Unapologetically Sensitive

Bonus Episode 50   TITLE Perfectionism, Imposter Syndrome, Expectations and Disappointments   GUEST Solo Episode   EPISODE OVERVIEW As Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), it’s not uncommon for us to judge when we are having big feels, or the feels last longer than we want them to.  The feelings aren’t what causes us to suffer; it’s our reactions and judgment about our feelings. How do we learn to create space for big feels, disappointments, and how do we learn to really honor and appreciate the AMAZING gifts we have as HSPs?   HIGHLIGHTS We are sold by society that things are “broken” and therefore there are “cure” and “fixes” When we have feelings that we don’t like, or they last longer than we want, we believe something is wrong with us We aren’t broken and we don’t need to be fixed As Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), we ARE going to have big feels, and sometimes the feelings DO last longer than we want them to HSPs tend to function at very high levels in certain areas—we notice details, and remember things; we’re thorough and very conscientious We tend to think that everyone else is like we are, and we get frustrated and disappointed when other’s don’t show up at the level that we do Many HSPs in my practice tell me that they struggle with perfectionism. HSPs tend to be thorough and want to get things “right” We get to practice Done is better than perfect In the HSP Online Group, Jen Fusco Perry and I are co-facilitating, we each talked about some of our struggles after our check in—a group member shared how validating it was and how much they appreciated our willingness to be vulnerable and authentic When everyone pretends that they are living a life that is fine without struggle, it hurts everyone Sometimes we feel anxious or depressed—this is part of being a human being and having a human experience Whatever we are feeling is ok Wounding from the past can interfere with present day relationship How to ground in the present when wounding is coming up It takes tremendous strength and courage to allow ourselves to feel deeply It’s the skill of Emotional Intelligence to feel our feelings and identify what we are feeling—this IS healthy Being vulnerable takes tremendous courage—it’s a strength HSPs can be incredibly tenacious and focused—it’s how we perceive our traits and how we talk about them I thought I was doing therapy wrong, and it turns out my perceived weakness is my superpower as a coach when I work with HSPs What are your perceived weaknesses? What are the corresponding superpowers?    PODCAST HOST Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; while you travel; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.   LINKS   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Episode 32   TITLE Best of the Podcast:  You’re Not Fragile; You’re Very Strong   GUEST Annie Schuessler, LMFT   EPISODE OVERVIEW   Annie Schuessler, podcast host of Rebel Therapist, talks about overwhelm, and how she has created an environment that works for her, and what she needs when she travels. Annie talks about how she helps others create fulfilling businesses. We talk about podcasting (and as an introvert), what this has allowed her to do. Annie talks about being called a crybaby, and what she would say now to her younger self.   QUOTES You’re not fragile; you’re very strong Annie’s response to being an HSP, “I love me, and it’s absolutely a part of me.” I am strong and I want to be in difficult conversations Another name for HSP—“Highly Percepive” or “Tuned In”     BIO   Annie Schuessler is a business coach and the creator of The Superpower Method For Therapists® Program and the podcast Rebel Therapist. She’s been a therapist in private practice for over 15 years, and since 2010 she’s been helping private practice entrepreneurs build profitable and fulfilling businesses by leveraging their unique superpowers. You can find her resources for entrepreneurs trained as therapists at coachingwithannie.com. HIGHLIGHTS   The card game Annie mentions is called Settlers of Catan (or simply Catan) Associations made with the term HSP—difficult, sensitive, fragile Helping clients identify ideal working hours, what drains their energy, how to make more room for themselves We talk about perceived weaknesses and the corresponding strengths of being an HSP Annie talks about the myths that clients have when trying to decide what their ideal business looks like The challenges Annie experiences when anticipating new situations Having full creative control of podcasting and the unexpected gifts it has brought her.      PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them embrace their HSP gifts, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia has developed a method for coaching HSPs that has been very effective. If you want to dig in, and move through the challenges you’re facing as an HSP, Patricia has the gift of being able to hone in on the barriers, so you can get straight to work and focus on living the life you were meant to. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.   