Always Better than Yesterday with Ryan Hartley | A Podcast for Heart Centred Leaders

Jocko Willink says Discipline Equals Freedom. I love that message and it's really helped me.  However, discipline is a matter of the mind.  I believe devotion is the matter of the heart.  My view is therefore is that DEVOTION EQUALS FULFILMENT.  This episode was recorded while live on Instagram (@ryanbhartley)

Don't misunderstand this. The more we show up for ourselves, the better we can show up for others. 

This week I am so excited to bring to you an amazing conversation with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe,  Registered Psychologist, author, parenting educator, and mother of two. Dr Vanessa has developed a keen understanding of the powerful connection between healthy child development and the parent-child or “big-person”- child relationship. Through this lens it is her experience that we can understand everything about the growing child from behavior to anxiety to brain development. And all the in-between stuff too. It is Dr Vanessa's singular goal that parents, teachers, caregivers, and all the other big people are able to connect with their own expertise and intuition in finding a way through. In this episode you'll hear: 04:00 and then I became a mother! 05:00 showing up as the big people who help our little people become all they are intended to be while we become all we are intended to be 05:45 parenting is leadership in the home - safety and connection 08:30 unconditional love - kids need to know they are loved no matter how they show up 11:30 parenting pop culture enthused with generational biases - it’s behaviourist in mentality and yet goes against everything we know about the importance of connection and compassion based child development 14:20 it takes a village - advice to men who have never had the male role model 18:10 if you had just one person show up, you’ve got the neurological template 18:45 connecting without ourselves before connecting with the our children 22:00 how old are you when you’re feeling? - all over reaction is an age regression 25:00 discipline without damage 27:30 parenting like Crush 29:00 don’t retire too soon - be incredibly available 32:00 we are never one step behind or in front, we are exactly where we are meant to be, always stepping forward - the heart beats on leading us to better tomorrow’s 33:10 you really do have this in you Please do share this with a parent or caregiver you'd love to inspire. We hope it helps in your leadership in the home in some small way. Always love Ryan Connect with Dr. Vanessa: Website: http://www.drvanessalapointe.com/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/drvanessalapointe Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/dr.vanessalapointe Twitter: https://twitter.com/drvlapointe Email: EVENTS@DRVANESSALAPOINTE.COM Connect with Always Better than Yesterday: Email: ryanbhartley@gmail.com Whatsapp: (+44) 07970339936 Facebook Community: www.facebook.com/groups/weareabty Master Heart and Mind Group Coaching: www.ryanhartley.co.uk Thank you to our friends at WebCreation, proud supporters of the Always Better than Yesterday Interview Sessions. Head to www.WebCreationGroup.com for stunning websites at sensible prices. Don't forget to subscribe and also come join our community on Facebook www.facebook.com/groups/weareABTY

On Valentine's Day 2020 I left the police after 12 years to run Always Better than Yesterday full time!     What a crazy year it has been. I took the time to sit down and look back on the journey so far.    Here are some numbers that blew my mind.      552 WE ARE ALWAYS BETTER THAN YESTERDAY community members   27 Master Heart & Mind Members with 50 group coaching calls and 11 guest speakers   284 1:1's (that's a LOT of Zoom calls...)   16 ABTY community connection calls    6 Business Community Calls    198 podcast episodes published including Bob Burg , Jon Gordon , L. David Marquet , Emily Jane Harbrecht , Naomi Trentham , Dr Vanessa Lapointe  and a series with Jonathan Darling and my son Corey   83 days consultancy    16 speaking engagements    25 books read / listened to    Endless 5am mornings and cold showers   19 Life Languages profiles taken      A big thank you to every single person who has ever pushed play on a podcast episode or youtube video or been a part of our ABTY community.  Your time is something I will never take for granted.      Thank you to Phil Walker and the For Inspirational Training community for your encouragement and keeping me healthy in my body and mind.   Thank you Tommy Gentleman and the team at Tide 55 for looking after my content and look forward to our partnership continuing.  Thank you to Leon and WebCreationUK  for your support of the ABTY podcast.      And lastly, a big thank you to my wife Liza Hartley , who without her support and endless amounts of homeschooling, none of the above would have been possible.      I've served my heart out and yet it remains full.      Always love   Ryan

We don't do New Year, New Me here at ABTY.  Instead, make a commitment to being an even better you. Make a commitment to leading yourself. Because when you get better, everything around you gets better. 

Is how you show up. Don't put anyone on a pedestal. What matters most is how you show up. 

1. Express love 2. Live like a dog 3. Do it with enthusiasm. Or am I just barking mad?

WHAT CAN THE M25 TEACH US ABOUT OVERTHINKING?

This week I am joined by Eddie Ilic, founder of Eddie's Street Cut, a community based project that cuts hair for the homeless in Bath and Bristol in the UK. This is an inspiring episode with a strong message of HOPE. Eddie himself has recovered from drug and alcohol addiction and in his recovery, has started giving back, using his skillset as a barber. In this episode we discuss: Addiction 12 Step Recovery Programme The importance of community, human contact and connection Service and giving back The impact of a haircut  Eddie's message of HOPE We hope this inspires you in your heart and your mind. We also hope it inspires you to look after yourself, to seek help if you need it, to reach out and help others if you can.  Please do share this with one person you think needs to hear Eddie's message.  Always love Ryan  Connect with Eddie: Facebook: www.facebook.com/eddiestreetcuts Twitter: https://twitter.com/eddiestreetcuts IG: www.instagram.com/eddiestreetcuts Connect with Always Better than Yesterday: Email: ryanbhartley@gmail.com Whatsapp: (+44) 07970339936 Facebook Community: www.facebook.com/groups/weareabty Master Heart and Mind Group Coaching: www.ryanhartley.co.uk Thank you to our friends at WebCreation, proud supporters of the Always Better than Yesterday Interview Sessions. Head to www.WebCreationGroup.com for stunning websites at sensible prices. Don't forget to subscribe and also come join our community on Facebook www.facebook.com/groups/weareABTY

If you've ever listened to me speak about how we create a world that is always better than yesterday, you'll know that the master key to making that happen is leadership. Because when leaders get better, we get better, our families get better, our communities get better and you see where I am going with this... Well, the best way to help a leader get better is firstly help them become more self aware. This is why I have spent the whole week on Zoom being trained as a Communications Coach that is certified to use the Life Languages™ tool. Although tired, I am so excited to be able to start using the Kendall Life Languages Profile™ (KLLP) to be able to help leaders (you) learn more about themselves and others. When we learn more about ourselves and others, we become more intentional with our words and our actions and as a result, make more of an impact and become more influential. If you're curious and want to learn a bit more, you can use this link to take a free mini profile. If you resonate with what you see and what to explore it in more detail and see how it can transform your relationship with yourself and those important people around you, we can talk! Love you guys, hope it helps and share your primary language in the WE ARE ABTY community! Ryan