions can affect others in our relationships is emphasized. • ·         The episode is relatable and discusses how our past experiences and trauma can impact our interactions with others. ·         The episode emphasizes the importance of communication skills in navigating difficult situations in relationships. • ·         The author models emotional intelligence by sharing a personal experience and reflecting on how their actions impacted others. • ·         The episode highlights the importance of being mindful of how our words and actions can affect others, and how to approach conversations with empathy and understanding. • ·         The author encourages listeners to reflect on their own past experiences and how they may be impacting their current relationships. • ·         The episode provides practical tips for how to approach difficult conversations, such as asking for permission before sharing personal information about others. • ·         The author also models vulnerability by sharing their own fears and insecurities about their ability to communicate effectively. ·         The importance of consent and clear communication asking for permission to share personal experiences is discussed. PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is autistic helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6  Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Navigating Change: How to Stay True to Yourself While Traveling Travelling and being a guest in someone’s home can be challenging due to change: adjusting to new routines, and being out of your routine. I spend a week with Jen, and we talk about checking in with each other, and my need for structure, and Jen’s lack of structure. We talk about structure vs. flexibility, and as an autistic, how do I honor how I’m wired and still go with the flow? We focus heavily on self-care and compassion. I also offer tips for travelling and packing that help me. CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC HIGHLIGHTS Travel tips and trips when visiting ·         Create a master travel list on your computer to help you stay organized ·         Adapt your travel list for each trip to ensure you bring everything you need ·         Keep a post-it note nearby (if your travel list isn’t handy) to jot down things you think of later ·         Pack a carry-on suitcase to make traveling easier ·         Bring a little bag with all your toiletries to save time and space ·         Allow yourself to have objections to new places and experiences, and be willing to consider the possibilities of how a new experience might be amazing ·         Recognize that change and novelty can be difficult for people who like sameness. This doesn’t mean that those people won’t enjoy new experiences though ·         Try to focus on the positive aspects of new experiences, like the possibility of having an amazing time ·         Be aware that plane rides can be difficult for some autistics ·         Find ways to make plane rides more comfortable, like bringing a comfort item, downloaded movies, books, and noise-cancelling headphones ·         Consider traveling with a partner or friend who understands your needs ·         Research your destination ahead of time to find out what accommodations are available ·         Be open to trying new things, like taking a day trip to explore your destination - Remember to check your schedule and make sure you don't have any appointments or commitments you've forgotten about ·         Be patient with yourself and others, and recognize that everyone's feelings and needs matter   Overall themes discussed in this episode ·         People who are autistic may become familiar with their behaviors and not have any idea that others may have judgements about them ·         Checking in with yourself and being able to recognize your own feelings is important ·         Nonviolent communication is a useful tool for problem-solving and understanding others' needs ·         Many behaviors that are considered unusual or abnormal are actually quite normal.  This is due to norms set by allistics (non-autstics). ·         It's important to talk about these behaviors so that people don't feel isolated or ashamed ·         Some autistics may have a hard time figuring out certain things ·         Coaching and support can be helpful for autistics ·         It's important to recognize that no behavior is inherently good or bad ·         Everyone's feelings and needs matter ·         Autistics can craft a lifestyle that meets their needs ·         Having a partner who understands your needs can be helpful Balancing the Need for Structure and Flexibility: Tips and Strategies –  ·       Start by acknowledging that both structure and flexibility are important for your well-being and productivity. While structure provides a sense of stability and predictability, flexibility allows you to adapt to changing circumstances and explore new opportunities. – ·         Identify your core values and priorities, and use them as a guide for creating a flexible yet structured routine. For example, if you value creativity and learning, you may want to set aside some time each day for reading, writing, or experimenting with new ideas. - Experiment with different time-management techniques and tools, such as time blocking, Pomodoro technique, or task batching. These methods can help you stay focused and organized while also allowing for some flexibility and spontaneity. – ·         Practice mindfulness and self-awareness to tune into your body and mind's needs. If you feel overwhelmed or stressed, take a break, go for a walk, or do some deep breathing exercises. If you feel energized and inspired, use that momentum to tackle more challenging tasks or try something new. – ·         Be open to feedback and adjust your routine as needed. If you find that a particular strategy or tool is not working for you, don't be afraid to try something else. Remember that flexibility is not about being wishy-washy or indecisive, but about being adaptable and resilient. – ·         Finally, be kind and compassionate to yourself. Balancing structure and flexibility is not always easy, and it's okay to make mistakes or have setbacks. Celebrate your successes, learn from your failures, and keep moving forward with a growth mindset. ·         By following these tips and strategies, you can create a routine that honors your need for structure and flexibility while also optimizing your productivity and well-being. Remember, it's not about finding the perfect balance, but about finding what works best for you in the moment.   Tips for Showing Up Authentically Without Overperforming: - ·         Start by defining what authenticity means to you. What are your core values, beliefs, and passions? What makes you unique and special? Use these insights to guide your actions and decisions. – ·         Set realistic expectations for yourself and others. Don't try to be perfect or please everyone. Instead, focus on doing your best and being true to yourself. – ·         Practice self-compassion and self-care. Take breaks when you need them, prioritize your well-being, and avoid comparing yourself to others. – ·         Be honest and transparent in your communication. Speak your truth with kindness and respect, and listen actively to others' perspectives. - Set boundaries and say no when necessary. ·         Don't overcommit or take on more than you can handle. Learn to prioritize your time and energy based on your needs and goals. – ·         Embrace your imperfections and mistakes. Remember that failure is a natural part of growth and learning. Use setbacks as opportunities to reflect, learn, and improve. – ·         Finally, surround yourself with supportive and accepting people who appreciate you for who you are. Seek out communities and relationships that align with your values and interests. ·         By following these tips, you can show up authentically without feeling the pressure to overperform or conform to others' expectations. Remember that authenticity is not about being perfect or flawless, but about being true to yourself and living a meaningful and fulfilling life. PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA Profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. LINKS Jen’s Links Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/  Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

The podcast discusses challenges with executive functioning and offers practical tips for managing schedules and appointments. It emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, flexibility, and understanding one's own needs. The speakers also explore topics such as vulnerability in relationships, managing overwhelm, and the significance of support and connection for sensitive individuals.