Unapologetically Sensitive

TITLE I Always Knew I Was Different with Melissa Schwartz   GUEST Melissa Schwartz   EPISODE OVERVIEW Melissa created the Sensitivity Summit--a free online summit for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs).  She shares some of what she learned while recording the interviews for the summit.  Melissa provides some tangible tools she uses so she doesn’t absorb others’ energy. She also talks about learning to regulate her emotions, and  we talk about how sensitivity can look different in people.   HIGHLIGHTS Melissa is creating a Sensitivity Summit, with over 30 experts on Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) on topics like adults, children, relationships with non-HSPs, and even wounding This event brings together a variety of experts and will provide great insight for HSPs, or those raising or living with an HSP Melissa always knew something was different about her, but she didn’t realize she was Highly Sensitive at first She realized she was a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) about 5 years ago She always thought and was told, that she was too reactive, too emotional, too intense, and too sensitive 70% of HSPs are introverts, and 30% are extroverts. Melissa identifies as an extrovert We discuss trauma, with a capital T and trauma with a lower case t and how they are different Some Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), hold on to trauma because they don’t know how to process it Self-compassion is critical Melissa was born Highly Sensitive; according to her mother, she came out crying, colicky, and had her days and nights confused Instead of Highly Sensitive, Melissa prefers to call herself “deeply attuned” Melissa works on regulating her emotions. She’s a spiritual seeker who looks for deeper meaning in life She found the work of Esther Hicks in her 20s, and learned more about what emotions mean; the intensity/scale of our emotions, and healthy ways to experience our emotions Melissa doesn’t quite think Sensitivity is a superpower. When she was younger, she felt that people who were Non-HSPs had a superpower Now, Melissa believes that her empathic/intuitive abilities are her superpower. She can feel the emotional experience of others, and it helps her in her work Melissa uses mediation and visualization tools to help her We discuss her “loving armor,” and how to keep yourself from absorbing other’s energy when you are empathic Some tools to help when you’re feeling overwhelmed include Going to the bathroom and splashing water on your face Taking cleansing breaths, and releasing that energy Visualizing yourself in a bubble of white energy or wearing a suit of armor to protect you If you can’t stop the emotional absorption, it’s okay to leave a situation, or bring your our own car so you can leave when you’re ready It’s all about self-care. Taking your own car is self-care, bringing snacks is self-care Melissa was told her reactions were too big, or her reactions were inappropriate and it was very hurtful to her Sensitivity doesn’t look the same for everyone. It can show up in all different ways The Sensitivity Summit takes place on September 16th, and you can go to the SensitivitySummit.com to join in!   QUOTES “I always knew something was different about me.” “It was very overwhelming in my early years to tap into how other people were feeling, and then kind of be drowning in that experience.” “I’ll visualize myself in a bubble of white, crystalline energy.” “I take my own car places. I like to leave when I’ve had enough. I like to have my own out.” “When we’re able to have self-compassion, and be in the moment, and learn to lean into what’s going on, that ultimately leads into a sense of contentment.” “Especially when we’re talking about emotional regulation and energetic balance, it’s not something that we achieve and stay there forever, it’s something we achieve for a little bit of time, but it’s even fluctuating.” “People say, oh you’re more sensitive or super sensitive. No, I’m Highly Sensitive. It’s not too much, it’s more than it is for you, but it’s just right for me.”   GUEST BIO Melissa Schwartz was born an intense, sensitive, empathic, power seeker. Her intuitive ability to decode misbehavior and her passion for giving a voice to the legitimate needs of children naturally evolved into becoming the co-creator of Leading Edge Parenting, co-author of "Authentic Parenting Power" and author of forthcoming "Under the Hood: A Manual to Understand the Inner Workings of Children". She is an internationally acclaimed author, coach and public speaker bringing new perspective based on current research and personal experience to transform the field of high sensitivity.   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS  Melissa’s Links: www.leadingedgeparenting.com www.facebook.com/highlysensitivechildren  www.facebook.com/groups/highlysensitivechildren www.thesensitivitysummit.com   The Sensitivity Summit-- www.thesensitivitysummit.com begins September 16, 2019   Resources: Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/ Books by the author Esther Hicks: https://amzn.to/2MvygTF   Patricia’s Links: Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/ E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor & Show Notes: Cianna Reider – YourPodcastVA.weebly.com

