Always Better than Yesterday with Ryan Hartley | A Podcast for Heart Centred Leaders

Those people who truly accept themselves do not require the acceptance and affirmation of approval. As heart-centred leaders we are called to love ourselves and our neighbour, building a greater capacity to accept others as we no longer reject ourselves. Let this be our heartprint.

On episode 248 I am joined by John Eldredge. John is an author, a counsellor, and a teacher. He is also president of Wild at Heart, a ministry devoted to helping people discover the heart of God, recover their own hearts in God's love, and learn to live in God's Kingdom.   John grew up in the suburbs of Los Angeles (which he hated), and spent his boyhood summers on his grandfather’s cattle ranch in eastern Oregon (which he loved). John met his wife, Stasi, in high school (in drama class). But their romance did not begin until they each came to faith in Christ, after high school.   John earned his undergraduate degree in Theatre at Cal Poly, and directed a theatre company in Los Angeles for several years before moving to Colorado with Focus on the Family, where he taught at the Focus on the Family Institute.   John earned his master’s degree in Counselling from Colorado Christian University, under the direction of Larry Crabb and Dan Allender. He worked as a counsellor in private practice before launching Wild at Heart in 2000. John and Stasi live in Colorado Springs with their three sons (Samuel, Blaine, and Luke), their golden retriever (Oban), and two horses (Whistle and Kokolo).   While all of this is factually true, it somehow misses describing an actual person. He loves the outdoors passionately, and all beauty, Shakespeare, bow hunting, a good cigar, anything having to do with adventure, poetry, March Madness, working in the shop, fly fishing, classic rock, the Tetons, fish tacos, George MacDonald, green tea, buffalo steaks, dark chocolate, wild and open places, horses running, and too much more to name.   In this episode you will hear: 00:00 intro 02:58 why don’t need another men’s book04:48 the stages of the masculine journey - the boy, cowboy, warrior, lover, king, and sage08:08 the two fundamental needs of little boys10:08 it is important to discover for yourself that you have got what it takes14:08 a cry for a father's engagement18:38 Ryan’s testimony23:08 why can’t we trust men?26:58 the cure for the narcissistic life28:48 Christ the Warrior32:38 the tools of the enemy38:58 you need to tell each other your story42:08 getting hooked up to the one who knows you best and loves you most45:38 God heals trauma50:18 John’s Heartprint   Those with ears, let them hear.   Always love Ryan     Connect with John Website: https://wildatheart.org/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/wildatheart/ Podcast: https://wildatheart.org/podcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/LoveGodLiveFree Books: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Books-John-Eldredge/s?rh=n%3A266239%2Cp_27%3AJohn+Eldredge    Connect with Always Better than Yesterday Website: https://abty.co.uk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alwaysbetterthanyesterdayuk/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/abty/ Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/weareabty Join our mail list here for exclusive content here: https://abty.co.uk/contact     Sign up for our coaching here: https://abty.co.uk/coaching Thank you to our sponsors MattMedia Online Marketing and Exhale Healthy Coffee.   Matt Media are an independent agency who specialise in content marketing helping business owners get their message seen by the right audience.   If you want to get your business seen through the power of social media, head to https://mattmedia.online/     Exhale is the first coffee to be sourced, roasted and lab tested specifically to maximise its antioxidant and anti-inflammatory potency.   An independent lab test showed one cup of Exhale coffee has the same antioxidant power as 1.8kg of blueberries or 55 oranges!   Get £10 off your first bag when you visit https://exhalecoffee.com/abty   Please email your questions and comments to podcast@abty.co.uk   #JohnEldredge #WildatHeart #Masculinity #JesusChrist  

Note to my younger self... the hierarchy isn't the problem. The spirit of the leader is the problem. Let's be the types of leader who uses our power to protect people rather use our power over people.

As heart-centred leaders, it is not defeat that should concern us, but success. Defeat is an inward opportunity to grow. Success is an inward opportunity to ground.

Men need a balance between their heart and mind. A lover and a warrior. A warrior with grace, mercy and compassion. For good things do not come from a man armed with a sword who can't dance.

Kahlil Gibran - Then the priestess said, Speak to us of Prayer.      And he answered, saying:      You pray in your distress and in your need; would that you might pray also in the fullness of your joy and in your days of abundance.            For what is prayer but the expansion of yourself into the living ether?      And if it is for your comfort to pour your darkness into space, it is also for your delight to pour forth the dawning of your heart.      And if you cannot but weep when your soul summons you to prayer, she should spur you again and yet again, though weeping, until you shall come laughing. Can we grateful in the valleys? Grateful in the darkness? or as Brandon Lake says.. sing through the fire and worship from the lions den... even when it doesn’t make sense. Pour your darkness into space and delight in pouring forth the dawning of your heart. 

Men don’t do face to face talking. They do it shoulder to shoulder. They talk alongside each others. Get yourself a brotherhood to walk alongside. www.abty.co.uk/akira

Heart-centred leaders who lead with love need to ensure they lead from love and no for love. They need an awareness of the hidden power dynamics at play in their leadership. They need to be aware of their needs and the needs of those they lead. The leader needs to make sure their followers do not look to them as the source of love but are instead directed inward to themselves as the source of that with which they seek.

At our stage of heart-centred development do not be surprised if worldly success doesn’t concern you. There comes a point in the evolution of every soul where the main concern of the soul no longer becomes the survival of the body but growth of the spirit. No long are we driven by worldly attainment of success but by the realisation of self. Life isn’t about what we do with our body. It’s about who we being. We’re not here to say do things in order to be happy but to be happy while we are doing things. 

We are here to do two things... BE who we are and to CREATE who we are. Listen to the full episode with Neale Donald Walsch here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-236-interview-sessions-with-neale-donald-walsch/id1424969217?i=1000627699767 For the two reflective guides, email podcast@abty.co.uk