Unapologetically Sensitive

EPISODE OVERVIEW Jen and I talk about perfectionism, boundaries, self-care, HS superpowers, communication, vulnerability, authenticity, demystifying emotions, creating a lifestyle that honors the HSP, and mindfulness. These are some of the things that we notice Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) struggling with.  Our primary intention is to give you an idea of what to expect in our upcoming online groups. Whether you are considering taking a group or not, this episode is a great way to identify your HS strengths and maybe see if there are areas you want to focus on.   HIGHLIGHTS Jen explains why working with HSPs is a passion of hers We share our excitement about the groups and why we feel they are important I share the story of my first meeting with Jen Jen shares her initial impression upon our first meeting and the benefit that comes with creating a safe space to openly share our needs We discuss our goal of making the groups a safe space where productive communication can happen, and we create community Setting boundaries in relationships is not about changing the other person; it’s creating a space for yourself by communicating your needs We discuss the plan for our upcoming groups to give you an idea of what to expect:   Group culture / Expectations Creating community guidelines Creating and maintaining a safe environment Everyone is seen and heard Everyone is treated respectfully Everyone’s goals for the group Getting to know each other Basic education about the trait Questions and discussion Building pride in HSP Applying the pride Recognizing this is a non-HSP world, and we get to assert our HSP traits/needs Identifying negative messages and turning them into superpowers Things we struggle with Too sensitive Too needy Need to get thicker skin Not social No fun, can’t take a joke, no sense of humor Too picky Overthink things Worry too much Too nice Over responsible for everything Feeling fatally flawed, not good enough Mistfit--I’m the only one; There’s no one like me Deep sense of not belonging and shame Outcomes Embracing our traits Identify and verbalize what traits resonate for us Feeling confident in what our needs are Naming our strengths Seeing comments as being about the other person Identifying when we get triggered, and having tools to manage Proper care and feeding of the HSP Skillfulness around boundaries Finding ways to live peacefully with non-HPSs and honor everyone’s needs Self-care is non-negotiable! Things we struggle with People pleasing Putting others needs ahead of our own Feeling guilty when we take care of ourselves Feeling resentful when we meet other’s needs and not our own Feeling drained Feeling depleted Feeling unappreciated Feeling overwhelmed Feeling irritable, negative, easily annoyed, less patient, more critical of self and others, intolerant Outcomes Becoming comfortable with self-centering It's ok to be the center of your universe You can’t pour from an empty cup Self-care is an imperative--which is ultimately a selfless act When we take care of ourselves, everyone benefits in the long run (not always immediately, but the overall benefit is for everyone) Listening to what we need and want Trusting what we need and want Wanting to take care of ourselves Knowing that when we take care of ourselves, we have more to offer others Feeling out of balance (or at least aware) when we are ignoring our own needs Having richer deeper relationships because we are fulfilled and coming from a place where we have more to offer Boundaries are an imperative part of self-care Things we struggle with Feeling uncomfortable with conflict Feeling guilty--picking up on other’s feelings that we might disappoint others (or they will get angry or frustrated) The guilt is not necessary (we haven’t done anything wrong--we’re supposed to set boundaries--it’s healthy, and boundaries are a natural and necessary part of any healthy relationship) Guilt is the best word we have in the English language, but it’s not really an accurate description Feeling not seen, not heard or not honored Not expressing our wants and needs Feeling resentful Feeling powerless Feeling taken advantage of Feeling like everyone else gets their needs met or what they want Outcomes Trusting our feelings Boundaries will directly reduce our overwhelm Learning how to set boundaries without emotion Boundaries make you a happy human; When we have an emotional flare, it’s because a boundary has most likely been violated (or a need has not been met) Learning how to compassionately, but kindly state what is and is not acceptable Seeing boundaries as creating safety for ourselves and others Seeing the benefits of setting limits Owning our power and KNOWING that our wants and needs are perfectly acceptable and reasonable Developing flexibility--not about the rule, but about the relationship and the context Perfectionism Things we struggle with Feeling not good enough Comparing Feeling inadequate Not starting things, paralysis Not pursuing dreams Overworking/overdoing trying to get a sense of “enoughness” Constant unease Critical of self and others Perfectionism is a myth Imposter syndrome--if people really saw who I am, they would leave Brene Brown says Whenever you have perfectionism driving, shame is riding shotgun Hustling for your sense of worth “Doing” for a sense of value instead of knowing we have value because we live and breathe Outcomes Knowing done is better than perfect Busting shame Brene Brown--Our vulnerability is what actually connects us Sense of belonging and connection comes from allowing ourselves to be seen imperfectly That’s where connection begins Living from our values--regardless of whether goals are met or not.  It can be about the process and not the outcome More self-acceptance More ease in relationships because the standards are more realistic Learning how to set goals that are achievable More contentment More satisfaction Actually accomplishing more due to acceptance Communication, vulnerability, authenticity Things we struggle with Afraid to say what you’re thinking Not trusting what you’re thinking Fear of judgment, criticism, being ridiculed Feeling like your point of view is wrong or not popular Afraid to really show up in relationships and allow yourself to be fully seen Being afraid to upset someone Being afraid to stir up problems in the relationship Not trusting that ruptures are repairable, and this actually points at growth We grow in relationships after a rupture Ruptures are a natural part of attachment--it doesn’t mean that there isn’t attachment Outcomes Educate others about the trait Why we need the lights low, Less stimulation Quiet areas Model healthy communication, authenticity, vulnerabilty More depth, closeness and trust in relationships Marshall Rosenberg’s non-violent communication All behavior is an attempt to get a need met Feelings and needs are never in conflict Strategies to get them met can be in conflict, and that requires creative problem-solving Life is figure out-able Creating a lifestyle that is HSP friendly and honors our HSP needs Things we struggle with Overwhelm Fatigue Resentment Feeling drained Overworking Living in a non-HSP world and trying to live like a non-HSP Outcomes Proper Care and Feeding of HSPs Getting enough rest, down time, quiet time Exercise Spirituality Just enough socializing Feeling a deeper sense of connection More meaning in your life Social justice work HSP style ~ having activist mentors Connecting with nature Learning how to do non-HSP events in manageable chunks Mindfulness Things we struggle with Overwhelmed and scattered Urge to numb out (TV, social media, Netflix) Outcomes Basic meditation instruction Formal and informal practices, moving meditation, guided meditation Learning how to curiously observe what comes up and to use it as information instead of reacting to things Self-acceptance More self-compassion and compassion for others Being more emotionally responsive vs emotionally reactive (Pause button) Meeting life on its terms instead of arm wrestling with it Demystifying emotions Things we struggle with My emotions overwhelm me I can’t control my emotions I’m emotionally reactive I’m embarrassed by my emotions Affect-phobia I don’t want to feel my emotions, they won’t go away My feelings will hurt me / others Outcomes Basic education about emotion theory Emotions can’t hurt us Emotions are to be honored and felt Emotions are impermanent Emotions are not something we can control Creating safety to feel our emotions Emotions can inform our actions/behavior but do not need to drive our behavior Mindfulness Feelings come and go - just energy moving through us Deep sense of connection when we get comfortable having our feelings   BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping highly sensitive people thrive in love, work, and parenting highly sensitive children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. She can be reached at jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com  or 215-292-5056. Learn more at heartfulnessconsulting.com or facebook.com/Heartfulnessconsulting.   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs. For more information, go to https://patriciayounglcsw.com/hsp-online-groups/   LINKS   www.heartfulnessconsulting.com   Facebook: www.facebook.com/HeartfulnessConsulting   To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures

TITLE My Husband and I Talk About How We Met and Some of the Challenges We Have in Our Marriage   GUEST Steve Young   EPISODE OVERVIEW My husband, Steve Young, and I have a candid discussion about our origin story, detailing our lives before we met; first impressions upon meeting each other, and the challenges we experience as a couple, who have been married for more than 21 years. We talk about our differences being an HSP and non-HSP, and how we navigate those areas.     HIGHLIGHTS We discuss how we met, and our first perceptions of each other Living as an HSP with a non-HSP We share different examples of how we are wired differently, and how differences in our family upbringing may have contributed to our wiring The traits that we love about our partners can also be the traits that just drive us crazy sometimes We discuss the ways that we navigate those moments of frustration or tension We share specific examples, from both perspectives, of when the differences in our personalities create challenging situations Communication is key - Discussing and naming our feelings and  fears Steve shares his thoughts about learning I was a Highly Sensitive Person--we look back on our relationship after learning this We talk about how being able to name the challenges we experience has helped with acceptance in our daily lives We discuss the importance of recognizing and honoring each other’s differences     PODCAST HOST Patricia Young, LCSW is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures  

TITLE Overwhelm & Perfectionism - I’m in the Middle of the Struggle   GUEST Solo episode Patricia Young   EPISODE OVERVIEW I’ve been struggling with overwhelm, perfectionism and feeling not good enough. I feel vulnerable sharing when I’m in the middle of the struggle, but the way to break shame is to name it. When we are growing and doing new things, our gremlins will come up. I talk about and name what my gremlins are saying, and I talk about the things I do when I’m struggling in spite of the desire to sit on the couch and numb out.   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young, LCSW is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures

TITLE Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) & Understanding How to Build Trust and Strengthen Connections   GUEST Anya Surnitsky, LCSW   EPISODE OVERVIEW We use Brene Brown’s work on attachment to continue our discussion about security, safety, and steps to building strong relationships. We talk about the marble jar and how trust can be established. We discuss vulnerability and how our needs can be met through connection and intimacy, as well as how to set boundaries to create safety. We include the traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person, and looking through the lens of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN). HIGHLIGHTS Braving--the 7 components of trust from Brene Brown's work Giving ourselves permission to try and understand, that even though we experienced wounding before, that the new people in our lives won't necessarily be like the old people in our lives The Marble Jar method and, how it works in relationship building We discuss the importance of being shown by someone that you matter to them We talk about the importance of vulnerability HSPs often need to have time for transition before and after (work, getting up, arriving home, etc.) The importance for HSPs to be fully rested before having difficult conversations, so we are resilient and can be fully present We discuss how to check in with yourself; understanding where in your body, you are having reactions, and slowing down before you respond We talk about the relationship between Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), wounding, neglect, shame triggers and how to work through these things BREATHING --the 7 components of trust as outlined by Brene Brown is explained: Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Fault, Integrity, Non-judgement, and Generosity   Resources Brene Brown Super Soul Sunday on trust: http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/brene-brown-what-to-do-when-you-struggle-with-trust   CES Therapy http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/cranial-electrotherapy-stimulation https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/integrative-mental-health-care/201809/cranial-electrotherapy-stimulation-ces-anxiety   BIO Anya Surnitsky is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private practice outside Philadelphia, PA. She helps anxious high achievers and overgivers with big wounded hearts to transform their pain into power and avoidance into action.     Anya uses her training in EMDR, Ego State Therapy, and Childhood Emotional Neglect, as well as her certification in The Daring WayTM to aid clients in making peace with the past, embrace the present, and develop confidence for the future. Anya is passionate about educating clients on how trauma and/or neglect affects the developing brain to understand how unhealed wounds from the past show up in the present and can have a negative impact on their future.  With these various approaches, Anya shows clients how to heal from both a top-down and a bottom-up approach; we can heal the brain so it can learn to help itself, and we can also learn skills to help ourselves on a conscious level.   Throughout her personal and professional journey, Anya has learned that what people want more than anything is to be seen and heard for who they are at their core.  For Unapologetically Sensitive listeners, Anya has put together some scripts for hard conversations to help HSP’s ask to be heard and dare to be seen in their relationships. Go to www.couragecompasstherapy.com/hsp .   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young, LCSW is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Links: www.couragecompasstherapy.com   Facebook: www.facebook.com/couragecompasstherapy   Instagram: https://instagram.com/couragecompasstherapy Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures

Bonus Episode 43 TITLE I Want More: You Want Less. How We Navigate Competing Needs in Relationships GUEST Solo episode Patricia Young, LCSW EPISODE OVERVIEW Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) often have different needs for connection in relationships.  I talk about a recent incident where this happened, and it triggered my wounding of feeling like I’m “too much.” I talk about how I communicated, and what self-care looked like in this situation, and how I didn’t use rules to try and protect myself. Neither person has to be wrong when this happens. It’s all about communication. When we experience Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) this can complicate things. PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a coach & therapist in California.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

GUEST Anya Surnitsky, LCSW EPISODE OVERVIEW We use Brene Brown’s work on attachment to talk about security, safety, how we get our needs met, and how to survive when our needs aren't being met. What we all want is to be seen, heard, and to feel valued. Oftentimes, we are triggered due to Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), and trauma, which creates conflict in our relationships. We talk about shame, and Brene Brown’s antidote, which is empathy. In order for shame to survive, it requires secrecy, silence, and judgment. HIGHLIGHTS Anya discusses her personal experience as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) We are wired for survival and connection What is attachment? Everyday examples of what attachment is, and how it is affected by the world around us We discuss fear, and how it can be used productively Safety and connection are basic needs A lot of times, in relationships, we don't feel safe during a disagreement or a conflict Shame develops when we are let-down or abandoned. We tend to question what we did wrong. Anya provides some great tools for recognizing when we get triggered, and how we can work through shame attacks in order to move from our Reptilian Brain ('T-Rex Brain') back to our frontal lobe where productive communication can take place We discuss Alice Miller's book The Drama of the Gifted Child⦁ As adults, we often begin to recognize the effects of traumatic events from our childhood We discuss trauma with a little 't' Often times, there is a direct correlation between our caregivers' parental strengths and our strengths as adults Anya shares examples for different kinds of triggers Anya explains 'Box Breathing' as an effective tool to use when we feel triggered A technique for breathing includes the concept of--'smell the roses; blow out the candles' We discuss positive ways to navigate situations when we are activated We discuss The Story We Make Up In Our Heads, and how it can be used to break up shame; feel safe in our vulnerability, and restore security in our relationships Resources Brene Brown Super Soul Sunday on trust: http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/brene-brown-what-to-do-when-you-struggle-with-trust CES Therapy http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/cranial-electrotherapy-stimulationhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/integrative-mental-health-care/201809/cranial-electrotherapy-stimulation-ces-anxiety BIO Anya Surnitsky is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private practice outside Philadelphia, PA. She helps anxious high achievers and overgivers with big wounded hearts to transform their pain into power and avoidance into action.    Anya uses her training in EMDR, Ego State Therapy, and Childhood Emotional Neglect, as well as her certification in The Daring WayTM to aid clients in making peace with the past, embrace the present, and develop confidence for the future. Anya is passionate about educating clients on how trauma and/or neglect affects the developing brain to understand how unhealed wounds from the past show up in the present and can have a negative impact on their future.  With these various approaches, Anya shows clients how to heal from both a top-down and a bottom-up approach; we can heal the brain so it can learn to help itself, and we can also learn skills to help ourselves on a conscious level.  Throughout her personal and professional journey, Anya has learned that what people want more than anything is to be seen and heard for who they are at their core.  For Unapologetically Sensitive listeners, Anya has put together some scripts for hard conversations to help HSP’s ask to be heard and dare to be seen in their relationships. Go to www.couragecompasstherapy.com/hsp.   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. LINKS www.couragecompasstherapy.com Facebook www.facebook.com/couragecompasstherapy Instagram @couragecompasstherapy Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/  HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/  HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2  select “view in itunes” choose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.comPodcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor - David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - facebook.com/PitselehPictures

Bonus Episode 42 TITLE Confusing Attachment, Things and Relationships—Or Why I Didn’t Want to Repaint My Son’s Room GUEST Solo episode Patricia Young, LCSW EPISODE OVERVIEW When we have experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), and have attachment wounds, we have often tried to control things when it’s about the relationship.  We want to hold on to things or get rid of things since they represent attachment and relationships.  As Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), we have opportunities to focus on the strength of the attachment in the relationship.  I talk about where this has shown up in my life and with my relationship with my son, and his relationship with his grandmother. PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

  Episode 25 TITLE Creativity & Feeling Like an Outsider GUEST Grace Chon EPISODE OVERVIEW Grace’s ability to connect with animals, has brought her success. Creativity is about the feelings that are evoked when we look at art, dance, etc. and how this relates to being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).  Being a child of immigrant parents motivated Grace, and she talks about how she straddled traditional Korean culture and American culture, but felt invisible at school.  We talk about how being an HSP (and not knowing it), may have contributed to her sense of feeling like an outsider. Grace talks about the ways creativity shows up, but we may not identify what we’re doing as creativity. HIGHLIGHTS Creativity is your unique human expression, and everyone is creative! Creativity is just a natural innate part of being human; we all have it. It’s just a matter of tapping into it and cultivating it. Creativity is any sort of innovation, and that can come through daily activity Creativity is an expression of feeling Scarcity verse abundance mindset How Grace’s parents came to the U.S. from South Korea with $50 and a suitcase, and made new lives for themselves and their children How Grace straddled 2 cultures How People can tap into their creativity Creativity and parenting   BIO GRACE CHON is a commercial and editorial animal photographer, acclaimed for her highly expressive portraits of animals and authentic photos of people and their pets. Her clients include ad agencies, pet brands, magazines, publishing companies, celebrities, and TV shows. Now as a commercial and editorial photographer, Grace works with clients like Purina, Milkbone, Fancy Feast, Woman’s Day Magazine, Men’s Journal, and celebrities like Chris Pratt, Chelsea Handler, Clinton Kelly, Margaret Cho and Boo the Dog. Her work is featured in advertising, magazines, greeting cards, calendars, books, and television. In 2014, her photo series “Zoey and Jasper,” featuring her son and rescue dog, went viral around the world, with mentions by The Huffington Post, Mashable, Good Morning America, Buzzfeed, The Today Show, and countless mentions by the international media. In 2016, her photo series “HAIRY,” featuring dogs before and after their wildly cute haircuts, went viral again, with mentions by The Huffington Post, Buzzfeed, Refinery29, HelloGiggles, INSIDER, Yahoo, O the Oprah Magazine, Good Housekeeping, Vanity Fair Italia, and a number of international press from around the world. In 2018, newly photographed images from the “HAIRY” series went viral yet again, with mentions around the globe. Grace is also the author of 2 dog photography books - Waggish: Dogs Smiling for Dog Reasons and Puppy Styled: Japanese Dog Grooming Before and After. From creating award winning, viral ad campaigns to personal photography work that has gone viral multiple times, Grace knows how to craft ideas that get noticed. She believes the key to life is tuning in deeply to what your natural gifts are and sharing them others. She is passionate about empowering and teaching others how to do the same on her new podcast. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband, son, and 2 rescue dogs Maeby and Zoey. View her photography work at www.gracechon.com. PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Website--https://gracechon.com   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert   TIME The Science of Creativity To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Bonus Episode 41 TITLE Honoring Our Feelings In Relationships GUEST Solo episode Patricia Young, LCSW EPISODE OVERVIEW Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) tend to minimize or dismiss their feelings when they feel hurt. I talk about honoring the feelings that come up for us. Many of us have grief from previous relationships that didn’t work out, but we aren’t taught how to process the loss.  At the end, I give some specific ways you can start to do some healing work. PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Episode 024 TITLE We Didn’t Talk For 20 Years Due To A Mutual Therapist GUEST Laura Carr, LMFT EPISODE OVERVIEW Laura Carr, LMFT and I were best friends.  We broke up and didn’t talk for 20 years due to a mutual therapist. We talk about friendship trauma and the grief associated with it. I gave Laura an ultimatum, and so did the therapist. We talk about how this impacted us, and the powerful repair work we have done since we reconnected.  The importance of owning our mistakes, and how we rebuilt trust and established safety.  The power of naming things, and HOW we practice open, vulnerable communication. I also talk at the end about the therapist that was a big part of this. HIGHLIGHTS We experience a tremendous amount of friendship trauma, but we don’t learn how to process it, so the grief and hurt gets buried, but makes it more challenging in subsequent relationships because we haven’t been taught how to process this type of trauma We really need to own our mistakes when we make them.  There is incredible power and healing when we apologize sincerely and work to make living amends.  It builds trust and safety in a relationship. Friendships have seasons, and sometimes friendships are good through certain times of our lives, but they are not meant to last forever. When we focus on rules and not on the relationship, there is no flexibility or ability to work through conflict. How do you develop trust? It takes time, and even though one can apologize, it’s laying a foundation of behaviors that back up the words to develop trust.  It takes time, and it has to be earned. The power in naming things and having depth in a relationship where we can tell the truth from a place of love, and how it brings more depth and security to the relationship The gifts of allowing ourselves to be seen when we’re in relationship with another person who honors us and reflects back our strength.  It allows us to be even more authentic. BIO Laura Carr is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA. Laura has been in private practice since 1998. She co-created the orientation, Compassion Based Awareness Therapy which is an approach that integrates psychological theory and mindfulness. She opened Center for Mindful Relationships (CFMR) in 2012 which offers affordable counseling services to the public. This site also offers training to therapists who are gaining hours towards their MFT licensure. Laura has many roles: a mom, wife, friend, therapist, supervisor, meditator, animal lover, athlete, entrepreneur, and student of Zen. Laura is passionate about personal growth and development.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Website--https://cfmrsandiego.com/   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com