LINKS   Annie’s website: https://www.annieschuessler.com/ https://rebeltherapist.me/podcast-grid   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE How to Work with Our Feelings When They’re Bigger and Stronger Than We Want Them to Be   GUEST Solo Episode   EPISODE OVERVIEW It’s not uncommon for Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) to have strong emotional reactions to things.  We may not be able to control our initial reaction(s), but we can learn ways to master how we choose to respond.  When we think our feelings are bigger than we are, we are going to feel overwhelmed. I talk about a recent experience where I had a bigger emotional and physical reaction to a situation, and I share the tools that I used to move through this experience.   HIGHLIGHTS Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) are deep thinkers and deep feelers. This means we are likely to respond more to things than others do. There is nothing wrong with having a strong emotional reaction to something We can learn tools to master how we choose to respond (which is different than the reaction that we have) When we find ourselves having a strong emotional reaction, it’s really important to name what’s going on This doesn’t mean we have to DO anything. The practice of observing what’s happening; identifying it, and stating what’s going on (naming it), is the first step To me, the word reaction is what happens automatically. I don’t have control over my initial reaction. It’s what happens internally.  I don’t have to DO anything about my initial reaction What I do after I have a reaction is what I call my response. I have time to feel my feels, think about my reaction, and then I choose how I want to respond I share about having to go clothes shopping to buy some pants for a 7 day silent retreat I will be attending, and how this triggered an emotional reaction While shopping, I got triggered with body-image issues; my issues around spending money came up, and all of a sudden, sweets looked really appealing to me (because I was having feelings) In spite of mastering my emotional reactions/responses in other areas of my life, this was an area that I hadn’t had an opportunity to apply new skills to I found myself feeling tired, overwhelmed, discourages (in spite of having found what I needed—the shopping trip was a success, but my feelings told me otherwise Often we have expectations that we’re not even aware of. Then when something unexpected happens, we find ourselves upset, frustrated, disappointed, and we don’t understand why we’re feeling this way. When this happens, it’s not uncommon for us to go into self-blame—there’s something wrong with me; I shouldn’t be feeling this way. We also tend to negate our experience because we’re having strong feelings Often when we’re having uncomfortable feelings, the mind wants to make up stories to match our intense feelings, and this often begins what I call circling the drain. This is NOT a helpful place that we go We often judge our feelings, and THAT’S what makes us feel badly! When we can just allow our feelings to be, and curiously observe them, they are not as strong and powerful. When we judge our feelings, we feel worse, and we tend to stay in those uncomfortable feelings longer, and we continue to make up stories in our head to justify the uncomfortable feelings We can look with curiosity—what happened? What came up for you? What were your expectations? When we don’t name our feelings, the feelings can feel bigger than we are—that can be scary and overwhelming We are bigger than our feelings Feelings are just feelings—they come and go When we focus on the process—the actual steps we took (I went shopping; I tried on clothes; I looked for things; I experienced some body-image; I had money issues come up; I felt uncomfortable) and we emphasize what we DID and not the outcome, this creates a shift We may still be having feelings; that’s ok. The goal is NOT to get rid of the feelings.  It’s to observe them; feel them; name them and honor them We CAN tolerate uncomfortable feelings We can also predispose that when we engage in certain activities, we may feel disappointed, frustrated, low energy etc. This helps to “prepare” us for feelings that may come up I’ve found it really helpful to “set the bar really low” so that no matter what happens, we experience success Many HSPs tend to have really high expectations, so we often feel frustrated and angry with ourselves due to perceived failure, when in fact, we just have really unrealistic expectations When you find yourself reacting, you can get really curious and think about how is it you think you’re “supposed” to be feeling, or how you want to be feeling It’s important to allow yourself a LOT of grace for where you’re at It’s temporary; you will feel differently later on. It’s just a blip on the radar When we fight the feelings/reactions/responses we’re having, it causes US more suffering It can be messy, uncomfortable and it takes a lot of practice to learn to be with our feelings, but there are so many gifts on the other side of the discomfort The more we practice, the more we get mastery over being with our feelings and moving through them    PODCAST HOST Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.   LINKS   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Bonus Episode 49   TITLE What Happens When We Get Triggered by Multiple Things   GUEST Solo Episode   EPISODE OVERVIEW Sometimes it’s hard enough to manage getting overwhelmed or triggered, but when there are multiple things are that causing us stress or triggering us, it really can be much harder to manage.  I talk about some recent triggers that happened at the same time, and how I managed (very imperfectly, and the negative, fearful, and judgmental thoughts that came up).  The use of self-compassion is SO important especially when we are having human experiences.   HIGHLIGHTS Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) are deep thinkers and deep feelers. This means we are likely to respond more to things than others do. There is nothing wrong with having a strong emotional reaction to something We can learn tools to master how we choose to respond (which is different than the reaction that we have) When we find ourselves having a strong emotional reaction, it’s really important to name what’s going on This doesn’t mean we have to DO anything. The practice of observing what’s happening; identifying it, and stating what’s going on (naming it), is the first step To me, the word reaction is what happens automatically. I don’t have control over my initial reaction. It’s what happens internally.  I don’t have to DO anything about my initial reaction What I do after I have a reaction is what I call my response. I have time to feel my feels, think about my reaction, and then I choose how I want to respond Often we have expectations that we’re not even aware of. Then when something unexpected happens, we find ourselves upset, frustrated, disappointed, and we don’t understand why we’re feeling this way. When this happens, it’s not uncommon for us to go into self-blame—there’s something wrong with me; I shouldn’t be feeling this way. We also tend to negate our experience because we’re having strong feelings Often when we’re having uncomfortable feelings, the mind wants to make up stories to match our intense feelings, and this often begins what I call circling the drain. This is NOT a helpful place that we go We often judge our feelings, and THAT’S what makes us feel badly! When we can just allow our feelings to be, and curiously observe them, they are not as strong and powerful. When we judge our feelings, we feel worse, and we tend to stay in those uncomfortable feelings longer, and we continue to make up stories in our head to justify the uncomfortable feelings We can look with curiosity—what happened? What came up for you? What were your expectations? When we don’t name our feelings, the feelings can feel bigger than we are—that can be scary and overwhelming We are bigger than our feelings Feelings are just feelings—they come and go We may still be having feelings; that’s ok. The goal is NOT to get rid of the feelings.  It’s to observe them; feel them; name them and honor them We CAN tolerate uncomfortable feelings We can also predispose that when we engage in certain activities, we may feel disappointed, frustrated, low energy etc. This helps to “prepare” us for feelings that may come up I’ve found it really helpful to “set the bar really low” so that no matter what happens, we experience success Many HSPs tend to have really high expectations, so we often feel frustrated and angry with ourselves due to perceived failure, when in fact, we just have really unrealistic expectations When you find yourself reacting, you can get really curious and think about how is it you think you’re “supposed” to be feeling, or how you want to be feeling It’s important to allow yourself a LOT of grace for where you’re at It’s temporary; you will feel differently later on. It’s just a blip on the radar When we fight the feelings/reactions/responses we’re having, it causes US more suffering It can be messy, uncomfortable and it takes a lot of practice to learn to be with our feelings, but there are so many gifts on the other side of the discomfort The more we practice, the more we get mastery over being with our feelings and moving through them    PODCAST HOST Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.   LINKS   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Some Ways Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) Tend to Cope; Soothing vs. Nurturing with Heather Dominic, Founder of A Course In Business Miracles   GUEST Heather Dominic   EPISODE OVERVIEW Founder of A Course In Business Miracles, Heather explains coping mechanisms and coping cycles as well as what she refers to as the two shadows, and the work that she does with Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs. We talk about how coping mechanisms tend to be unconscious. When we bring deliberation and intention into the equation, we can embrace our natural rhythms. Heather talks about the difference between soothing versus nurturing, and Tara Brach’s RAINS Process.   