Ruwando Podcast: Psychology For Men with Brains and Balls

“Sometimes you need to be punched so hard in the face that you wake up” Since appearing in episode 140 Slave to King: Nice Guy Transformation, I have received more listener questions about him than any other guest.Patrick H. from Germany returns to the podcast to fill us in on his life since his return to dating post-celibacy, and now in a new kind of relationship.If you’re a man with a history of unfulfilling relationships, choosing the wrong women, or general Nice Guy BS, listen to this one. We cover his roadmap of transformation the last 18 months, changing of archetypes, how to use your body to recognize truth, narcissistic PD, and what it really means to be King.Want to embark on a similar journey?Check out the Masculine Archetype Challenge, the 21 day program to summon the dormant parts of your masculinity:It still comes with a 1:1 coaching call with me. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Apparently last Friday was “Three King’s Day”— referring to the magi who visited baby J in the manger.It happened to coincide with a summit planned with my new office mates. The three of us are young fathers and entrepreneurs. We christened our new space, Studio 14, with a chat on the Father Wound, the greater demands on manhood in creating a Perimeter, and fatherhood philosophy.Apologies to anyone who was expecting a livestream last Friday— I had some technical difficulties with the streaming.This Friday (the 13th) we’ll livestream 166 On Havingness: How to Increase Your Self-Concept. I’ll post the zoom link in substack shortly before.ruwando.substack.com Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The last few weeks I’ve had a few discussions with guys about “being a rock”.In theory, it’s a nice manly image… but what does it actually mean?In practice, being “a rock” can seem like being “passive” at times, but it’s not the same thing.This episode covers HOW to be a grounded “rock” (as opposed to a fiery hothead, watery fish, or airy space cadet). NOTE: I’m going start livestreaming some episodes again as I was pre-pandemic. If you’d like to hop on the next episode and ask questions live, just subscribe (free) on ruwando.substack.com. I’ll post the livestream schedule/links + polls where you can vote on the next episode topics.ANOTHER NOTE: All other episodes will have video again too. I recorded this in video but something was SNAFUed. But from now on there will be video for substack subscribers.If you’re listening to this podcast on Apple or Spotify, and you’re enjoying it, please leave a review :) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The Muse: The part of the psyche responsible for involuntary creation.The Muse is like any woman. Her desires rarely make logical sense.Get in her good graces and she'll fill you with inspiration. Get on her bad side and she'll look for ways to torture you.In this episode I share the story of writing my story, using quotes from other poets to drive certain principles home.Also my book is out. In case you didn't see, read it free on ruwando.substack.com.Next week I'll be moving the Ruwando Podcast archives over there too. (Waiting for permission from the RSS feed gods.)Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

I'm in some sh*t right now... of my own doing. I'm in a Netflix documentary coming out tomorrow on the cult I was in.A lot heavy things are coming my way, and it's been requiring extra inner strength. So I'm forced to practice what I preach...This episode is on the Anabolic Psyche— Building strength in your soul. I cover two kinds of traps that kill soul strength (spiritual and material) along with 3 principles for metaphorically "bulking up".In other news... I'm moving my podcast hosting to substack. If you already receive my emails— nothing will change. But I will also be serializing my book (memoir of the matriarchal sex cult) on there starting next week. Anyone currently subscribed before Monday, Nov 7 will get 30 days free.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The Greco-Persian Wars not only decided the future of world culture, but the Greek and Persian cultural differences helped determine the results of the wars.This episode covers a clash of very different worlds after the Bronze Age collapse.Personal Note: Thank you for your patience with this one. I’ve been moving my family from Thailand to Mexico the last few months and have been pressed on time.But starting this month I’ll be putting out regular content on the historyofman.substack.comMake sure to subscribe (free) if you haven’t already. If you join as a Founding Member this month (Oct 2022), you will get a 1:1 coaching call with me. Get full access to History of Man Podcast at historyofman.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Polarity requires tension.Our reproductive instincts (attraction, lust, passion) sometimes need a little "transgression" to get going.This episode opens with a little intimacy lesson from the ancient Spartans. I also discuss a different take on Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent, and how to "skillfully (consensually) violate".More on the Spartans in History of Man episode III airing soon!https://bettymartin.org/videos/https://historyofman.substack.com/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Once in awhile we meet someone who changes our view of life, our model of reality. One of such people like that, for me, was my friend Daniel.He is both the luckiest and unluckiest guy I know—When he's "ON" everything seems to serendipitously fall in his lap. And when he's ''OFF'' he has the uncanny ability to F everything up.This episode looks at how one can "turn on or off one's magnet", looking at Daniel, addiction, resentment, and an experiment for "manifestation".Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

We tend to fight the worst with those we love the most. While fights ought to be rare, when they do happen they are great opportunities for improving the relationship as a whole. This episode covers how to resolve fights quickly and how to use them to "gain intimacy" rather than costing it.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Being detached from outcome seems to attract what you want... In dating, in business, and possibly in unforeseeable ways in life. But how do you intend what you want while also being detached? This episode looks at achieving this mental state that helps one overcome internal resistance and MAYBE can also attract desired things beyond your control...Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe