Unapologetically Sensitive

The Importance of Rest & Learning to Receive & Ask for Help   Patricia and Jen discuss their health updates and the challenges they have faced. They also delve into the pressure to be productive and the fear of not functioning. The conversation shifts to vulnerability and insecurity in relationships, as well as the process of learning to receive and ask for help. They reflect on the growth and healing that comes from navigating attachment wounds. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the significance of not always having to do deep work in therapy.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary In this conversation. They explore the importance of finding joyful movement and the impact of rest on their well-being. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of self-compassion and acceptance. They acknowledge the need to be kind to oneself and accept the challenges that come with it. They also talk about the practice of naming and addressing gremlins, which are negative thoughts or beliefs that can hold us back. By bringing these gremlins to light, they can be examined and dealt with. Lastly, they touch on the topic of protectiveness and support, highlighting the importance of being there for each other during difficult times.   Takeaways   Finding joy in movement can energize and fulfill us. Rest is essential for rejuvenation and creativity. Vulnerability and asking for help can deepen connections. Navigating attachment wounds can lead to growth and healing. Practicing self-compassion and acceptance is crucial for personal growth and well-being. Naming and addressing gremlins can help in overcoming negative thoughts and beliefs. Being protective and supportive of others during challenging times fosters strong relationships. Acknowledging and accepting temporary struggles can lead to personal growth and resilience.   Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Health Updates 03:11 Finding Joyful Movement 08:02 Struggles with Productivity and Pressure 13:10 The Importance of Rest 18:20 Vulnerability and Insecurity in Relationships 23:08 Learning to Receive and Ask for Help 28:27 Navigating Attachment Wounds 30:30 The Growth and Healing Process 33:01 The Importance of Rest in Therapy 33:53 Closing Remarks 33:58 Self-Compassion and Acceptance 34:46 Naming and Addressing Gremlins 35:04 Protectiveness and Support PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Autism Identification Should Come with a Warning Label (Including Autistic Burnout)   There are things that happen to most autistic people once they identify as autistic, and there should be a warning label! If you’re late diagnosed, and high masking, there’s a good chance you are, or will be in autistic burnout. There’s also skill regression, and not being able to push through anymore. This can be confusing and distressing. I bring you up to date on my health journey, and where I’m at with autistic burnout, and I provide a few resources.   HIGHLIGHTS Summary In this episode, Patricia provides a personal update on her health and discusses the challenges of identifying as autistic. She shares her experiences with navigating the healthcare system and dealing with health issues such as vestibular neuritis. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and trauma, as well as the need for positive male archetypes in her life. She discusses the lack of reciprocity in relationships and the importance of self-compassion and rest. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to embrace all parts of themselves and share the podcast with others. Autistic Burnout Autistic burnout is a phenomenon experienced by many individuals, characterized by extreme exhaustion, mental fatigue, and sensory overload. It often results from prolonged periods of masking, camouflaging, and trying to fit into neurotypical expectations, leading to a depletion of cognitive and emotional resources. Autistic burnout can manifest as difficulty in functioning, heightened sensory sensitivities, emotional meltdowns, and a sense of overwhelm. Recognizing the signs of autistic burnout is crucial for individuals to prioritize self-care, seek support, and make necessary adjustments to prevent further exhaustion. Strategies to manage autistic burnout may include setting boundaries, practicing sensory regulation techniques, engaging in self-soothing activities, and seeking therapy or counseling. Creating a supportive environment that accommodates sensory needs, communication preferences, and individual differences can help prevent and alleviate autistic burnout. Educating employers, educators, and healthcare providers about autistic burnout can lead to more inclusive and accommodating environments for autistic individuals. Understanding one's neurodivergent traits can help individuals recognize their limits, advocate for their needs, and navigate challenges related to autistic burnout. Building a support network of understanding friends, family members, therapists, and fellow neurodivergent individuals can provide emotional support and validation during periods of autistic burnout. Benefits of having an autism diagnosis (either self-diagnosis or formal diagnosis) for myself Self-identification and diagnosis in the autistic community are helpful in understanding one's unique neurodivergent traits and needs. It helps individuals access appropriate support, accommodations, and resources tailored to their specific differences and strengths. Self-identification empowers individuals to embrace their identity and connect with a supportive community of like-minded individuals. Diagnosis provides validation and a sense of relief for many individuals who have long struggled with feeling different or misunderstood. Understanding one's autism can lead to better self-awareness and self-acceptance, promoting mental well-being and confidence. It allows individuals to advocate for themselves in various settings, such as education, employment, and healthcare, ensuring their needs are met. Diagnosis can help individuals navigate social interactions, sensory sensitivities, and other aspects of daily life more effectively. Early diagnosis in children can lead to early intervention and support, improving long-term outcomes and quality of life. It helps dispel misconceptions and stigma surrounding autism, promoting acceptance and inclusion in society. Self-identification and diagnosis contribute to a more accurate representation of the diverse autistic community, highlighting the spectrum of experiences and challenges individuals may face.   Takeaways   Identifying as autistic can come with challenges and a range of emotions, including anger, grief, and frustration. Navigating the healthcare system can be difficult, especially when seeking a diagnosis or specialized care. Autistic burnout is a real phenomenon that can lead to skill regression and a decreased ability to function. Self-compassion and rest are essential for managing autistic burnout and maintaining overall well-being.   Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Personal Update 01:15 The Challenges of Identifying as Autistic 02:08 Struggling with Health Issues 03:32 Navigating the Healthcare System 04:36 The Impact of Vestibular Neuritis 05:59 Autistic Burnout and Trauma 07:15 Grief and Anger in the Autism Journey 08:31 Childhood Experiences and Identity 09:50 The Need for Male Archetypes 11:19 Seeking Support and Advocacy 12:42 The Lack of Reciprocity in Relationships 13:54 Navigating Small World and Limited Energy 15:14 Accepting Where You Are 16:33 The Impact of Autism Diagnosis 17:54 The Complexity of Autism Presentation 19:46 The Validity of Self-Diagnosis 20:21 The Illusion of Neurotypical Functioning 21:31 Embracing Autism as a Disability 22:35 Understanding Autistic Burnout 23:46 The Impact of Medical Appointments 25:17 The Harsh Inner Critic and Self-Compassion 26:12 Fear of Not Functioning 27:05 The Lack of Recognition for Autistic Experiences 28:11 Observing Reciprocity in Relationships 29:07 The Importance of Rest and Self-Care 30:00 The Impact of Autistic Burnout on Work 31:06 Embracing All Parts of Yourself 32:20 Conclusion and Call to Share the Podcast Additional Takeaways Seek consent and ask for permission before sharing personal reactions or opinions in conversations. Be authentic and true to yourself in personal relationships, while also considering the needs and perspectives of others. Strive for a balance between routine and self-care, and be patient with yourself when facing setbacks. Set realistic expectations and practice self-compassion when working towards personal goals. Create an affirming household that acknowledges and accommodates the different needs of family members. Recognize and respect personal endurance and self-regulation in social situations. Embrace self-expression and navigate social interactions in a way that aligns with your neurodivergent traits. Take ownership of your own fulfillment and celebrate holidays in a way that aligns with your desires and needs. Seek support and embrace your sensitivity as a valuable aspect of your identity.   Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introdruction:   00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 01:28 Giving Consent in Relationships 04:44 Being Authentic and Reacting in Personal Relationships 07:27 Struggling with Routine and Self-Care 10:05 Setting Expectations and Practicing Self-Compassion 11:32 Navigating Family Dynamics and Accommodating Needs 16:31 Managing Personal Endurance and Self-Regulation 20:53 Navigating Social Situations and Self-Expression 22:17 Celebrating Holidays and Self-Fulfillment 25:36 Seeking Support and Embracing Sensitivity PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Rest is Resistance by Tricia Hersey   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Guest Jen Perry, MSEd, and the host discuss challenges of setting boundaries, structure vs. novelty (ADHD vs. autism), attachment injuries, neuro-affirming therapy, PDA and focusing on others to reduce demands, masking, and the emotions that come with suspecting or being diagnosed with autism.

Real Talk on Health Challenges: Speaking FOR Your Parts vs. Speaking FROM Your Parts   Jen and I talk about the difference between complaining, speaking honestly about what’s going on, and the other person’s capacity to sit with things that they may feel they need to fix or change. Many of you have been told that you complain too much or that you’re too negative. Neurodivergent brains tend to report the truth, and we are very discerning about what we like and what we don’t like. This can be perceived as negativity, complaining or being depressing to be around. What if it really wasn’t about you?   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary   In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss the difference between complaining and sharing honestly about personal struggles. They explore the challenges of navigating conversations around difficult topics and the importance of holding space for each other's experiences. They also delve into the healing process and the acceptance of trauma, emphasizing the need to honor and validate our own emotions. The conversation highlights the significance of checking intentions and capacity in communication, as well as the transformative power of being in relationship with our experiences. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of speaking from a part versus speaking for a part. They explore the concept of unprocessed trauma and how it can affect communication. They also discuss the significance of acknowledging and balancing pain, as well as differentiating between acting from a part and speaking for a part. The conversation highlights the role of chaperoning the part and the importance of validating and witnessing pain. Finally, they find humor in the uncertainty of their podcast episodes.   Takeaways   Differentiate between complaining and sharing honestly about personal struggles. Hold space for each other's experiences and validate emotions. Accept and heal from trauma by being in relationship with our experiences. Check intentions and capacity in communication to ensure effective and compassionate conversations. It is important to speak from a part rather than speaking for a part. Unprocessed trauma can impact communication and lead to a desire for others to intuitively understand and fix our needs. Acknowledging and balancing pain can help in managing distressing emotions. Differentiating between acting from a part and speaking for a part can provide clarity in communication. Chaperoning the part involves bringing in other perspectives and validating the pain experienced. Validating and witnessing pain is crucial in processing unprocessed trauma. Finding humor in uncertainty can help alleviate pressure and create a lighter atmosphere.   Chapters (adjust for addition of introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates 02:34 Differentiating Between Complaining and Sharing 08:15 Healing and Accepting Trauma 13:25 The Healing Process and Holding Space 16:53 The Energy of Holding Space and Acceptance 23:39 Checking Intentions and Capacity in Communication 27:19 Navigating Difficult Conversations and Boundaries 32:24 Processing Trauma and Holding Space for Emotions 36:29 The Complexity of Communication and Trauma Responses 38:55 Being in Relationship with Our Experiences and Healing 39:52 Speaking from a Part vs. Speaking for a Part 40:38 Identifying Unprocessed Trauma 41:33 Acknowledging and Balancing Pain 42:14 Differentiating Acting from Speaking 42:53 Chaperoning the Part 43:22 Validating and Witnessing Pain 43:42 Finding Humor in Uncertainty PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Strategies for managing the transition from the holiday season to regular routines. Tips for handling difficult conversations with loved ones. The importance of active listening in communication. How to show empathy and validate others' feelings. The benefits of setting clear boundaries in conversations. Understanding attachment wounds and their impact on relationships. The importance of attunement in relationships. The concept of PDA (pathological demand avoidance or Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy) and its effects on communication. The struggle of deviating from routine and needing support. Navigating social situations and accommodating personal needs.

The podcast discusses attachment injuries, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and the importance of self-care. They explore unpacking an autism diagnosis and reframing it. The conversation also touches on the challenges of feeling seen and heard in relationships. Embracing imperfection, self-compassion, and managing overperformance are emphasized throughout. The speakers discuss the impact of their training as therapists on their personal lives, self-worth, and navigating challenging experiences. They also reflect on over-functioning, over-performing, and the negative effects on mental health.

The podcast discusses the struggles of showing up and doing life even when it's hard, touching on topics such as PDA, rejection-sensitive dysphoria RSD, and the pressure of gift-giving. They also emphasize the importance of communication and staying connected, even when feeling tired or overwhelmed. The conversation explores their personal struggles with health issues, the challenges of navigating uncertainty, and the significance of connection, vulnerability, and understanding in supporting one another during difficult times.

The podcast discusses the challenges of understanding autism and pathological demand avoidance (PDA), emphasizing the importance of understanding the lived experience of autism. It also explores the impact of suppressing stimming on mental health, reflections on winter and self-care, and a transformative course designed for neurodivergent individuals.

Building Trust in Neurodivergent Settings: Overcoming Group Apprehension Ellie and Patricia highlight the importance of creating inclusive spaces that foster trust, comfort, and collaboration for neurodivergent folks. They discuss the benefits of tailoring curriculum to individual and group needs. This episode also touches on the depth and organic nature of group conversations, and the role of personalized attention within a structured framework. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of creating supportive and inclusive environments for neurodivergent individuals.   GUEST Ellie   HIGHLIGHTS Summary   This conversation explores the experiences and dynamics of the Online HSP Course and how it fits with being autistic or identifying as neurodivergent. The episode covers topics such as trust and comfort in the group, creating a safe and supportive environment, addressing social issues, embracing whole identities, gaining different perspectives, and forming connections and friendships. The conversation highlights the importance of personalized attention, optional participation, and creating a neurodivergent-friendly space. It also emphasizes the value of feeling seen, heard, and honored in the group. The participants discuss the unexpected benefits and the lasting connections that were formed through the course.   Takeaways   Creating a safe and supportive environment is crucial for a group focused on highly sensitive people and neurodivergent individuals. Embracing whole identities and recognizing marginalized parts of ourselves can lead to a sense of belonging and understanding in the group. Optional participation and personalized attention allow individuals to engage in a way that feels comfortable and authentic to them. Forming connections and friendships within the group can provide validation, support, and a sense of community. The dynamics of a smaller group can lead to deeper conversations and a stronger sense of cohesion.   Some topics covered in this episode: 1. Neurodivergence and its representation in the course 2. Personal perspectives and interactions with course material 3. Overcoming apprehensions about joining a group 4. The dynamics of group participation and introversion 5. Creating a supportive and inclusive group environment 6. Addressing potential group members' concerns 7. Establishing core values and expectations for group participation 8. Discussions on social issues and human rights 9. Tailoring the curriculum to individual and group needs 10. Group size and its impact on interactions 11. Depth and organic nature of group conversations 12. Personalized attention within a structured framework 13. Flexibility and guidance in group discussions 14. Trust and comfort in participating in the course 15. Impact of discussions on autism and neurodivergence within the HSP group   Chapters (please add time to account for introduction   00:00 Introduction and Spontaneous Recording 00:46 Initial Thoughts about the Group 01:45 Trust and Comfort in the Group 02:09 Discussion about Autism in the Group 03:08 Creating a Safe and Supportive Environment 04:27 Addressing Social Issues in the Group 05:29 Intersectionality and Embracing Whole Identities 06:15 Recognizing Marginalized Parts of Ourselves 07:02 Expectations and Insight in the Group 08:17 Gaining Different Perspectives in the Group 09:24 Learning and Sharing Experiences in the Group 10:40 Creating a Cohesive Group 11:19 Building Trust and Connection in the Group 12:02 Different Perspectives on Group Cohesion 13:03 Feeling Safe and Comfortable in the Group 14:03 Optional Participation and Individual Needs 15:47 Forming Connections and Friendships in the Group 17:40 Validation and Understanding in the Group 19:37 Feeling Seen, Heard, and Honored in the Group 20:23 Personalized Attention and Tailored Discussions 23:14 Flexibility and Personalized Approach in the Group 24:46 Creating a Safe and Neurodivergent-Friendly Space 26:12 Feeling Safe and Understood in the Group 28:18 Addressing the Lack of Mention of Neurodivergence in the Course 30:17 Recommendations for Joining the Course 32:57 Continuing Connections and Friendships after the Course 36:31 Smaller Group Dynamics and Cohesion 39:25 Acknowledging Different Group Experiences 40:07 Gratitude and Positive Feedback   GUEST BIO Ellie is a corporate professional in a senior manager position. Through experiencing significant burnout, she was identified as autistic earlier this year. Her formal diagnosis followed. Leading up to her diagnosis and through today, she has been searching for information to help her understand her autism and for strategies for managing the seemingly endless effort it takes to be her in a world that expects her not to be autistic.   LINKS   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Neurodivergent Insights: Navigating ADHD, Autism, PDA, and Communication   Jen and I discuss the challenges of living with ADHD, Autism and PDA, including communication difficulties and perception of reality. We talk about how these show up for us differently, and how we navigate some of the challenges. I also share about disclosing to my MD about being autistic, and how that was received. We also talk about the difficulty of the holidays for some, and some end of year reflections that may (or may not be) helpful.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary This conversation explores the challenges and dynamics of relationships when one or both individuals have Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), also known as Pervasive/Persisten Drive for Autonomy, a profile of autism. The speakers discuss how PDA shows up in their lives and the importance of understanding and managing individual differences. They emphasize the need for generosity, repair, and open communication in relationships. The conversation also touches on the impact of sensory issues, the role of medication in managing ADHD and autism symptoms, and the significance of end-of-year reflections and holiday traditions. Overall, the speakers highlight the importance of embracing and honoring different experiences and finding gentleness in navigating relationships and the holiday season. In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss the importance of effective communication and provide practical tips for improving communication skills. They cover topics such as active listening, empathy, non-verbal communication, building trust and rapport, and conflict resolution. The conversation emphasizes the significance of clear and open communication in personal and professional relationships.   Takeaways   Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), also called Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy, can present challenges in relationships, particularly in terms of communication and managing expectations. Generosity, repair, and open communication are essential in maintaining healthy relationships when one or both individuals have a PDA profile. Understanding and embracing individual differences, such as sensory issues and different perspectives, can foster empathy and connection in relationships. Managing ADHD and autism symptoms may involve medication, but it is important to consider individual needs and preferences. Effective communication is crucial for building and maintaining relationships. Active listening and empathy are key components of effective communication. Non-verbal communication, such as body language and tone of voice, can greatly impact the message being conveyed. Building trust and rapport is essential for effective communication. Conflict resolution skills are important for resolving disagreements and maintaining healthy relationships. Finally, end-of-year reflections and holiday traditions can be meaningful to assess growth and change during the year. Some ideas for these reflections are given, but it is essential to prioritize self-care and find what works best for each individual.   Topics covered in order:   Introduction and PDA in Relationships Managing PDA in Relationships Understanding Different Perspectives Generosity and Repair in Relationships Sensory Issues and Individual Differences Communication and Understanding in Relationships Shared Realities and Overlapping Perspectives Embracing Quirks and Repairing Relationships ADHD Medication and Neurodivergent Perspectives Managing ADHD and Autism Symptoms Reflections on the End of the Year Finding What Works for You Disclosing Autism to Healthcare Practitioners Navigating Holiday Cards and Expectations Taking Time for End-of-Year Reflection Honoring Different Experiences during the Holidays Unpacking Expectations and Finding Gentleness The Importance of Effective Communication Active Listening and Empathy Non-Verbal Communication Building Trust and Rapport Conflict Resolution Conclusion PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com