Bonus Episode 53   TITLE I Didn’t Feel Seen and Heard, So I Sang the This Sucks Song!   GUEST Solo Episode   EPISODE OVERVIEW What do we do when we tell someone we’re not feeling seen and heard, and it triggers one of their wounds, and they get defensive? Whose responsibility is it to meet our needs? How can we use mindfulness and curiosity when we are feeling hurt, disappointed and frustrated? Is it possible to sit with discomfort, AND feel gratitude and notice the things that ARE going right? And a special meetup for San Diego Folks September 7, 2019 with a free giveaway for one of the Online HSP Courses!   HIGHLIGHTS When we are going through struggles, we tend to want to externalize—find things that are wrong on the outside, instead of going within to see where we need to focus on healing We might try to pick a fight with someone, or we find things that others are doing that we feel are wrong We can use mindfulness to get curious and try and observe without judgment what’s going on Sometimes in relationships we need to sit with the discomfort to see if it’s wounding that we need to work on Sometimes it’s important to talk about what’s going on in the relationship in order to have healing happen It can hurt, especially as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), when we don’t feel seen and heard Sometimes this is about the present, but it’s not uncommon for HSPs to have wounding around not feeling seen and heard because this was our experience when we were growing up If we have a REALLY BIG reaction to not feeling seen and heard, it may be an indication that it’s about wounding from the past, and not the present When I have a 7 reaction to a situation that probably would be 4, there’s a good chance my reaction is about my history, and not the current situation We often are skilled at figuring out what others need, and we are skilled at meeting their needs This is often how we get our sense of connecting, belonging and self-esteem Are we able to identify our own needs? Are we able to really show up for ourselves in the ways we show up for others? Becoming aware of these patterns and sitting with them, may cause some feelings of anxiety We need to learn how to provide reassurances to ourselves—it’s ok to want it from others, and to get it from others, but ultimately, we need to be able to provide this to ourselves It’s ok to depend on others It’s ok to need others When we are processing things that are difficult, it can be harder to ask for what we want. We have a story in our head, and when we get vague feedback (or no feedback) from others, we may use that to validate the story in our head that says we don’t matter; we’re wrong, or whatever that story is When we’re feeling stuck, there are ways to move energy either internally, with our bodies or in our home When we are in the midst of understanding something that’s uncomfortable, we may tell ourselves that we’re ruminating. Maybe we’re just processing deeply because we want to understand, and we want to heal It’s all about what we tell ourselves. We do better when we are kind to ourselves We make unconscious agreements with others like—I’m going to be here for you, and I expect you to be here for me This doesn’t always work out We may feel we are doing this out of love or generosity, but when the other person doesn’t reciprocate and we become really upset, it could be an indication that we had an unconscious agreement with them, and they broke the agreement If we are feeling resentment, that can be another indicator that the agreement was broken We may feel powerless, angry, frustrated and disappointed when these things happen. That’s totally normal! How do we hear ourselves, so we feel heard and seen? You can make up an it sucks song to sing to yourself We may have fantasies about how we want the other person to hurt or to feel what we’re feeling. This is normal.  We don’t have to act on it We can feel frustration, hurt and disappointment, AND also be experiencing things in life that work! We tend to focus on what’s not working, and we miss the “both, and” When we can see what’s not working and what is working (the both and), we can cultivate compassion and it gives us some distance and perspective We get to decide what is working for us We have choice; we have power We can be sad and disappointed that people aren’t there for us, and we can find ways to soothe and be ok Sometimes things suck, so you get to make up your own it sucks song     PODCAST HOST Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Online HSP Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   San Diego Meetup—Saturday September 7, 2019 10 am – noon https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/264112525/   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE   The Five Superpowers of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) & High Sensation Seeking (HSS)   GUEST   Caroline Ferguson   EPISODE OVERVIEW   Caroline Ferguson, whose Tedx talk is titled Unlocking the Secret Power of Sensitivity at Work, says burnout in the workplace is likely to be 2x higher for HSPs. She talks about the importance of curiosity, creativity and compassion and how this relates to High Sensation Seeking (HSS). Carolyn talks about the many specific strengths of HSPs, but also talks about optimal career choices that meet the need for novelty and intensity. If you have a low threshold for boredom and like new exciting things, you may be an HSS.   HIGHLIGHTS The 5 superpowers Ability to notice—highly tuned in/ability to process at great depth Rich creative imagination—daydreamers, creatives, solution providers Highly conscientious—connected/concerns about others with a little bit of perfectionism Empathy—noticing, observing, don’t want to let others down, get the job done properly Intuition—noticing and spotting patterns at a level of detail, body language, tone of voice Caroline’s superpowers—brainstorming, the use of words, language and stories Caroline likes the terms Highly Responsive and Finely-Tuned to describe a Highly Sensitive Person We need to learn to honor our feelings We may have a tendency to cry and have tender feelings Burnout in the workplace is likely to be 2x greater for HSPs compared to non-HSPs High Sensation Seeking (HSS)—30% of HSPs are also HSS, which is about 6-7% of the population Sensitive Upstarts—don’t wait for permission and they create change Someone who is curious, seeking and creates change It is an evolutionary imperative They have curiosity and compassion Great jobs are project manager or life coach Curiosity is innate and hardwired to be fascinated by life around us We have been told curiosity killed the cat, or that we’re nosy, and we’ve had the curiosity beaten out of us Curiosity is an amazing skill and it’s the opposite of judgment—we’re open; we want to know Curiosity increases compassion and acceptance With High Sensation Seeking (HSS), we are involved in certain things, then we stop and we move on to the next thing We can design a life, career and relationships that have novelty, and intensity and variety With High Sensation Seeking, we have a part that wants to dial down and a part that’s seeking stimulation Creativity and curiosity are part of being a HSS HSS have a deep fascinations, passions and want to absorb everything HSS have a low boredom threshold, and want to get on to the next new, exciting and varied thing that comes up   GUEST BIO   Caroline Ferguson is a Mindset Trainer, cognitive behavioural hypnotherapist and the original 'Sensitive Upstart'. She loves showing sensitive, purposeful leaders who KNOW they were born for something more how to overcome their inner resistance, embody their potential and skyrocket their impact.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Caroline’s Links:   www.CarolineFerguson.com Unlocking the Secret Power of Sensitivity at Work | Caroline Ferguson | TEDxDrapanosWomen https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KWSqAgg7HOo   The gentle power of highly sensitive people | Elena Herdieckerhoff | TEDxIHEParis https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pi4JOlMSWjo   On "Inner Sensation Seeking" http://www.hsperson.com/pages/3May10.htm   The Handbook for Highly Sensitive People: How to Transform Feeling Overwhelmed and Frazzled to Empowered and Fulfilled by Mel Collins   Patricia’s Links:   San Diego Meetup Saturday September 7, 2019 10 am – noon. Learn About The Highly Sensitive Person and Meet Other Sensitives https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/264112525/   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/  E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE Overall Struggles & Strengths Highly Sensitive Person (HSPs) GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC EPISODE OVERVIEW Jen and I talk about perfectionism, self-compassion, boundaries, self-care, HS superpowers, communication, vulnerability, authenticity, demystifying emotions, creating a lifestyle that honors the HSP, and mindfulness. These are some of the things that we notice Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) struggling with.  Our primary intention is to give you an idea of what to expect in our upcoming online courses. Whether you are considering taking a group or not, this episode is a great way to identify your HS strengths and maybe see if there are areas you want to focus on. HIGHLIGHTS Jen explains why working with HSPs is a passion of hers We share our excitement about the groups and why we feel they are important I share the story of my first meeting with Jen Jen shares her initial impression upon our first meeting and the benefit that comes with creating a safe space to openly share our needs We discuss our goal of making the groups a safe space where productive communication can happen, and we create community Setting boundaries in relationships is not about changing the other person; it’s creating a space for yourself by communicating your needs We discuss the plan for our upcoming groups to give you an idea of what to expect: Group culture / Expectations Creating community guidelines Creating and maintaining a safe environment Everyone is seen and heard Everyone is treated respectfully Everyone’s goals for the group Getting to know each other Basic education about the trait Questions and discussion Building pride in HSP Applying the pride Recognizing this is a non-HSP world, and we get to assert our HSP traits/needs Identifying negative messages and turning them into superpowers Things we struggle with Too sensitive Too needy Need to get thicker skin Not social No fun, can’t take a joke, no sense of humor Too picky Overthink things Worry too much Too nice Over responsible for everything Feeling fatally flawed, not good enough Mistfit–I’m the only one; There’s no one like me Deep sense of not belonging and shame Outcomes Embracing our traits Identify and verbalize what traits resonate for us Feeling confident in what our needs are Naming our strengths Seeing comments as being about the other person Identifying when we get triggered, and having tools to manage Proper care and feeding of the HSP Skillfulness around boundaries Finding ways to live peacefully with non-HPSs and honor everyone’s needs Self-care is non-negotiable! Things we struggle with People pleasing Putting others needs ahead of our own Feeling guilty when we take care of ourselves Feeling resentful when we meet other’s needs and not our own Feeling drained Feeling depleted Feeling unappreciated Feeling overwhelmed Feeling irritable, negative, easily annoyed, less patient, more critical of self and others, intolerant Outcomes Becoming comfortable with self-centering It’s ok to be the center of your universe You can’t pour from an empty cup Self-care is an imperative–which is ultimately a selfless act When we take care of ourselves, everyone benefits in the long run (not always immediately, but the overall benefit is for everyone) Listening to what we need and want Trusting what we need and want Wanting to take care of ourselves Knowing that when we take care of ourselves, we have more to offer others Feeling out of balance (or at least aware) when we are ignoring our own needs Having richer deeper relationships because we are fulfilled and coming from a place where we have more to offer Boundaries are an imperative part of self-care Things we struggle with Feeling uncomfortable with conflict Feeling guilty–picking up on other’s feelings that we might disappoint others (or they will get angry or frustrated) The guilt is not necessary (we haven’t done anything wrong–we’re supposed to set boundaries–it’s healthy, and boundaries are a natural and necessary part of any healthy relationship) Guilt is the best word we have in the English language, but it’s not really an accurate description Feeling not seen, not heard or not honored Not expressing our wants and needs Feeling resentful Feeling powerless Feeling taken advantage of Feeling like everyone else gets their needs met or what they want Outcomes Trusting our feelings Boundaries will directly reduce our overwhelm Learning how to set boundaries without emotion Boundaries make you a happy human; When we have an emotional flare, it’s because a boundary has most likely been violated (or a need has not been met) Learning how to compassionately, but kindly state what is and is not acceptable Seeing boundaries as creating safety for ourselves and others Seeing the benefits of setting limits Owning our power and KNOWING that our wants and needs are perfectly acceptable and reasonable Developing flexibility–not about the rule, but about the relationship and the context Perfectionism Things we struggle with Feeling not good enough Comparing Feeling inadequate Not starting things, paralysis Not pursuing dreams Overworking/overdoing trying to get a sense of “enoughness” Constant unease Critical of self and others Perfectionism is a myth Imposter syndrome–if people really saw who I am, they would leave Brene Brown says Whenever you have perfectionism driving, shame is riding shotgun Hustling for your sense of worth “Doing” for a sense of value instead of knowing we have value because we live and breathe Outcomes Knowing done is better than perfect Busting shame Brene Brown–Our vulnerability is what actually connects us Sense of belonging and connection comes from allowing ourselves to be seen imperfectly That’s where connection begins Living from our values–regardless of whether goals are met or not.  It can be about the process and not the outcome More self-acceptance More ease in relationships because the standards are more realistic Learning how to set goals that are achievable More contentment More satisfaction Actually accomplishing more due to acceptance Communication, vulnerability, authenticity Things we struggle with Afraid to say what you’re thinking Not trusting what you’re thinking Fear of judgment, criticism, being ridiculed Feeling like your point of view is wrong or not popular Afraid to really show up in relationships and allow yourself to be fully seen Being afraid to upset someone Being afraid to stir up problems in the relationship Not trusting that ruptures are repairable, and this actually points at growth We grow in relationships after a rupture Ruptures are a natural part of attachment–it doesn’t mean that there isn’t attachment Outcomes Educate others about the trait Why we need the lights low, Less stimulation Quiet areas Model healthy communication, authenticity, vulnerability More depth, closeness and trust in relationships Marshall Rosenberg’s non-violent communication All behavior is an attempt to get a need met Feelings and needs are never in conflict Strategies to get them met can be in conflict, and that requires creative problem-solving Life is figure out-able Creating a lifestyle that is HSP friendly and honors our HSP needs Things we struggle with Overwhelm Fatigue Resentment Feeling drained Overworking Living in a non-HSP world and trying to live like a non-HSP Outcomes Proper Care and Feeding of HSPs Getting enough rest, down time, quiet time Exercise Spirituality Just enough socializing Feeling a deeper sense of connection More meaning in your life Social justice work HSP style ~ having activist mentors Connecting with nature Learning how to do non-HSP events in manageable chunks Mindfulness & Self-Compassion Things we struggle with Overwhelmed and scattered Urge to numb out (TV, social media, Netflix) Outcomes Basic meditation instruction Formal and informal practices, moving meditation, guided meditation Learning how to curiously observe what comes up and to use it as information instead of reacting to things Self-acceptance More self-compassion and compassion for others Being more emotionally responsive vs emotionally reactive (Pause button) Meeting life on its terms instead of arm wrestling with it Demystifying emotions & Embracing our emotions Things we struggle with My emotions overwhelm me I can’t control my emotions I’m emotionally reactive I’m embarrassed by my emotions Affect-phobia I don’t want to feel my emotions, they won’t go away My feelings will hurt me / others Outcomes Basic education about emotion theory Emotions can’t hurt us Emotions are to be honored and felt Emotions are impermanent Emotions are not something we can control Creating safety to feel our emotions Emotions can inform our actions/behavior but do not need to drive our behavior Mindfulness Feelings come and go – just energy moving through us Deep sense of connection when we get comfortable having our feelings BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping highly sensitive people thrive in love, work, and parenting highly sensitive children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. She can be reached at jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com  or 215-292-5056. Learn more at heartfulnessconsulting.com or facebook.com/Heartfulnessconsulting. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS Jen’s Links Website--www.heartfulnessconsulting.comEmail--jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com Facebook--www.facebook.com/HeartfulnessConsulting Patricia’s Links:   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/  E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE   I Heal Through My Songs with Singer & Songwriter Karen Drucker   GUEST   Karen Drucker   EPISODE OVERVIEW   Karen is a singer/songwriter with over 15 CDs, and she is also an author. She writes songs that heal and bless the soul!  Karen talks about being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and how she is able to perform at huge concerts, travel to perform, and still honors her HSP needs.  We talk about the creative process, and what inspires her lyrics.  Karen jokes that if you want to know her issues, listen to her songs. Karen talks about her inner critic, named Zelda, and how Karen works with Zelda when Zelda shows up trying to protect her. Karen also sings a bit acapella, which made my eyes water.   HIGHLIGHTS Before I knew about being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), I just always felt weird When people would hear me say I was an HSP, they would just raise their eyebrow As a Highly Sensitive Person, I am aware; I’m empathetic and I can meet people at a deeper level Knowing the traits of being an HSP helped me to adapt I always joke—if you want to know my issues, listen to my songs My songs are writing to myself; it’s my therapy If I’m not feeling worthy, or I’m stressed about time, I write a song and turn it into an affirmation I think about what words would bring comfort and I write about it I’m doing more work with people with health issues, cancer, people in recovery or dealing with their inner critic—let’s focus and sing about it Music bypasses the bring and goes into the heart—literally. Oxytocin in released and it’s like having a musical meditation The song Be Gentle was written when Karen was having a hard time and was beating up on herself. These are the lyrics-- I will be gentle with myself I will be gentle with myself And I will hold myself like a newborn baby child I will be tender with my heart I will be tender with my heart And I will hold my heart like a newborn baby child And I will only go as fast As the slowest part of me feels safe to go I will be easy on myself I will be easy on myself And I love myself like a new born baby child And I will only go as fast As the slowest part of me feels safe to go I am gentle with myself I am gentle with myself And I hold myself like a new born baby child And I rock myself like a newborn baby child And I hold myself like a newborn baby child And I love myself like a newborn baby child   Karen tends to write songs from all perspectives—when she is struggling; when she is grateful, etc. Creativity is allowing yourself to be open. Karen said she is attuned towhat she hears in the world Karen never anticipated writing a book, but she felt a calling to do it We talk about how The Universe can conspire on your behalf, and what serendipity can look like Karen talks about her inner critic, whose name is Zelda, who is there to attempt to protect Karen. Whenever Karen is growing or stretching, Zelda gets stronger Karen uses mindfulness, curiosity, acceptance and she embraces Zelda Karen will tell Zelda, “I know you are there; I hear what you’re saying. This is MY truth today…” Karen suggests recording on your phone all the wonderful things you want to say to yourself, and listen to it several times/day We talk about why this can be difficult for people to do We talk about the struggle when people expect you to show up a certain way, but you are feeling more tired or quiet. How do you navigate this authentically (or not) Karen shares her birthday ritual and how she connects to herself on this special day   GUEST BIO   Very few people can say that they have been a singing mermaid, a singing casket, and was literally “elevator music” when she was hired to sing and play piano in a moving elevator. Meet Karen Drucker. Karen has recorded 15 CDs of her original inspirational music, and is the author of an inspirational book, “Let Go of the Shore: Stories and Songs That Set the Spirit Free.” Among her many accomplishments, she has been a professional comedienne, led her own band for corporate events, and has been the music director of New Thought Churches, as well as music director and “ music weaver” for many spiritual conferences and retreats. Karen has been honored with an Honorary Doctorate of Music for her work within the Religious Science Community, and a “Grace Note” award for her work within the Unity Movement. In following her passion, Karen sings, speaks and leads workshops at women's retreats, mind-body & health conferences, and various churches around the country, as well as working with authors like Joan Borysenko, Alan Cohen, and many others. Karen Drucker has been called “a master of communicating presence and spirituality through music.” She loves making music, making a difference, and touching hearts.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Karen’s links: Website— http://www.karendrucker.com Women’s one day retreat:  October 19 Tiburon CA http://www.karendrucker.com/tiburon-retreat-2019/   Chanting Night: October 18  http://www.karendrucker.com/wp-content/uploads/singing-OCT18-Karen-Drucker.pdf   New Years Chanting Night: Dec 31 http://www.karendrucker.com/wp-content/uploads/Sweet-Sacred-Singing.pdf   I Am Loved https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4av7rKUFTAE   Loving Kindness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9CEe_Kh7Gxc   Donna Eden https://edenenergymedicine.com/   Donna Eden—daily 5 minute energy routine https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gffKhttrRw4   Dr. Elaine Aron’s self-test for the Highly Sensitive Person https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/   Elizabeth Gilbert Big Magic     Patricia’s Links: Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber   e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE The Highly Sensitive Brain—What the Research Says, Esther Bergsma MA GUEST Esther Bergsma EPISODE OVERVIEW Esther joins us to discuss her studies of HSPs and how their brain works. First, we discuss the differences in HSPs and non-HSPs. We discuss that the brain is active in many more areas then the non-HSP. Esther shares that one of the major areas that the brain is always turned on to is social context. HSPs are always asking what others think of them. We also discuss the role anxiety plays for the highly sensitive person and how HSPs have optimal option ambition which makes them want the best outcome. Esther discusses research in emotional granularity and introspection. We discuss Esther’s style of working with clients to figure out what’s going inside. We focus on the strengths of HSPs, and we end discussing the four-step process that Esther uses when working with children in order to help them identify their feelings.  QUOTES “There’s so much misunderstanding around the term, people think its about being sensitive to light.” “The area that’s always tuned in is the area surrounding social constructs. What is someone else thinking of me? Does he accept me? It’s always on.” “The troubles we experience as an adult often come from our strengths.” “Cut out images from a magazine just because it feels good. Then analyze why it makes you feel good.” “A lot of HSPs built these walls because they have been hurt in their lives.” BIO Esther Bergsma, MA, is a frequent speaker on High Sensitivity in the Netherlands. She is an author, trainer, scientific researcher and expert on High Sensitivity. Esther has been project manager with the Ministry of Social Affairs and at a Union. After a burnout that lasted four years, she discovered she is highly sensitive, and has two highly sensitive children. She wrote the book Hoogsensitieve kinderen (Highly Sensitive Children) which included research amongst over 700 parents, and the book the Highly Sensitive Brain (both are in Dutch). Esther wants to create awareness about the trait from a more scientific angle. She tackles skepticism with easy-to-understand but scientifically sound information, both verbally and written. She speaks for medical professionals, psychologist, teachers and managers. Last year, she conducted international research to gain awareness on the trait of High Sensitivity in the workplace. 5500 Highly Sensitive Persons from over 20 countries participated and the results are as important for HSP as for employers. Hoogsensitief.NL is initiated by Esther to create a place for HSPs to meet, learn and share. HIGHLIGHTS Lisa Feldman Barret How Emotions are Made There are many misunderstandings around the term HSP HSPs are actually deep processors. HSPs are perceptive and also and notice subtilties and emotions in others. The brain processes in a lot more areas in HSPs. 10-20 in HSPs and 4-5 in non-HSPs. HSPs tend to have difficult childhoods, and tune into social contexts and wonder how they are seen and how they fit in. This often turns into anxiety disorders. If HSPs have good childhoods, then they learn to manage their emotions better. They are still intense but they know how to manage it. Optimal Option Ambition: connect to the best outcome. Keep everyone happy, keeps brain making loops, but the options HSPs come up with are more creative. HSPs tend to be good at self-reflection. Often asking themselves can they be better, how can they improve. Emotional granularity is important for HSPs. Use the right words to describe what’s going on, so you send the right messages to your body. Introception: Feel what’s going on inside our bodies and help connect our brain to our body. Emotional Intelligence: Knowing what’s going on in yourself. Connecting to others. Esther helps her clients figure out what they want/need by cutting out images that make them happy. It’s important to remember the brains function differently then others. Try not to be like others. Take breaks and remember you may be better at some tasks. On the subject of Highly Sensitive Children, it’s important to give our children the ability to talk about their feelings. We need to honor, validate their feelings. It’s about understanding, acceptance, guidelines and steps for future.   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Esther’s Links: Website: https://hoogsensitief.nl/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HoogsensitiefNL/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/esther-bergsma-1896327 Patricia’s Links: Website: www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/ E-mail: unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music: Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor & Show Notes: Cianna Reider – YourPodcastVA.weebly.com

TITLE A Discussion About Empaths and The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)    GUEST Colette Davenport   EPISODE OVERVIEW   Colette talks about the differences between Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) and Empaths. Colette gives us steps and tools to help us figure out if it is our own emotions, or if we are picking up on the emotions of other people. We discuss the care and feeling of an empath, and how what we consume, food or in our environment, can impact us. Colette also discusses medical challenges, and how she has been working with a biohacker to overcome these. She discusses the brain/gut connection, and muscle testing.   HIGHLIGHTS Empaths – internalize the emotional states of others.    HSPs externalize emotional states of others Empaths have a hard time expressing feelings, and absorb the energy of others. They experience stomach aches, headaches, tightness in chest and these may not be their own.    Is the feeling mine, or someone elses? The basic care and feeding of an empath How to get grounded What we “consume”—food, emotions, news, friends, thoughts Shifting what we think is wrong with us to seeing our superpowers Brain/gut connection—can cause depression, anxiety, difficulties with concentration What is muscle testing Colette has hypoglossal schwannoma – a tumor on her brainstem How to take your energy back Shift perspective—we are not weak or we are not sponges We are capable, strong, competent Let our defenses down—stop protecting ourselves Stop trying to help others—witness, support, being, listening, “light and love,” allowing others to be who they are Stop taking responsibility for others and shine light on them Embody and exemplify in the world 4 Step process See the situation for what it is Distinguish between the situation and what happened inside of you (we all have a soul wound/core wounding) Feel the feelings It can be uncomfortable, but it’s about diving into the feelings Call back the castoffs Welcome back the parts of ourselves that we deem unlovable/unacceptable We must have unconditional love for self (self-compassion) Re-state the facts—identify statement—I am…. Deeply buried belief about self that is false Colleen’s soul wound “I am an ugly disgusting waste of time” “I’m a beautiful magnetic woman that people love to be with.” Truth             QUOTES         I’m a beautiful, magnetic person that people love to be with.         Highly sensitive people feel their feelings, and they want that for the world.         My understanding of the difference between Highly Sensitive People, and empaths is that as empaths we take in and get lost in the emotional states of others.         The Soul Wound, our deepest, most buried powerful pain.         We have to restore wholeness, by loving those parts that we feel are unlovable.   BIO   Colette Davenport is a Master Empath and CEO of Badass Empath United, a global organization that provides personal and professional development exclusively for empaths. She is an international coach and speaker, and author of Get Your Magic Back. Colette’s 20+ years of experience in the relationship field, along with her personal health crisis, and her fine tuned empathic abilities generated a unique vision for the future of the highly sensitive community. She believes empaths can only live up to their full potential through emotional mastery and speaking their truth. When this happens on a global scale, the world as we know it will shift from fear to love. “In my early experience as an empath, not having the awareness and tools to navigate my sensitivities made me feel broken and alone. My self-esteem was tied to the acceptance of others. I made myself sick trying to fit in and be normal, and as such, I suffered from depression, anxiety, and addiction. Over the course of two decades I’ve learned how to establish healthy boundaries, speak my truth, give zero f*cks about fitting in, and connect deeply with people who get me. I share my wisdom and systems with other empaths who are ready to be the bada**es they were born to be.”      PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS/RESOURCES   Dr. David R. Hawkins MD, PhD Power Vs. Force   Colette’s Links:   Website: https://www.colettedavenport.com   Website: http://www.badassempath.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwtNhreE5hPsELSFYAiRNOw Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/colette.davenport/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/badassempath/ Medium: https://medium.com/@colettedavenport/latest   Patricia’s Links: Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber   e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor & Show Notes: Cianna Reider – YourPodcastVA.weebly.com

Episode 33 TITLE Parenting Differently Wired Kids GUEST Deborah Reber EPISODE OVERVIEW   Podcast host, and parent to a neurodivergent son who is twice exceptional, gifted, has ADHD, and experiences challenges with Executive Functioning and Sensory Issues, Debbie talks about how parents can support their differently wired kids.  Is authoritarian parenting effective? What is attachment parenting, and how does our culture view nurturing vs. coddling? What is executive functioning? Are kids really being manipulative or is it due to lagging skills? How can we help our kids have a sense of agency, control and self-direction? What is scaffolding, and how do we teach this to our kids? Debbie gives a special message to kids who are differently wired, and a message to their parents.   HIGHLIGHTS Why self-care is imperative as parents Why vulnerability and open communication with our kids is crucial How parents can support their differently wired kids A message for parents who have kids who are differently wired A message for the kids who are differently wired Our expectations before we have a child (children), and the shifts we have an opportunity to make once we have a child who is wired differently than we are. We can choose to be authoritative parents, or parent the way we had planned, or we have an opportunity to really learn from our child and change how we parent Scaffolding—what is it and why is it important Authoritative parenting—is it effective? Our culture typically doesn’t want us to coddle or spoil our children, when in fact, we may be meeting their needs for attachment and learning in really healthy and adaptive ways (but feeling guilty because we’re not being strict or structured enough) Executive functioning and lagging skills—what is it and why is it important to know about this Kids do the best they can—Ross Greene ADHD (and other neurodiversities) are consistently inconsistent. It can look like manipulation or stubbornness or willfulness, but it’s about lagging skills Where compassion comes in to play with parenting neurodivergent kids (for the parents and the child) BIO   Deborah Reber is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a website, weekly podcast, and social media community for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in iTunes’ Kids and Family category, with more than 1 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired.   Prior to launching TiLT, Debbie spent more than fifteen years writing inspiring books for women and teens. Before embarking on her own path as a solopreneur, Debbie worked in TV and video production, producing documentaries and PSAs for CARE and UNICEF, working on Blue’s Clues for Nickelodeon in New York, and developing original series for Cartoon Network in Los Angeles. She has an MA in Media Studies from the New School for Social Research and a BA in Communications from Pennsylvania State University. In December 2018, Debbie and her family relocated back to the NYC area after living in Amsterdam, the Netherlands for the past five years.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS/RESOURCES   Debbie Reber Website-- http://www.tiltparenting.com/start-here/ Tilt Parenting Podcast-- http://www.tiltparenting.com/podcast/ Differently Wired—Raising Exceptional Kids in a Conventional World by Deborah Reber TedXAmsterdam--Why the future will be differently wired https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZcrDVruby4   The Explosive Child : A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Ross W. Greene   The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives Hardcover by William Stixrud PhD (Author), Ned Johnson (Author) Smart but Scattered: The Revolutionary "Executive Skills" Approach to Helping Kids Reach Their Potential by Peg Dawson EdD, Richard Guare PhD     Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber   e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Bonus Episode 52   TITLE Loyalty—How We Perceive Things Differently, & Relationships   GUEST Solo Episode   EPISODE OVERVIEW Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) tend to be incredibly loyal.  This can pose a challenge when we’re in relationships that aren’t working for us. Some HSPs struggle with conflict and setting boundaries; because we feel more empathy, we can imagine how the other person might feel.  HSPs notice things that others don’t, which can also create challenges when we perceive things, and we feel that no one else gets why we’re upset (or why certain behaviors don’t work, or aren’t acceptable to us).  We have an opportunity to validate what we experience.   HIGHLIGHTS The pattern of being in relationships that don’t work—the different cycles we experience Some of the reasons why people are reluctant to end relationships Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) have more mirror neurons—we feel more empathy and can imagine what the other person might feel, which can make it more difficult to make decisions that work for us—like ending or changing a relationship Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) tend to be really loyal when it comes to relationships. HSPs sometimes feel uncomfortable with conflict and setting boundaries. This can make it harder when it comes to ending relationships, or setting limits in relationships Why naming what we’re experiencing/feeling is so important If we don’t name things, the energy comes out “sideways” What do you do when you have long standing friendships, but they’re no longer working or meeting your needs? HSPs are going to notice more things than non-HSPs. This can also cause us to question our perception, or our sense of reality When we are feeling something that others aren’t aware of, we have an opportunity to validate our experience, because WE feel it Some aspects of relationships to look at to evaluate how it’s working HSPs tend to want more meaning, depth, connection, feeling seen and heard in relationships     PODCAST HOST Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Bonus Episode 51   TITLE Our Highly Sensitive Strengths and How I Am Working with Anxious Thoughts   GUEST Solo Episode   EPISODE OVERVIEW We need to talk more about the incredible strengths we have as Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs).  I highlight some of these in this episode, and I talk about some anxiety I’m experiencing as I’m preparing to go away to a 7 day silent retreat at a Monastery, and what I’m hoping to get from this retreat.   HIGHLIGHTS I talk a little bit about the retreat I’m going to What I’m hoping to get from the retreat, and what I struggle with Listing our HS strengths, and there are many! Why vulnerability and authenticity is important to me My concern about oversharing, and wanting the listener to feel validated, but wanting to also talk about the strengths we have as HSPs Some challenges I’m having; how I would have handled it in the past, and what’s different now I talk about what my gremlins are saying now—thank you for sharing The importance of naming things How when I’ve named things, I often struggle after releasing an episode How to pre-dispose for upcoming bumps Looking at the possibilities Playing around with our anxious thoughts and using that as a guide to see possibilities   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com