HIGHLIGHTS Heather  shares her story of when she discovered she was a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) We discuss the importance of learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) Heather tells us about her Course In Business Miracles and how it connects to her Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur movement Your ideal client is a version of you What Heather discovered when she gave her clients Elaine Aron's  HSP self-test Heather discusses the challenges and strengths she notices when working with Highly Sensitive Entrepreneurs (HSEs) through her training process Heather explains the HSE coping mechanisms and the HSE coping cycle We compare the differences between understanding and respecting our natural HSP rhythms and the coping mechanisms of HSEs Coping mechanisms tend to be unconscious; Bringing deliberation and consciousness into the equation is what allows us to embrace our natural rhythms Heather talks about the difference between soothing versus nurturing - Soothing is more reactive where nurturing is proactive Heather discusses Tara Brach’s RAINS Process - Recognize, Allow, Inquire, Nurture, Surrender Heather shares her insights regarding extroverts and introverts in the HSEs that she works with We talk about Susan Cain’s depictions of introversion, and how it overlays the traits of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), but does not name the trait Many people identify with what has been written about introversion but are unaware that those traits of introversion include the traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) We discuss how we bring more to our clients as we level up in our HSP journey The importance of community, especially considering HSPs make up only 20% of the population Heather talks about the two HSE shadows - The shadow of perfectionism and the shadow of analysis paralysis Heather shares some of the challenges that she faces as an HSP We share some lighthearted stories about the growth in our marital relationships with non-HSPs.   BIO Can you be highly successful in business and highly spiritual at the same time? Let’s take this question a step further. Is there a direct relationship between your spirituality and great success? Heather Dominick is a woman who is impressively successful, and highly spiritual. A former high school drama teacher who collaborated with none other than Bette Midler. A graduate of NYU where she received her first coach training. Heather is the winner of the 2015 Best of Manhattan Coaching Award and creator of the 2014 Stevie Award-winning virtual event A Course In Business Miracles®: 21-Day Discovery Series that attracted close to 6,000 official registrants from all around the world including: Iceland, Nigeria, Russia, Asia, South America, Australia, Europe and the U.S. She has appeared on Lifetime Television and has been published in numerous books including Stepping Stones to Success alongside Deepak Chopra An exceptional facilitator and teacher Heather is known for creating a safe, sacred community for true transformation whether she is teaching a Business Miracles® Class, delivering training online or in-person or mentoring members of her Business Miracles Community in her various Mentoring Programs. She has helped thousands of HSE®s release life-long limiting beliefs, overcome fears and learn how to build their business in a way that actually feels so good that they can’t help but create solid, sustainable, high-level financial success. Heather is also the founder and leader of the Highly Sensitive Entrepreneur® movement.     PODCAST HOST Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.   LINKS   Website - www.businessmiracles.com Facebook - www.facebook.com/businessmiracles Instagram - www.instagram.com/bizmiracles Pinterest - www.pinterest.com/BizMiracles   Tara Brach Guided Meditation - The RAIN of Self-Compassion: www.youtube.com/watch?v=wm1t5FyK5Ek   Jacquelyn Strickland’s article Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person: www.hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person   Janet Masey Zentangle in San Diego: www.tikitangles.blogspot.com   Zentangle www.zentangle.com/pages/about-the-zentangle-method To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of stars click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures

EPISODE OVERVIEW Rhonda discusses the importance of having practitioners that are knowledgeable about the trait of being Highly Sensitive, and she shares an experience she had with an insensitive doctor and how she handled it.   HIGHLIGHTS Rhonda shares about realizing she was a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) after reading Elaine Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person We talk about the analogy of HSPs and orchids--and the limitations of this analogy We share our experience with online facebook groups and how we came to meet each other through a facebook group I started for podcasters Sometimes, as HSPs, we don’t realize the positive impact that we are having on the lives of others simply by showing up I share some of the ways that podcasting has been transformational that I did not expect Rhonda describes the various triggers that she has recognized as an HSP; how she navigates with this knowledge, and the emotional impact it sometimes has We discuss epigenetics and how emotional triggers can have generational echos Rhonda recalls early childhood memories of feeling ashamed or outcasted due to her highly sensitive traits We share our experiences as HSPs, with prescription medications and how HSPs tend to be more sensitive to medication than non-HSPs Rhonda talks about the dichotomy of growing up shy and self-conscious while being a courageous and bold person, starting her own business Rhonda explains her ability to somatically feel what is happening with her clients Rhonda recounts an interaction she had with an insensitive doctor, how she responded, and the result of their exchange   BIO Rhonda Hess is an international business coach and founder of Prosperous Coach since 2006. Her clients say she has a superpower for helping coaches choose a smart niche and launch their business with confidence. In 2001, she designed the certification program for Coach Training Alliance. After training 500 coaches herself she turned her focus to helping coaches with the marketing side because it doesn't matter how great a coach you are if no one knows about you. After 8 years of award-winning blogging, last year Rhonda started Prosperous Coach Podcast to help more coaches earn more and market less. It's so fun!     PODCAST HOST Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.   LINKS   Website - www.ProsperousCoachBlog.com Podcast - www.ProsperousCoachBlog.com/topics/Podcast/ Facebook - www.Facebook.com/ProsperousCoach   To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of stars click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures

EPISODE OVERVIEW Maureen talks about the emotional brain and allowing our feelings to just be feelings.  We discuss discipline for Highly Sensitive Children (HSCs), and the importance of creating connections with our kids. Maureen shares tips and tools for bringing calmness and grounding to emotionally reactive situations.   HIGHLIGHTS Maureen shares her thoughts about the term Highly Sensitive Person Maureen discusses the work she does with children in her private practice and how the term HSP can sometimes be used as an excuse (in her estimation) She explains her belief that everyone falls somewhere on the spectrum of sensitivity and the benefits as well as downsides to labeling I share the freedom that I experienced when I was able to give my emotions a name and know that it’s a researched trait, and it’s how I’m wired; there’s nothing wrong with me. Maureen discusses what is an emotionally healthy child We talk about The Emotional Brain Wholeness is more important than happiness We discuss how parents have the opportunity to model how we manage big feelings and how we calm ourselves in order to demonstrate this for our children Maureen gives the 3 steps to raising an emotionally healthy child The importance of authenticity in your relationship with a Highly Sensitive Child (HSC) Maureen answers questions from members of the Unapologetically Sensitive Facebook group (Amber Landsford and Kevin Thibault) Maureen talks about the importance of slowing down, getting emotions out, and bringing logic and calming to challenging situations The importance of giving your child a safe space to feel their feelings and for them to know that all feelings are acceptable Letting kids know that they are bigger than their feelings The importance of forgiveness and knowing how to forgive Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) have some gifts that non-sensitives do not have, and when we are able to gain mastery over our capacity to react emotionally, we can be powerhouses Surround yourself with people who really have the capacity to embrace who you are The more we expand on our capacity to feel uncomfortable things, the more that space opens up for more good things like joy and happiness and bliss   BIO Maureen Healy is the author of The Emotionally Healthy Child and also Growing Happy Kids, which won Nautilus and Readers’ Favorite book awards in 2014. A popular Psychology Today blogger and sought-after public speaker, Maureen runs a global mentoring program for elementary-aged children and works with parents and their children in her busy private practice. Her expertise in social and emotional learning has taken her all over the world, including working with Tibetan refugee children at the base of the Himalayas in Northern India to classrooms in Northern California.  Visit her online at http://www.growinghappykids.com.     PODCAST HOST Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.   LINKS Website - www.GrowingHappyKids.com Facebook - www.twitter.com/MDHealy Instagram - www.instagram.com/MaureenDHealy Youtube - www.youtube.com/user/GrowingHappy   To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of stars click “write a review”   Website-- www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures

EPISODE OVERVIEW I share 2 recent experiences where I had an opportunity to learn how to navigate situations that previously were very difficult, but this time, were easier.  I talk about going to Earth Day with my husband and how I used mindfulness to see what works and what is challenging. I also talk about a situation where I previously would get overwhelmed with information, and how I handled it differently.  Due to previous experiences of being overwhelmed and overstimulated, we often don’t know how to use tools to figure out how to “re-enter” these challenging situations.   HIGHLIGHTS My husband and I went to the Earth Day fair together How to navigate activities that are important to one partner, but not the other Using mindfulness to really notice what parts of a situation work and don’t work If I’m in a crowd, it helps if I hold my husband’s hand, or loop my finger through his belt loop.  He can navigate the crowds, and I just follow and I’m free to look around Often Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) don’t do well in crowds, and it can be difficult to have to “push through” other people. If you go to an event with someone who has different needs, sometimes compromising so both people get their needs met (in this case, my husband chose to not spend as much time looking at the individual booths, and he was ok with this) See if you can agree on a specific amount of time to attend the activity.  You can take separate vehicles, or you can touch base after a certain amount of time to reevaluate If you get overwhelmed, overstimulated or tired, sometimes having a comfortable place to sit and watch people (shady, not too noisy) can be a way to recharge. When we don’t know we are highly sensitive, we go into these situations and feel overwhelmed without knowing exactly why Many HSPs have been so overwhelmed and overstimulated in the past, but didn’t know why or didn’t know they were HSPs, then we don’t want to engage again.  We can use mindfulness to figure out what things work, and what things need to be adapted. We are often capable of doing more than we think we can (without violating our boundaries or doing too much) When we can talk about our needs and our partner/friend/parent/child’s needs, we can work together We can also set boundaries around how much information we want to receive, and we can be clear on how we will handle it if our boundaries aren’t honored. We often are more capable than we think we are, which can be incredibly empowering. Being an HSP is really a strength, and when we’re willing to use mindfulness and curiosity and to make necessary adjustments, we may be able to do more than we thought we could     PODCAST HOST Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.   LINKS   To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures  

EPISODE OVERVIEW In order to make this podcast sustainable, I will be making changes moving forward.  I talk about why it’s been difficult for me to slow down, and how some of my sense of value and worth has been tied up in a rigorous production schedule.  I have some fear about losing listeners, and I want to be able to provide great content over the long run. Self-care and setting boundaries are crucial for the well-being of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and I talk about how I plan to improve on both of these.   HIGHLIGHTS Sustainability - I want to do this for the long run Pushing myself and overriding my need for Rest I haven’t been sleeping through the night for months Balance I haven’t taken a weekend off since launching the podcast I’m taking a 4-day vacation with Steve and will probably record an episode or two while we’re on vacation Self-care--why it’s important Boundaries--why it’s difficult The big picture - uncharted territory The podcast was launched 6 months ago Making major shifts in my business Shifting from therapy to coaching Launching groups Splitting my website and creating a new coaching website Listening to listeners and clients Learning, growing, failing, pivoting--this is what success looks like I share my fear of losing listeners We’ve really picked up momentum with the podcast This is a passion project Trying to be mindful of Brene Brown’s phrase Hustling For My Sense Of Worth when I catch myself allowing my sense of value to be determined by the podcast numbers. Thinking long-term with the podcast I will be taking a month off from mid-June to mid-July I will be attending a Silent retreat The most popular episodes will play during my month off to give new listeners a chance to hear some great early episodes I will be taking a month off in December Shifting the format to only releasing episodes on Tuesdays Alternating bonus episodes with interviews Recommended podcasts: Woman Worriers with Elizabeth Cush https://www.progressioncounseling.com/woman-worriers-podcast Hypnotize Me Podcast with Dr. Elizabeth Bonet http://www.hypnotizemepodcast.com or https://drlizhypnosis.com/hypnotize-me Emotions in Harmony Podcast with Dr. Carmen Roman (bilingual) https://emotionsinharmony.org     PODCAST HOST Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.   LINKS   To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures

TITLE Happiness & Rewiring Your Brain Through Mindfulness & Self-Care   GUEST Anne-Kathrin Walter   EPISODE OVERVIEW I talk to Anne-Kathrin Walter, founder of HiSensitives.  We talk about what sensitivity looks like in Europe and The Netherlands compared to the United States. Anne talks about happiness and Positive Psychology and we separate this from the act of escaping our negative feelings. We talk about how our brains want to keep us in a comfortable place and how this can potentially lead to being stuck in patterns. We talk about how to use gratitude as a tool for building a positive environment as well as other exercises we can utilize in our daily lives.   HIGHLIGHTS Anne-Kathrin shares her experience with the perception of sensitivity in her home country, The Netherlands More people are coming out of their HSP closet as a result of more attention being paid to the topic We can often make the mistake of confusing our wounds with traits of being an HSP Anne-Kathrin discusses how sensitivity comes with strengths: Creativity Intuitiveness Empathy We talk about the importance of dealing with trauma in our lives Anne-Kathrin shares the benefits she has experienced through therapy, and her initial struggle with opening up to a stranger Anne-Kathrin talks about how discovering she is an HSP has offered perspective on so many aspects of her past Anne-Kathrin prefers the term ‘Highly Perceptive Person’ Anne-Kathrin explains the symbol that she created for her business HiSensitives. This symbol was so meaningful to her, that she has a tattoo of the logo she created We carefully navigate a discussion surrounding the importance of Positive Thinking and how it can be used as a tool of preparation to face our traumas, not a replacement for addressing traumatic experiences Anne-Kathrin shares the personal story of her negative spiral that lead her into what she does today with Positive Psychology Anne-Kathrin explains how negative thoughts can become patterns/safe spaces for our brains that become challenging to break away from How we can use gratitude to examine what is going well in our lives to rewire our brains away from negative spirals Depending on our background, some people need Positive Thinking and some of us need to address and honor uncomfortable feelings Anne-Kathrin shares the story of a traumatic fire that changed her life Anne-Kathrin explains guided meditation and the process of grounding Anne-Kathrin talks about using shower meditation, standing in the shower and visualizing everything that is not of positive use to you, and being cleansed of those thoughts and having them washed down the drain We discuss box breathing Anne-Kathrin encourages 21 Days of Gratitude - Reach out to 1 person a day to express something you are grateful to them for We talk about how writing down your thoughts can be a helpful exercise for letting things go We discuss the importance of surrounding ourselves with positive, supportive people We talk about Examining your daily habits, and trying to eliminate daily detractors to your mental and physical health We talk about Evaluating your daily consumption: diet, entertainment, news, social, etc. Anne-Kathrin discusses the challenges she faces as an HSP Dr. Elaine Aron suggests that HSPs get 2 hours of quiet time per day Anne-Kathrin shares her superpowers that come with being an HSP   Resources Dr. Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org/   Christopher Germer: https://chrisgermer.com/   Shawn Achor: http://www.shawnachor.com/   Meditation Minis Podcast with Chel Hamilton https://meditationminis.com/   Brene Brown Super Soul Sunday on trust: http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/brene-brown-what-to-do-when-you-struggle-with-trust   BIO Anne-Kathrin Walter is a young, highly sensitive entrepreneur from the Netherlands. In 2018, she founded the brand HiSensitives, which is a brand for highly sensitive people that aims to increase awareness and acceptance of the trait and to connect highly sensitive people worldwide. By diving into the world of positive thinking and changing her own thought patterns, Anne-Kathrin managed to transform her life and to dare to chase her dreams. Through the right relationships, a change of direction when it comes to her career and daily self-care she managed to create a HSP-friendly life for herself. .   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Anne-Kathrin Walter: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/i.am.anne.kathrn/ HiSensitives Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hisensitives/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hisensitives/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/Hisensitives/ Website: https://hisensitives.com/ E-Mail: Contact@hisensitives.com   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures